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One of the questions I ask many clients is, “What is your purpose or mission in life?”

The inquiry usually leads to a pause, and they often say, “I’ve never been asked that question before.” If they have a church background, they say something like, “To love and serve God” or “To get married and raise a family.” But for the most part, they lack a personal mission statement or a clearly defined purpose. They usually need more focus, and a specific point to aim for.

Focus is essential to living an intentional life because it allows us to be mindful of our actions and make decisions that serve our highest purpose. When we focus on doing what is necessary for growth, transformation, and success, we can create a more meaningful existence for ourselves.

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Here are the 4 Tips - Be sure to check out the entire article to learn the right way to encourage your kids.

Tip# 1 - Model Resilience

Tip# 2 - Raise a Problem Solver

Tip# 4 - Praise Your Child Purposefully and Intentionally

Tip# 4-  Set the Pace, be the Example because these life skills are more caught than taught.

In the last episode, I discussed 4 points:

1. We need to help our children become treasure hunters and not trash collectors.
2. We want to teach and model optimism to our kids, and show them how being made in God's image can make a positive difference in the world.
3. You and I want to encourage our kids to do their best and to achieve what they can while helping others.
4. We want to remind them that failure is not final, only an opportunity to learn and do better.

In part two, of this episode, I cover the remaining three points about raising resilient kids.

1.  Both teach and model the importance of living a life of integrity.
2. Show your children the importance of taking full responsibility for their actions.
3. Help them understand the power of community and connection.

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Next Week: 4 Practical, Proven Strategies to Build Your Child's Resilience and Improved Their Self-Esteem.

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Point # 1
There are two basic types of people in the world—those who edify and build up and those who detract and tear down. Choose to be the former. One of our goals as caring adults is to teach our kids that the best way to develop a happy, intentional, successful life is through their achievements and contributions toward the betterment of others. 
Point # 2
We have to teach our kids to be optimists and believe that as individuals created in the image of God, they have the creative power to make a difference in this world. 
Point # 3
Seeking to achieve in your personal life and contribute to the betterment of others is not an easy path.
“Those who dare to fail miserably can achieve greatly.”
Robert Kennedy.
We must both model and teach our children that anything worth doing or having is worth potentially failing for.

Point # 4
How do we operationally define failure? First, failure is never final. We must instill in our children that failure is not a lack of achievement. Failure is determined by the lack of effort or refusal to try. Life is filled with scary and sometimes tough decisions; they need to learn how to make the best decisions given the information they have at a given moment.
Don't allow decision constipation to steal your capacity to make wise, life-enriching decisions. Refuse to become a victim of failure.
 “I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”
The Apostle Paul – Philippians 3:14 ESV

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A recent Pew Research study has shown that 76% of parents are concerned about their children’s mental health, particularly depression, and anxiety. This is a worrying figure, as it indicates that many parents are unaware of the signs and symptoms of depression in their children. Parents need to understand how to recognize if their child is depressed or suicidal so that they can get the help they need.
In mid-February, numerous news outlets reported an alarming number of teens are feeling depressed and suicidal, and teen girls are at the highest risk

According to a CDC Report reported by FOX News, released earlier this year:
Fifty-seven percent of high school females reported feeling sadness or hopelessness in 2021, a 58 percent increase from 36 percent in 2011.
Thirty percent of females seriously considered attempting suicide in 2021, an almost 60 percent increase from 19 percent in 2011.
Twenty-four percent of females made a suicide plan in 2021, a 60 percent increase from 15 percent in 2011.

How would you know if your teen is depressed? Listen, read, and learn!

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