Mind, Brain, Body Lab

Cody Isabel
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  1. 2d ago

    5 Reasons Setting Boundaries Feels Mean

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️ There’s a 10-second test you can run before you send a boundary that tells you exactly which part of you is about to panic. (Your thumb is involved.) One of the five reasons boundaries feel mean is that you actually were being mean. It’s the least common one, and it’s the one you gotta rule out first. Researchers ran five experiments with over 2,000 people and found the person saying no gets one thing wrong, consistently. Even with their own partners. The most common reason has nothing to do with being a bad person. It’s a part of you running a retention strategy on a sentence about Saturday. Over-explaining a boundary doesn’t make it kinder. It actually makes the next one harder, and the reason is kinda sneaky. The 3-part script that keeps the boundary AND keeps the relationship. Part 3 is the one everybody skips. Supporting Research Baumeister, R. F., Stillwell, A. M., & Heatherton, T. F. (1994). Guilt: An interpersonal approach. Psychological Bulletin, 115(2), 243–267. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.115.2.243 O’Connor, L. E., Berry, J. W., Weiss, J., Bush, M., & Sampson, H. (1997). Interpersonal guilt: The development of a new measure. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 53(1), 73–89. Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.

  2. Oct 8

    5 Questions He Should Be Asking You (If He’s Emotionally Available)

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️ There’s a question almost every man asks on a date, and it tells you almost nothing. The one that comes right after it tells you almost everything. When a man hands you a five-step plan for your bad day, it usually isn’t for you. I’ll tell you exactly who it’s for. Love-bombers skip one specific question. Every single time. There’s a four-word question most men will never ask you, and the reason lives in his nervous system, not his vocabulary. “Do you trust me?” sounds romantic. It’s actually a test. There’s a better question, and the tell is whether he asks it more than once. If one of these questions made your stomach drop, that’s not a flaw in you. It’s something else, and it matters a LOT for your next relationship. A two-column note on your phone can answer “is he emotionally available?” faster than three weeks of decoding his texts. Supporting Research Huang, K., Yeomans, M., Brooks, A. W., Minson, J., & Gino, F. (2017). It doesn’t hurt to ask: Question-asking increases liking. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 113(3), 430-452. Reis, H. T., & Shaver, P. (1988). Intimacy as an interpersonal process. In S. Duck (Ed.), Handbook of personal relationships (pp. 367-389). Wiley. Reis, H. T., Clark, M. S., & Holmes, J. G. (2004). Perceived partner responsiveness as an organizing construct in the study of intimacy and closeness. In D. J. Mashek & A. Aron (Eds.), Handbook of closeness and intimacy (pp. 201-225). Erlbaum. Full List in Blog: blog.mindbrainbodylab.com Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.

  3. Oct 1

    Are You Actually Ready to Date? (If You Have to Ask... Not Yet.)

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views!  But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️There’s one question women ask me about dating that almost always answers itself. And when it does, it’s actually good news.The thing you’re calling “being careful” is the exact strategy that set you up to get blindsided last time.Real readiness has a marker. It’s one sentence, and it is NOT “I’ll never get hurt again.”Guys do this too. One told a woman, a date or two in, that he was actively hunting for her flaw. (Yikes.)Almost everyone tries to skip one of the three phases, and it’s the one where the actual change happens.There’s a single question you can ask yourself after your next date that tells you exactly which phase you’re in.Supporting ResearchDowney, G., & Feldman, S. I. (1996). Implications of rejection sensitivity for intimate relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 70(6), 1327–1343. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.70.6.1327Mikulincer, M., Shaver, P. R., & Pereg, D. (2003). Attachment theory and affect regulation: The dynamics, development, and cognitive consequences of attachment-related strategies. Motivation and Emotion, 27(2), 77–102. https://doi.org/10.1023/A:1024515519160Full List in Blog: https://blog.mindbrainbodylab.com/Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.

  4. Sep 24

    7 Types of Situationships Ranked by Recovery

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️ There’s a criterion for ranking these that has nothing to do with duration, chemistry, or whether you ever slept together. Once you see it, the ranking gets obvious and a little horrifying. The number one spot goes to the one with the least physical evidence. No sex. Sometimes not even a kiss. One of these ranks LOWER than you’d expect for a reason you’re not gonna like: it wrecked you loudly, and everyone knew about it. There’s a psychologist at Columbia who studies secrets, and his main finding explains exactly why the one you never told anyone about is the one still running at 2am. Three reasons these hold on this long. Only one of them is about him. And a three-step protocol for closing the loop yourself, since nobody is coming over here to close it for you. Links Referenced: Inner OS Masterclass: https://www.loom.com/share/d2503782e6854163a4fc19449381ab51 Supporting Research Fisher, H. E., Brown, L. L., Aron, A., Strong, G., & Mashek, D. (2010). Reward, addiction, and emotion regulation systems associated with rejection in love. Journal of Neurophysiology, 104(1), 51-60. https://doi.org/10.1152/jn.00784.2009 Aron, A., Fisher, H., Mashek, D. J., Strong, G., Li, H., & Brown, L. L. (2005). Reward, motivation, and emotion systems associated with early-stage intense romantic love. Journal of Neurophysiology, 94(1), 327-337. https://doi.org/10.1152/jn.00838.2004 Full List in Blog: blog.mindbrainbodylab.com Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.

  5. Sep 17

    Emotional Intelligence ≠ Secure Attachment

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Supporting Research ⤵️ Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of Attachment: A Psychological Study of the Strange Situation. Erlbaum. Bowlby, J. (1988). A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy Human Development. Basic Books. Mikulincer, M., & Shaver, P. R. (2016). Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and Change (2nd ed.). Guilford Press. Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. Norton. Salovey, P., & Mayer, J. D. (1990). Emotional intelligence. Imagination, Cognition and Personality, 9(3), 185–211. Mayer, J. D., Salovey, P., & Caruso, D. R. (2008). Emotional intelligence: New ability or eclectic traits? American Psychologist, 63(6), 503–517. Lieberman, M. D., Eisenberger, N. I., Crockett, M. J., Tom, S. M., Pfeifer, J. H., & Way, B. M. (2007). Putting feelings into words: Affect labeling disrupts amygdala activity in response to affective stimuli. Psychological Science, 18(5), 421–428. Craig, A. D. (2009). How do you feel — now? The anterior insula and human awareness. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 10(1), 59–70. Coan, J. A., Schaefer, H. S., & Davidson, R. J. (2006). Lending a hand: Social regulation of the neural response to threat. Psychological Science, 17(12), 1032–1039. Schore, A. N. (2003). Affect Regulation and the Repair of the Self. Norton. Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.

  6. Sep 10

    5 Questions I'd Ask on a First Date (If I Were a Woman)

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️ -There’s a question about his last relationship that has almost nothing to do with his ex. It sorts men faster than anything else I know, and it’s first for a reason. -Ask him what he does when he’s stressed. If the answer routes entirely through a person, you just found out what your job is going to be. -“He’s just not a big friends guy.” I hear that one a lot. Usually about eight months before the rest of the story shows up. -One of these five you’ve definitely heard from me before. I’m running it again, last, because I think most women are reading the answer completely wrong. -The questions were never the hard part. What you do in the four seconds after he answers is. Supporting Research Nisbett, R. E., & Wilson, T. D. (1977). Telling more than we can know: Verbal reports on mental processes. Psychological Review, 84(3), 231–259. Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (1979). Interpersonal attraction in exchange and communal relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 37(1), 12–24. Clark, M. S., & Mills, J. (1993). The difference between communal and exchange relationships: What it is and is not. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 19(6), 684–691. All-inclusive citations list in full blog: https://blog.mindbrainbodylab.com/p/5-questions-id-ask-on-a-first-date Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.

  7. Sep 3

    Secure Love WILL Trigger You

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya.

  8. Aug 31

    5 Compliments I’d Stop Accepting (If I Were a Women)

    Complete the Heartbreak in 63 Days. Start Here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about Inside the She Rises community: -A 63-day program to go from wrecked to regulated -Live coaching calls with me every week -A team of IFS practitioners -Private workshops and masterclasses with therapists and scientists -1-on-1 sessions -A room full of women doing this beside you First 7 days free. Join here: https://www.skool.com/becoming-her/about — Btw, I'm Cody. I run Mind, Brain, Body Lab. I help women complete heartbreak with neuroscience, so the next one; is different. Bottom line, I'm not guessing at this. I’ve got a degree in cognitive neuroscience, I’m a certified IFS practitioner, and have thousands of hours of client work with hundreds of women under my belt. I’ve been featured on CNBC, the New York Post, and HuffPost. And I’ve got over a million followers and more than a billion views! But the credentials aren't why I do this. I spent years attracting the wrong people: a first girlfriend who made love feel conditional, a college partner who cheated, a three-year abusive relationship, and then a breakup with the person I thought was The One that blindsided me. I did the work alone, piecing it together from books, podcasts, and therapy with no clear path forward. Here's what I learned getting out of it: you don't need to fix yourself to find love. You need to remember how worthy you've always been, and retrain your nervous system to actually believe it. That's not manifestation or toxic positivity. It's neuroscience, trauma therapy, and reps. Most dating problems aren't dating problems. They're unfinished heartbreak problems. If you’re ready to complete heartbreak so the next one is different, subscribe and stick around. You're loved, you're enough, and I believe in ya. Video Summary ⤵️ -Praise isn’t a description of who you are. It’s a vote for who he wants more of — which means every compliment is quietly answering a question you never asked: more of what? -There’s one compliment on this list that men reliably hand out right before they go quiet. It sounds like admiration. It functions as permission. -One of these five is usually completely sincere — and still worth interrogating. I’ll tell you which one, and the single question that cracks it open. -The line between real praise and the other kind comes down to one question about who gets charged. There’s a four-second way to run it at the dinner table. -Most men saying these things aren’t scheming. That is not the good news you think it is — and it also changes what you should actually do about it. -There’s a Part of you that wants this list to be a verdict machine. I’m going to name her, and then I’m going to ask you not to hand her the gavel. -You didn’t shrink on purpose. And the way out isn’t suspicion — it’s something a whole lot less exhausting. Disclaimer: This video is educational in nature and not a substitute for therapy. If attachment wounds or relational trauma are impacting your wellbeing, working with a trauma therapist can help your nervous system relearn safety in connection.

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  • Creator
    Cody Isabel
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
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