Unmasked with Dr Basra

Dr Jag Basra

Unmasked with Dr Basra is a podcast exploring the real conversations behind ADHD, autism, mental health, neurodiversity and wellbeing. Hosted by consultant psychiatrist Dr Basra, Unmasked goes beyond labels and diagnoses to hear from people with lived experience, clinicians, professionals and inspiring guests. Through open and honest conversations, Unmasked challenges stigma, shares different perspectives and helps build greater understanding of neurodiversity and mental health, at home, in education, in the workplace and across society. Episodes explore masking, late diagnosis, parenting neurodivergent children, workplace adjustments and the everyday realities behind assessment and support.

Episodes

  1. 1d ago ·  Video

    Less Conflict, More Connection: Practical Help for Parenting a Neurodivergent Child

    What can you do when everyday routines become battles, simple requests lead to conflict, or your child seems unable to do something you know they're capable of doing? In this episode of Unmasked with Dr. Basra, Dr. Basra is joined by Emma Wallace, Clinical Director at Diverse Diagnostics, to explore practical ways parents can reduce conflict, build connection and better support their neurodivergent child. Together they look beyond behaviour to understand what may actually be happening underneath it. Why can a child concentrate on Minecraft for hours but struggle with ten minutes of homework? Why can switching off the television trigger such a strong reaction? Why are belongings constantly lost? Why can bedtime become a nightly battle? And how do you set boundaries without turning every consequence into another confrontation? Dr. Basra and Emma explore how emotional regulation, executive functioning, working memory, attention and motivation can affect everyday family life — and, importantly, what parents can do to help. They share practical strategies for managing transitions, breaking overwhelming tasks into manageable steps, helping children organise their belongings, making everyday tasks more engaging, reducing the pressure around sleep and approaching boundaries and consequences in ways that help children learn. The message throughout is that understanding your child's neurodivergence doesn't mean removing boundaries, avoiding consequences or lowering expectations. Sometimes it means changing how you help them reach those expectations. In this episode 00:00 — Welcome and introduction Introducing the everyday challenges of parenting neurodivergent children and why understanding what's happening beneath behaviour matters. 02:16 — What emotional dysregulation can look like Understanding big emotional reactions and why regulating emotions can be harder for some neurodivergent children. 05:21 — Understanding what's happening beneath behaviour Looking beyond what a child is doing to consider what might be driving the behaviour. 09:08 — Helping children regulate their emotions How parents can model regulation, respond differently in difficult moments and revisit what happened once everyone is calm. 13:22 — Managing transitions and changing activities Why stopping a preferred activity can be so difficult and how warnings and preparation can make transitions easier. 17:30 — Executive functioning and organisation Why remembering, planning, organising and getting started can create difficulties in everyday family life. 22:00 — Working memory and breaking tasks into steps Why a seemingly simple instruction can become overwhelming — and how breaking it down can help. 27:02 — Motivation, reward and why boring tasks are difficult Why a child can spend hours on something they love but struggle to engage with homework or everyday chores. 32:03 — Using novelty and interest to encourage engagement Practical ways of making necessary tasks more interesting and easier to start. 37:17 — Organisation strategies for everyday family life Creating consistent places for belongings and reducing the daily hunt for things that have disappeared. 43:23 — Sleep and neurodivergent children Why sleep can become difficult and how poor sleep can affect children and parents. 46:21 — Practical sleep strategies Reducing pressure around falling asleep and creating a calmer, more predictable wind-down period. 48:28 — Consistency and building a sleep routine Why sleep strategies need time and consistency before deciding whether they're working. 49:30 — Pre-empting bedtime requests Building drinks, stories, cuddles and other predictable requests into the routine before it's time to settle. 51:01 — Screens, stimulation and switching off Helping children reduce stimulation and learn how to wind down. 53:56 — Do neurodivergent children still need boundaries and consequences? Why understanding the reason behind behaviour doesn't mean removing expectations or boundaries. 56:26 — Parenting support and applying rules consistently Helping children understand expectations and learn to apply them more consistently. 58:39 — Why consistency matters How children learn through repetition, experience and the behaviour modelled by the adults around them. 01:00:00 — Consequences aren't the same as punishment How to use consequences as opportunities to learn rather than reactions delivered in anger. 01:00:49 — Letting natural consequences teach Why sometimes not rescuing a child from every forgotten item or unfinished task can help build independence and responsibility. 01:03:30 — Changing your parenting approach isn't failure Why recognising that something isn't working and trying something different can be one of the most useful things a parent does. 01:06:04 — Final advice for parents Reflecting on what went well, giving yourself permission to reset and recognising the influence parents can have through small, intentional changes. About Unmasked Unmasked with Dr. Basra explores neurodiversity, mental health and wellbeing through honest conversations about diagnosis, treatment, support and the realities of living with ADHD, autism and other neurodevelopmental differences. For more information, resources and support, visit Diverse Diagnostics.

  2. 2d ago ·  Video

    Could a Diagnosis Change Your Child's Life? One Family's ADHD & Autism Story

    What changes when a child who has spent years struggling finally understands why they experience the world differently? In the first episode of Unmasked with Dr. Basra, Dr. Basra speaks with Lucy, a mother of three whose family's journey through ADHD and autism has transformed how they understand school, behaviour, medication, parenting and each other. Lucy shares what life was like before her eldest son's diagnosis — difficulties at school, struggling with friendships and social cues, emotional challenges and the feeling that something wasn't quite fitting. She also talks openly about the complicated emotions that came with receiving an ADHD and autism diagnosis: relief at finally having answers alongside the reality of coming to terms with what those answers meant. But this isn't simply a story about getting a diagnosis. Lucy explains what happened afterwards: finding the right educational support, deciding whether to try medication, managing side effects, changing the way they communicated as parents and gradually watching their children develop friendships, confidence and greater independence. The conversation also follows the very different journey of Lucy's younger son, and explores why two neurodivergent children within the same family can need very different kinds of support. And then the story comes full circle when Lucy receives her own ADHD and autism diagnoses as an adult — giving her a new way of understanding not only her children, but her own childhood and the person she has become. It's an honest conversation about what a diagnosis can — and can't — change, and why understanding a child's needs can be the starting point for helping them thrive. In this episode 00:00 — Welcome and meet Lucy Lucy introduces her family and their experience of ADHD and autism, and Dr. Basra introduces the idea behind Unmasked. 01:23 — Knowing something was different The early signs Lucy noticed in her son T and the difficulties he experienced at school, with friendships and at home. 05:20 — What can happen while children wait for answers A discussion about confidence, learning, relationships and mental health when neurodevelopmental needs aren't recognised. 08:04 — Trying to get an assessment Lucy's experience of seeking help before eventually finding Diverse Diagnostics and beginning the assessment process. 12:09 — Finally having an answer The complicated mix of relief and emotion that followed T's ADHD and autism diagnosis — and what the diagnosis meant to him. 13:52 — Learning to parent differently How parenting courses and learning alongside other families helped Lucy and her husband change their approach. 14:14 — Making the decision about medication Why T wanted to try medication, the initial side effects and what Lucy learned from the experience. 20:14 — The changes they began to see Improvements in concentration, impulse control, school life and the family's ability to enjoy activities together. 24:40 — Finding the right support at school Why Lucy fought for an ASN place and the difference the right educational environment made to T's progress. 27:55 — Friendships, confidence and letting go From isolation to close friendships, trips to the cinema and learning when parents need to loosen the reins. 32:05 — J: a different child and a different journey Why Lucy recognised differences much earlier with her younger son — and why his needs weren't identical to his brother's. 35:42 — Understanding how your child processes the world How educational psychology helped Lucy understand J's developmental and learning needs and communicate with him differently. 39:16 — When the school isn't the right fit Three primary schools and the difference the right environment, nurture support and one-to-one help eventually made. 40:41 — Small tools that can make a big difference How assistive technology such as a reading pen opened up books and independence for J. 40:56 — The bin man who became a role model How J's fascination with bin men developed into a relationship that gave him confidence, connection and opportunities to practise everyday skills. 42:21 — Supporting your child without removing every challenge Lucy's approach to queues, school uniform, shopping and other everyday experiences designed to build resilience and independence. 45:50 — When your family doesn't understand the diagnosis How different generations responded to ADHD and autism — from scepticism to invaluable support. 48:04 — When the parent changes, everything changes How family coaching changed the way Lucy and her husband communicated with their children, including the simple "notice and wonder" technique. 50:03 — Then Lucy got her own diagnosis How a suggestion from her husband eventually led Lucy to discover that she too has ADHD and autism. 54:49 — Looking back at childhood differently Why behaviours and experiences that once seemed inexplicable suddenly made sense through the lens of her adult diagnosis. 58:43 — Why Lucy hasn't chosen medication for herself Her personal decision, concerns about creativity and the systems she has developed to manage her own neurodivergence. 59:22 — Finding ways to thrive How Lucy manages a business, family life and a growing social media presence using strategies that work for her brain. 01:00:00 — Lucy's advice to parents who are worried about their child Why she believes parents should trust what they're seeing, advocate for their child and seek support rather than simply waiting for things to improve. 01:00:52 — From one of the first patients to the first podcast guest Dr. Basra and Lucy reflect on how far the family has come and what the future now looks like. About Unmasked Unmasked with Dr. Basra explores neurodiversity, mental health and wellbeing through honest conversations about diagnosis, treatment, support and the realities of living with ADHD, autism and other neurodevelopmental differences. For more information, resources and support, visit Diverse Diagnostics.

About

Unmasked with Dr Basra is a podcast exploring the real conversations behind ADHD, autism, mental health, neurodiversity and wellbeing. Hosted by consultant psychiatrist Dr Basra, Unmasked goes beyond labels and diagnoses to hear from people with lived experience, clinicians, professionals and inspiring guests. Through open and honest conversations, Unmasked challenges stigma, shares different perspectives and helps build greater understanding of neurodiversity and mental health, at home, in education, in the workplace and across society. Episodes explore masking, late diagnosis, parenting neurodivergent children, workplace adjustments and the everyday realities behind assessment and support.