I Must Be BUG'N

Sheldon Gay

Does the world seem like it's dragging along at a different pace? Do you constantly feel like you're the only one who notices "the emperor has no clothes"? Were you constantly teased or shamed for not conforming to what's "normal"? Do you wish you had accommodations for your needs that others readily received? If that sounds all too familiar, you might be BUGN (Black Underrepresented/Unidentified Gifted and otherwise Neurodivergent). This is a podcast primarily for Black gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people to learn about and discuss our unique experiences. I'm also here to create a safe and empowering space for all neurodivergent people, especially those who may not officially be identified and those from underrepresented communities. My goal is to move neurodivergence from deficiency to difference and to create a space where labels don't have to feel like pathology. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 10月1日

    Is it a Neurodivergent Excuse or a Reason?

    Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors): https://docs.google.com/document/d/1JKjcPA2Usu4lG5bYSKkLeUPB8Su5KGsRFNe87mXeFgE/edit?usp=sharing Follow I Must Be BUGN on IG @sheldongayisbugn Summary In this episode, I explore and explain something that can be a bit confusing, the difference between excuses and reasons. Many of us have seen this come up in our neurodivergent communities. It seems we run into challenges when sharing our intent and thought process. It's frustrating because we want to improve and maintain our relationships. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, I help you understand how radical accountability and prioritizing connection can foster healthier relationships. Key Points: * Radical accountability involves taking ownership of one's actions and their impact. * Healthy relationships require prioritizing connection over being right. * Modeling healthy behavior can help others learn how to communicate effectively. * Being an elite apologizer means acknowledging impact first, then intent. * Personal growth involves recognizing our own triggers and patterns. Helpful Links: * Hire me to speak or buy some merch!: sheldongayisbugn.com * Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG * ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app * Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/ * Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link Intro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "Understand" from the album Nevermore Icons from flaticon.com * Like (https://www.flaticon.com/free-icons/like) * Bell (https://www.flaticon.com/free-icons/bell) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    45 分钟
  2. It Must Be a Conversation with Rev. Nicholas Young

    7月8日

    It Must Be a Conversation with Rev. Nicholas Young

    Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors) Follow I Must Be BUGN on IG Summary In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Reverend Nicholas Young about the intersections of faith, mental health, and the unique challenges faced by gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people. We touch on the importance of community, the role of grief in both ministry and therapy, and how to continue to center love and connection in a world filled with so many challenges. We also talk about the importance of working with Black boys to give them the things we wish we had as children. This is an important discussion for our community. Please connect with Nick and let me know what you think about this conversation! Key Points: The intersection of faith and mental health is crucial for holistic healing.Grief work is a significant part of both ministry and therapy.Community plays a vital role in combating loneliness, especially for gifted individuals.Creating safe spaces for Black boys is essential for their emotional well-being.Love and connection are fundamental to overcoming life's challenges.Gifted individuals may feel isolated and misunderstood in traditional settings.It's important to honor each person's unique experiences and needs.Therapists and ministers should work together to provide comprehensive support. Connect with Rev. Nicholas Young on socials at @nickyoungslife Helpful Links: Hire me to speak or buy some merch!Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adultsCommunity for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights Intro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 小时 5 分钟
  3. 6月10日

    It Must Be the Lesson in the Mirror

    Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors) Follow I Must Be BUGN on IG Summary In this episode, I explore the concept of being a mirror in relationships and how we can learn emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. I delve into how our interactions with others can serve as mirrors, revealing lessons about ourselves. I discuss leveraging boundaries, the role of triggers in emotional responses, and the necessity of compassion for oneself and others. We talk a little James Baldwin and Rumi. This episode is about how we take more control of how we feel about our lives, spend less time bound by what happens around us and, ultimately, create amazing relationships that have more compassion, joy and safety. Key Points: Why being a mirror is critical to our best relationshipsLove involves magnifying each other's strengths and lightHow triggers reveal unresolved feelings from our past and a meaningful path forwardUsing self-reflection as a powerful tool for personal growthWhy boundaries are essential for protecting our emotional well-beingWhy validating our emotions as valid can serve as a guide for self-discoveryIncreasing our awareness of times when people are projecting their insecurities onto usHow investigating our own perceptions can lead to healthier relationships Helpful Links: Hire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights Intro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    49 分钟
  4. 4月24日

    It Must Be Eugenics

    Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors) Follow I Must Be BUGN on IG Summary In this episode, I discuss the recent proposal by RFK Jr. to create a database of autistic individuals, expressing deep concern over the implications of such a move. He emphasizes the importance of community, advocacy, and understanding the complexities surrounding autism and neurodivergence. Sheldon calls for collective action against systemic oppression and misinformation, urging listeners to remain vocal and supportive of marginalized communities. Key Points: The proposal to create a national database tracking autistic people is extremely problematicI acknowledge my privilege in choosing a neurodivergent label with less stigmaThe increase in autism diagnoses is due to better awareness, not an epidemic.This should be yet another reason we start taking data-privacy more seriouslyThe narrative around autism needs to be more inclusive and expansive Helpful Links: What You Need to Know About the New Autism Data Registry2019 Study on ADHD Rates by Race/Ethnic GroupBackground of LebensbornHire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights Intro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    34 分钟
  5. It Must Be My MEgo

    2月7日

    It Must Be My MEgo

    Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors) Follow I Must Be BUGN on IG In this episode, I take my time really digging into the concept of ego, exploring its role in self-awareness and personal identity. I discuss the importance of understanding the ego as both a source of strength and a potential obstacle. I briefly discuss Freud while leaning much more heavily on the thoughts of Mooji and my own thoughts about how we conceptualize our Self. I talk a bit about psychological theories and then continue my journey by discussing the nature of consciousness, identity, and the transient nature of our experiences. I really go into the complexities of identity, authenticity, and the role of ego in shaping our self-perception. I also make sure to frame this from a neurodivergent perspective, since that significantly shapes how we see and interact with the world. At the end of the day, this is a deep and complex conversation about how to become truly aware of our true Selves so that we can not just survive but thrive through the connections we foster from a truly authentic and unmovable place that isn't bound by current or past circumstances. Key Points: We are not our bodies or minds; they are vessels and lenses through which we experience Life.Ego can manifest as both strength and obstacle.Self-acceptance is crucial as we navigate change.We must challenge our perceptions of Self.Connection is fundamental to our existence and well-being.We often see others through the lens of our own experiences.Shame and guilt can prevent personal growth and acceptance.We are all interconnected, and our experiences shape our identities. Helpful Links: Mooji on "What is Ego?"Annaka Harris discusses the illusion of self and free willAudre Lorde - "Learning from the '60s""Ego Tripping" by Nikki GiovanniHire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights Intro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 小时 9 分钟
  6. It Must Be a Conversation with Dr. Matt

    2024/12/27

    It Must Be a Conversation with Dr. Matt

    Episode Transcript (provided by Riverside - forgive any errors) Follow I Must Be BUGN on IG In this previously recorded episode, I speak with Dr. Matt Zakreski, a clinical psychologist specializing in neurodivergence and giftedness. We explore the complexities of being neurodivergent, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for supportive environments for gifted individuals. Dr. Matt shares his personal experiences as someone who was identified as gifted early but had to wait several years to be diagnosed with ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and the necessity of creating inclusive spaces that recognize and nurture diverse talents. We also discuss the significance of DEI work, the need for community and connection, and the role of self-awareness in navigating systemic issues that impact us all. This is a great start to our discussion that we will pick up again in the new year. Take a listen and check out Dr. Matt's book via the link below as well. Stay in contact with Dr. Matt: Dr. Matt on InstagramDr. Matt's website Helpful Links: Grab Dr. Matt's Book!Hire me to speak or buy some merch!Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacyND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent peopleSubmit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights Intro and Outro music provided by byrdversion1 - "It Couldn't Be" from the album Nevermore Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    53 分钟
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Does the world seem like it's dragging along at a different pace? Do you constantly feel like you're the only one who notices "the emperor has no clothes"? Were you constantly teased or shamed for not conforming to what's "normal"? Do you wish you had accommodations for your needs that others readily received? If that sounds all too familiar, you might be BUGN (Black Underrepresented/Unidentified Gifted and otherwise Neurodivergent). This is a podcast primarily for Black gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people to learn about and discuss our unique experiences. I'm also here to create a safe and empowering space for all neurodivergent people, especially those who may not officially be identified and those from underrepresented communities. My goal is to move neurodivergence from deficiency to difference and to create a space where labels don't have to feel like pathology. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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