Infinite Threads: Conversations on Love, Connection, and Compassion

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Welcome to Infinite Threads, where we explore the boundless and transformative power of love in all its forms. Each episode dives into the threads that connect us—stories of compassion, forgiveness, and the beauty of our shared humanity. Together, we'll reflect on what it means to live a life rooted in unconditional love, challenge fear and division, and nurture the kind of empathy that can change the world. Whether you're seeking inspiration, healing, or a reminder that love is always the answer, this is the space for you. bobs618464.substack.com

  1. Episode 181: "The Harm That Disguises Itself as Love"

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    Episode 181: "The Harm That Disguises Itself as Love"

    Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. Sometimes, what wounds us the most doesn’t come from an enemy.It comes wrapped in something that looks like love.Words laced in care…Tone softened with concern…And yet—beneath it all—something sharp, something meant to cut. This episode is about that moment.When someone tries to harm you—intentionally or not—while claiming it’s for your good.When cruelty is couched in kindness.When judgment hides behind “just being honest.”When manipulation calls itself love. If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation feeling emotionally scraped, even though no one raised their voice…This episode is for you. We’ve been taught to look for harm in the obvious places—Yelling. Name-calling. Cruelty without disguise. But the truth is, some of the deepest harm comes dressed in warmth: * A parent who says, “I only want the best for you,” while suffocating your autonomy. * A partner who claims, “I just worry about you,” while slowly isolating you from support. * A friend who offers “tough love,” but never softness. It can come from anywhere—Family. Faith leaders. Partners. Political movements. But the pattern is always the same:They claim it’s for your own good…And yet you feel smaller.Less seen.Less whole. That’s not love. Love does not shrink you. Love does not gaslight your feelings. Love does not set itself on a pedestal and shame you from above. It’s tempting to assume malice.But most people who use love as a weapon… genuinely believe they’re helping. They’ve been taught: * That obedience equals love. * That shame is a tool for righteousness. * That if it hurts, it must be working. And here’s where our radical love comes in: We don’t excuse the harm… but we see the hurt behind it. Because often, people who cut others this way…Were cut the same way long ago. They confuse control with care,Because that’s how they were taught to love. They confuse suppression with safety,Because that’s what was done to them. And so the cycle continues—until someone breaks it. Someone like you. Here are the signs you’re dealing with love that harms: * It makes you doubt yourself.If every time you speak to them, you feel smaller—take note. * It uses your vulnerability against you.If your truths are later weaponized, that is not love. * It justifies cruelty with virtue.If someone says, “I’m just telling you this because I care,” but you leave bruised—it’s not care. * It takes and takes—but calls it devotion.If they constantly need your compliance to feel secure, they’re not loving you—they’re controlling you. And most of all: * It makes you forget who you are.Real love reminds you of your worth.Harmful love makes you doubt it. So what do you do? You remember. You remember that you are allowed to trust your intuition. You are allowed to say:“I know you think this is love… but it doesn’t feel like love to me.” You are allowed to set boundaries—even with those who say they mean well. You are allowed to walk away from love that wounds more than it heals. But here’s the most important part: Just because someone hurt you in love’s name…doesn’t mean love itself is cruel. Love is not control.Love is not shame.Love is not fear dressed as faith. Love is freedom. Love is accountability without annihilation. Love is truth without manipulation. Love says:“I see you. I honor you. I may not understand your path, but I will not wound you to make myself feel right.” That’s the love we return to here. The love that stays soft, even when setting boundaries. The love that knows firmness is not the enemy of kindness. The love that lets people be who they are—and lets you be who you are, too. If you’ve ever been harmed by someone who said they loved you… I want you to hear this: It wasn’t your fault. You did not deserve it. And the love they offered was not the only kind. There is a gentler way. A clearer way. A way of loving that doesn’t cut, control, or condescend. That’s the thread we follow here. And if you’ve ever wielded the knife yourself—thinking it was the right thing to do—you’re still welcome here. This space is for healing. For growing. For choosing again. We’ve all done harm. But we don’t have to keep doing it. We can learn to love without harm. We can learn to speak truth without knives. We can learn to listen without needing to dominate. We can be the kind of love that heals what others damaged. Until next time… If it doesn’t feel like love,You don’t have to accept it—no matter how pretty the wrapping. Keep weaving clarity. Keep weaving compassion.And above all—Keep choosing love that heals, not harms. Because that’s the thread that never wounds. That’s the thread that mends. That’s our thread. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

    10 min
  2. Episode 180 — “How to Avoid Falling into a Harmful Belief”

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    Episode 180 — “How to Avoid Falling into a Harmful Belief”

    Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. Have you ever looked back on something you once believed — maybe even fiercely defended — and wondered, “How did I ever fall for that?” You’re not alone. Harmful beliefs don’t usually arrive with a warning label.They show up dressed in comforting language, belonging, community, certainty.And before you know it, they’ve got a hold on your identity. But it’s not inevitable. There’s a way to see the trap before you step into it. And that’s what today’s episode is all about. Let’s start here:Harmful beliefs don’t look harmful from the inside. They often begin with something very human:A wound.A fear.A need to belong.A desire for answers. And there’s always someone ready to hand you a belief that feels like it fills that void. Not because you’re weak — but because you’re human. So how do we protect ourselves? How do we keep our minds and hearts open…while still rooted in truth and love? How do we stay soft — but not gullible?Compassionate — but not manipulated? Here are 7 practices that can make all the difference: 1. Check the Fruit of the Belief Ask:“What does this belief produce in me?” If it makes you more hateful, more suspicious, more fearful, more disconnected, more proud, more rigid — then it’s not of love. Even if it feels righteous.Even if everyone around you agrees.Even if it has scripture or science to back it up. Look at the fruit. Because love will never produce cruelty. 2. Interrupt the Echo Chamber If everyone in your feed, your circle, your church, or your social group thinks exactly the same way — it’s time to zoom out. Not because you’re wrong, but because certainty without exposure creates distortion. Make it a regular habit to: * Listen to someone you disagree with — who speaks with kindness. * Read outside your bubble. * Ask questions, even if they make you uncomfortable. 3. Watch for “Us vs. Them” Framing Any belief that relies on dehumanizing, mocking, or fearing “the other” should raise a flag. It’s the oldest trick in the manipulation playbook. Division feeds control. So if a belief makes you feel superior, or more “chosen,” or more “real,”be very careful.It may be stroking your ego instead of feeding your soul. 4. Notice the Shame Hooks Harmful beliefs often keep people tethered through shame. “You’re not a real [insert label] if you don’t believe this.” “If you question it, you’re weak or deceived.” Healthy beliefs welcome questions.Harmful ones shame you into silence. Learn to recognize that tone — and walk away. 5. Trust What Expands You Love, compassion, understanding, curiosity — they open you up. Manipulation, fear, arrogance — they constrict you. You don’t need to memorize a list of “right beliefs.”You just need to pay attention to how it feels in your body. Does it make you more loving?More generous?More open to others’ humanity? That’s a good sign. 6. Make Peace with Uncertainty So many harmful beliefs offer this:Certainty. They give you a black-and-white answer, a scapegoat, a simple fix. But real growth lives in the gray.Real love leaves room for mystery.And truth?Truth doesn’t fear questions. You don’t have to know everything to be okay.That’s freedom. 7. Anchor Yourself in Love — Daily Every day, you’re being influenced.By news. By algorithms. By trauma. By people with power and agendas. But the good news is:You can influence yourself. Start each day asking: “What would it look like to live from love today?” Let that be your compass. Not your political party.Not your favorite podcaster.Not your pastor, your friends, or even me. Love is your north star. And if you stay pointed there, you will not fall far. Beliefs are powerful. They build worlds.They tear down walls — or put them up.They shape how you see other people.They shape how you see yourself. So before you adopt one, ask: * Does this belief serve love? * Does it increase compassion? * Would I want this belief used on me? If not, it’s not worth carrying. To those waking up from old beliefs — I see you.It’s not weakness. It’s courage. To those still inside them — I love you.You are not your indoctrination. To those trying to stay awake — I honor you.Keep choosing love, even when it’s lonely. Because that’s the path that heals the world. Thanks for walking this road with me. You’re not here to parrot others.You’re here to remember who you truly are.And who you are… is love. See you next time.Until then, stay awake, stay kind, and keep weaving truth into the tapestry. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

    10 min
  3. Episode 179: "Rewriting the Code — How to Reprogram Yourself (Without Burning Everything Down)"

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    Episode 179: "Rewriting the Code — How to Reprogram Yourself (Without Burning Everything Down)"

    Welcome to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. We talk a lot on this podcast about love, clarity, and growth. But today we’re going to talk about something that can seem much harder than all of those: Change. Not the kind that comes from outside—from a new job or relationship or diagnosis. But the kind that asks you to look inward, at your own patterns, and say: "This isn’t helping me anymore. I’m ready for something new." That moment? That decision? That’s what we call reprogramming. And here’s the good news: You don’t have to quit your job, move to a mountain, or erase your past to begin. You just need to change your code—one line at a time. Let’s start here: Much of who you are right now—how you react, what you believe, what you fear, even how you love—was not programmed by you. It was installed. By parents. By peers. By culture. By trauma. By moments too early to remember but too powerful to forget. And those early lines of code? They run quietly, beneath the surface, shaping your life without your conscious permission. But permission isn’t required to rewrite them. Just awareness. Just love. Just practice. Here’s where most people go wrong: They think change requires drama. They think it has to hurt. They think it has to be big, bold, and terrifying. But real, lasting reprogramming? It’s gentle. It’s slow. And it works best in the small places. You don’t need to uproot everything. You just need to seed new code in the daily moments. Here are 5 subtle shifts you can start today: * Reword Your NarrationInstead of saying "I’m always this way," say, "I’ve often been this way, but I’m learning something new." * Catch Your AutopilotWhen you feel a familiar reaction rise up (defensiveness, anger, withdrawal), pause. Even 5 seconds of breath can open the door to different code. * Choose a Symbolic ActionIf you usually skip breakfast, start your day with a glass of water instead. It’s not about the act—it’s about proving you can choose differently. * Practice Saying 'I Don’t Know'Reprogramming means you’re allowed to explore. Not everything needs to be nailed down. * Speak Love Into the MirrorYou don’t have to believe it fully. Just say it. Let your nervous system feel something new. These aren’t grand gestures. They’re micro-movements of love. Of course, the old code won’t go quietly. You might hear voices like: * "This is fake." * "You’re just pretending." * "This won’t last." That’s your old programming trying to protect itself. It fears change because change feels like danger. But you can tell it: **"Thank you. I know you meant well. But I’m writing something new now." And every time you do that, you reclaim a little more agency. Not by force. But by gentle, consistent, loving choice. So how long does it take? You’re not going to like this answer, but it’s the truth: As long as it takes. Some patterns unravel fast. Others linger. Some days feel triumphant. Others fall flat. But transformation doesn’t need to be perfect. It needs to be real. And the more you show up for yourself—in micro-acts of love, in choosing again, in forgiving the backslides—the more your code rewrites itself. Until one day, without fanfare, you react differently. You speak softer. You choose rest. You hold your boundary. You give yourself grace. And you realize: You are not who you used to be. You don’t need permission to reprogram your life. You need patience. You need truth. You need love. And love, my friend, is always up for the job. So if you’ve been carrying around outdated code—fear-based beliefs, self-loathing scripts, inherited pain—today can be the day you start rewriting. Not all at once. Not dramatically. But thread by thread. Because you deserve a life built on love. And you have the power to build it. Until next time, keep choosing the thread that changes everything. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

    8 min
  4. Episode 178: “Let Them Be — And Know When to Speak”

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    Episode 178: “Let Them Be — And Know When to Speak”

    Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. Let’s be honest—it’s getting hard to tell what’s real out there. Every scroll, every headline, every comment section seems designed to stir something in you. Rage. Disgust. Division.And always: urgency. “Speak now or you’re part of the problem.”“If you don’t pick a side, you’re complicit.”“This is war—and silence is betrayal.” They don’t say it outright.But the implication is clear. So we get pulled in.We react.We repost.We argue.We draw lines. And all the while…someone else is pulling the strings. This is the manipulation we need to name. There are entire industries—and ideologies—that thrive on your outrage.They aren’t trying to inform you.They’re trying to inflame you. They want your energy, your attention, your allegiance.And the best way to get it…is to keep you mad. But here's the thing: Anger isn’t always wrong.Silence isn’t always love.And letting people be doesn’t mean ignoring harm. It means learning to tell the difference—between what's calling for our compassion…and what's just bait. So what does love do? Love pauses.Before it reacts.Before it reposts.Before it condemns. Love investigates.Who’s being harmed here?Who’s trying to benefit from my outrage?Is this truth—or just provocation? Love listens deeply.To the pain behind the noise.To the humanity behind the mask.Even to those we don’t agree with. Love speaks—but with clarity.Not for clicks.Not for the crowd.Not because it’s trending. But because silence here would mean abandoning someone who needs us to speak. Here’s the heart of it: You don’t have to shout at every shadow. You don’t have to be a warrior in every war. But you do have to make a decision—every day—about what energy you’re bringing into the world. Will it be reaction… or response?Control… or compassion?Fear… or love? You are always deciding. And sometimes? The most powerful thing you can do…is let people be. If no one is being harmed—if no injustice is being done—then maybe that person living differently than you,loving differently than you,expressing differently than you… isn’t a threat. They’re just… someone else.Living their thread.Doing the best they can. Let them be. You don’t have to fix them.You don’t have to agree with them.You’re not the appointed guardian of their soul. You’re here to live yours with integrity.And that includes giving others the dignity to do the same. But when harm is being done? Speak. Speak with courage.Speak with clarity.Speak with love that doesn’t flinch. Call out cruelty.Stand beside the vulnerable.Push back when dignity is on the line. But don’t mirror the hate.Don’t become what you’re opposing.Don’t let love be reduced to a reaction. Let it be a choice. Radical.Grounded.Uncompromising in truth,but never unkind. You are not weak for letting some things go.You are not a coward for choosing peace.And you are not alone in believing there’s another way. A way that heals instead of hardens.A way that calls in instead of calls out.A way that remembers humanity even in the middle of conflict. This is Radical Love.Not passive.Not performative.Not soft. But clear.Rooted.Steady. So let them be…when no harm is being done. Speak up…when love demands it. And always, always make the decision—to respond from the deepest part of your being,the place where your soul whispers: “Choose love.” Because that choice?It’s still yours.It’s always been yours. And it’s the one that rewrites everything. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

    8 min
  5. Episode 177: “We Were Family All Along”

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    Episode 177: “We Were Family All Along”

    Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. What a week it’s been. We’ve looked at the pain of trying to reach someone who can’t—or won’t—see the hurt their choices cause… We’ve explored the beautiful truth that, under all our differences, we belong to each other… And today—before we end this week together—I want to lift you up. Because after all the hard conversations and heavy truths, I think you deserve to remember something lighter, brighter, and joy-filled: We were family all along. Even when we didn’t act like it.Even when we forgot it.Even when the world taught us to divide. Let’s let that truth sink in… And let’s celebrate it. Have you ever noticed how quickly connection sparks in the most unexpected places? A stranger holds the door and smiles.A kid waves from the backseat of a car.An old song plays, and suddenly the whole room sings together. There’s something deeper at play in those moments.Something ancient.Something true. It’s the recognition of a shared thread. You don’t need to know someone’s whole story to feel their humanity.You don’t need to agree with someone’s beliefs to share a laugh or a tear.You don’t even need words to understand the heart behind someone’s eyes. There’s a resonance in us.A harmony underneath it all.And when we tune in—when we really see it—we remember something beautiful: We are not meant to be strangers. Let me tell you a story. A few years ago, I was standing in a crowded airport.Everyone was rushing. Everyone was tired. Delays. Luggage. Frustration. You could feel the tension. But in one corner, a little girl sat on her suitcase, singing softly to herself.Not loud. Not attention-seeking.Just a quiet song. And then—almost magically—a woman nearby smiled and began humming along.Then another man, across the aisle, nodded and joined in.And suddenly, the atmosphere changed. It was like the air itself had shifted. People who moments ago were irritated… relaxed.They started talking.Smiling.Helping one another with bags.One woman gave up her seat so a couple could sit together. It only lasted a few minutes.But I’ll never forget it. Because in those few minutes, the walls between us dropped.And what was left… was family. Love has a particular kind of vision.It sees through the surface. It doesn’t stop at: * What country you were born in * What party you vote for * What name you call the Divine * What mistakes you’ve made Love looks deeper. It sees the scared child still inside the hardened adult.It sees the longing under the anger.It sees the thread—the you—that’s never stopped wanting to be held, known, loved. When you look through that lens—really look—you don’t just see people. You see family. There is a kind of joy that can only come from remembering who we really are to each other. It’s not loud.It’s not boastful.But it’s unmistakable. It shows up when you forgive someone who never apologized—because peace matters more.It shows up when you offer a kind word to someone who seems rude—because you sense their pain.It shows up when you defend someone being dehumanized—because silence would betray your heart. That joy comes from alignment. From remembering that love isn’t a philosophy you believe in.It’s a life you choose to live. And when you choose it—even in small ways—you feel lighter.Brighter.More whole. Like something ancient in you is being restored. Let me ask you something bold: What if we started treating everyone—yes, everyone—like kin? Not just the people who are easy to love.Not just the ones who share our values.But the messy ones.The grumpy ones.The loud ones.The ones who’ve lost their way. What if we chose to believe that even those people are part of us? Would we speak more kindly?Would we listen more deeply?Would we draw fewer lines and build more tables? I believe we would. And I believe that every time you live that way, you become a thread of healing in a torn world. You become the proof that love is not dead.That family isn’t just blood.That hope is not naive. You become a lighthouse—Calling others home. So as we end this week together, here’s what I want you to carry with you: You are part of a vast and beautiful family.You have more in common with others than you’ve been led to believe.And the love you give—without needing to be repaid—is what keeps this human family from falling apart. We are not alone.We are not divided at our core.We are not enemies. We are threads in the same tapestry. And if you ever forget that…Just look for the love in someone’s eyes.It’s always been there. Waiting to be remembered. Until next time, keep breathing.Keep loving.And remember:You were never alone in this.Not ever. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

    9 min
  6. Episode 176: “All of Us, One Thread — The Truth That We’re Family”

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    Episode 176: “All of Us, One Thread — The Truth That We’re Family”

    Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. And this one… this one’s for your heart. Not your politics.Not your defenses.Not even your mind, really. This episode is for the part of you that remembers something you may have forgotten.The part of you that knows, deep down… We belong to each other. Even when we don’t agree.Even when we’ve been hurt.Even when we’ve built walls so high, we can’t even remember why they went up. This episode is about love’s deepest truth: That there is no “them.”There’s only us. Somewhere along the way, we forgot. We forgot that we are born into the arms of others.That every breath we take is a gift passed down from someone else’s lungs.That no one makes it here alone. Instead, we started dividing. We drew lines across maps.We assigned value based on skin, flag, God, and last name.We created stories that told us some people were more worthy than others. And the longer we told those stories, the more real they seemed.Until a neighbor wasn’t a neighbor anymore—just “the other side.”Until a stranger was no longer family, but threat. But here's the truth:We are not enemies.We are entangled. The air that leaves your lungs today enters mine tomorrow.The same sun warms every village and every prison.We bleed the same. We cry the same. We hope the same. We are kin, whether we see it or not. And until we remember that… we’ll keep hurting. We live in a world obsessed with measurement. Productivity. Profit. Borders. Votes.Lines on a map. Lines in a bank account. Lines in the sand. But what about the things that can’t be measured? The hug you gave that kept someone from giving up.The song that held a person together through a storm.The time you chose to forgive instead of fight. None of that will be in a ledger.None of that will trend.But it mattered. Because love doesn’t need permission.It doesn’t need the “right” passport.It doesn’t need proof of worth. Love is the one force that reminds us:You are mine, and I am yours.Not because we agree.Not because we look the same.But because we’re alive at the same time—and that’s a sacred thing. Let me ask you something hard. When did you stop believing in someone’s goodness? Not a politician. Not a celebrity.But someone close. Someone who disappointed you. A family member who said something cruel.A friend who shared something hateful.Someone you thought you knew—until they stood for something you couldn’t. It’s easy to cut the thread in moments like that.To say, “They’re not who I thought they were.”To decide they don’t belong in your heart anymore. But here’s the thing… Love doesn’t mean agreeing with everything.It doesn’t mean excusing harm. Love means saying:“I see your hurt beneath the harm. I see the thread you forgot you were holding.” It doesn’t mean we let people abuse or belittle others.But it does mean we remember they’re still human. Still family.Even if they’ve lost their way. When we stop “othering” people—stop turning them into monsters just because they’re different—something begins to grow. We grow patience.We grow perspective.We grow peace. The people we feared start to feel familiar.The walls we built start to feel… unnecessary.And we begin to see not just the difference between us—but the divine. That spark. That humanity. That same beating heart. So what happens when we really live from that place? We soften.We listen longer.We become a bridge instead of a border. Let me say this loud and clear: Love does not require agreement. You can love someone who voted differently.You can love someone who worships differently.You can love someone who says things you don’t understand. Loving them doesn’t mean you’re weak.It means you’re awake. Awake to the truth that love isn’t about similarity—It’s about commitment. Commitment to seeing the soul beneath the surface.Commitment to reaching across the divide.Commitment to being better than the world taught you to be. We don’t need more warriors in this world.We need more weavers. People willing to weave the broken threads back together—patiently, gently, fiercely. People who say:“I still see you.You are still part of this family.” Even if their love has been twisted into fear.Even if their thread feels tangled beyond repair. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t belong—Like there’s no place where all of you is welcome—This part is for you. There is a table where you belong.There is a circle wide enough to hold your scars, your history, your hopes. You don’t have to change your core to be loved. And neither does anyone else. The table of love is not for the perfect.It’s for the trying.The learning.The listening.The longing. And you are not just welcome at that table… You are needed. Because when you sit down with your open heart, you make space for someone else to do the same. So what does it really mean to be family? It means:You show up.You forgive again.You grieve losses, but you don’t burn bridges unless you absolutely must. It means you hold hands even when they shake.It means you speak hard truths with love, not cruelty.It means you keep weaving—when others give up. And it means you never forget: You’re not here by accident.You’re here because love needs you. Because someone has to remind the world: We’re not enemies.We’re not strangers. We are—at the most sacred level—one. One thread.One breath.One family. And today, that someone… is you. Until next time—Keep threading.Keep softening.And remember… You are part of something beautiful.Because you still believe in love. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min
  7. Episode 175: “The Love That Awakens”

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    Episode 175: “The Love That Awakens”

    Welcome to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. Today’s episode is for the peacemakers who don’t feel peace.For the truth-tellers whose voices are shaking.For the ones still hoping they can reach the people they love—even as the divide between them grows. If you’ve ever whispered,“I know you’re a good person… so why can’t you see what this is doing to others?”—then this episode is for you. Let’s go deeper. We often think the worst pain comes from the worst people. But that’s not always true. Sometimes, the deepest heartbreak comes from the good ones. The ones who once made you feel safe.The ones who raised you with kindness.The ones who taught you how to love. And then…They support something cruel.They excuse something violent.They repeat words that hurt others.They vote, or post, or act in a way that tears you open. And it’s confusing, isn’t it? Because they’re not evil.They’re not hateful. They bring you soup when you’re sick.They remember your birthday.They laugh at the same movies.They cry during the same songs. They’re human.They’re loving in so many ways.And that’s what makes it so hard. Because how can love coexist with harm? Here’s something I want to name clearly: Most people who cause harm aren’t doing it with cruelty in their hearts.They’re doing it with blindness in their minds. Blindness built from… * Fear disguised as patriotism * Loyalty disguised as righteousness * Narratives passed down like heirlooms * Echo chambers that sound like truth * Silence that became survival They’re not always choosing hate.They’re just not questioning what they’ve been told. And when love tries to confront that? They often flinch.Defend.Withdraw.Or turn away. Because to see the harm clearly would require a reckoning—A deep and painful confrontation with the self. And many people aren’t ready for that. But here’s the miracle… Some are. And love—real love—has a way of waking people up. You don’t change people by shaming them.You don’t reach them by yelling. You reach them with: * Curiosity instead of condemnation * Clarity instead of confusion * Calm instead of contempt * Presence instead of performance When someone is blind to their impact,they need more than facts.They need someone they trust to say: “I know who you are.I know your heart.That’s why this hurts—because I believe you wouldn’t choose thisif you truly saw it.” You don’t hide the truth.You hold it steady—without using it like a weapon. You become the mirror.The witness.The still point in their storm. And sometimes—not always, but sometimes—that’s enough to crack the armor. Not immediately.Not completely. But enough to plant a thread of doubt…Which is the first step toward growth. Let’s be honest. Sometimes they won’t wake up.Sometimes they’ll stay locked in their story.Sometimes they’ll choose identity over empathy. And that’s a different kind of grief. So let’s pause for a moment to name it. Let’s honor the heartbreak of: * Watching someone you love cheer for something unjust * Realizing their version of peace excludes others’ suffering * Knowing that closeness doesn’t always mean shared values * Losing connection not through absence—but through silence If you’ve been carrying that pain,you’re not alone. But here’s what love invites us to do in the face of it: Grieve.Set boundaries.Hold your values.And still—when possible—hold the door open. Not to let harm in.But to let the soul return when it’s ready. Because people can change.And sometimes, your quiet love was the light that helped them find their way back. Let me tell you a true story. A man who once believed deeply in exclusionary values—who repeated harmful rhetoric in the name of faith—who taught his children fear and division—one day sat at his granddaughter’s wedding. She was marrying another woman. And as the ceremony unfolded—with music, with joy, with sacred vows—he wept. Not with shame.But with recognition. He turned to his wife and whispered, “This is love.I didn’t know.But now I do.” It took decades.It took relationships.It took steady love from the people around him. But he saw. And the thread rewove itself. Don’t underestimate the long arc of grace. If no one’s told you this lately, let me say it loud and clear: You are not wasting your time by loving people who’ve lost their way. You are not naive for believing people can change. You are not weak for refusing to give up on empathy. Your presence is doing more than you know. You may never see the final bloom—but you’re planting seedsin hearts that seemed like stone. Somewhere, someone will one day remember your voice…your patience…your steadiness… And it might be the very thing that calls them back to love. So stay soft.Stay truthful.Stay grounded. You don’t have to convince the whole world. Just keep living the truth you wish they could see. Because love isn’t just a force. It’s a frequency. And when you stay on that frequency long enough,others will eventually tune in. So what do you do with the people who seem unreachable? You love them without letting them hurt you.You speak truth without venom.You grieve what’s broken and protect what’s sacred.You keep the door open—but don’t wait by it forever. And most of all,you remember this: Love doesn’t always change people instantly.But it never stops echoing in the places it touched. You are part of that echo.Part of that thread. You are the love that awakens eyes. And I’m so grateful you're here. Until next time…Keep loving.Keep breathing.Keep believing. You are not alone.Not ever. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

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  8. Episode 174: “The Still Point at the Center of the Storm”

    16 SEP

    Episode 174: “The Still Point at the Center of the Storm”

    Welcome to Infinite Threads. I’m your host, Bob. Let’s take a moment—before we go any further—to just breathe. Right here.Right now.You're okay. Maybe not perfect.Maybe not at peace.But okay. And in a world that feels like it’s trembling, that’s a miracle in itself. Because it’s been heavy lately, hasn’t it? Not just in your life—but in the world.Maybe you’ve felt it in the pit of your stomach when you open the news.Maybe you’ve felt it in that quiet sigh you let out without even realizing.Maybe you’ve caught yourself asking, more than once lately:“What is happening to us?” We’re watching leaders fall.We’re watching fear rise.We’re seeing more people divided, angrier, quicker to hate, slower to care. But you, my friend…You are not powerless in the face of this. You are a still point in the center of the storm.You are love—choosing to stay standing. And today’s episode is for you. Let’s go deep into that stillness together. There’s no doubt—we are living in a fractured time. You see it everywhere.Online, people tear each other apart over headlines.In families, one political argument can split decades of togetherness.In nations, compassion is replaced by control.And the scariest part?It all starts to feel… normal. But just because something is loud doesn’t mean it’s lasting. History has always had cycles like this:Moments when it feels like the world forgets itself.Moments when fear gets louder than love. But those moments don’t define humanity.What defines us is what we do when love is tested. So if your soul has been aching—If your heart has felt too soft for this world—Know this:You are not weak.You are not naïve.You are part of the antidote. Let me tell you something you might not be hearing from the world right now: You are doing better than you think. Just the fact that you're still choosing kindness—when it would be easier to check out—is a radical act. Just the fact that you're still loving—even when the world teaches you to be numb—is a form of resistance. Just the fact that you're listening to this podcast—seeking softness, growth, clarity—means you haven’t given up. You’re part of a quiet revolution.The one that never makes headlines.The one that moves thread by thread through homes, hearts, hugs, whispers, and witness. You are keeping the thread alive. Here’s something I want you to carry with you today: Love doesn’t protect you from pain.It protects you within pain. It’s not a shield that keeps hurt away.It’s a core that keeps your soul intact while the world spins around you. Think of love like a gravity at the center of your being. The storm can rage.The lies can swirl.The anger can rise.But love holds you. And it doesn't just hold you still.It holds you true. To your values.To your humanity.To what you know is real. Even when others deny it. Even when cruelty is normalized. Even when it feels like nothing you do matters. Because the truth is…Love always leaves something behind.A mark.A memory.A ripple. You may not see the full effect right away.But someone, somewhere, is better because you existed.Because you cared.Because you stayed kind. You might be thinking:“That all sounds good, Bob…But what do I do when the heartbreak is right here?When the thing I hoped for is gone.When people I loved turned hard or cold.When trust has been shattered.When I feel helpless watching the world burn.” Here’s what you do: You grieve.You let it break your heart.Because grief is not a sign of weakness.It’s a sign that you were brave enough to love. You pause.You remember that your energy is sacred.You don’t have to fight every battle.You choose the ones love asks of you. You breathe.You remind yourself that transformation rarely looks like fireworks.It looks like seeds under the soil.It looks like healing in quiet places. And then—when you're ready—You act.With love. Not with perfection.Not with a thousand followers.Not with the weight of the world on your back. Just one act of love at a time. That's enough. You’ve heard me say it before, but it’s worth repeating: You are part of something larger than this moment.You are woven into the tapestry of humanity. And the thread you're holding right now—that thread of love, empathy, tenderness—it matters more than ever. There are people listening with you right now across the world.People you've never met.But they’re feeling this too.They’re breathing this in too. And you’re all part of the same quiet choirSinging a song the world desperately needs to remember: That love is real.That people matter.That hope is not foolish.That kindness is never wasted.That you are not alone. So take this with you today: You are allowed to be tired.You are allowed to feel despair.But you are never without power. Because every time you choose love—in word, in silence, in action—you change the story. Even when no one sees it.Even when it feels small.Even when it hurts. You are the still point at the center of the storm. And I am so, so grateful that you are here.Still holding the thread.Still loving.Still you. — Until next time, keep breathing.Keep loving.And remember:You're not alone in this.Not ever. Infinite Threads is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to Infinite Threads at bobs618464.substack.com/subscribe

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Welcome to Infinite Threads, where we explore the boundless and transformative power of love in all its forms. Each episode dives into the threads that connect us—stories of compassion, forgiveness, and the beauty of our shared humanity. Together, we'll reflect on what it means to live a life rooted in unconditional love, challenge fear and division, and nurture the kind of empathy that can change the world. Whether you're seeking inspiration, healing, or a reminder that love is always the answer, this is the space for you. bobs618464.substack.com

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