Peace and Success at Home

Micah Murdock
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A podcast for driven husbands and fathers who’ve proven they can succeed and want that same success at home. Each week, Men’s Coach Micah Murdock shares practical tools, skills, and strategies for bringing more peace, presence, and connection to your marriage and your family. Direct, real, and built for everyday life. Gentlemen, go win where it matters most!

Episodes

  1. 3d ago

    Ep 7: The Three Drives Running Every Decision

    Every human brain runs on the same three default drives, all day long. In my program we call it the Motivational Triad: Seek pleasureAvoid painConserve energyIn this episode we cover: Why these three drives are a big part of why you win at work, and why they pull the other way at homeHow to name which drive is running a behavior (a guess-the-drive round you’ll recognize yourself in)How the Triad shows up in your wife and kids, and how seeing it changes your responseWhy willpower loses to your own brain, especially at the end of a long dayHow to work with each drive by adding a little friction to the default or removing a little from the choice you wantNot more willpower. Just a home set up so the right choices are easier. Your challenge this week: pick one repeated behavior at home that frustrates you. Name the drive behind it. Then make one small change to the path. Treat it as an experiment, not a test. To chat with Micah Book a free discovery callTo learn more go to murdockcoaching.com

    Ep 7: The Three Drives Running Every Decision

  2. Oct 26

    Ep 6 - Same Fact Different Fight

    It’s 9:40 on a Thursday night. There are dishes in the sink. Four minutes later, nobody’s talking about dishes anymore. Twenty minutes later, she’s in the bedroom, you’re on the couch, and you’re both completely sure the other one is the problem. A camera in that kitchen would’ve recorded a sink with some dishes in it. That’s it. Everything else came from somewhere else. Every situation has two layers: the fact and the story. The fact is what a camera could record. The story is everything your mind adds on top. Most people fight the story, not the fact, and never realize it. If you only take one tool from this show and use it at home, make it this one. We cover: The “camera or commentary” test to train your ear for the differenceWhy two people can stand at the same sink and fight two completely different argumentsWhere your stories come from: the house you grew up in, past relationships, and a work instinct that serves you well at the office and backfires at homeFour signs you’re in a story: always/never, motives, forecasts, and a reaction bigger than the momentA three-part way to bring up something hard: state the fact, own your story, invite theirsThis isn’t about rolling over or pretending things don’t bother you. It’s about fighting the right thing. Dishes are a five-minute problem. “Nothing I do is ever enough” is not. Your challenge this week: think of the last argument at home that felt bigger than it should’ve. Draw a line down a sheet of paper. On the left, write only what a camera would show. On the right, write everything you made it mean. Then take a guess at what story the other person was telling. If there’s a man in your life who’d get something out of the camera test, send this to him. Every man has a sink full of dishes somewhere. Book a free discovery callor learn more at murdockcoaching.com

    Ep 6 - Same Fact Different Fight

  3. Oct 19

    Ep 5 - The Watcher

    You’re on a call that should’ve ended twenty-five minutes ago. Your daughter walks in, excited, holding a piece of paper. The words are already loaded: “Not now. Can’t you see I’m on a call?” And then, for the first time, you notice. Half a second before they leave your mouth. That half second is the whole skill. You’re not your thoughts. You’re the one who notices them. In this episode I break down The Watcher, a tool from session two of the Mental Fitness Framework and the one that makes every other tool usable in real time. We cover: What it looks like to live inside your thoughts instead of watching them (and why the coach in the booth sees what the players on the field can’t)Why you already do this at work under pressure, and how to start doing it at homeThe four steps: identify, avoid judgment, choose on purpose, and practiceThe three stages of getting better at it: catching it after, during, and beforeA simple front-door practice to decide which version of you walks in at nightThis isn’t about thinking positive or burying what you feel. It’s about seeing the thought clearly enough to decide whether you’re going to act on it. Your challenge this week: three times a day, take five seconds and ask, “What am I thinking right now?” And every time you get home, ask one more: “What am I walking in with?” If you know a man who’s sharp, capable, and still catches himself snapping at the people he loves most, send this to him. He’s probably closer than he thinks. Book a free discovery call: calendly.com/micah-murdockcoaching/30minMore at murdockcoaching.com

    Ep 5 - The Watcher

  4. Oct 19

    Ep 4 - Why We Don't Ask for Help

    “I’m fine.” Two words that have cost men more than almost any others. Six states. Twenty-two years in one career, rebuilt more times than I can count. A health fight that’s lasted over a decade. A twenty-six-year marriage that ended. And the number of people I really talked to about any of it while it was happening? Almost none. This one’s different. No tool list, no framework breakdown. Just my story, told straight, and why I think a lot of capable men will recognize themselves in it. I share: How being great at starting over made me skilled at skipping the part where you actually feel what’s happeningWhy I handled a serious diagnosis like a project, and what that kept me from sayingMy part in a marriage that ended, and what it means to bring home your best effort but not all of yourselfThe quiet moment that changed things, and the three shifts that followedThe difference between being steady and being shut downSome problems don’t respond to more effort. You can’t out-perform something that was never a performance problem. And home is usually where that shows up first. Your challenge this week: think of one thing you’re carrying that you haven’t told anyone. Write it down in one sentence. Just get it outside your own head. If there’s a man in your life who always says he’s fine, send this to him. Not because he’s falling apart. Because he’s probably carrying something, and this might help him share it with someone he loves. Book a free discovery call: calendly.com/micah-murdockcoaching/30minMore at murdockcoaching.com

    Ep 4 - Why We Don't Ask for Help

  5. Oct 19

    Ep 3 - This Isn't Therapy

    “I don’t need therapy. I’m not broken.” He’s right. He isn’t. But that one thought keeps a lot of capable men from ever taking a real look at coaching, usually because they’ve got the wrong picture of what it is. In this episode I lay it out plainly: what coaching is, what it isn’t, and who it’s built for. We cover: How therapy and coaching do different jobs (think physical therapist vs. strength coach)Three common assumptions about coaching, and why they miss the markCoaching in Three Steps, the first tool I teach every client in the Mental Fitness Framework, walked through with a dad and his teenage sonWhat an actual session looks like from the insideWho this work is for, and who it’s not forThis isn’t about fixing what’s broken. It’s about sharpening what’s already capable. Your challenge this week: pick one thing at home and run it through three questions. Where am I right now? Where do I want to go? How do I get there? If you know a man who’s been on the fence, the guy at the grill saying “I’m not broken,” send this one his way. To learn more or to book a free discovery call go to murdockcoaching.com

    Ep 3 - This Isn't Therapy

  6. Oct 19

    Ep 2 - The Cape You Never Take Off

    You're the guy everyone calls. The fire at work nobody else can put out, the buddy who needs a truck, the garbage disposal at your mom's house. You say yes every time, and you mean it. People count on you because you deliver. But at 7:15, you pull into the driveway, turn off the engine, and don't get out. You need a minute. And a question shows up: when was the last time somebody asked how you're doing? In this episode, Micah Murdock talks about the cape strong men put on early in life and never take off. Being the one who handles it is a strength. The problem is never clocking out of the role, and walking through your front door still on duty. In this episode: Why the cape got built (be strong, be useful, don't ask for anything) and why those rules worked so well for so longWhy capable is not the same as available, and how every automatic yes spends from a budget your family ends up coveringThe bill nobody warned you about: resentment that never gets said out loud, and people who know what you do but not who you areThree tools you can start using tonight: the driveway clock-out, the pause before yes, and the one true sentenceYour wife didn't marry a service provider. Your kids aren't looking for a handyman. They want the man under the cape, and you don't have to be any less strong to let them meet him. This week's question: If you put the cape down for one evening at home, who would notice first?

    Ep 2 - The Cape You Never Take Off

  7. Oct 19

    Ep 1 - Why You Keep Losing It

    You're the steady one. Calm in the board meeting, patient with the client who hasn't earned it, the guy who handles the crisis while everyone else panics. So why does your son asking for help with his homework get a sharper answer than anyone at work has ever heard from you? In this first episode of Peace and Success at Home, I break down what's going on in those two-second moments at home: the clipped reply, the sigh that says too much, the "I'm fine" that isn't. Nothing happens instantly. There's always a gap between what happens and how you respond. It's just fast enough to feel invisible. Once you can see that gap, you can widen it, and that's where you get to choose who shows up. In this episode: Why the trigger is rarely about what's in front of you, and how old stories get pokedWhat your body and brain do in that split second (fast brain vs. slow brain), and why it shows up at home more than at workThree tools you can start using this week to widen the gapHow to make it right when you miss, and why your kids learn more from that than from you being perfectA question to take into your week: What's the most recent moment at home where you reacted bigger than the situation called for, and what story was running the show? Want to go deeper? This episode previews The Watcher, one of the tools I use with clients 1:1 in the Mental Fitness Framework. If you're looking to create more peace and success at home, book a call: https://calendly.com/micah-murdockcoaching/30min

    Ep 1 - Why You Keep Losing It

  8. Season 1 Trailer

    Ep 0 - Podcast Trailer

    You know how to win. You've built something real at work. People count on you, and when there's a problem, you're the guy who handles it. Then you pull into the driveway, and the skills that work everywhere else don't always make it through the front door. That's not a character flaw. Think about how much time goes into training you for your career: school, continuing education, books, experts, podcasts. Now think about how much training you've had for the job that matters most. For most of us, close to none. So we figure it out on the fly. You're probably better at it than you give yourself credit for, but like everywhere else in your life, you want to get better. That's what this show is for. I'm Micah Murdock, a mental fitness coach and the author of the Mental Fitness Framework. I've spent 22 years in education building ways for people to learn hard things and actually use them. I'm also a husband and dad in a blended family with lots of kids running around, so I've lived the chaos of soccer practice, recitals, homework, and dinner all landing on the same night. This isn't therapy, and it isn't relationship advice. It's hands-on coaching. Every episode gives you tools you can use this week, like how to: Catch yourself before a reaction takes overStay in a hard conversation without getting defensive or shutting downKeep your footing when everything around you feels out of controlShow up for your family as the man you know you can be Because when things are solid at home, you see peace and success grow everywhere else.

    Ep 0 - Podcast Trailer
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A podcast for driven husbands and fathers who’ve proven they can succeed and want that same success at home. Each week, Men’s Coach Micah Murdock shares practical tools, skills, and strategies for bringing more peace, presence, and connection to your marriage and your family. Direct, real, and built for everyday life. Gentlemen, go win where it matters most!

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