YOU ARE ALREADY HER

Tesse Marlar
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You Are Already Her is for the woman who knows there has to be more to her life than simply surviving it. Hosted by life coach and speaker Tesse Marlar, this is where we have the conversations women are often afraid to have out loud—about relationships, self-worth, starting over, shame, boundaries, motherhood, friendship, aging, mistakes, healing, and learning to trust yourself again. Through raw personal stories, honest conversations, practical coaching, and guests with their own powerful stories of becoming, Tesse explores what happens when a woman stops abandoning herself and finally choo

Episodes

  1. Oct 17

    Episode 8: Stop Waiting for Permission to Live Your Own Damn Life

    How many times have you known what you wanted to do, only to start questioning yourself because somebody else didn't agree? In this episode of You Are Already Her, we're talking about why so many women continue seeking approval long after they've become perfectly capable of making their own decisions. We'll explore the difference between asking for advice and asking for permission, three signs you're giving other people too much influence over your choices, and a practical five-minute exercise to help you build self-trust. Plus, I'm giving you a seven-day challenge you can start immediately. Because you can consider other people's feelings without handing them control of your life. Resources mentioned: The Pattern Breaker — 24-page workbook, $27 FREE live workshop, October 27: From Surviving to Choosing Find both here: https://linktr.ee/tesse.lynn You Are Already Her. It's time to start choosing her.

  2. Oct 10

    Episode 7: You Dropped the Ball; Now What?

    Last week, there was supposed to be a podcast episode. There wasn’t. Why? I literally forgot my own damn podcast and instead of pretending it was intentional, I realized there was a much bigger conversation here: What do you do after you drop the ball? Because eventually we all do it. We miss the workout. Break the boundary. Text the person. Skip the habit. Abandon the goal. Fall back into a pattern we swore we were done repeating. The problem usually isn’t the mistake itself. It’s the story we immediately start telling ourselves about what that mistake means. Tesse Marlar You Are Already Her

  3. Sep 26

    Episode 6 - Stop Waiting to Feel Ready

    What if “I'm not ready yet” is actually just fear wearing a really convincing disguise? We tell ourselves we'll start when we're more confident. Apply when we're more qualified. Leave when we're certain. Speak up when we're less afraid. Put ourselves out there when we finally feel ready. But here's the problem: You might never feel ready. In this episode of You Are Already Her, we're talking about the difference between preparation and avoidance—and why confidence often doesn't come BEFORE you do the scary thing. Sometimes confidence is the receipt. 🎙️ You Are Already Her with Tesse Marlar If you're wondering whether you're actually preparing or just avoiding, DM me READY and I'll send you my 5-question Ready-or-Avoiding Check.

  4. Sep 19

    Episode 5: What If They Don't Like The New You?

    In this episode of You Are Already Her, we're talking about one of the uncomfortable parts of growth nobody prepares you for: what happens when YOU change, but the people around you aren't exactly thrilled about it. We're getting into boundaries, guilt, people-pleasing, self-trust, and why someone else's disappointment doesn't automatically mean you've made the wrong decision. But we're also talking accountability because not everyone who struggles with the new you are toxic, and “choosing yourself” doesn't mean you stop examining your own behavior. I'll give you questions you can actually use when you're second-guessing a decision because you're worried about someone else's reaction. And, of course, you have homework. 🎙️ You Are Already Her with Tesse Marlar

    Episode 5: What If They Don't Like The New You?

  5. Sep 12

    Episode 4: Why Do I Keep Doing This?

    You know the pattern isn't working. You KNOW you shouldn't text them back, say yes when you mean no, over-explain your decisions, spend the money, procrastinate, seek the validation, or go back to the thing you swore you were done with. And yet there you are. Doing it again. So maybe it's time to stop asking, “What's wrong with me?” In this episode of You Are Already Her, we're asking a much better question: “What is this behavior doing FOR me?” Because even our unhealthy patterns are often giving us something; relief, validation, comfort, control, connection, or protection from a feeling we don't want to sit with. I get personal about my own patterns, including the ways I've hurt others, sought validation in unhealthy ways, and had to learn the difference between understanding my behavior and excusing it. We'll also talk about why changing a pattern can actually feel WORSE before it feels better, why simply telling yourself to “stop doing it” doesn't work, and how to start catching the pattern before it takes over. And yes, you have homework again. 😂 Your Work This Week: Pick ONE pattern you want to change and get curious about what's underneath it. Because an explanation isn't an excuse. And awareness isn't the finish line. It's where you finally get the opportunity to choose differently. 🎙️ You Are Already Her with Tesse Marlar

  6. Sep 5

    Episode 3: I Don't Know Who I Am Anymore

    Have you ever looked at your life and thought… I don’t even know who I am anymore. For years, you’ve been the mom. The wife. The caregiver. The employee. The boss. The fixer. The one everyone counts on. But what happens when some of those roles start changing? In Episode 3 of You Are Already Her, we’re talking about identity, being needed, the difference between not knowing what you want and being afraid to choose what you already know—and what happens when you finally have enough space to hear yourself again. I share some of my own experience with this, but more importantly, I’m turning the conversation back to you. Because maybe you don’t need to “find yourself.” Maybe you need to get curious about the woman you are now. And yes…there’s homework again. 😉 Grab your notebook. 🎙️ Episode 3: I Don’t Know Who I Am Anymore You don’t have to find her. You don’t have to become her. You are already her.

    Episode 3: I Don't Know Who I Am Anymore

  7. Aug 29

    Episode 2: Nobody is coming to save you

    Nobody is coming to save you. That might sound harsh but what if it's actually some of the most freeing news you'll ever hear? For years, I waited for other people to change so I could finally be okay. I waited for apologies. I waited for someone to treat me differently. I stayed in a physically abusive marriage hoping this time would be the last time. I kept believing that if he changed, then my life could change too. Eventually, one question from my counselor forced me to look at things differently: That question changed something in me. In this episode, we're talking about the difference between blame and responsibility, why hope can sometimes keep us stuck, waiting for closure that may never come, and the uncomfortable realization that at some point, waiting becomes a decision too. This isn't about blaming yourself for what someone else did to you. And it definitely isn't about doing everything alone. It's about realizing that while you may not be responsible for what happened to you, you do get a say in what happens next. Maybe nobody is coming to save you. Maybe the woman you've been waiting for is you. 🎙️ You Are Already Her with Tesse Marlar

    Episode 2: Nobody is coming to save you

  8. Aug 22

    Episode 1: I Thought I Had to Become Her

    What if the woman you're trying to become isn't somewhere in your future? In the first episode of a new chapter of You Are Already Her, I'm talking about starting over, the woman I couldn't stand at 38, accountability, healing, and why I've completely changed what "becoming her" means to me. If you've ever looked at your life and thought, "There has to be more than this," this conversation is for you.

    Episode 1: I Thought I Had to Become Her
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You Are Already Her is for the woman who knows there has to be more to her life than simply surviving it. Hosted by life coach and speaker Tesse Marlar, this is where we have the conversations women are often afraid to have out loud—about relationships, self-worth, starting over, shame, boundaries, motherhood, friendship, aging, mistakes, healing, and learning to trust yourself again. Through raw personal stories, honest conversations, practical coaching, and guests with their own powerful stories of becoming, Tesse explores what happens when a woman stops abandoning herself and finally choo

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  • Creator
    Tesse Marlar
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    8
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Tesse Marlar
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