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Wondering About- Featuring Bert Anderson and TA Flatland
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We’re two midlife moms with a never-ending list of questions—and we decided it was finally time to start looking for some answers. Each episode of Wondering About starts with something we’re genuinely curious about. Sometimes it’s a big life question. Sometimes it’s something we’ve always wondered but never bothered to look up. And sometimes it’s a random rabbit hole we just have to go down. We do the research, ask the questions, sort through what we find, and then sit down together to talk about it all. It’s part research, part conversation, and a whole lot of curiosity. Because we may be

Episodes

  1. 6d ago

    Period Syncing

    Have you ever noticed that your period seems to sync up with your friends, roommates, sisters, or coworkers? Maybe you’ve even joked that you’ve been spending so much time together that your cycles decided to join forces. But is period syncing actually a thing—or is it just one of those ideas we’ve all accepted without really questioning it? In this episode of Wondering About..., we’re going down the rabbit hole of period syncing. Where did the idea come from? What does the research actually say? And why do so many people feel like they’ve experienced it? We’re looking at the science behind menstrual cycles, the study that helped popularize the idea of menstrual synchrony, and what researchers have discovered since. Along the way, we’ll wonder about biology, coincidence, perception, and why our brains are so good at noticing patterns. Is your period really syncing with your friends…or are we just really good at finding connections? Come wonder with us. Citations: McClintock, Martha K. “Menstrual Synchrony and Suppression.” Nature, vol. 229, 1971, pp. 244–245. DOI: 10.1038/229244a0. Wilson, H. Clyde, Sarah Hildebrandt Kiefhaber, and Virginia Gravel. “Two Studies of Menstrual Synchrony: Negative Results.” Psychoneuroendocrinology, vol. 16, no. 4, 1991, pp. 353–359. DOI: 10.1016/0306-4530(91)90021- K.Yang, Zhengwei, and Jeffrey C. Schank. “Women Do Not Synchronize Their Menstrual Cycles.” Human Nature, vol. 17, no. 4, 2006, pp. 433–447. DOI: 10.1007/s12110-006-1005-z. Kathleen Stern & Martha K. McClintock“Regulation of ovulation by human pheromones”Nature, 1998How a 1971 Paper Ignited the Search for Human Pheromones - DongA Science https://share.google/mEGRoQcrdaDnrRryg Wilson, H. Clyde. “A Critical Review of Menstrual Synchrony Research.” Psychoneuroendocrinology, vol. 17, no. 6, 1992, pp. 565–591. DOI: 10.1016/0306-4530(92)90016-Z.Strassmann, Beverly I. “Menstrual Synchrony Pheromones: Cause for Doubt.” Human Reproduction, vol. 14, no. 3, 1999, pp. 579–580. DOI: 10.1093/humrep/14.3.579. Schank, Jeffrey C. “Do Human Menstrual-Cycle Pheromones Exist?” Human Nature, vol. 17, no. 4, 2006, pp. 448–470. DOI: 10.1007/s12110-006-1006-y.

    Period Syncing

  2. Oct 6

    Coaching Youth Sports- Featuring Erika Kelly

    What makes a great youth sports coach? Is it about teaching the game, building confidence, winning, or simply helping kids learn to love the sport? In this episode of Wondering About..., we’re sitting down with our friend Erika Kelly to talk about youth sports coaching and what it really means to coach kids today. Erika shares her coaching philosophy and what has shaped the way she approaches working with young athletes. We talk about what it means to coach the whole person—not just the athlete. What happens when coaches look beyond performance and pay attention to a child’s confidence, character, relationships, emotions, and development? How can coaches challenge kids while still creating an environment where they feel supported and valued? We dive into the world of club vs. high school sports, talking about the differences between the two, what each can offer young athletes, and how families navigate the choices and expectations that come with competitive sports. And, of course, we’re wondering about parents. How involved should parents be? Where is the line between being supportive and putting too much pressure on a young athlete? And how can coaches and parents work together to create a healthier experience for kids? It’s a conversation about competition, confidence, development, participation, and the adults who have the opportunity to shape a young athlete’s experience. Because youth sports are about so much more than the scoreboard. Come wonder with us.

    Coaching Youth Sports- Featuring Erika Kelly

  3. Sep 29

    Influence

    Have you ever wondered how easily you are influenced?  In this episode of Wondering About…, we’re diving into the fascinating science of influence. We start with a seemingly innocent Tiktok that led us down the rabbit hole of pharmaceutical reps and gifts to the psychology of reciprocity, familiarity, authority, and social proof. We explore the subtle ways other people can shape what we think, what we choose, and what we do. And here’s the twist: research suggests we’re pretty good at recognizing bias and influence in other people, while being much less likely to recognize it in ourselves. So are we really as independent-minded as we think we are? We’re wondering about drug reps, free lunches, advertising, friendships, social media, and all the invisible nudges happening around us every day. Because maybe the most interesting question isn't “Am I being influenced?” It’s “Who—or what—is influencing me?” Aikin, K. J., O’Donoghue, A. C., Miles, S., DelGreco, M., & Burke, P. (2024). Physician interpretation of information about prescription drugs in scientific publications vs. promotional pieces. Research in Social and Administrative Pharmacy, 20(4), 419–431. doi:10.1016/j.sapharm.2024.01.003 Brax, H., Fadlallah, R., Al-Khaled, L., Kahale, L. A., Nas, H., El-Jardali, F., & Akl, E. A. (2017). Association between physicians’ interaction with pharmaceutical companies and their clinical practices: A systematic review and meta-analysis. PLOS ONE, 12(4), e0175493. doi:10.1371/journal.pone.0175493 Dana, J., Cain, D. M., & Dawes, R. (2006). What you don't know won't hurt me: Costly (but quiet) exit in dictator games. Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes, 100(2), 193–201. doi:10.1016/j.obhdp.2005.10.001 Fickweiler, F., Fickweiler, W., & Urbach, E. (2017). Interactions between physicians and the pharmaceutical industry generally and sales representatives specifically and their association with physicians’ attitudes and prescribing habits: A systematic review. BMJ Open, 7(9), e016408. doi:10.1136/bmjopen-2017-016408 Milgram, S. (1963). Behavioral study of obedience. The Journal of Abnormal and Social Psychology, 67(4), 371–378. doi:10.1037/h0040525 Mintzes, B., Lexchin, J., Sutherland, J. M., Beaulieu, M.-D., Wilkes, M. S., Durrieu, G., & Reynolds, E. (2013). Pharmaceutical sales representatives and patient safety: A comparative prospective study of information quality in Canada, France and the United States. Journal of General Internal Medicine, 28(10), 1368–1375. doi:10.1007/s11606-013-2411-7 Pronin, E., Lin, D. Y., & Ross, L. (2002). The bias blind spot: Perceptions of bias in self versus others. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28(3), 369–381. doi:10.1177/0146167202286008 Regan, D. T. (1971). Effects of a favor and liking on compliance. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 7(6), 627–639. doi:10.1016/0022-1031(71)90025-4 Spurling, G. K., Mansfield, P. R., Montgomery, B. D., Lexchin, J., Doust, J., Othman, N., & Vitry, A. I. (2010). Information from pharmaceutical companies and the quality, quantity, and cost of physicians’ prescribing: A systematic review. PLoS Medicine, 7(10), e1000352. doi:10.1371/journal.pmed.1000352 Steinman, M. A., Shlipak, M. G., & McPhee, S. J. (2001). Of principles and pens: Attitudes and practices of medicine housestaff toward pharmaceutical industry promotions. The American Journal of Medicine, 110(7), 551–557. doi:10.1016/S0002-9343(01)00660-X Zajonc, R. B. (1968). Attitudinal effects of mere exposure. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 9(2, Pt. 2), 1–27. doi:10.1037/h0025848

    Influence

  4. Sep 22

    Tradwives

    Have you noticed the beautiful kitchens, homemade bread, flowing dresses, gardens, and slower-paced home life showing up all over social media? Welcome to the world of Tradwives.In this episode of Wondering About, we’re wondering what the Tradwife trend is really all about. What exactly is a Tradwife? Where did the term come from? Why has this lifestyle become so popular online—and what is it about the aesthetic that has so many people fascinated?We dig into the rise of Tradwife influencers, the appeal of homemaking and a slower lifestyle, and the difference between what we see on social media and what everyday life might actually look like behind the perfectly curated posts.Is Tradwife life a return to simpler living? A social media aesthetic? A reaction to our increasingly busy lives? Or a little bit of all three?Pour yourself a cup of coffee, put the sourdough in the oven, and come wonder with us! Citations: A single mother speaks out on how the ‘tradwife’ lifestyle led to her divorce - https://www.cnn.com/2024/02/27/health/tradwife-lifestyle-women-mental-health-wellness/index.htmlAll your questions about Nara Smith & Lucky Blue: https://www.elle.com.au/culture/celebrity/nara-smith-lucky-blue-relationship/Mothers’ invisible workload is damaging their mental health https://news.okstate.edu/articles/communications/2019/mothers-invisible-workload-is-damaging-their-mental-healthThe #Tradwife Persona and the Rise of Radicalized Domesticity https://ojs.deakin.edu.au/index.php/ps/article/view/1645Meet the queen of the “Trad wives” (and her eight children). The Sunday Times. https://www.thetimes.com/magazines/the-sunday-times-magazine/article/meet-the-queen-of-the-trad-wives-and-her-eight-children-plfr50cgk

    Tradwives

  5. Sep 15

    True Crime

    Why are we so fascinated by true crime? In this episode of Wondering About, we’re going down a rabbit hole to figure out why so many of us are drawn to stories about murder, mystery, danger, and the darker side of human nature. Is it morbid curiosity? Are we trying to learn how to protect ourselves? Do we like the thrill of being scared from the safety of our own couch? Or are we simply wired to want to understand things that frighten us? And then there are the people who take it a step further—the “keyboard detectives” who research cases, connect clues, develop theories, and sometimes become determined to help solve a crime. We’re wondering why true crime has such a hold on us, why women make up such a large part of the audience, and what psychology can tell us about our fascination with the stories we probably shouldn't be listening to right before bed. It’s a little creepy, a little fascinating, and a whole lot to wonder about. Come wonder with us. Notes: Dru Sjodin case in North Dakota https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Dru_Sjodin Lindsay Clancy case (still active) https://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/trial-of-lindsay-clancy-the-mom-who-killed-her-3-children-enters-second-week-of-testimony True Crime blog- https://truecrimenews.com/ Citations: Vivanco Carlevari, S., Scrivner, C., & Oosterwijk, S. (2025). [Article title]. British Journal of Psychology. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC13353251/Alfaro‐Beracoechea, L. , Puente, A. , Da Costa, S. , Ruvalcaba, N. , & Páez, D. (2018). Effects of fear of crime on subjective well‐being: A meta‐analytic review. European Journal of Psychology Applied to Legal Contexts, 10(2), 89–96. 10.5093/ejpalc2018a9Harrison, M. A. , & Frederick, E. J. (2022). Interested in serial killers? Morbid curiosity in college students. Current Psychology, 41(6), 3768–3777. 10.1007/s12144-020-00896-w

    True Crime

  6. Sep 8

    Curse Words

    Have you ever wondered why some words are considered “bad” in the first place? Who decided which words we’re not supposed to say—and why does yelling one after stubbing your toe somehow make you feel a little better? In this episode of Wondering About, we’re wondering about curse words. Where did they come from? Why are certain words considered offensive? Does swearing actually affect our brains and bodies? And why do the words that shock one generation barely get a reaction from the next? We dig into the history and science behind profanity, find out what research says about people who swear, and—of course—talk about our own relationship with those four-letter words. So whether you swear like a sailor or still spell out the bad words, this episode is for you. What the @#$% is it about curse words? Come wonder with us! Citation: Jay, T. (2009). The Utility and Ubiquity of Taboo Words. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 4(2), 153–161.Adolphs, R., et al. (1999). A role for the human amygdala in recognizing emotional arousal from unpleasant stimuli.Van Lancker, D. (1987). Nonpropositional speech: Neurolinguistic studies.Does swearing at work get the job done? - Sean Stonefield, NBC News, https://www.nbcnews.com/id/wbna43442410Profanity Can Sometimes Be the Best Medicine, Increasing Pain Tolerance by ~ 33%, Psychiatrist.com, https://www.psychiatrist.com/news/profanity-can-sometimes-be-the-best-medicine-increasing-pain-tolerance-33-percent/

    Curse Words

  7. Sep 3

    Get to Know Bert & TA

    Get to Know Us We’ve spent a lot of time on Wondering About asking questions, researching random rabbit holes, and talking about the things that make us curious. But there’s one thing we haven’t really wondered about yet: each other. In this episode, we’re turning the questions on ourselves and taking the time to get to know the two women behind the microphones. We’re sharing our stories, our personalities, the things we love, and some of the little details you might not know about us. Think of it as a chance to pull up a chair and get to know us beyond the podcast. Because if we’re going to wonder about everything else, we figured it was probably time to wonder about each other. Come get to know us—and come wonder with us!

    Get to Know Bert & TA

  8. Sep 1

    Making Friends as Adults

    Have you ever wondered why making friends as an adult feels so much harder than it used to? When we were younger, friendships seemed to just happen. Now, between work, family, busy schedules, and life in general, finding—and keeping—close friends can take a little more effort.In this episode of Wondering About, we’re wondering about adult friendship. Why is it harder to make friends as we get older? How many hours does it actually take to turn an acquaintance into a real friend? Where are adults supposed to meet new people? And what does the research say about why friendship is so important to our happiness and well-being?We dig into the research, share some of our own friendship experiences, and talk about what it really takes to make meaningful connections in adulthood.Because apparently finding your people after 40 might require more than just sitting next to someone on the playground.Come wonder with us!Citations: "Hall, J. A. (2019). How many hours does it take to make a friend? Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 36(4), 1278–1296. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407518761225""Soeiro, L. (2025, July). Why making friends as an adult is so hard. Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/i-...why-making-friends-as-an-adult-is-so-hard""Hatmaker, J. (2025, February 26). How to make friends as an adult: 7 ways to find your people. Jen Hatmaker. https://jenhatmaker.com/blog/how-to-make-friends-as-an-adult-7-ways-to-find-your-people/"

    Making Friends as Adults
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We’re two midlife moms with a never-ending list of questions—and we decided it was finally time to start looking for some answers. Each episode of Wondering About starts with something we’re genuinely curious about. Sometimes it’s a big life question. Sometimes it’s something we’ve always wondered but never bothered to look up. And sometimes it’s a random rabbit hole we just have to go down. We do the research, ask the questions, sort through what we find, and then sit down together to talk about it all. It’s part research, part conversation, and a whole lot of curiosity. Because we may be

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