Sotally Tober

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Sotally Tober is brothers Shaun and Tyler talking about life as they know it. Expect unfiltered conversations about family, relationships, business, entrepreneurship, partying, sobriety, personal growth, culture, ridiculous stories from the past, and whatever else comes up when two brothers sit down without much of a filter. Sotally Tober is about everything that comes before, after, and in between: building businesses, raising families, making mistakes, getting older, figuring things out, and being able to laugh at some of the chaos along the way.

Episodes

  1. 6d ago

    Opening a sober living at 23: Jorie Jaden & The Pink Paper Project | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 8

    Shaun and Tyler sit down with Jorie Jaden, founder of The Pink Paper Project, to break down what it really takes to open a women's sober living home at just 23 years old. Jorie details her path through chaotic generational addiction, from smoking meth on her 13th birthday and becoming a mother at 15, to receiving news of her mother's fatal car crash while inside an adolescent treatment center. This episode digs into the life-saving role of harm reduction and Medication-Assisted Treatment (MAT) during the fentanyl crisis, directly challenging the stigma that pushes struggling addicts out of traditional recovery rooms. Discover how unlearning lifelong enabling, recognizing signs of purpose through immense grief, and channeling lived trauma into community service can build a safe haven for women fighting to stay alive. ⏱️ Timestamps (00:00) Intro (02:35) Destigmatizing MAT, Suboxone, and harm reduction (08:50) The fentanyl crisis and counterfeit pills (12:00) The story behind The Pink Paper Project (16:20) Boundaries and the final phone call with her mom (18:15) Getting the news inside adolescent rehab (20:25) The pink donut box and signs of reassurance (28:45) Writing, raw poetry, and finding an artistic voice (30:40) Smoking meth at 13 and undiagnosed ADHD (36:50) Sentenced to eight years of juvenile wardship probation (43:15) Generational enabling, casino hotel rooms, and zero structure (49:30) Motherhood at 15 to running a sober living at 23 (55:30) When parenting boundaries dissolve into using buddies (1:06:40) Leveraging a 1M TikTok audience for recovery outreach (1:17:10) Fatal car crashes, courtrooms, and dropping resentment Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Connect with Jorie Jaden & The Pink Paper Project Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepinkpaperproject TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@joriejaden Follow Sotally Tober Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast #AddictionRecovery #SoberLiving #HarmReduction

  2. Oct 9

    Why staying sober feels impossible (and how to fix it) w/Bill Matthews | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 7

    Shaun and Tyler sit down with mindset coach and ultramarathon runner Bill Matthews to dismantle the self-limiting narratives that sabotage long-term recovery. Bill breaks down his transition from a 21-year-old sitting in LA County jail to achieving over 38 years of continuous sobriety and completing the grueling 200-mile Tahoe foot race. The conversation explores how the reticular activating system controls what we notice, why spoken language actively shapes identity, and how shifting internal self-talk breaks the cycle of relapse. Learn how reframing past trauma, adopting a service mindset, and embracing radical accountability turn life's darkest struggles into powerful tools for recovery. ⏱️ Timestamps (00:00) Intro(01:12) Living the Big Book vs regurgitating text(02:36) Miracles behind bars & defying prison sentences(05:45) Stop missing the signs: The flood joke(09:10) Reframing childhood resentments & honoring his dad(11:00) How your reticular activating system shapes reality(13:08) The internal narrative & self-fulfilling prophecies(20:00) Defining mindset through Enlifted coaching(24:50) Abracadabra: How words cast spells on your life(28:48) Bill’s story: First drink at 11 to LA County jail(39:45) Science, electricity, and a non-traditional Higher Power(53:50) Running 200 miles around Lake Tahoe (Tahoe 200)(1:06:00) "I feel outstanding": Eliminating negative self-talk(1:24:30) The "Be Bitchin" movement & catching people doing good Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Connect with Bill MatthewsInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/bebitchinmovement Follow Sotally Tober PodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast #AddictionRecovery #Sobriety #MindsetShift

  3. Oct 2

    How TMS therapy rewired Kyle Hartfield's brain to stop addiction | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 6

    Shaun and Tyler sit down with Empower TMS founder Kyle Hartfield to expose the predatory reality of body brokering within the addiction treatment industry. Kyle breaks down his transition from 22 years of active alcoholism and cocaine addiction to operating ethical recovery facilities and pioneering brain-based treatment solutions. The conversation explores how Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) therapy targets neuroplasticity in the prefrontal cortex to neutralize drug cravings and heal addiction without severe withdrawal symptoms. Learn how advanced neuroscience and transparent patient care are disrupting traditional addiction medicine. ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 - Intro 00:30 - Tyler's Caltrans shirt roasting 05:32 - Kyle’s Ford F-250 breakdown & the $500 Uber ride home 08:43 - The 1996 Winnebago story & losing brakes mid-trip 11:26 - Growing up wild with no rules in Horse Thief Canyon 15:15 - Meeting Kyle Hartfield & introduction to Empower TMS 18:32 - Getting expelled in 7th grade over a pocket knife 27:00 - Doing 30 days in juvie for shooting BB guns at bus stops 34:25 - High-functioning addiction & making big money in mortgages 43:00 - Entering the rehab call center industry 47:23 - The tragic client story that exposed the industry 52:00 - Exposing body brokering & the "Florida Shuffle" 1:04:26 - The reality of running a truly ethical rehab facility 1:08:13 - Discovering Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) 1:14:42 - How TMS therapy cured Kyle's alcoholism & saved his marriage 1:20:58 - The science of how TMS rewires the addicted brain Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Connect with Kyle & Empower TMS Learn more about TMS: https://empowertms.com YouTube: @empowertms iTalkTMS: @italktms Follow Sotally Tober Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast #TMS #TMStherapy #AddictionRecovery #MentalHealth

  4. Sep 25

    How reggae artist Kyle Smith overcame rock bottom | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 5

    Kyle Smith joins Shaun and Tyler to talk about his journey through music, addiction, and building a career from the ground up. Kyle reflects on growing up in Southern California, his early exposure to drugs, and the rapid spiral that left him homeless and panhandling on Second Street in Long Beach. He breaks down the moment his family tracked him down, his transition into 12-step recovery, and the hard work required to rebuild his life from scratch. The conversation covers the early days of playing solo acoustic sets in Ventura, overcoming stage fright in front of hostile crowds, and grinding on the road for eight years before his music took off. Kyle also discusses stepping away from his day job after playing Cali Vibes Fest, touring the country, performing at major festivals, and why staying present and humble matters more than the analytics. Kyle also shares details about his upcoming 15-track album, his love for mixing reggae with punk rock, playing island shows in St. John, and how recovery allowed him to live a life beyond his wildest dreams. ⏱️ Timestamps (00:00) Intro (00:39) Head changes, vaping, and early Ventura recovery meetings (03:00) Mind, body, and soul in recovery (05:10) Meeting realities and local connections (06:13) Album releases, reggae-punk roots, and early acoustic sets (10:00) Overcoming stage fright and playing solo (13:30) Playing to 10 people vs. performing for thousands (17:35) Grinding for eight years before the music took off (19:40) Quitting the day job after Cali Vibes Fest (22:15) Lake Nacimiento karaoke nights (27:15) Touring, Bay Fest with Sublime, and meeting Tony Hawk (31:20) The reality of addiction and losing friends (32:35) Playing island shows in St. John and pop-ups in Florida (37:05) High school trouble and getting hooked early (44:15) Ending up homeless in Long Beach (48:40) Escalating addiction and the physical cycle (01:01:25) The day Kyle’s mom tracked him down (01:15:20) Early days in Riverside treatment and finding fellowship (01:22:00) Staying clean while on the road (01:26:35) Staying present and living beyond your dreams Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Listen to Kyle Smith Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/kyle-smith/1779895544 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/3MY1DTzqzgwf9VBp35Sw5D Follow Sotally Tober Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast #SotallyTober #KyleSmith #AddictionRecovery #MonarchRecovery

  5. Sep 18

    How Andy Knapp went from Ventura bands to becoming Snot’s new vocalist | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 4

    Andy Knapp joins Shaun and Tyler to talk about his journey through music, recovery, and eventually becoming the new vocalist for Snot. Andy grew up around the Ventura music scene, playing in local bands before getting the opportunity to audition for Snot. He talks about being heavily influenced by Lynn Strait, how he approached the audition, finding out the band wanted him, and the pressure of stepping into the frontman role of a band with such a history. The conversation also covers Andy’s relationship with music, getting sober, learning how to enjoy life without drugs and alcohol, touring with Snot, playing shows in Europe and Australia, the first show with the band, Lynn Strait’s family, and the challenge of making new Snot music while keeping the band’s identity intact. Andy also talks about what comes next for Snot, the new record, his other band Stronger Than Machines, and what it’s like watching a dream he never expected actually happen. ⏱️ Timestamps (00:00) Intro (01:04) Andy talks about getting hooked on Zyns (03:17) Quitting vaping and feeling better (05:35) When Shaun met Andy (08:05) Growing up with Michael Jackson and hip hop (15:18) Andy’s early bands and the Ventura music scene (16:31) How Andy ended up singing for Snot (17:13) Snot, Lynn Strait and the band’s legacy (20:31) Why Lynn Strait inspired Andy to become a vocalist (23:36) Andy sends Snot his audition videos (24:02) "Get ready, we’re doing things" (25:27) Learning the Snot record before meeting the band (33:58) Preparing for Andy’s first Snot show (35:40) The first show and the mystery around Snot’s new singer (36:21) Meeting Lynn Strait’s family (44:13) Why Andy still loves playing smaller shows (47:08) Touring Europe with Snot (54:16) Andy talks about changing his relationship with alcohol (55:10) Performing sober and removing the excuse (01:05:31) Andy reflects on his old rock star lifestyle (01:06:35) What’s next for Snot and the new record (01:08:45) Recording the new Snot album (01:13:07) Keeping the Snot sound while being himself (01:15:28) Closing thoughts Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Listen to Snot Apple: https://music.apple.com/us/artist/snot/116200 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/6TnlohrPbZ8D0JvJp9S1t8 Follow Sotally Tober Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast #SotallyTober #AndyKnapp #Snot #Recovery

  6. Sep 11

    The dark side of rehab: Scotty exposes the body brokering system | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 3

    Scotty joins Shaun and Tyler on the Sotally Tober podcast to tell the inside story of addiction, body brokering, relapse, overdose, rehab and the darker side of the Southern California treatment industry. Scotty describes arriving in Orange County desperate to get sober, then discovering a system where people struggling with addiction could be paid thousands of dollars to cycle through treatment, relapse and do it again. He talks about being paid $2,500 for short treatment stays, watching friends get pulled into the same cycle, surviving an overdose that required emergency resuscitation, and eventually realizing that the people who seemed willing to do anything for him disappeared once his insurance benefits were exhausted. The conversation also gets into Scotty’s heroin and cocaine addiction, drug-induced delusions, sober living, Medi-Cal treatment, 12-step recovery, relapse, body brokering, insurance billing, unethical addiction treatment practices and the friends he lost along the way. Scotty’s story offers a firsthand look at what can happen when vulnerable people become more valuable for their insurance than for their recovery, and how his life changed when he finally found people who expected nothing from him except a willingness to get sober. ⏱️ Timestamps (00:00) Intro (00:22) Addiction treatment, insurance & corruption (14:20) Scotty’s experience with body brokering (19:39) When addiction gave him “everything he wanted” (22:11) Drug-induced psychosis & jumping out a window (24:59) How jail may have saved Scotty’s life (26:49) Bath salts & temporarily losing his eyesight (28:24) Arriving in Orange County for treatment (33:51) Relapse & a near-fatal overdose (35:21) Getting paid $2,500 to go to rehab (39:46) Inside the body brokering cycle (48:43) Finding real recovery through the 12 steps (01:04:36) The $1,000 treatment implant (01:07:45) What happened when his insurance ran out (01:14:25) The people who helped change Scotty’s life Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Follow Sotally Tober Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast #AddictionRecovery #RecoveryPodcast #SoberLiving

  7. Aug 28

    18 years in prison: Bob Dore’s road to recovery | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 2

    Shaun and Tyler sit down with Bob Dore on the Sotally Tober podcast, powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California, for a raw conversation about addiction recovery, prison, childhood abandonment, criminal thinking, fatherhood, sober living, and rebuilding relationships after years of addiction and incarceration. Bob talks about methamphetamine, heroin and cocaine addiction, his criminal history, spending roughly 18 years incarcerated, reconnecting with his children, working the 12 steps, making amends, and learning how to recognize old thinking without acting on it. The conversation gets serious, funny, uncomfortable, and personal as Bob explains how the experiences that once kept him trapped now shape the way he works with people in recovery at Monarch Recovery. ⏱️ Timestamps (00:00) Intro (00:42) Bob finds meth on the freeway (05:16) Bob’s childhood & being abandoned (10:32) Addiction, heroin & becoming a father (12:38) Discovering his babysitter was his aunt (20:25) 18 years in prison & 67 felonies (23:35) “Dad, I’ve been waiting my whole life for you” (27:35) How Bob first ended up in prison (38:18) Becoming the “jailhouse lawyer” (40:49) $682,000 in fraud & a 32-year sentence (43:51) The Kit Kat that changed everything (48:47) Getting 32 years reduced to 12 (51:10) How Bob fought $682,000 in restitution (55:14) Life after prison & the road to recovery (58:45) From Monarch client to helping others Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Follow Sotally Tober Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast #AddictionRecovery #RecoveryPodcast #SoberLiving

  8. Aug 21

    We Were Comfortable in Chaos | Sotally Tober Podcast Ep 1

    Welcome to the first episode of Sotally Tober, where brothers Shaun and Tyler sit down to talk about life, family, business, getting older, bad decisions, and the stories that somehow get better with time. Episode 1 goes from Costco and Halloween obsessions to rave culture, Coachella disasters, jail, addiction, sobriety, faith, entrepreneurship, starting Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California, and what happens when two brothers who have been through a lot finally get microphones in front of them. Nothing is off limits, and recovery is part of the story, not the whole story. ⏱️ Timestamps (00:00) Intro (05:30) How Shaun got the name “Survivor” (10:58) Addiction, partying & living with diabetes (18:46) The Coachella story (23:19) Why we started Sotally Tober (23:46) Tyler’s road to getting sober (28:01) Getting out of the hospital & relapsing (28:51) The phone call that changed everything (29:51) Getting stabbed 14 times & hitting bottom (31:26) Going to sober living for “just 30 days” (33:03) Discovering you can have fun sober (36:33) Shaun’s road to sobriety (37:59) Getting sober to avoid going back to prison (39:36) AA, sponsorship & finally finding recovery (54:16) Recovery, family & starting Monarch Sotally Tober is powered by Monarch Recovery in Ventura, California. 🎧 Listen to Sotally Tober on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Follow Sotally Tober Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_sotallytoberpodcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_sotallytoberpodcast 💬 Got a story of your own? Drop it in the comments. If you enjoyed the episode, hit like and subscribe for more Sotally Tober. #SotallyTober #LifestylePodcast #Podcast

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Sotally Tober is brothers Shaun and Tyler talking about life as they know it. Expect unfiltered conversations about family, relationships, business, entrepreneurship, partying, sobriety, personal growth, culture, ridiculous stories from the past, and whatever else comes up when two brothers sit down without much of a filter. Sotally Tober is about everything that comes before, after, and in between: building businesses, raising families, making mistakes, getting older, figuring things out, and being able to laugh at some of the chaos along the way.

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  • Creator
    Monarch Recovery
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    8
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Monarch Recovery
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    Sotally Tober