Identity Matters

Dr. Kathleen Perry
  • 5.0 (17)
  • SELF-IMPROVEMENT

The Identity Matters Podcast is your sanctuary for finding freedom from fear, lack, and insecurity—symptoms of a mistaken identity. If you’re ready to end the struggle of self-improvement, let go of the exhausting effort to fix yourself, and stop seeking happiness outside of yourself, then this is the podcast for you. Join Dr. Kathleen Perry to embark upon a journey of self-exploration, uncovering who-you-actually-are, your True Identity. You’ll discover that you are, and always have been, innately whole and worthy just as you are.

  1. 1D AGO

    Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, and the Art of Letting Her Rest #015

    I’ve noticed I have a tendency to perform, defend my perspective, and over-explain in an effort to “get it right” and do no harm. I reflect in this episode on how this protective persona traces back to my childhood “good girl” identity—striving for perfection, avoiding being wrong, and seeking safety through approval—and how exhausting that management feels. I explore how explaining can be a way of not trusting myself or you, and how the realness lands more deeply than polished control. The Intelligence Inside — a 5-week course, May 26 – June 23. If this episode stirred something and you want to go further, reach out at office@drkathleenperry.com and let's talk.

    15 min

  2. MAY 4

    Nothing Personal. A Client Conversation with Amy #014

    Amy is someone I’ve worked with since 2019 through functional medicine for her diabetes and one-on-one coaching. Our work together has shifted her from self-criticism, stress, and worry about others’ judgments, to seeing thoughts as just thoughts, not verdicts, which has changed how she handles intense work pressure and deadlines. In this episode, we explore the inside-out nature of experience, living more in the moment, and the freedom that comes from loosening identification with roles, expectations, and even diagnoses. The Intelligence Inside — a 5-week course, May 26 – June 23. If this episode stirred something and you want to go further, reach out at office@drkathleenperry.com and let's talk.

    42 min

  3. APR 27

    What If You Just Played With It? #013

    Why do dreams and creative ideas get deferred? I’m exploring this question today, using my own experience of waiting four and a half years to launch this podcast due to timing and perfectionism. I share how I impulsively joined a mastermind just to be around creative people, noticed imposter thoughts, and then unexpectedly received a clear book outline, which tempted me to turn it into an entrepreneurial project until I chose surrender, play, and openness instead. It’s time to identify deferred gifts, question the myth of “ready,” stop managing outcomes, and take the next step. Sign up for my newsletter: https://drkathleenperry.activehosted.com/f/7

    29 min

  4. APR 20

    The Mirror: How Seeing Yourself Dissolves Your Triggers #012

    In this episode of Identity Matters, I share a simple practice I call “the mirror,” which is an exercise for dissolving triggers by recognizing that what activates me in others reflects something in me. How do the differences between jealousy (fear of losing what I have) and envy (wanting what someone else has) play into this, and how can naming envy reduce shame? You’ll see that the “golden mirror” of envy is recognition without ownership, but the harder mirror of irritation and judgment is where finding even a tiny shared version in yourself softens reactivity and increases forgiveness. Sign up for my newsletter: https://drkathleenperry.activehosted.com/f/7

    21 min

  5. APR 13

    When "Not Good Enough" Runs the Show #011

    The “not good enough” identity (specifically, my “not good enough daughter” identity) quietly ran my life for a long time by constantly raising an internal bar higher and higher. Even though my mom never demanded sacrifice or guilted me, I pressured myself with rigid ideas of what a “good daughter” would do, which created guilt and resentment. In this episode, I explain how something shifted when I considered believing my mom’s repeated positive words and made a quiet one-week experiment to live as if I were already good enough. I reflect on how culture reinforces “not good enough” stories for caretakers and beyond, and I emphasize that loosening the identity isn’t about a formula or fixing ourselves, it’s about noticing, questioning, and becoming curious about who set the bar. Sign up for my newsletter: https://drkathleenperry.activehosted.com/f/7

    16 min

  6. APR 6

    The Love That Is You #010

    Today, I’m exploring the profound understanding of love as an eternal essence defining our true nature. Reflecting on the recent news of my cousin's death, I explain the concept that love is not just an emotion or transient feeling, but an intrinsic part of who we are. I emphasize the need to recognize that love is within us and not something to be sought externally. Join me on this heartfelt journey to acknowledging and embracing the pure, unconditional love that transcends physical presence and individual identities. Sign up for my newsletter: https://drkathleenperry.activehosted.com/f/7

    15 min

  7. MAR 30

    Why It Feels So Bad When We Take Things Personally #009

    Today I want to revisit a conversation about why we take things so personally and the underlying feelings associated with it. I share insights from a past interaction with a successful engineer who felt personally attacked over feedback on his work proposal, despite knowing it was about the work and not him. From this story, I explore the concept of the “me” construct, the identity we build in our minds, and how being highly identified with this construct makes us vulnerable to taking things personally. Realizing that this identity is just a mental construct can be a wake-up call and a gift, allowing us to respond to situations more openly and authentically. Sign up for my newsletter: https://drkathleenperry.activehosted.com/f/7

    17 min

  8. MAR 23

    You're Not Broken - You're Divinely Engineered with Mavis Karn #008

    We have a transformative conversation with Mavis Karn, the author of It's That Simple: A User's Manual for Human Beings. Mavis shares profound insights about human innocence and our divine engineering, emphasizing that we are not broken but simply unaware of our true nature. Throughout the conversation, Mavis underscores the importance of living in the present moment, understanding that our feelings are indicators of our thoughts, and recognizing the temporary nature of psychological pain. Remember: let’s be kind to ourselves and appreciate the magnificent beings we are. Mavis’ website: https://www.maviskarn.net  Sign up for my newsletter: https://drkathleenperry.activehosted.com/f/7

    43 min
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The Identity Matters Podcast is your sanctuary for finding freedom from fear, lack, and insecurity—symptoms of a mistaken identity. If you’re ready to end the struggle of self-improvement, let go of the exhausting effort to fix yourself, and stop seeking happiness outside of yourself, then this is the podcast for you. Join Dr. Kathleen Perry to embark upon a journey of self-exploration, uncovering who-you-actually-are, your True Identity. You’ll discover that you are, and always have been, innately whole and worthy just as you are.

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  • Creator
    Dr. Kathleen Perry
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    17
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Copyright Dr. Kathleen Perry
  • Show Website
    Identity Matters

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