Not The Endling I Had in Mind

Natalie Cooke
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What happens when life spectacularly goes off-script? I’m Natalie Cooke, breakup and divorce coach, author and woman who once heard, “I’ve been having an affair with your friend.” Plot twist. In Series One of Not the Ending I Had in Mind, I’m sharing my story, chapter by chapter: betrayal, divorce, questionable decisions, dating and rebuilding, plus the coaching tools I wish I’d had at 2am when my brain wouldn’t switch off. Expect honesty, humour, special guests and proof that the ending you didn’t choose might just lead somewhere pretty bloody good.

Episodes

  1. 4d ago

    Episode 6 - Grief is a Dick

    Grief is a funny old thing. Except, of course, when it isn't remotely funny. In Chapter Six of Not the Ending I Had in Mind, I'm exploring one of the less talked-about parts of divorce: grieving someone who's still very much alive, along with the family life and future you thought you'd have. From navigating all those painful 'firsts' to dealing with emotions that seem to have absolutely no respect for your plans, I'm sharing the messy reality of heartbreak and why having a bad day doesn't mean you're back at square one. I'll also explore what I've learnt as a breakup and divorce coach about the grief cycle, why sadness can sometimes be part of moving forward, and how my Breakup Bucket List exercise can help you start looking towards a future that's yours to shape. Expect honesty, a little dark humour and the reassuring reminder that you can love the life you're building while still missing the one you've lost. New chapters every Monday at 9am. Follow Not the Ending I Had in Mind on Spotify so you don't miss the next instalment.

  2. Nov 1

    Episode 5: Who the Hell Am I Now?

    Who are you when you're no longer one half of a couple? After years of building a life together, suddenly being responsible for your own future can feel less like freedom and more like being handed the controls of a plane you've never flown. In Chapter Five of Not the Ending I Had in Mind, I'm navigating the messy business of rediscovering myself after divorce. From the challenges of single motherhood and some rather questionable decisions to finding unexpected moments of independence (including a trip to Jamaica), it's another instalment of life going spectacularly off-script. I'll also share what I've learnt as a breakup and divorce coach about identity, rebuilding self-trust and why finding yourself again doesn't mean going back to who you were before. Expect honesty, a little dark humour and a reminder that you don't need to have your whole future figured out to start enjoying it. New chapters every Monday at 9am. Follow Not the Ending I Had in Mind so you don't miss the next instalment.

  3. Oct 25

    Episode 4: What Did She Have That I Didn't

    Apparently, discovering your husband's affair doesn't just leave you questioning your marriage. It can leave you questioning absolutely everything about yourself. In Chapter Four of Not the Ending I Had in Mind, I'm sharing another instalment of life going spectacularly off-script, complete with heartbreak, questionable decisions and the sort of hindsight that would have been extremely useful at the time. I'm also talking about something so many women experience after betrayal: comparing themselves to the other woman and wondering what she had that they didn't. Spoiler alert: his decision to cheat was never a reflection of your worth. Struggling with betrayal yourself? My Betrayal SOS course includes practical tools to help you stop comparing yourself to the woman he cheated with, manage the emotional fallout and start finding your feet again. It's just £47. Betrayal SOS: go.nataliecookecoaching.com/offer-905092New chapters every Monday at 9am. Follow the podcast so you don't miss the next instalment!

    Episode 4: What Did She Have That I Didn't

  4. Oct 18

    Episode 3: My Husband Left. So I Downloaded Tinder.

    What do you do when your husband moves out after twenty years together? Apparently, you download Tinder and arrange a date within 48 hours. Perfectly reasonable behaviour, obviously. In this week's chapter of Not the Ending I Had in Mind, I'm navigating life as a newly single woman, the heartbreak of sharing my children 50/50 and the rather surreal world of online dating. There are a few laughs along the way, but there's also an important lesson about loneliness, distraction and why keeping busy isn't always the same as healing. Free resource: Breaking the Betrayal Spiral If you're struggling with overthinking after infidelity, download my free guide for practical tools to help you break the cycle. https://tr.ee/o-A_UdLHHB New chapters every Monday at 9am. Follow the podcast so you don't miss the next instalment.

  5. Oct 11

    Episode 2 Apparently, My Entire Marriage Needs a Fact Check

    What do you do when you discover your husband has been having an affair with your friend? Apparently, you become a detective. An unpaid, emotionally unstable detective with absolutely no intention of letting a single detail go unchecked. In Chapter Two of Not the Ending I Had in Mind, I'm questioning everything, desperately trying to save my marriage and making some fairly questionable decisions along the way. I'll also share what I now understand as a breakup and divorce coach about why betrayal sends our brains into overdrive, and why getting all the answers doesn't necessarily bring us peace. Expect heartbreak, dark humour and a few moments of "surely she didn't actually do that?" New chapters every Monday at 9am. Struggling to stop overthinking your own betrayal? My Breaking the Betrayal Spiral programme can help you understand what's happening and start getting your headspace back. Find out more: https://tr.ee/o-A_UdLHHB

  6. Oct 3

    I've Been Having an Affair with Your Friend

    Not The Ending I Had In Mind — Chapter 1: What the actual f**k just happened?Natalie Cooke introduces a podcast about betrayal, divorce, and the life-shaking aftermath of discovering an affair. In this first chapter, she recounts the moment her husband confessed he’d been having an affair with her friend—and the shock, questions, and search for certainty that followed. Alongside her story, Natalie explores why betrayal can make it so hard to stop replaying events, and why healing is rarely as simple as “moving on.”Key topics Natalie introduces herself as a breakup and divorce coach, master practitioner, former on-com author, and ex-wife.Her husband of 16 years tells her he has been having an affair with a friend.The immediate aftermath: shock, anger, sleeplessness, and a sudden loss of trust in the life she thought she knew.Natalie’s attempt to save the marriage by changing herself—becoming thinner, tidier, sexier, and more organized.Why betrayal can trigger hypervigilance, obsessive questioning, and constant searching for clues.How the need for answers can become a search for certainty—and why some answers may not bring relief.What Natalie wishes she had known in the early days after discovering the affair.The beginning of her “detective era,” when everything starts to feel like evidence.The podcast’s chapter-by-chapter format, combining Natalie’s story with coaching tools, psychology, and practical guidance.A preview of chapter two and the next stage of the investigation.“This is a podcast about betrayal, divorce and what the hell happens next.”“I was trying to make the pain stop.”“Everything becomes evidence.”Timestamps00:00 — Introducing the podcast and its focus on betrayal, divorce, and what comes next 00:58 — Why betrayal can scramble your sense of reality 01:27 — What listeners can expect from the series 02:22 — Why this isn’t a “move on and take a bubble bath” podcast 04:01 — The chapter begins with the affair confession 04:47 — The family day that turned into a life-changing moment 06:35 — “I’ve been having an affair” 07:34 — The affair partner is revealed, and the questions begin 08:48 — The unsettling experience of uncertainty 09:39 — Defensiveness and blame after the confession 11:01 — Trying to repair the marriage by changing herself 12:27 — Learning that the affair was still happening 13:22 — “I was trying to make the pain stop” 14:45 — Why betrayal can make life feel unsafe 15:43 — Hypervigilance and other trauma responses 16:56 — Trying to control what she could: herself 18:15 — What Natalie wishes she had known at the time 19:39 — Why answers don’t always bring relief 20:32 — Getting through the present moment when your mind is looping 21:32 — When every detail starts to feel like evidence 22:02 — Becoming a detective 24:29 — Sharing the story one chapter at a time 25:55 — Why uncertainty can feel worse than forgiveness 26:43 — Introducing Breaking the Betrayal Spiral 27:34 — What’s coming in chapter twoNotable quotesA note for listenersIf you’ve just discovered an affair, you don’t have to decide everything about your future today. Focus on getting through this moment. And if your mind is stuck on repeat, remember that chasing every answer may not be what brings relief.My Breaking the Betrayal Spiral Guide is here: ttps://tr.ee/FSxSGIvsS-

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What happens when life spectacularly goes off-script? I’m Natalie Cooke, breakup and divorce coach, author and woman who once heard, “I’ve been having an affair with your friend.” Plot twist. In Series One of Not the Ending I Had in Mind, I’m sharing my story, chapter by chapter: betrayal, divorce, questionable decisions, dating and rebuilding, plus the coaching tools I wish I’d had at 2am when my brain wouldn’t switch off. Expect honesty, humour, special guests and proof that the ending you didn’t choose might just lead somewhere pretty bloody good.

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