Stuck obsessing over someone who's clearly wrong for you? You're not alone—and it's not really about him. In this episode, I chat with Sherry to explore the psychology of why we chase people who are running, uncovering the "healing fantasy" your subconscious believes will fix an old wound (often rooted in childhood trauma with a parent). You'll learn the red flags to spot in the first 3-4 months of dating that mean you should walk away fast, how travel reveals true character, the difference between someone being uncomfortable and someone controlling you, and concrete neuroplasticity techniques to rewire your brain and finally break free. Whether you're stuck on the wrong person, questioning a new relationship, or healing from a toxic dynamic, this conversation offers both insight and practical next steps. Sherry Gilbert has been helping clients transform their lives through hypnotherapy since 2001. She is a certified hypnotherapist through the International Medical and Dental Hypnotherapy Association (IMDHA) and the International Association of Counselors and Therapists (IACT). In addition to her work as a hypnotherapist, Sherry is a communication coach and relationship specialist trained through the Gottman Institute. She also holds a degree in Holistic Health, bringing a well-rounded, integrative approach to her work with clients. Sherry specializes in helping clients navigate anxiety, trauma, relationships, communication challenges, life transitions, and personal growth. She is known for combining practical, evidence-informed techniques with compassionate, client-centered care to help people create meaningful, lasting change. Whether she is working one-on-one with clients, presenting at professional conferences, or mentoring fellow practitioners, Sherry’s mission remains the same: to empower people with practical skills, compassionate support, and the confidence to create lasting transformation. About your host Sarah: I'm a Board Certified Sexologist, Attachment Coach Tantrika who spent years healing from abuse, heartbreak, and disconnection before discovering that pleasure and presence are actually possible... for everyone. Through my own messy, transformational journey across Tantra, somatic healing, and attachment work, I learned that you can actually heal your core wounds and come home to your body and desires in ways that feel good. Now I help individuals and couples do the same—whether they're navigating perimenopausal changes, untangling relationship patterns, or simply wanting to feel more alive in their sex lives and beyond. I believe in showing up vulnerably, getting real about what's not working, and offering actual tools that create lasting change. Because sometimes that standard advice doesn't work for you, it didn't for me. website: http://www.wildrelating.com Curious to learn more about working together? Book a free 30 min call to learn more on the website. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_becomingwilder intro music from Transistor and licensed through Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.
