If I'm Honest

Heather Bjur
  • 5.0 (20)
  • CHRISTIANITY

Could there be a middle ground between passive-aggressive silence and explosive anger? Honesty without snark. Uncompromising emotional integrity. To own one's inner world without destroying those around you. To get there, we must explore emotional legalism and the rules we put on ourselves and others.

Episodes

  1. How to Connect When You're in Survival Mode

    09/04/2020

    How to Connect When You're in Survival Mode

    How do we connect with our spouses when we're emotionally exhausted? Asking for our needs to be met is hard for most of us anyway, but in the middle of a seemingly never-ending crisis where our energy is scattered and tapped, it's easy to put our relationships on the back burner. I've got 4 tips for simple communication that can help you move towards open communication.

    10 min
  2. The Dangers of Stuffing your Feelings

    05/25/2020

    The Dangers of Stuffing your Feelings

    Stuffing our feelings is something we all do from time to time.  But when it becomes the only way we know to cope with them, they cause sickness deep down inside.  Learn how to spot when you're stuffing, and what to do to become "unstuck" emotionally.

    12 min
  3. How to Deal with Anger

    05/11/2020

    How to Deal with Anger

    We have lots of rules about anger and how we're "supposed to deal with it.  Today, I've got some helpful tips on getting to the root of the anger by asking yourself 5 questions.

    10 min
  4. Being Honest with Yourself

    04/16/2020

    Being Honest with Yourself

    Today I was reminded that feeling 'unhinged' is a normal part of the Christian life, and in that, to not give up on yourself for feeling that way.

    7 min
  5. How Does Someone Become Codependent?

    03/13/2020

    How Does Someone Become Codependent?

    If codependence had a motto, it might sound something like, "I'm only okay if you're okay."

    9 min
  6. The Deconstruction of a Perfectionist

    03/06/2020

    The Deconstruction of a Perfectionist

    God has placed eternity in our hearts but we want to create Heaven on earth; so we grasp for control or scramble for escape.

    9 min
  7. The Two Most Important Words

    02/28/2020

    The Two Most Important Words

    I'm sorry. Why do we find these two, simple words so difficult to say?   I think it's all about emotions. Humility is required to offer an apology, and we're not always so great with humility, are we? Especially if we think we're right. Or we KNOW we're right. But being right doesn't make for great relationship dynamics.   I believe that our willingness to apologize for the hurt we've caused is equal to the degree of closeness or relational intimacy we will experience with those we love.

    10 min
  8. Relationship Patterns: Codependence

    02/21/2020

    Relationship Patterns: Codependence

    For the codependent, relationships and communication about them become a swinging pendulum.  On one side, we're often silent in the face of things we shouldn't be silent about because we learned somewhere in our past that speaking up brought up pain, rejection or simply nothing. On the flip side, too much silence eventually eats us alive and the anger we can no longer contain boils over onto whomever happens to be in our path.

    14 min
  9. How Shame Sabotages Emotional Honesty

    02/14/2020

    How Shame Sabotages Emotional Honesty

    Today we take a close look at the mechanics of shame and the one real remedy for its craftiness.

    12 min
  10. Becoming Emotionally Honest with God

    02/07/2020

    Becoming Emotionally Honest with God

    What do we do with "illegal" feelings about God?

    10 min
  11. Where's Your Emotional Red Dot Today?

    01/31/2020

    Where's Your Emotional Red Dot Today?

    Hard emotions trip us up.  They feel "illegal." It's easy to stuff them - burying them deep down. How do we learn to be emotionally honest with ourselves, especially with the really, really messy emotions? I've got some answers for you today, in Episode 2.

    8 min

  12. SEASON 1, EPISODE 1 TRAILER

    Emotional Integrity in an Emotionally Dishonest World

    If I'm Honest is a podcast all about emotional honesty - with ourselves, with our people, and with God.

    4 min

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Could there be a middle ground between passive-aggressive silence and explosive anger? Honesty without snark. Uncompromising emotional integrity. To own one's inner world without destroying those around you. To get there, we must explore emotional legalism and the rules we put on ourselves and others.

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  • Creator
    Heather Bjur
  • Years Active
    2K
  • Episodes
    12
  • Rating
    Clean
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