What's Clear to Me

Brian Amorello, Ph.D.
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  • Mental Health

What's Clear to Me is a life podcast created and hosted by Dr. Brian Amorello, featuring Dr. Konstantin Lukin. NEW EPISODES EVERY WEDNESDAY! Brian is a psychologist, author, football fanatic, and world traveler who is often far more interested in what happens outside the therapy room than inside it. The show is about real life — relationships, emotions, travel, bad decisions, hard lessons, and the moments that somehow make more sense once you’ve survived them. Konstantin brings another perspective and isn’t afraid to challenge Brian along the way. Expect real stories, real opinions, humor, uncomfortable conversations, and very little pretending that anyone has life completely figured out. Brian is also the author of the forthcoming memoir, Passport Stamps and Red Flags: How I Failed Out of College, Earned a PhD, and Kept Dating the Wrong Men — so questionable decisions are not exactly in short supply. If the truth is awkward, funny, messy, or mildly incriminating, it’s probably fair game. At the end of every episode, Brian answers the question that gives the show its name: So… what’s clear to me? Perspective changes everything. Interested in Therapy? Dr. Amorello and Dr. Lukin are licensed psychologists in New Jersey and New York and are authorized to provide telepsychology through PSYPACT. Individuals interested in therapy may inquire about services if they are physically located in any U.S. state except California, Hawaii, Iowa, Louisiana, Massachusetts, New Mexico, or Oregon. Services are subject to applicable licensure and PSYPACT requirements, clinical appropriateness, and availability. If you are interested in working with Dr. Amorello, Dr. Lukin, or the Lukin Center team please call 201-409-0393 or visit www.lukincenter.com to learn more or inquire about services. What’s Clear to Me is intended for educational and informational purposes. Consistent with the American Psychological Association’s ethical standards regarding media presentations, listening to or interacting with the podcast does not establish a psychologist-patient relationship with Dr. Amorello or Dr. Lukin. 🎙️ Want to Be a Guest on What's Clear to Me? Got a story to tell? A unique perspective? Something you've experienced that might make people laugh, cry, think, or question everything they thought they knew? We're looking for authentic, candid guests who aren't afraid to share personal experiences, challenge perspectives, and have honest, spontaneous conversations. You don't need to be a psychologist, celebrity, or expert. You just need a story worth sharing and the willingness to be yourself. Interested? Email brian@whatscleartome.com with 300 words or less explaining why you should be a guest on What's Clear to Me. Be interesting. Be honest. Be funny. Be vulnerable.

Episodes

  1. 1d ago

    What's Clear to Me About Emotions

    Send us Fan Mail Why are we so uncomfortable with our own emotions? And why do we feel the need to apologize for having them? In this episode of What's Clear to Me, Dr. Brian Amorello and Dr. Konstantin Lukin explore the complicated world of emotions—from anxiety and sadness to guilt, shame, and everything in between. Drawing on personal experiences and years of clinical work, Brian challenges the idea that uncomfortable feelings are something we should immediately fix, suppress, or avoid. Special guest Dr. Julia Baer joins the conversation to discuss emotional regulation, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and why teaching children to experience difficult emotions may be one of the most valuable lessons we can give them. And when Gabi joins for social media question time, things get interesting! What do the first five seconds after telling someone they hurt you reveal about emotional intelligence? And why might sadness sometimes trigger sexual desire? Through psychology, personal stories, honest disagreements, and plenty of humor, the conversation explores what it really means to be emotionally healthy. Because maybe happiness isn't about feeling good all the time. Maybe it's about learning to be okay when we don't. 🌐 www.whatscleartome.com Support the show

    What's Clear to Me About Emotions

  2. 5d ago ·  Bonus

    🚨 CLEAR! Emergency Pod — Whose Dirty Laundry Is It Anyway?

    Send us Fan Mail When does telling your story become airing dirty laundry? In the first-ever CLEAR! emergency episode, Brian addresses the criticism surrounding his decision to share deeply personal family experiences. But this isn't about airing dirty laundry. It's about breaking the silence surrounding difficult experiences and recognizing the power of honest conversations. Brian reflects on how opening up about his family's past has created opportunities for understanding, accountability, forgiveness, and healing—including a profound shift in his own relationship with his mother. What happens when we stop avoiding uncomfortable conversations and finally give ourselves permission to have them? Sometimes the conversations we've avoided for years are the very ones that allow us to move forward. 🎙️ What's Clear to Me — Perspective Changes Everything. Support the show

    🚨 CLEAR! Emergency Pod — Whose Dirty Laundry Is It Anyway?

  3. Oct 28

    What's Clear to Me About Therapy

    Send us Fan Mail What does therapy really change? And how much of that change depends on what happens after you leave the therapist's office? In this episode of What's Clear to Me, Brian and Konstantin discuss the challenges of starting therapy, the importance of the therapeutic relationship, and why meaningful, lasting change requires more than simply showing up. Then Brian welcomes one of his best friends of over 20 years, Luke, whose friendship began under some pretty outrageous circumstances! But the conversation quickly becomes personal as Luke opens up about his struggles with addiction, his decision to enter inpatient rehab during the COVID-19 pandemic, and the role therapy has played in his recovery. Six years later, Luke reflects on accountability, honesty, sobriety, and the life he's built through his commitment to personal growth. Plus, the group tackles listener questions! It's an episode filled with humor, vulnerability, friendship, and a reminder that change doesn't happen overnight. Support the show

    What's Clear to Me About Therapy

  4. Oct 24 ·  Bonus

    Nick & Brenda's Two Cents: Just Friends?

    Send us Fan Mail Can married people have friends of the opposite sex? 🤔 Nick says absolutely. Brenda says, “Not so fast!” What starts as Nick defending his good deeds—including helping another woman buy a car 🚗—quickly turns into a marital debate, with Brian desperately attempting to referee. Nick insists he's earning himself a mansion in heaven. 🏰 Brenda isn't quite ready to hand over the keys! But somewhere between the bickering and the laughs, Brenda surprises everyone with a vulnerable admission about her own past and how it continues to influence her perspective on trust. ❤️ One relationship. Two opinions. Thirteen years of separation. And apparently, a car dealership is where we draw the line! 😂 Welcome to Nick & Brenda’s Two Cents, where absolutely nothing is off-limits—not even their own relationship! Perspective Changes Everything. Support the show

    Nick & Brenda's Two Cents: Just Friends?

  5. Oct 21

    What's Clear to Me About Relationships

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode of What's Clear to Me, Dr. Brian Amorello explores the complicated world of relationships, from the ones that hurt us to the ones that help us grow. Brian opens up about his experiences with physically and psychologically abusive relationships, how those experiences contributed to his struggles in college, and what he eventually learned about fear, control, resilience, and self-worth. Later, he's joined by his supervisee, Dr. Sherlenne Francisco, and her husband, Youseff, who share their story of reconnecting through social media as teenagers, building a life together, and navigating marriage and new parenthood. From communication and power struggles to the challenges of being married to a psychologist, the conversation offers a very different perspective on love and partnership. The episode closes with a candid discussion about dating red flags, self-sabotage, and whether being single really needs an explanation. Because relationships aren't always easy, but they don't have to be painful to be meaningful. Support the show

    What's Clear to Me About Relationships

  6. Oct 14

    What's Clear to Me About Life

    Send us Fan Mail What does it mean to live a good life when nothing goes according to plan? In the premiere of What's Clear to Me, I share how academic setbacks, difficult relationships, and unexpected opportunities shaped my journey from struggling college student to psychologist and author. Dr. Konstantin Lukin joins me to discuss emotional resilience, making sense of painful experiences, and why effective therapy takes more than simply talking about feelings. Then I welcome my first guests: my parents, Nick and Brenda. Their marriage ended after my mother's infidelity with someone in my father's family, a betrayal that also fractured family relationships. After 13 years apart, they reunited together. Together, we talk candidly about loneliness, accountability, forgiveness, financial realities, motorcycles, and what life looks like when you choose to begin again. Finally, Konstantin and Lukin Center executive director Gabriele Milani join me for some fun and interesting audience questions. From football and family stories to personal growth and solo travel, this episode is about owning every chapter of your story, even the ones you'd never have written for yourself. There are laughs, hard truths, and surprises.  Support the show

    What's Clear to Me About Life

  7. Sep 11

    What is this about????

    Send us Fan Mail Brian speaks a bit about what to expect from this podcast. Premiering October 14, 2026. Support the show

  • 7 Episodes

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About

What's Clear to Me is a life podcast created and hosted by Dr. Brian Amorello, featuring Dr. Konstantin Lukin. NEW EPISODES EVERY WEDNESDAY! Brian is a psychologist, author, football fanatic, and world traveler who is often far more interested in what happens outside the therapy room than inside it. The show is about real life — relationships, emotions, travel, bad decisions, hard lessons, and the moments that somehow make more sense once you’ve survived them. Konstantin brings another perspective and isn’t afraid to challenge Brian along the way. Expect real stories, real opinions, humor, uncomfortable conversations, and very little pretending that anyone has life completely figured out. Brian is also the author of the forthcoming memoir, Passport Stamps and Red Flags: How I Failed Out of College, Earned a PhD, and Kept Dating the Wrong Men — so questionable decisions are not exactly in short supply. If the truth is awkward, funny, messy, or mildly incriminating, it’s probably fair game. At the end of every episode, Brian answers the question that gives the show its name: So… what’s clear to me? Perspective changes everything. Interested in Therapy? Dr. Amorello and Dr. Lukin are licensed psychologists in New Jersey and New York and are authorized to provide telepsychology through PSYPACT. Individuals interested in therapy may inquire about services if they are physically located in any U.S. state except California, Hawaii, Iowa, Louisiana, Massachusetts, New Mexico, or Oregon. Services are subject to applicable licensure and PSYPACT requirements, clinical appropriateness, and availability. If you are interested in working with Dr. Amorello, Dr. Lukin, or the Lukin Center team please call 201-409-0393 or visit www.lukincenter.com to learn more or inquire about services. What’s Clear to Me is intended for educational and informational purposes. Consistent with the American Psychological Association’s ethical standards regarding media presentations, listening to or interacting with the podcast does not establish a psychologist-patient relationship with Dr. Amorello or Dr. Lukin. 🎙️ Want to Be a Guest on What's Clear to Me? Got a story to tell? A unique perspective? Something you've experienced that might make people laugh, cry, think, or question everything they thought they knew? We're looking for authentic, candid guests who aren't afraid to share personal experiences, challenge perspectives, and have honest, spontaneous conversations. You don't need to be a psychologist, celebrity, or expert. You just need a story worth sharing and the willingness to be yourself. Interested? Email brian@whatscleartome.com with 300 words or less explaining why you should be a guest on What's Clear to Me. Be interesting. Be honest. Be funny. Be vulnerable.

Information

  • Creator
    Brian Amorello, Ph.D.
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    7
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 What's Clear to Me
  • Show Website
    What's Clear to Me