Something Needs To Change

Elizabeth Oakley
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Did you say yes when you wanted to say no? Or leave a conversation wishing you’d said what you really meant? *Something Needs to Change* is for women over 40 who recognise moments like these but aren’t sure how to start changing them. I’m Liz Oakley, a Transformation Mentor, and I’ll talk with you about the everyday situations that affect how you feel, speak and make choices. These are short, honest Pod Shots. I’ll bring you one situation, another way to look at it and a question that helps you hear what you think. Expect bite sized solo episodes, with new Pod Shots shared regularly.

  1. 1h ago

    An Evening In, Is Still A Plan

    Fireworks season means some of us stay in. We don't go out in the evening at this time of year unless we can take Buster with us, and I know thousands of people make the same choice for their animals and for the people they love. In this episode I carry on Wednesday's conversation about Bonfire Night and how it affects people, and I talk about what we actually do with those evenings, instead of sitting there hating the noise. I share how we plan for it every year, what we tell our visitors, what's on our TV this weekend, and the one question I'd like you to ask yourself before the displays start tonight. Have a listen, and if you are going to a display, please enjoy it. Find me at https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or https://lizo173.substack.com/

  2. 2d ago

    It Isn't Just One Night!

    Bonfire Night isn't just one night any more, is it? Round here the fireworks started a week last Monday, the night after the clocks went back, and they're far louder than they ever were when I was young. In this episode I tell you why I have a foot in both camps. I love a good celebration myself, and I'll happily stand and watch a display. But I've lived with the other side of it too, and I share some personal reasons, to do with a dog and my sister's birthday, that explain why I can't come down on one side. I finish with a small ask of anybody letting fireworks off this week, and a few things you can put in place for yourself if you dread them. Press play, and have a safe few days. Find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready To Rise In Life And Relationships, https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack at https://lizo173.substack.com/

  3. 4d ago

    Who Decided That Was Your Job?

    Who decided that was your job? The job of remembering, arranging and sorting everything out for everybody, at home and at work. And when was that decided? Was it ever actually decided at all? In this episode I look at the jobs that have become ours through habit. You stepped in once, you kept on doing it, and now everybody expects you to carry on. Nobody stops to ask whether the arrangement still works, and most of us don't ask ourselves either. I talk about being honest about what that job takes from you, how to start the conversation about changing it, and I leave you with one question to journal on. It's a simple one, and it's something we don't often sit and think about. Press play, grab a pen, and take it one bite at a time. Come and find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready To Rise In Life And Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

  4. Oct 30

    Do You Need a Reason To Enjoy Yourself

    Do you need a reason to enjoy yourself? When did doing something because you enjoy it stop being a good enough reason? In this pod shot I'm talking about the things you love doing just for you, whether that's music, a walk in the countryside, making something or seeing a friend, and why they keep slipping behind the jobs you've got to do and everybody else's plans. I've had to do this one myself, because I'm going to college at the moment to do something I love. I'll ask you to notice what you automatically put first, why a little time still counts, and I'll give you a small task to take into this weekend. Press play, then leave me a comment to tell me what you chose. Follow so you know when episodes drop, every Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Join me in Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or find me on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

  5. Oct 28

    When Is The Right Time?

    When is the right time, to do something you keep putting off? You keep saying you'll do it when the time is right, but what does that actually look like? When do we know? In this pod shot I ask you to name one thing. A conversation, a new hobby, a decision you've been sitting on. Then we look honestly at what you're waiting for, because some of those reasons are very real, and others have become a way of putting things off in our life. I share the small steps I'd take, one bite at a time, the first question to ask yourself, and the one thing I want you to put in your diary so it never gets left hanging. Press play, name your one thing, and take the first bite with me. Find me at https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or https://lizo173.substack.com/

  6. Oct 26

    Can You Take A Compliment

    Can you take a compliment? Think about the last time somebody paid you one. Did you say thank you, or did you straight away react? In this pod shot I share a true story from a call on a Thursday morning, when a lovely lady told me I don't look sixty-five. I'll tell you exactly what came out of my mouth, and it wasn't thank you very much. Then we look at why we do that, whether it's about our age, a jumper or something we've done, and what it says about the person who paid the compliment in the first place. There's a feeling that comes up when you're noticed, and it tells you something about the conversation you're having with yourself. I'll leave you with a small task for the next time it happens. It's five minutes. Press play. Come and find me in my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships or on Substack: https://lizo173.substack.com/

  7. Oct 22

    Did You Say YES Before You'd Thought About it?

    Did you say yes before you'd even thought about it? We can all do that, and we've all done it. Then you're left wondering why you said yes, when you didn't have the time, or didn't want to do it in the first place. In this episode of Something Needs To Change I share one idea to try before you say yes again, and we go through it one bite at a time. I'm a Transformation Mentor for Women over 40, and this is something I see again and again in the women I work with: a situation that's been going on for a long time, where they've been choosing other people over themselves without noticing. I give you one question to ask yourself in the moment someone asks, a few more to help you see what made you say yes, a simple way to give yourself room to choose, and what you can do if you've already agreed. And I leave you with a small task for the week. Press play, it's only a few minutes, and then have a think about your yeses versus your no’s. Come and join my Facebook group, Women Who Are Ready to Rise in Life and Relationships: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenwhoarereadytoriseinlifeandrelationships

  8. Oct 20

    What Do You Want - Now?

    Hello and welcome to my next episode. And today it's what do you want now? And that now is really important because you can probably tell me what you want less of, but what would you like in its place? Knowing what you'd like less of is a great starting point, but what do you want - now Interesting one. So what would you like less of?, that's easy. It's what most of us can just tell you what you want less of. It's what you want more of or what you want now, which we find harder. What would you like less of? Maybe less running around after everybody, , less arguments about certain things, when you get home and you've got a list of jobs to do instead of resting after a hard day's work , because no one is helping you out around the house. , what is it that you're carrying was it something I just mentioned or do?Always say yes when you actually mean no. What would you like instead? Maybe it's an evening to yourself, a full evening with nobody around, Wouldn't that be bliss with nobody asking you any questions, nobody asking you to do anything for them? Maybe you would actually like to sit down and have that conversation Maybe it's something you've always wanted to try, a new hobby. Maybe that's what you want now. So does the now matter? Well, I think it does, because what usually happens is what I've seen happen is that you have a routine that has been going on a long, long time, maybe for many years. But the thing is that when you started that routine things have changed. For No. 1, you've changed the people around you have changed. The children have grown up. The school run has changed, if there's a school run at all. Maybe the children are old enough to start doing jobs around the house to ease things for you that you're doing automatically and not even thinking about that. So sometimes what we do on a daily basis and we've always done, because we've always done, it needs to have a review.You need to take another look at it. Look honestly at the parts that you're happy with and look at the ones that you would like to change and that you don't want right now in your life. You want something better, maybe some ease in your life and let some others do some jobs for you. As I've already mentioned, you can value your life and still want at least one thing to change and you're entitled to that. Remember, so if someone else is involved in this one thing that you would like now, then you can decide what you're going to say and why you want it and the why is very important, but you can't decide how somebody else is going to respond. So consider what you need to say and ask for what you want now.

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Did you say yes when you wanted to say no? Or leave a conversation wishing you’d said what you really meant? *Something Needs to Change* is for women over 40 who recognise moments like these but aren’t sure how to start changing them. I’m Liz Oakley, a Transformation Mentor, and I’ll talk with you about the everyday situations that affect how you feel, speak and make choices. These are short, honest Pod Shots. I’ll bring you one situation, another way to look at it and a question that helps you hear what you think. Expect bite sized solo episodes, with new Pod Shots shared regularly.

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  • Creator
    Elizabeth Oakley
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    13
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright 2026 Elizabeth Oakley
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    Something Needs To Change

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