Influence to Impact

Sirisha Ravuri & Muralidharan Jayaram

Get behind the scenes with Sirisha and Murali to learn how to be influential, persuasive, and impactful to 10X your Business Growth. Learn the proven strategies of Influence and Persuasion from the latest research in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Neuroscience, and Persuasion. These strategies have immensely helped many business owners and entrepreneurs to deal with tough customers and win deals. If you are a CEO, CXO, or Senior Leader you will benefit from these strategies to become an influential and respected leader in your industry.

Episodes

  1. 04/10/2023

    How to Reprogram Your Mind for Positive Thinking

    Summary How To Reprogram Your Mind for Positive Thinking In this Podcast Episode Muralidharan Jayaram talks about the impact of negative thoughts, why you should commit to eliminating them, and how to go about doing so. Muralidharan Jayaram is a partner at Citrines who helps business owners, entrepreneurs, sales professionals, and leaders achieve breakthrough results in both their personal and professional lives. He believes that all it takes is one breakthrough to make a huge difference and uses cutting-edge technology like NLP to help his clients get there. Muralidharan Jayaram struggled with negative thoughts and self-doubt in the past. He used to come up with all kinds of negative thoughts about everything, mostly about himself. This mindset began to affect his quality of life, causing him to lose friends, and he was heading toward failure and doom. He researched and tried many things unsuccessfully before learning NLP, which he used to completely reprogram his mind. Now, he teaches these powerful techniques to his clients and sees the amazing turnaround in their mindset, leading to a high quality of life and success. Negative thinking has a significant impact on health, both mentally and physically. It creates limiting beliefs, causes stress, and is the seed of failure. Jayaram notes that negative thinking is a result of bad habits of thinking, either developed from past experiences, people, or circumstances that programmed individuals to be negative. The first step in reprogramming the mind for positive thinking is to become aware of negative thoughts. Muralidharan Jayaram recommends stepping back and realizing that individuals are not their thoughts, emotions, or mind. They may have developed bad habits of negative thinking, but they can change. In this episode, Muralidharan Jayaram shares two potent techniques from Neuro-Linguistic Programming that produced extraordinary outcomes for both himself and his clients. Take a close look at the details presented in the episode to learn and apply these techniques, and prepare to be amazed by the results you achieve. Reprogramming the mind for positive thinking can help individuals overcome negative thoughts and self-doubt that may be holding them back from achieving their goals and dreams. Jayaram reminds individuals that their quality of life and success is tied to their mindset. If he can change, and his clients can change, then anyone can change too. By starting today and using powerful techniques, individuals can see the amazing turnaround in their mindset and quality of life. Free Training Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: FREE TRAINING Follow me on Instagram: Use this Link: Go to my Instagram! Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    26 min
  2. 04/03/2023

    When to Walk Away: Recognizing the Signs of a Bad Relationship,

    Summary This Podcast Episode, "When to Walk Away: Recognizing the Signs of a Bad Relationship," focuses on helping individuals identify whether they are in a bad relationship and what actions to take. The speaker, Muralidharan Jayaram, is a partner at Citrines and uses Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) to help individuals get breakthrough results in their businesses and personal lives. Muralidharan Jayaram shares that many of his clients are in bad relationships, causing them mental stress, and he follows the standard principle of not telling clients to stay or leave, but rather solving the problem by asking thought-provoking questions from different angles. People often prolong or postpone making major decisions because of fear, such as the fear of being alone or fear of the unknown. However, staying in a toxic relationship can lead to physical and mental health issues, depression, anxiety, and regret later in life. Muralidharan Jayaram stresses that children should not be used as an excuse to stay in a bad relationship and provides provocative questions to help individuals take action. The speaker advises people to consider whether they are being abused by their partner and to leave immediately if they are. He notes that one in three women worldwide experiences abuse and that 80,000 women died from abuse in 2021, with 58% of these women and girls being killed by an intimate partner or close family member. Muralidharan Jayaram emphasizes that individuals' happiness and safety are the top priorities, and they should take action to protect themselves. Next, he talks about how people stay in bad relationships because of fear. There are two main fears that hold people back - fear of being alone and fear of the unknown. But Muralidharan Jayaram stresses that it's not a smart idea to do nothing because a toxic relationship can take a toll on one's physical and mental health, leading to depression and anxiety. He also mentions that many people use their children as an excuse for not leaving a bad relationship. However, children should never be used as an excuse to stay in a marriage. If the relationship has gone bad and there is no hope of making it right, it's better to take action and leave. Otherwise, as the children grow up and leave, one will be left with a person they are unhappy with, leading to a life filled with misery, pain, and suffering. Muralidharan Jayaram then takes listeners through a series of thought-provoking questions, including non-negotiable, juggler, and heavy-hitting questions. He encourages listeners to consider these questions carefully and to share the video with anyone they know who might be in a bad relationship. Finally, Muralidharan Jayaram emphasizes that one's happiness and safety are the number one priorities. If someone is experiencing any form of abuse, whether it's physical, sexual, mental, emotional, financial, verbal, stalking, or isolation, they should leave the relationship immediately. Overall, Jayaraman provides valuable insight and advice on recognizing the signs of a bad relationship and when to walk away. He encourages listeners to take action and make informed decisions that are beneficial for themselves, their partners, and any children involved. There are several more questions he asks in the episode. Free Training Free Training Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: Free Training Follow me on Instagram: Go to my Instagram! Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    27 min
  3. 03/25/2023

    How to get things done?

    Summary: In the “How to get things done? podcast, Muralidharan Jayaram Discusses the challenges of work in the 21st century.  Muralidharan Jayaram, a partner at Citrines, is known for creating powerful programs such as "Extreme Persuasion" and "The Secret Code to Sell Anything." His passion is to help business owners, entrepreneurs, leaders, and sales professionals learn how to persuade and influence like pros to increase their revenue by 10x. Muralidharan identified a common problem: people start the day with specific tasks but end up jumping from one task to another, leading to a pile of unfinished tasks and trivial accomplishments at the end of the day. He went down the rabbit hole of productivity research, tried different productivity systems, and created his own. However, this only aggravated the problem of doing trivial tasks instead of essential ones. Muralidharan realized that it was the mindset behind the productivity system that was the problem, not the system itself. He identified three challenges: mindset, environment, and ability. The First Challenge The first challenge is the industrial revolution mindset, where the more tasks are done in a shorter period, the more productive you are. This mindset leads to doing trivial tasks that don't move the needle. The Second Challenge The second challenge is the 21st-century environment, which is custom-built for distractions. The Third Challenge The third challenge is the ability to focus, which has vanished, becoming a handicap. Our educational system is still stuck in the industrial revolution era, and people are not taught how to handle 21st-century distractions. Muralidharan is determined to help individuals overcome these challenges and change their mindset to one that will lead to success. Free Training Free Training Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: Free Training Follow me on Instagram: Go to my Instagram! Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    24 min
  4. 03/19/2023

    Uncovering the Startling Truth Behind My Dopamine Disaster

    Summary: Uncovering the Startling Truth Behind My Dopamine Disaster **Uncovering the Startling Truth Behind My Dopamine Disaster:** In this Podcast, Muralidharan Jayaram discusses how distractions such as social media, emails, and notifications can take a toll on one’s productivity. Despite having a robust productivity system, he found himself endlessly scrolling through social media, unable to get anything done. After downloading apps and trying different methods to no avail, he realized that the problem was not his system, but the distractions around him. Social media and other apps were the culprits that were stealing his attention and dragging him into a productivity pit. Social media is like a seasoned con artist that preys on our need for instant gratification, playing us like a fiddle. It knows how to get us hooked and keep us mindlessly scrolling through our feeds, liking every cute puppy and viral meme that crosses our path. Meanwhile, it collects data on our every click and swipe, mining it for precious information. The author describes this as a diabolical scheme and urges viewers to be mindful of social media use. The author also talks about the productivity pit, where distractions and procrastination trap us, and we find it challenging to escape. Social media, emails, and notifications are like sirens that lure us away from our work and tempt us with their sweet calls. The author likens social media apps to personal drug dealers that hook us on pleasure and leave us in a state of perpetual craving. By listening to the video, you will gain further insights into the various effective techniques and tips to tackle distractions and enhance your productivity. In addition to learning about the solutions presented in the Podcast, it’s important to take action on them. Free Training Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: https://www.citrines.online/free-training Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/citrinesin/ Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    30 min
  5. 11/06/2022

    How to stop Overthinking? Monk Secret

    Summary: How to stop Overthinking? Monk Secret This episode is to inspire you to take charge of your overthinking through simple techniques. According to a study, 73% of adults overthink. And what is alarming is that many believe that repeatedly stewing about the same thoughts is beneficial and needed. This is a dangerous game of Overthinking that can lead, at its worst, to mental illness or cause stress-related diseases. The reason why people overthink is because of anxiety. Anxiety is a negative emotion of the future. It is not the content of overthinking that is the problem; it is the habit of anxiety that drives you to overthink. Overthinking can make your life very stressful. Your brain will be in overdrive, and soon fatigue will set in. Learn to take charge of your thinking now and be at peace. To a large extent, your anxiety is fueled by your thoughts. You are well into the overthinking zone when you keep running the same ideas in your mind in endless cycles like Jane. You do this via internal dialogues - talking to yourself constantly. This dialogue never stops throughout your waking hours. I will give you two techniques that are really powerful to stop overthinking: The Monk Method The Here and Now Method These two techniques are priceless, and you can practice them anywhere. They are like first aid. If you want a more permanent solution, you have to get professional help. take charge of the empire of your mind, and don't let it control you. The benefits are tremendous for you to enjoy. Take care. Free Training Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: https://www.citrines.online/free-training Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/citrinesin/ Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    24 min
  6. 10/20/2022

    How to deal with Toxic People?

    How to Deal with Toxic People? Whether you realize it or not, people have an impact on you. In this episode, you will learn how to identify toxic people and know how to deal with them effectively. You have to take charge of the people you surround yourself with. If you are careless, you will come to a point when you cannot recognize yourself when you look in the mirror. Positive people can uplift you and motivate you to reach your highest levels of achievement. You should gather and treasure the good people in your life. You can learn how to deal with negative people effectively. This episode will teach you to identify, assess and deal with toxic people. Toxic people are everywhere. They could be your friend, neighbor, co-worker, boss, or even worse your spouse. It is crucial to take charge of your environment in the context of the people you associate with daily. If you carefully choose the people around you, you will be inspired, and they will fuel your progress in life and business. You will come across all kinds of people as you go through life. In the process, you will encounter people with personality disorders. Most of them are unaware that they have these disorders. If you follow the principles and rights of the relationship, you will be able to build relationships that are meaningful to you and others. While you are exercising your rights, you must also remember that these rights apply to others too. It is a two-way street. It is your life and your business. It is your right to choose the right people and avoid the wrong ones. You have to consciously take charge of the people your surround yourself with. Trust me, your success will accelerate, and you will be at peace while being fulfilled. Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: https://www.citrines.online/free-training Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/citrinesin/ Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    23 min
  7. 09/19/2022

    How to be Happy Inside and Out?

    In this episode, Sirisha Ravuri, Founder and CEO of Citrines, talks about "How to be Happy? There is a question on everyone’s mind - how to be happy. I'm going to put a slightly different version of how to be happy out here for you. Because I don't really believe that it's necessary to be happy all the time. And I like to think of myself as a happy soul. But does that mean that I don't feel any other emotions? No, it doesn't mean that at all. It's not humanly possible for someone to be happy all the time. That's a myth. Because you are a complex human being with a very complex unconscious mind. And we live in very complex times. Instead of striving to be happy all the time and ignoring other emotions, the right thing to do is to feel every single emotion well, process through it and then go back to your default state, which is – Happy. In this video, you will come across many tips on how to make happy your default state, how to continue being happy and you can even help your friends and family with this technique. Here is one tip – something everyone should remember. There is nothing outside of yourself that can make you happy. Happiness is generated within. Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: https://www.citrines.online/free-training Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/citrinesin/ Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    21 min
  8. 09/02/2022

    Empathic Listening Secrets

    Empathic Listening is the true Super Power for Influence and Impact. There is a saying by Erasmus of Rotterdam, a Dutch Philosopher and Theologian, which goes like this: In the land of the blind, a one-eyed man is the King. 21st Century world is the land of the deaf because of distraction and multitasking. People are rapidly losing the capability to focus and pay attention to anything, even when talking to people. In the land of the deaf, a one-eared listener is a Ruler!Everyone thinks they are good at this superpower, but actually, they are poor at using it. And this is the biggest problem. What is this superpower? It is Empathic Listening. Empathic is the superpower in which you can enter their reality and experience it from their perspective. With empathy, you will understand what it is to be them in their worldview and communicate your understanding of what they are saying and feeling. You will also resonate with that feeling by experiencing the same emotion and reflecting it back to them. Once you can listen empathically, you will build massive influence with anyone of your choice.People think they are listening, but actually, they are not. They are doing the following while under the illusion that they are listening.Limited hearing with a lot of thoughts around how they must respondMiniscule hearing while looking down at their phonesAssuming they are hearing but just waiting to jump in and offer their opinion. Empathy is a skill that will help you reach unreachable people. This is a valuable skill you can learn in this Attention Economy. Here is a secret I want to share with you. If you want to influence others, the first thing you should not do is to persuade them of your point of view. Most people do this - they talk, push for their points to be heard, argue, and try to bulldoze their way into other people accepting their viewpoint. All these attempts will only generate resistance and pushback. You have to listen and make them feel that you have understood them as nobody else has done. Your primary task in persuasion is to dissolve resistance and make the person willing to listen to what you are saying with an open mind. This will only happen after you have kept an open mind, sincerely listened, and conveyed that you have lent your ear and understood. You have to go first. You have to role-model it. When you reflect on your understanding of what the other person is telling you and check whether your comprehension is correct, you will get a response: That is right. That is your entry point for persuasion. That is your foot in the door. Continue doing this, and soon you will be invited in.How do you listen empathically? Learn to master your emotions, especially in stressful and precarious situations Consciously pay attention to understanding what the other person is telling you. Be aware that listening alone is not enough. You must not only listen but convey to the person you have heard and understood her. You must be able to listen and respond at the moment, not later. You must also validate whether you have understood what the other person is saying. Demonstrate that you have corrected your understanding if you have it wrong Show that you see what they are saying, demonstrate your understanding by reflecting on what they said, and reciprocate with the same feeling they shared with you. If excited, you mirror back with your excitement. If sad, you reflect back on your sadness. Do this sincerely. This is the best way to build connection and rapport with a shared understanding of their experience. Do this with utter sincerity and interest. Because feigned interest is equal to a negative response. No Judgement. No trying to fix things for them. No offering advice If you want to help, ask their permission before you do so. An exception for this is while dealing with children. Help them even if they say no. Or in commercial situations where you are selling something.There is a need for Empathic listeners as never before. Empathy is the greatest gift you can give to another human. It should start with every one of us. Here is a challenge for you. Make a conscious choice to give this precious gift to others. You lead the way. You choose to be the role model for empathic listening to others.Learn to do it correctly and give the gift freely. You’ll never know when you may totally transform the lives of people around you. The world needs your empathic listening.   Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: https://www.citrines.online/free-training Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/citrinesin/ Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    24 min
  9. 08/18/2022

    How to Dress for Success to Influence

    In this episode, Sirisha Ravuri, Founder and CEO of Citrines, talks about Influence in the context of your appearance, both outer appearance, and inner appearance. The first four seconds that you meet someone are the most crucial ones in your journey to Influence. Whether it is a client, a vendor, an employee, an investor, a leader, a community – whoever it is that you are trying to influence, first impressions go a long way. They make the path smoother and easier. When people talk about first impressions, however, they usually refer to the way you dress and carry yourself. They refer to the conversations and external factors of said first impression. The secret no one tells you is that the external factors are only 20 % of the true first impression. The bulk of the first impression comes from factors that aren’t easily visible. It goes beyond the way you dress or the confidence with which you speak. There is deeper magic at play here. The unconscious mind of the opposite person is noticing everything.  The external as well as the internal. It gets signals that you can never otherwise catch. Your emotional state, your beliefs regarding the topic, the meeting, and even your future plans are conveyed. Your values; What is important to you and to what degree come out in the first impression? People make a decision about you in the first four seconds based on all the external and internal information their unconscious mind gathers. These split-second decisions are based on feelings. In the entire meeting or interaction following that, their conscious mind is coming up with reasons and logic to justify the decision already made. This is how the human mind works. If you can manage your first impression, your first four seconds, the battle is half won!   Get the FREE training on the B.O.S.S blueprint - A Three part video training on Advanced Selling and Negotiation based on a proven approach drawn from Neuroscience, Neuro-linguistic Programming, Social Science, Positive Psychology, and Persuasion. Use this link: https://www.citrines.online/free-training Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/citrinesin/ Music Credits: Prayers by Admiral Bob (c) copyright 2020 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/admiralbob77/61151 Ft: emmrodriguez spacedust by airtone (c) copyright 2022 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. http://dig.ccmixter.org/files/airtone/64741

    16 min

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Get behind the scenes with Sirisha and Murali to learn how to be influential, persuasive, and impactful to 10X your Business Growth. Learn the proven strategies of Influence and Persuasion from the latest research in Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Neuroscience, and Persuasion. These strategies have immensely helped many business owners and entrepreneurs to deal with tough customers and win deals. If you are a CEO, CXO, or Senior Leader you will benefit from these strategies to become an influential and respected leader in your industry.