INNERCALLING

Dr. Victoria Ranade

Hi there, I’m Dr. Victoria Ranade. I’m a clinical psychologist, but mostly I’m a person who followed an inner calling to discover my love for dogs, including my Welsh Terrier Mei Mei. Welcome to INNERCALLING, my little, old-fashioned corner of the internet where human connection still matters and there is nothing to prove. Every week, I sit down with leading scientists, psychologists, authors, and spiritual teachers to explore consciousness, resilience, and the timeless questions shaping a meaningful life—from what it means to survive depression and be human in the age of AI, to how we bridge science and the spiritual. Grounded in transpersonal and existential psychology yet spontaneous like jazz, these organic conversations honor the inner light inside each of us that no darkness can ever overcome. So pull up a chair, and join us around the ancient, healing fire of human storytelling as we listen to the wisdom our guests have to share. Learn more at www.innercalling.org. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 4d ago

    EP68. "The twin tyrannies of 'pretty' and 'nice'" — Dr Nancy Wadsworth on women & the power we're taught to give away | Deconstructing Power Part 4

    I interview Dr. Nancy Wadsworth, political scientist, about why so many women struggle to feel comfortable with power. We explore the hidden conditioning that teaches women to seek permission, people-please, and apologize for their success, the psychology of imposter syndrome, and how to develop grounded, healthy leadership without losing yourself. We also discuss deconstructing limiting beliefs, overcoming shame, building inner authority, and why true power comes from aligning with your deepest values rather than external approval. Dr. Nancy shares a powerful framework for reclaiming your confidence and stepping into your authentic, grounded power. *** Dr. Nancy Wadsworth is a Professor Emerita of Political Science at the University of Denver whose work sits at the intersection of culture, politics, race, religion, and social movements. She's the author of *Ambivalent Miracles: Evangelicals and the Politics of Racial Healing* and has written for The Washington Post, Vox, and The Denver Post. With a PhD from the New School for Social Research, Nancy brings both deep scholarship and a commitment to combining academic rigor with public discourse — exploring power, identity, and how ordinary people create change. https://nancywadsworth.com/ ** 0:00 Why Women Struggle to Hold Power 2:00 Why We Were Never Taught How to Hold Power 4:00 The "Pretty & Nice" Trap 6:00 How Shame Makes Women Give Away Their Power 8:00 The Femininity Paradox 10:00 Why Powerful Women Are Judged Differently 12:00 The Double Bind Every Woman Faces 14:00 Why Some Women Become More Comfortable With Power 16:00 Building Confidence Through Action 18:00 The Hidden Cost of Female Leadership 20:00 Imposter Syndrome & Permission-Seeking 22:00 Why Women Apologize for Being Powerful 24:00 Hillary Clinton and the Price of Female Power 27:00 How to Become Comfortable Holding Power 29:00 Brave Spaces vs. Safe Spaces 31:00 Oprah, Michelle Yeoh & Healthy Female Power 33:00 Finding an Inner Source of Power 35:00 Have Women Always Been Disempowered? 37:00 Decolonizing Yourself From Limiting Beliefs 39:00 How Society Conditions the Way We Think 41:00 How Do You Break Free From Conditioning? 43:00 Listening to Your Inner Authority 45:00 Is Power Worth It If You Lose Yourself? 47:00 Becoming the Author of Your Own Life 48:30 How Women Can Hold Power Without Seeking Permission 50:00 Final Reflections EPISODE LINKS https://nancywadsworth.com/ PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 WHAT IS INNERCALLING? INNERCALLING is a podcast where clinical psychologist Dr. Victoria Ranade explores psychology, mental health, neuroscience, spirituality, wisdom, and what it means to live a meaningful life. Through long-form conversations with leading scientists, psychologists, physicians, authors, philosophers, and spiritual teachers we explore the biggest existential questions in life—from depression, anxiety, trauma, relationships, and resilience to purpose, consciousness, faith, intuition, leadership, and human flourishing. These conversations bridge science and spirituality while exploring what helps us become more fully human. Learn more at www.innercalling.org. THANK YOU so much for joining me today. I'm grateful you're here and for your support of INNERCALLING. If you'd like to connect, find me here: Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com Email: info@innercalling.org Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    EP68. "The twin tyrannies of 'pretty' and 'nice'" — Dr Nancy Wadsworth on women & the power we're taught to give away | Deconstructing Power Part 4
  2. Jul 20

    EP67. "Science alone can't get you there" — Former NIH Director Dr. Francis Collins on The Road to Wisdom, Faith, Truth & Bridging our Deepest Divides #inclusivespirituality

    I interviewed Dr. Francis Collins—a physician-scientist who led the international Human Genome Project, which successfully sequenced all three billion letters of the human genome, and later served three U.S. presidents as director of the National Institutes of Health—about his book The Road to Wisdom. We discuss his journey from materialism to Christian faith, why wisdom requires humility and listening, and how we can seek truth across deep differences. Dr. Collins also explains how to build a “mental immune system” against misinformation, restore trust in science, and find meaning beyond a purely material view of life. We close with his new initiative, Discovery Lives in Us. ** Francis Collins is a physician-scientist. Under his direction, the Human Genome Project produced the first finished sequence of the human DNA instruction book in 2003. From 2009 to 2021, Collins served under three Presidents as the Director of the U.S. National Institutes of Health, the largest supporter of biomedical research in the world. His contributions to science, medicine, and society have been recognized by the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the National Medal of Science, and the Templeton Prize. His most recent book is The Road To Wisdom: On Truth, Science, Faith, and Trust (Little, Brown and Worthy, 2024; see francisscollins.com). He is the founder of a new initiative called Discovery Lives in Us that aims to collect and distribute hundreds of authentic patient narratives about the value of medical research. ** TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Wisdom in a polarized world 01:18 Francis Collins’ first “inner calling” 04:02 When science reached its limits 06:00 The patient who challenged his worldview 08:45 From materialism to Christian faith 09:43 Why Francis Collins wrote The Road to Wisdom 11:30 Why America feels so divided 13:40 Learning from people you disagree with 15:30 Building a “mental immune system” 17:20 How do we know whom to trust? 19:00 What COVID taught Francis Collins 21:10 Listening without becoming defensive 23:00 Young adults, meaning, and materialism 24:15 Can science and faith work together? 26:10 DNA, the Big Bang, and evidence for God 30:10 Beauty, morality, and transcendence 33:10 Why young people are leaving the church 34:45 Do science and faith really conflict? 37:10 Finding community and purpose 39:20 Viktor Frankl and the search for meaning 40:00 Can authentic faith help heal society? 40:40 What gives Francis Collins hope? 42:20 Restoring trust in science 43:05 Discovery Lives in Us 44:00 Final thoughts EPISODE LINKS The Road to Wisdom: On Truth, Science, Faith, and Trust https://www.amazon.com/s?k=The+Road+to+Wisdom+Francis+Collins The Language of God https://www.amazon.com/s?k=The+Language+of+God+Francis+Collins Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Mere+Christianity+C.S.+Lewis Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Man%27s+Search+for+Meaning+Viktor+Frankl BioLogos https://biologos.org Braver Angels https://braverangels.org Discovery Lives in Us https://discoverylivesinus.org francisscollins.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfranciscollins/ PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org FIND DR. VICTORIA HERE. Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com Email: drvictoria@innercalling.org Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    EP67. "Science alone can't get you there" — Former NIH Director Dr. Francis Collins on The Road to Wisdom, Faith, Truth & Bridging our Deepest Divides #inclusivespirituality
  3. Jul 12

    EP66. "We can't save the world" — Author Margaret Wheatley on What to Do When Society Feels Like It's Falling Apart

    I interview Dr. Margaret Wheatley, internationally renowned leadership thinker and author of Who Do We Choose to Be?, about how we find a way forward in uncertain times. We discuss meaningful work, genuine contribution, leadership, community, creating "islands of sanity," synchronicity, purpose, and why the most important question may not be "How do we change the world?" but "Who needs me right now?" TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction 01:18 Finding Your Calling & Purpose 03:45 Viktor Frankl, Meaning & Discovering Your Gifts 06:00 Synchronicity, Intuition & Feeling Guided 09:00 Loneliness, Individualism & Why Community Heals 12:00 Joy, Community & the Antidote to Despair 14:00 "Who Needs Me Right Now?" Overcoming Despair 17:00 Restoring Our Humanity 18:00 Parenting, Technology & Raising Human Beings 20:00 Can One Person Still Make a Difference? 23:00 Social Collapse, Leadership & Facing Reality 28:00 Why Facing Reality Is Empowering 29:00 Fear, Anxiety & Leadership 33:00 Powerlessness & Finding Your Contribution 36:00 Social Media, Influence & True Impact 39:00 Science, Spirituality & Consciousness 41:00 Meditation, Nature & Feeling Held by Life 43:00 Leadership in Uncertain Times 45:00 Creating "Islands of Sanity" 48:00 AI, Humanity & the Future 50:00 Mental Health, Anxiety & Despair 52:00 "I'm Not Hopeful." Finding Meaning in Difficult Times EPISODE LINKS • Dr. Margaret Wheatley's website: https://margaretwheatley.com/ • Who Do We Choose to Be: https://margaretwheatley.com/books/who-do-we-choose-to-be/ • Turning to One Another: https://margaretwheatley.com/books/turning-to-one-another/ • Leadership and the New Science: https://margaretwheatley.com/books/leadership-and-the-new-science/ • Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0807014273 PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_zIrjdevY1Q91PX5woaNtjTDvell1ZJ8 FIND DR. VICTORIA HERE. IDKYBILY Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com Email: drvictoria@innercalling.org #spirituality #mentalhealth #depression #existentialpsychology #drvictoriaranade #innercallingpodcast #intuition #innerwisdom #innerlight Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    EP66. "We can't save the world" — Author Margaret Wheatley on What to Do When Society Feels Like It's Falling Apart
  4. Jul 7

    EP65. Brian's Story — "I wish I'd hugged him more" | Losing Athlete Son to Suicide & a Message for Every Parent & Coach | Brian Monday, Eric Monday Foundation #breakthestigma

    I interview Brian Monday of the Eric Monday Foundation, who shares the story of his son, Eric. We discuss teen depression, suicide, grief, and the lessons Brian learned through losing his son—and how those lessons can help us better support young people living with depression while reducing the stigma surrounding mental health. *** Brian Monday is the Founder and President of the Eric Monday Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to transforming the culture of athletics through mental health awareness, education, suicide prevention, and support. Following the loss of his son, Eric, Brian has made it his mission to help parents, coaches, student athletes, and families recognize the signs of depression, reduce stigma, and create environments where young people feel safe asking for help. Through the Foundation's free Coaches Guide to Mental Health Training, Brian teaches the evidence-based LASRR framework—Listen, Accept, Support, Refer, and Report—to help coaches identify and respond compassionately to athletes who may be struggling. A sought-after keynote speaker, Brian has presented on mental health in sports to schools, universities, government organizations, and athletic programs across the country. ** Disclaimer: This episode includes a discussion of depression, suicide, and the loss of a loved one. If these topics are difficult for you, please use your discretion and take care of yourself while listening. If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide or is in crisis, please seek immediate support. In the United States and Canada, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. If you are outside the U.S., contact your local emergency services or crisis support resources. ** TIMESTAMPS 0:00 The Hidden Mental Health Crisis in Athletes 1:00 Brian's Story: Losing His Son to Suicide 2:05 Turning Tragedy Into Purpose 4:23 Eric's Early Signs of Depression 7:08 Why Failure Makes Athletes Stronger 9:06 Bullying, Trauma & Mental Health 11:42 When Depression Turns Into Suicidal Thoughts 12:15 Why Athletes Are More Likely to Die by Suicide 15:18 The Critical Role of Coaches 20:35 Losing a Son to Suicide 22:06 A Father's Grief & Self-Blame 23:15 The Night Eric Died 27:50 Parenting Regrets & Healing 30:17 Therapy, Grief & Recovery 31:20 Advice for Parents of Depressed Teens 33:26 Trust Your Gut as a Parent 35:56 Stay Close to Your Child 36:38 Why Every Teen Needs a Support Network 38:07 You Can't Solve Everything for Your Child 40:10 Breaking the Stigma Around Mental Health 41:22 Listen, Accept, Support 43:12 Creating the Support Eric Needed 45:12 How Support Networks Save Lives 47:22 How Grief Changed His Life 48:20 Advice for Parents Who Lost a Child 49:44 Finding Purpose After Tragedy 50:22 Where Strength Comes From 54:05 Treat Mental Health Like a Broken Bone 56:45 How the Eric Monday Foundation Helps Athletes 1:00:02 Helping Athletes Build Identity Beyond Sports 1:03:08 Sports, Resilience & Mental Strength 1:05:10 Mental Health Training for Coaches 1:06:18 Warning Signs Coaches Should Know 1:08:00 Building a Healthier Sports Culture 1:10:03 The LASER Method: Listen, Accept, Support, Refer 1:11:35 Mental Health Resources for Parents 1:12:45 You're Not Alone 1:15:25 A Message to Anyone Struggling 1:17:40 Is Suicide Ever the Answer? 1:19:18 Healing Shame & Finding Hope EPISODE LINKS ericmondayfoundation.org melee-til-midnight.com #takedownthestigma PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_zIrjdevY1Q91PX5woaNtjTDvell1ZJ8 CONTACT DR. VICTORIA HERE Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com drvictoria@innercalling.org Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    EP65. Brian's Story — "I wish I'd hugged him more" | Losing Athlete Son to Suicide & a Message for Every Parent & Coach | Brian Monday, Eric Monday Foundation #breakthestigma
  5. Jun 30

    EP64. "Once you've seen, you cannot unsee" – Dr. Bill Richards on "Sacred Knowledge", the science of psychedelics for consciousness, end of life, and mental health #inclusivespirituality

    I interview Dr. Bill Richards, a pioneering clinical psychologist and one of the leading figures in psychedelic-assisted therapy, on his book Sacred Knowledge: Psychedelics and Religious Experiences. We discuss psilocybin, psychedelic therapy, mystical experiences, consciousness, spirituality, mental health, and how psychedelic-assisted therapy can transform our relationship with death. *** Dr. Bill Richards is a pioneering clinical psychologist and one of the leading figures in psychedelic-assisted therapy. For more than 60 years, he has studied the therapeutic and spiritual potential of psychedelics, serving as a researcher at Johns Hopkins University and contributing to landmark clinical trials. He is the author of Sacred Knowledge: Psychedelics and Religious Experiences, a groundbreaking exploration of consciousness, spirituality, and healing. *** TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Introduction 02:00 Bill Richards' Inner Calling 05:00 What Is God? Science & Spirituality 08:00 What Is a Mystical Experience? 11:00 Bill Richards' First Psilocybin Experience (1963) 16:00 How Psilocybin Reduces the Fear of Death 18:00 Psychedelic Therapy for Terminal Illness 20:00 Consciousness Beyond Time 23:00 Why Mystical Experiences Are Beyond Words 25:00 Why Psychedelics Matter for Mental Health 26:00 Why Bill Richards No Longer Fears Death 28:00 Does the Brain Create Consciousness? 30:00 Spontaneous Spiritual Experiences 33:00 Intuition vs. Rational Thinking 35:00 Einstein, Steve Jobs & Mystical Consciousness 37:00 Intuitive Knowledge & William James 39:00 Why Western Society Fears Death 43:00 How Fear of Death Shapes Our Lives 45:00 How to Prepare for a Psychedelic Journey 47:00 What Causes a Bad Trip? 49:00 Ego Death Explained 52:00 Suffering, Trust & the Spiritual Path 54:00 Living Until You Die 57:00 Why Darkness Is Part of Healing 59:00 Life Advice After 60 Years of Psychedelic Research 1:02:00 Bill Richards' Biggest Regrets 1:05:00 Trust Your Heart 1:08:00 Psychedelics, Religion & the Future of Spirituality 1:18:00 The Future of Psychedelic Medicine 1:20:00 Psychedelics: The Frontiers of Science EPISODE LINKS Sacred Knowledge: Psychedelics & Religious Experiences by Dr. Bill Richards: https://www.amazon.com/Sacred-Knowledge-Psychedelics-Religious-Experiences/dp/0231174063 PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_zIrjdevY1Q91PX5woaNtjTDvell1ZJ8 CONTACT DR. VICTORIA HERE Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com * * * * WHAT IS INNERCALLING? INNERCALLING is a podcast dedicated to the belief that there is a light inside you of profound power, beauty, and wisdom that no darkness can ever overcome. It's a space where mental health meets spirituality, where explore timeless questions about existence, and what it deeply means to be human in this technological age. Inspired by the field of clinical psychology, which values what happens simply when two people sit together and talk about life and all its beauty and complications, conversations are organic and spontaneous, like jazz. WHO IS DR. VICTORIA? Hi there, I'm Dr. Victoria Ranade. I'm a board certified licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and podcaster deeply passionate about mental health, spirituality, existential psychology, and questions related to how to hold onto our humanity in the face of AI and technology.✌🏼💛 I LOVE HEARING FROM YOU. SEND ME ANY MAIL OR QUESTIONS HERE: drvictoria@innercalling.org #spirituality #mentalhealth #depression #existentialpsychology #drvictoriaranade #innercallingpodcast #intuition #innerwisdom #innerlight #psychedelicmedicine #psychedelicjourney #death #deathanxiety #existentialpsychology #existentialism Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    EP64. "Once you've seen, you cannot unsee" – Dr. Bill Richards on "Sacred Knowledge", the science of psychedelics for consciousness, end of life, and mental health #inclusivespirituality
  6. Jun 19

    EP63. Zen Buddhist Perspective on existence, mortality & the wisdom of impermanence | Ryushin Marchaj #inclusivespirituality

    I interview my friend and teacher, Zen Buddhist priest Ryushin Marchaj, about how to live when you know you will die. We explore death, reincarnation, impermanence, and the existential pain—and beauty—of being human, through the lens of Zen Buddhism. *** Rev. Konrad Ryushin Marchaj, is a Zen priest in the tradition of Zen Buddhism, and a dharma heir of the late John Daido Loori, Roshi. Ryushin Sensei was the abbot of Zen Mountain Monastery in the Catskill Mountains of New York. Born in Warsaw, Poland, he immigrated to the United States in 1967. He received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Anthropology from Yale University in 1976, and his medical degree from Albany Medical College in 1980. He worked first as a pediatrician in Portland, Maine, later serving in the US Navy as a physician for three years. He then returned to Albany for postgraduate training in psychiatry. After completing his residency, he served as medical director for a community psychiatric outreach program, the Mobile Crisis Team, which served Albany County’s disenfranchised and homeless population. He entered full-time residential training at the Monastery in 1992. In addition to his roles as the Monastery’s abbot and director of operations, he explored contemplative practices in higher education, collaborating with several liberal arts educators and administrators in the Northeast to look at ways for college students to engage religious practice as part of their education. He has been practicing Buddhism since 1983. Since 2014, he has been rigorously exploring and training in ayahuasca ceremonies in various traditions, guided by several teachers. Drawing on his background as a physician and psychiatrist, Ryushin’s infectious interest and thorough training in the workings of the mind and compassionate expression of unconditional love, combined with his skill at translating complex concepts into the accessible, everyday language, characterize his unique teaching style. Currently, he resides and guides at River Refuge Zen Temple in Roxbury, Connecticut. Contact: Ryushin Marchaj at 845-282-4278 or fusanryushin@gmail.com *** TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Zen Buddhism on Death and Dying 01:45 Childhood Fascination with Death 04:00 Buddhist Teachings on Death and the Ego 08:00 How to Die Peacefully: Lessons from Zen 09:00 What Is the Ego? The Illusion of Self 12:00 Loneliness, Isolation, and the Human Condition 15:00 Spiritual Materialism and the Spiritual Ego 17:00 Mortality, Meaning, and the Urgency of Life 20:00 Ayahuasca, Consciousness, and Facing Death 24:00 Zen Lineage, Dharma Transmission, and Awakening 25:30 Watching a Zen Master Die 29:00 Love, Vulnerability, and Letting Go 33:00 Death, Love, and Human Connection 34:00 Reincarnation in Zen Buddhism 39:00 The Wheel of Samsara Explained 41:00 Consciousness, Rebirth, and the Afterlife 43:00 The Nature of Consciousness and Reality 47:00 Impermanence, Grief, and Loss 49:00 What Death Teaches Us About Love 50:00 Meditation, Surrender, and Preparing for Death 52:00 Nirvana, Enlightenment, and the Wisdom of No Escape 55:00 Nonduality, Oneness, and Buddhist Philosophy 57:00 How to Cope with Fear of Death 58:00 Final Wisdom: Receive Some Love Today *** PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_zIrjdevY1Q91PX5woaNtjTDvell1ZJ8 CONTACT DR. VICTORIA HERE Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    EP63. Zen Buddhist Perspective on existence, mortality & the wisdom of impermanence | Ryushin Marchaj #inclusivespirituality
  7. Jun 11

    EP62. Dr. V and Dr. David Wen talk about child ADHD and FAQs from parents

    In this episode, I grill my colleague, clinical child psychologist Dr. David Wen, on some of the hardest questions I've received from parents of kids and teens with ADHD over the years, including consequences, rewards, privileges, and what the heck to do when your child simply won't listen and doesn't care. *** Dr. David Wen is a licensed clinical psychologist at Hope+Wellness who specializes in working with children, parents, and fathers. He brings clinical expertise and lived experience to his work, supporting dads and parents in showing up in ways that feel meaningful, even in the face of real-world parenting challenges. His approach is grounded in evidence-based therapy and delivered with a style that is warm, direct, and attuned to both parents and children. Learn more: https://www.hope-wellness.com/david-wen-psyd TIMESTAMPS 00:00:30 Intro – meet Dr. David Wen 00:01:00 Inner calling – why work with kids 00:02:00 Undiagnosed ADHD until grad school 00:03:00 The biting story – learning social norms 00:05:00 ADHD challenges – energy & overload 00:08:00 ADHD & self-esteem – "I'm the problem" 00:10:00 Teaching social norms – repetition & rewards 00:12:00 Credit card analogy – making consequences tangible 00:13:00 What if kids don't care about consequences? 00:14:00 Rewards that work – privileges & money 00:16:00 Not earning = learning – reframing consequences 00:35:00 Child enjoys defying you – regulate yourself first 00:37:00 Breaking the conflict pattern – the angry shadow trick 00:39:00 Anxious parents & over-control 00:41:00 Electronics & teens – teaching healthy use 00:43:00 Parenting has no manual – why parents struggle 00:44:00 1-2-3 Magic – best book for parents 00:46:00 Warnings & privilege removal for teens 00:47:00 Teen won't do homework – defiance or something deeper? 00:50:00 ADHD brain sees the gray areas 00:52:00 Get to know your kid – observe & ask 00:54:00 Bond over their interests – why kids listen 00:55:00 Serial killer map – how David's ADHD brain works 00:56:00 Two different brains – parent vs. child 00:57:00 Three S's – Safety, Structure, Support 00:59:00 Amplify the three S's for ADHD kids 01:01:00 #1 tip for ADHD parents – consistency 01:03:00 Be open to medication 01:04:00 Parental intuition – innate or learned? 01:05:00 Natural bond with your baby – myth or real? 01:07:00 Can all parents learn to parent well? 01:09:00 Values-based parenting 01:10:00 Define your values – parenting north star 01:11:00 Outro PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_zIrjdevY1Q91PX5woaNtjTDvell1ZJ8 CONTACT DR. VICTORIA HERE Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com * * * * WHAT IS INNERCALLING? INNERCALLING is a podcast dedicated to the belief that there is a light inside you of profound power, beauty, and wisdom that no darkness can ever overcome. It's a space where mental health meets spirituality, where explore timeless questions about existence, and what it deeply means to be human in this technological age. Inspired by the field of clinical psychology, which values what happens simply when two people sit together and talk about life and all its beauty and complications, conversations are organic and spontaneous, like jazz. WHO IS DR. VICTORIA? Hi there, I'm Dr. Victoria Ranade. I'm a board certified licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and podcaster deeply passionate about mental health, spirituality, existential psychology, and questions related to how to hold onto our humanity in the face of AI and technology.✌🏼💛 I LOVE HEARING FROM YOU. SEND ME ANY MAIL OR QUESTIONS HERE: drvictoria@innercalling.org #mentalhealth #drvictoriaranade #innercallingpodcast #drdavidwen Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  8. Jun 2

    EP61. Brenton's Story — "Love was the medicine", on facing suicide, shame & addiction #breakthestigma

    I interview my friend, therapist Brenton Queen, LMFT about a difficult time in his life involving shame, suicidal thoughts, and addiction. We talk about psychedelic assisted therapy and the role of spirituality in healing. *** This episode contains an open conversation about depression, suicidal thoughts, and addiction. Please take care of yourself and take a break if you need to. If you or someone you know is struggling, please reach out: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988. *** Brenton Queen, LMFT, LCAS, CEC is a Marriage & Family Therapist, Addiction Specialist, and founder of Life Recreated. Over 20 years, he's worked with individuals, families, and groups across homes, hospitals, jails, and boardrooms, with a focus on relieving suffering and helping people reconnect with their deepest selves. He completed a certificate in psychedelic-assisted therapy and research through the California Institute of Integral Studies and has spoken at TEDx on psychedelics and the future of mental health treatment. https://www.liferecreatednc.com/ *** TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Introduction 00:02 – Brenton's inner calling 00:04 – Marriage falling apart, feeling like a fraud 00:05 – Suicidal ideation and mapping it all out 00:06 – The client who changed everything 00:07 – Meeting Ed, the therapist who saved his life 00:09 – "You are looking at the problem" 00:10 – How Ed dispelled shame 00:11 – "You're self-centered and arrogant" 00:14 – Shame spirals and why you're not special 00:17 – Shame at the heart of everything 00:21 – Ed, the 12 steps, and grinding away at yourself 00:23 – Expectations are pre-planned resentments 00:24 – Primary and secondary suffering 00:26 – Shame underneath addiction 00:29 – How addiction works and why it makes sense 00:32 – First thing to target: shame 00:36 – Safety is the presence of connection 00:38 – From transformation to plant medicine 00:40 – Spirituality as soul medicine 00:44 – The spiritual work of therapy 00:47 – Psychedelics and addiction recovery 00:50 – What people experience with plant medicine 00:55 – What Brenton would say to his 2011 self 00:56 – What to say to someone struggling with shame 00:59 – The whale: swimming, breathing, going back in *** LISTEN & SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 *** CONNECT INNERCALLING Podcast Website: www.innercalling.org Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: Kind, Compassionate, Evidence-Based Mental Health Care where you are genuinely seen and understood: https://www.hope-wellness.com * * * * WHAT IS INNERCALLING? innercalling is a podcast dedicated to the belief that there is a light inside you of profound power, beauty, and wisdom that no darkness can ever overcome. It's a space where mental health meets spirituality, and explore timeless questions about existence, mortality, and what it deeply means to be human. Hosted by Dr. Victoria Ranade, PhD, MBA, ABPP, conversations feature real, organic conversation between two humans, inspired by the field of mental health & clinical psychology, which values what happens simply when two people sit together and talk about life and all its beauty and complications. WHO IS DR. VICTORIA? Hi there, I'm Dr. Victoria Ranade. I'm a board certified licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and podcaster deeply passionate about mental health, spirituality, integrative wellness, and honoring the light inside you — the one that no darkness can ever overcome. Fun fact: You're one of my greatest inspirations.✌🏼💛 I LOVE HEARING FROM YOU. SEND ME ANY MAIL OR QUESTIONS HERE: info@innercalling.org #spirituality #mentalhealth #depression #drvictoriaranade #innercallingpodcast #intuition #innerwisdom #innerlight #suicideprevention #addictionrecovery #addition #psychedelicmedicine Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Hi there, I’m Dr. Victoria Ranade. I’m a clinical psychologist, but mostly I’m a person who followed an inner calling to discover my love for dogs, including my Welsh Terrier Mei Mei. Welcome to INNERCALLING, my little, old-fashioned corner of the internet where human connection still matters and there is nothing to prove. Every week, I sit down with leading scientists, psychologists, authors, and spiritual teachers to explore consciousness, resilience, and the timeless questions shaping a meaningful life—from what it means to survive depression and be human in the age of AI, to how we bridge science and the spiritual. Grounded in transpersonal and existential psychology yet spontaneous like jazz, these organic conversations honor the inner light inside each of us that no darkness can ever overcome. So pull up a chair, and join us around the ancient, healing fire of human storytelling as we listen to the wisdom our guests have to share. Learn more at www.innercalling.org. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.