19 episodes

A therapist couple explores and processes their own issues, disproving the misconception that therapists have their shit together and that their relationships are perfect.John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and best selling author of "I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck" and “Single. On Purpose.” Vanessa Bennett is a licensed marriage and family therapist, codependency and mindfulness coach. They both have private practices and live in Altadena, California, where they are raising a baby and two chickens.
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It's Not Me, It's You John Kim and Vanessa Bennett

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 156 Ratings

A therapist couple explores and processes their own issues, disproving the misconception that therapists have their shit together and that their relationships are perfect.John Kim, aka The Angry Therapist, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and best selling author of "I Used To Be A Miserable F*ck" and “Single. On Purpose.” Vanessa Bennett is a licensed marriage and family therapist, codependency and mindfulness coach. They both have private practices and live in Altadena, California, where they are raising a baby and two chickens.
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    Ep 19 Navigating Growth and Differences

    Ep 19 Navigating Growth and Differences

    In this episode, we discuss ways to approach communicating your needs and desires with a partner and we also examine our still forming thoughts about balancing feminine and masculine energies through introspection, ownership and self-awareness.
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    • 31 min
    Ep 18 Examining Ambivalence

    Ep 18 Examining Ambivalence

    In this episode, we record a live Q&A from inside a TAT Lab session. We discuss how self work can sometimes feel like 2 steps forward and 1 step back, and how when ambivalence shows up in ourselves and in relationships we need to examine and act on it. 
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    • 30 min
    Ep 17 Fantasizing About Others

    Ep 17 Fantasizing About Others

    In this episode, we discuss how fantasy and jealousy can present themselves in relationships and where the line between healthy and not healthy can be drawn for both.
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    • 31 min
    Ep 16 Letters to Our Exes

    Ep 16 Letters to Our Exes

    In this episode, we share letters that we’ve written to our partners of the past. We discuss the lessons gathered from those relationships, how they’ve transcended over time, and how they show up in our partnership today.
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    • 32 min
    Ep 15 Equality in Partnerships

    Ep 15 Equality in Partnerships

    In this episode, we share some exciting news about a new project that we’re working on together and what it’s bringing up for us. We discuss how there tends to be power differentials in relationships and how we can cultivate a dynamic where we’re true partners bringing our own unique things to the table.
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    • 37 min
    Ep 14 Answering Your Questions

    Ep 14 Answering Your Questions

    In the first of a new series within the podcast, we answer questions submitted by the listeners. We talk through and sometimes disagree on questions around how to not be the toxic one in a relationship, how you can make a relationship with an Avoidant work, the reality of “getting over” a relationship, and when two people’s sexual drives aren’t aligned.
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    • 25 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
156 Ratings

156 Ratings

Mel McYay ,

So relatable

Really loving this podcast. John and Vanessa are so down to earth, and willing to speak frankly about tough subjects. I’m learning a lot.

lcast3 ,

New podcast?

Are you guys doing anymore podcasts together??

Forbes93 ,

Fresh and therapeutic

John Kim is raw, witty, and vulnerable. Self-aware and willing to learn. A dream come true in a man, right? Ha. I love listening to him on his shorts on the angry therapist.. what surprised me here was Vanessa. I love her intelligent insight and assertiveness.. she helps bring the depth .. she knows a lot about the psychology of it all... if relationships haven’t always been smooth sailing for you, these two will resonate with you. As an accomplished woman myself, I appreciate their take on attachment styles and childhood traumas/experiences that shape adulthood. Plus they’ll make you laugh! No man understands “for show” hand towels.

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