Intrinsically Ordered

Cade Bradley
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Exploring the intersection of queer identity and catholicism - sharing stories of those who've left, remained, and created their own journeys; providing commentary on the catholic church's harmful teachings; helping those who've been hurt.

  1. SEP 2

    How the Right-Wing Is Bringing Back Conversion Therapy Through The Supreme Court (Chiles v Salazar)

    My infographic about this case: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1a6-vYf6qIZ8r9xS3G_dRGTaF6qi-hOVK/view?usp=sharing A new “victim” has entered the culture war stage at the Supreme Court. After the “No Cake” baker and the “No Website” designer, meet “No Therapy” Kaley— a Christian counselor recruited by well-funded right-wing legal groups to challenge Colorado’s bipartisan ban on conversion therapy for minors. In this episode, I break down the Salazar case, the PR tactics behind it, and the dangerous history of conversion therapy. We’ll look at how billionaires bankroll fake plaintiffs, how discredited psychologists invented “reparative therapy,” and why banning conversion therapy is actually a win for both kids and conservative faith communities. 00:00 Background on Conversion Therapy Laws 01:46 Manufacturing a Victim 03:33 The Case of Kaley Chiles 04:52 Public Narrative and Legal Arguments 09:53 The History and Pseudoscience of Conversion Therapy 16:00 Impact on Religious Communities 23:02 Conclusion and Personal Reflections To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    23 min

  2. AUG 30

    Religious Trauma Therapist On Identity, Self Sabotage, and Queer Identity After Religion (SC Nealy)

    On this episode of The Intrinsically Ordered Podcast, I sit down with SC Neely—therapist, author of 30+ books, and specialist in religious trauma and queer/trans identity. We explore the real signs of religious trauma, how it overlaps with complex PTSD, and the unique challenges queer people face when deconstructing from high-control religious environments. We cover the roadmap from questioning to deconstruction to rebuilding identity, how trauma shows up in the body, why labels can feel overwhelming, and practical steps for reclaiming identity, sexuality, and community outside of religion. If you’ve ever wondered whether your religious past still affects your identity today, this conversation will give you clarity, compassion, and tools for healing. 00:00 Understanding Religious Trauma 08:28 Navigating Identity After Leaving Religion 29:15 Practical Steps for Rebuilding Life Post-Religion 41:47 Recognizing Self-Sabotage from Religious Trauma 46:47 Dealing with Feeling Behind in Life 51:01 Managing Anger After Leaving Religion 54:54 Exploring Queer Spaces and Identities 01:10:49 The Lifelong Journey of Healing from Trauma To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    1h 16m

  3. AUG 25

    I Left the Catholic Church (Online Radicalization, The Latin Mass, and Finding Meaning Without God)

    In this episode, I share my raw and personal journey through Catholicism—from being raised in a suburban Catholic family to becoming an intense religious fundamentalist who nearly entered a monastery. I explain what it was like to give every waking moment to prayer, theology, and the dream of becoming a monk, only to have my life upended when I was rejected for being gay. What followed was a painful process of leaving not just Catholicism, but religion itself. I open up about the collapse of my community, meaning, and identity—and how I rebuilt my life through running ultramarathons, reconnecting with purpose, and creating content to help others on their journey. This isn’t an argument against belief; it’s a memoir of faith, loss, discovery, and resilience. Whether you’re religious, questioning, or completely secular, I hope my story resonates with you. 00:00 My Religious Beginnings 02:37 Religious Awakening 05:29 Deepening Faith 11:42 Embracing Fundamentalism and the Latin Mass 15:36 COVID Lockdowns and Monastic Aspirations 19:18 Rejection and College Life 22:04 Life Decisions 30:16 Questioning Catholic Teachings 32:46 Departing Catholicism 35:08 Struggles with Identity 38:07 Finding New Meaning 41:40 Embracing a New Life 46:55 Reflections on Religion and Personal Growth 53:19 Living Authentically To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    1h 3m

  4. AUG 18

    Catholic Mass & Drag Brunch: Community Meaning-Making Rituals (w/ Co-Host Colin)

    What happens when you attend a traditional Latin Catholic Mass in the morning and a drag brunch in the afternoon? Surprisingly, these seemingly opposite worlds share more than you’d expect. In this episode, we unpack seven parallels between Catholic liturgy and drag performance—from ritual and belonging to performance, morality, and meaning. For us, this isn’t about mockery. It’s about understanding how humans create community, how rituals give us identity, and how art—whether sacred chant or drag lip-sync—can lift us beyond ourselves. 00:00 Weekend Adventures: Latin Mass and Drag Brunch 01:03 Understanding Drag Brunch 02:12 Commonalities Between Latin Mass and Drag Brunch 02:35 Personal Backgrounds and Reflections 03:55 Seven Commonalities: An Overview 04:31 Disclaimers and Respectful Comparisons 07:06 Social Conformity in Rituals 15:02 Navigating Social Scripts 20:38 Reinforcing Community and Morality 31:30 Entertainment and Performance 32:34 Choosing Preferences in Drag and Religion 33:18 Community and Performance in Mass and Drag 34:00 Diversity and Aesthetic Preferences 36:31 Social Investment in Rituals 40:31 Shedding the Self in Group Activities 47:33 The Role of History and Trauma 56:32 Intentional Community Building 01:00:19 Finding Your Community To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    1h 4m

  5. JUL 26

    'Help, My Loved One Joined Fundamentalist Catholicism' - How to React with @LeaveLaughLove

    In this episode of Intrinsically Ordered, Evelyn from  @leavelaughlove   joins me to tackle one of the hardest questions we get asked: how do you talk to loved ones who are falling into fundamentalist Catholicism? We unpack: Why people get drawn into high-control religious groups How to maintain healthy boundaries without burning bridges Why “debating” rarely changes minds Compassionate approaches that keep relationships intact When it’s okay to let go Whether it’s your child, spouse, parent, or friend, this conversation offers realistic and empathetic strategies for navigating these difficult dynamics. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:23 Today's Topic: Relating to Fundamentalist Catholics 01:06 Personal Experiences with Fundamentalism 01:49 Understanding the Rabbit Hole 02:57 Starting the Conversation 06:07 The Importance of Boundaries 09:49 Maintaining Relationships with Compassion 13:08 Navigating Conversations and Debates 21:22 The Role of Community in Fundamentalism 23:55 Setting Clear Boundaries 31:17 Respecting Individual Journeys 37:45 Navigating Conflicting Emotions 38:48 Maintaining Relationships Despite Differences 40:26 Understanding High-Control Religious Beliefs 44:22 Advice for Parents of Religious Teens 56:43 The Deconstruction Process 01:04:32 Setting Boundaries and Finding Supportive Relationships 01:13:13 Final Thoughts and Viewer Engagement To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    1h 15m

  6. JUL 15

    “I Followed Every Catholic Marriage Rule… Until I Realized the Harm" - An Ex-Catholic Wife's Story

    In this episode of Intrinsically Ordered, I sit down with Isabelle, who grew up immersed in traditional Catholicism—daily rosaries, novenas, and all. Over time, she shifted toward progressive Catholicism before beginning a slow and painful unraveling of belief. We talk about mental health, OCD masked as virtue, the reality of Catholic marriage and NFP, gender and sexuality, and the psychological manipulation baked into so many teachings. Isabelle shares how motherhood, philosophy, and her relationship with her non-Catholic husband helped her reclaim agency and begin truly living. It’s raw, real, and deeply moving. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Background 00:21 Early Catholic Upbringing 01:08 Struggles with Faith and Mental Health 01:57 Deconstruction Journey Begins 04:42 Neurodivergence and Religion 13:18 College Years and Evolving Beliefs 19:11 Marriage and Catholic Rules 25:16 Challenges with Natural Family Planning 32:32 Realizing the Harm of Church Teachings 33:59 Questioning God's Behavior 35:12 Struggles with Church Teachings on Parenting 36:32 Self-Doubt and Leaving the Church 43:58 The Impact of NFP and Personal Choices 45:45 The Tipping Point: Intersex Identities 48:46 Final Steps Away from the Church 49:42 Life After Leaving the Church 52:21 Reflections and Final Thoughts To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    1h 2m

  7. JUL 6

    How the Left Can Win Debates - Actual Jubilee Participants Talk About Their Experience

    In this episode of Intrinsically Ordered, I'm joined by Greg and Oliver—two seasoned left-wing voices who’ve appeared on Jubilee, the Whatever podcast, and in brutal six-hour debates with professional sexists, racists, and homophobes. Together, we unpack the ethics of debate, how to survive the emotional toll, what it’s like to be in the room with Jordan Peterson or Michael Knowles, and why the left can’t afford to stay silent anymore. Whether you're thinking of joining a debate or just curious how to counter the right-wing media machine, this is your crash course in becoming a better debater—without losing your mind, your values, or your sense of humor. Oliver's Youtube:  @oliverniehaus Oliver's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/olivermniehaus/ Oliver's TIkTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@oliver.niehaus?lang=en Greg's YouTube:  @GregDoesVideos   Greg's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gregfromvideo1/ Greg's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@gregfromvideo1?lang=en 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:10 Meet the Guests: Greg and Oliver 00:26 Debate Experiences and Reflections 01:20 The Role of Online Political Debates 04:57 Challenges and Criticisms of Debating 10:17 Strategies for Effective Debating 12:49 The Impact of Debates on Public Perception 35:49 Encouraging More Left-Wing Debaters 36:16 Advice for Aspiring Debaters 38:28 Setting the Stage: Debate Preparation Insights 38:54 Handling Misinformation in Debates 40:59 The Importance of Honest Feedback 41:44 Extensive Preparation Techniques 42:40 Staying Disciplined During Debates 43:17 Avoiding Gotcha Moments 45:41 Using Personal Experience Effectively 51:40 Managing Emotions in Debates 01:09:31 Building a Debate Network 01:20:09 Handling Hate Comments 01:21:26 The Power of Blocking on YouTube 01:24:09 The Reality of Viral Fame 01:26:44 Debate Strategies and Real-World Impact 01:33:17 Security and Privacy Concerns 01:36:32 The Fun and Challenges of Debating 01:40:29 Final Thoughts and Wrap-Up 01:50:34 Final Thoughts and Wrap-Up To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    1h 51m

  8. JUL 1

    Gay, Catholic, and OnlyFans Star: Darian Black's Story of Reconciling Faith and Sexuality

    I sat down with Darian, a gay creator who once wanted to be a Catholic priest and now runs an OnlyFans—while still attending Mass. We talked about scrupulosity, being queer in the church, spirituality beyond dogma, and the surprising peace he found in ritual. Darian's story is messy, funny, thoughtful, and deeply honest—and it challenges what it means to be both gay and Catholic in a polarized world. You can follow Darian on instagram and tikTok - https://www.instagram.com/darianblackofficial/ 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:17 Darien's Background and Journey 01:45 Growing Up Catholic in the South 04:42 Struggles with Catholic Teachings on Sexuality 06:35 Coming Out and Family Reactions 22:09 Exploring Religion and Spirituality 25:27 Starting Social Media and OnlyFans 26:21 Finding Peace in Daily Mass 27:30 Transition to Social Media Success 29:51 Balancing Faith and Career 30:54 Views on Church Teachings and Sexuality 32:59 Community and Acceptance 37:56 Catholic Converts and Personality Types 45:30 Advice for Young LGBTQ+ Catholics 51:37 Final Thoughts and Where to Connect To join our discord community for $1 or to support my work/get early access to content, check out my patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/gayextrad To be a guest on the episode, visit my YT channel and send me an email.

    52 min
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About

Exploring the intersection of queer identity and catholicism - sharing stories of those who've left, remained, and created their own journeys; providing commentary on the catholic church's harmful teachings; helping those who've been hurt.

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  • Creator
    Cade Bradley
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    55
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Cade Hanson Media LLC
  • Show Website
    Intrinsically Ordered

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