Welcome to Episode 4 of Called and Unshaken. Today we're talking about forgiveness: not the surface version, but what it actually takes, what it costs, and why it may be one of the most important things you ever do for your healing. Marzette has watched strong, faithful women get stuck, not because their faith wasn't real, but because something unforgiven was sitting underneath everything. She explains what forgiveness is not, shares her own story of church hurt at 19 and how forgiveness became the doorway to restoration, and walks you through forgiving others, forgiving God (the anger no one feels allowed to say out loud), and forgiving yourself. You'll also get a step-by-step process for walking through your whole life in stages, so you can clean the wound and let God heal it. In this episode: • What forgiveness is not: it isn't saying it was okay, forgetting, or automatic trust • Forgiveness as a decision to release a debt, sometimes daily • How unforgiveness shows up: armor, walls, and repeating patterns • Marzette's story of church hurt and what it taught her about identity and worth • When you're angry at God and don't feel allowed to say it (Psalm 13) • Forgiving yourself: no condemnation, accusation versus shame • Why forgiveness is a practice, like layers of an onion, not a one-time event • A practical process for walking through your life in stages and praying through each person The lie: I can't move forward until they apologize. The truth: Unforgiveness is structural. It sits under everything. Forgiving others, God, and yourself is how you clear the ground. Scripture referenced: Ephesians 4:31–32 | Psalm 13:1–2 | Romans 8:1 | Matthew 18:21–22 Your homework this week: Ask the Lord to reveal where you haven't forgiven. Then walk through your life in stages, from family and school years to relationships, work, yourself, and God. Name the people and moments, and pray: "God, I choose to forgive [name] for [what happened]." End in Jesus' name, then ask the Holy Spirit to fill and heal you. Content note: this episode includes a brief mention of an abuse of power in a church setting and may be difficult for some listeners. If you are in crisis or need support, please reach out to a licensed professional or call or text 988. 📖 Download the Episode 4 Devotional: . Reflection questions to help you go deeper and hear God for yourself. https://linktr.ee/calledandunshaken 🎧 Coaching waitlist: Marzette is opening the door to coaching, walking women step by step through hearing God for themselves and finding the tools to heal. Join the waitlist through the link in the bio: https://linktr.ee/calledandunshaken Called and Unshaken 🎵 Season 1 worship playlist: Find the Called and Unshaken Playlist on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2Bg3ItOO2fHv96ksOdAxzX?si=mW2Ush9EST6inrw4XbyeXQ&utm_source=copy-link&pi=yjtsi78sTS-xj Stay connected: ✔ Follow or subscribe wherever you listen so you never miss an episode ✔ Leave a rating and review, which helps other women find the show ✔ Share this episode with the woman who came to mind while you were listening. You already know who she is. Instagram: @calledandunshakenpodcast You are not who the wound says you are. You are a child of God, forgiven and being made whole, called by name into a future that is better than your past. Called and Unshaken.
