Deconstructing my faith has been my whole life, it’s not something I just “went through.” Growing up in the system and surviving abuse in multiple churches left scars I’m still working through. I found Jessica and Hemant during one of the roughest parts of that journey, and honestly, their podcast became a lifeline. It’s more than just talk -it’s a safe space.
I use to email Hemant about every child abuse scandal I stumbled on. And he responded to every single email—I don’t even know how he did it, because I was annoyed with me half the time. He’s got this big-brother energy—protective, smart, and fair. He insists on investigating both sides first, checking sources, then forming a logical position. My trauma wants me to go straight on the attack, but he’s helped me slow down, see both sides, and actually think before reacting. That steadiness has meant more than I can say.
And Jessica…she’s my favorite. My daughter’s favorite too. She’s like the best friend or older sister you always wished you had in your corner. Warm, funny, smart, and compassionate, she makes survivors feel seen without having to explain ourselves.
We’re a special-needs family, and knowing Jessica is a teacher, an atheist, and an advocate is such a comfort. She sees the world in ways that make people like us feel less invisible.
If you’re deconstructing, healing, or a survivor of abuse, Friendly Atheist isn’t just a podcast. It’s community, a safe space. Friendly Atheist is the kind of presence I wish I’d had growing up—and now, I’m so grateful I do.
