Keepin' It Real!

Kim Haar and Kim Spence Mullen
  • 5.0 (10)
  • Christianity
  • Updated Bimonthly

We're real life friends who discuss real life problems in a real life way. As you listen to this podcast we celebrate the good, support you through the bad and point you to a real life God who has the answers. We invite you to join us at our table, where together we'll laugh, sometimes we'll cry, but most importantly, our promise is to show up and do real life together! Kim Haar is a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of experience helping others find healing and wholeness in life. Kim Spence is all about story. Whether it's through ghostwriting, book coaching, podcasting or legacy stories, she is all about helping others bring their story to life. 

  1. May 15

    Why Is It So Hard To Speak Up?

    Why do so many of us avoid hard conversations…even when something really needs to be said? In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we’re talking honestly about conflict avoidance — the tension between wanting to keep the peace and knowing when it’s time to use your voice. We dive into the reasons many women stay quiet, what happens when feelings get buried too long, and how avoiding conflict can quietly affect our relationships, confidence, faith, and emotional health. We also talk about the difference between being a peacemaker and simply keeping everyone comfortable while losing yourself in the process. This conversation is for the woman who replays conversations in her head later, thinking, “I should have said something.” It’s for the one who fears disappointing people, rocking the boat, or being misunderstood. And it’s for anyone learning that healthy communication doesn’t have to mean drama. With honesty, humor, faith, and practical encouragement, we explore how to speak truth with grace, set healthy boundaries, and stop carrying conversations that were never meant to stay trapped inside your heart. Keepin’ It Real Question: What is your 'go to' reaction when there's an opportunity for conflict? Do you engage or avoid?  Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    22 min

  2. May 1

    Let's Talk About Your Story

    What if the story you’ve been calling “ordinary”… is actually the most powerful part of your life?  In this episode, we lean into the power of storytelling, the kind that doesn’t need a spotlight, a stage, or a perfect ending to matter. Because the truth is, your story isn’t just a collection of moments… it’s a thread that connects, heals, and reminds others they’re not alone. We talk about the quiet ways we’ve minimized our own stories, thinking they were too ordinary, too messy, or not “important enough,” and how that belief can keep us from sharing something that could deeply impact someone else. Your story has value. Right where you are. Just as it is. Keepin’ It Real Question: Has there ever been a time when you thought your story didn’t matter or was too ordinary? This one might just shift the way you see your life through the lens of a story, and the courage it takes to share it. Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    22 min

  3. Apr 15

    Dream Baby Dream!

    When was the last time you truly allowed yourself to dream? Not the kind of dreams you have at night, but the ones that live deep in your heart. The ideas, desires, and visions that once felt alive… but may have slowly faded over time. In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we’re having an honest conversation about what happens when dreaming gets buried under life. When you feel drained, lackluster, or unsure if you even have the energy to pursue what once mattered to you. We talk about:  The difference between surface-level thinking and heart-level dreaming  How disappointment and unmet expectations can quietly shut dreams down  What Scripture says about dreams, visions, and purpose  The subtle moment when we realize… it’s been a long time since I’ve dreamed at all And how to gently begin opening that door again This conversation isn’t about pressure; it’s about permission. Permission to notice what’s been tucked away. And permission to believe that something new, or even something old, might still be waiting for you. 💛 Keepin’ It Real Question: When was the last time you allowed yourself to dream? Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    26 min

  4. Apr 2

    Finding Hope in a Heavy World

    When our world feels heavy, it’s easy to carry more than we were ever meant to hold. In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we lean into an honest and heartfelt conversation about what it looks like to live with hope, even when everything around us feels overwhelming.  As women, we often find ourselves carrying the weight of our families, our responsibilities, and even the brokenness we see in the world. But what happens when that weight starts to steal our peace? We talk about the subtle ways heaviness creeps in… and how, before we know it, we’re holding things God never asked us to carry. Together, we explore:  How to recognize when the weight of the world is becoming too much  The difference between caring deeply and carrying everything  What it truly means to release our burdens and place them back into God’s hands  Practical and spiritual ways to protect your peace and guard your hope This episode is a gentle but powerful reminder that hope is not found in controlling what’s happening around us, but in trusting the One who is still in control. If you’ve been feeling weary, heavy, or just a little overwhelmed… this conversation is for you. Keepin’ It Real Question: When the world feels heavy, what helps you hold on to your hope… and what are the things that tend to steal it? Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    23 min

  5. Mar 18

    Part 2 - The Deconstruction of Faith

    In Part 2 of our conversation on the deconstruction of faith, we go deeper into the questions: Why do people leave their faith? What happens when you, or someone you love, says, “I’m just not sure anymore”? And what do you do when the questions don’t feel like 'just a phase'? In this episode, we explore the difference between questioning God and walking away from Him, and why so many people begin to ask not just what they believe, but why they believe it. This isn’t a conversation filled with easy answers.  If you’ve ever wrestled with doubt, felt disoriented in your beliefs, or walked alongside someone who has, this episode will meet you there. This episode is intended for reflection and conversation, not diagnosis or one-size-fits-all advice. Our heart is to explore this topic thoughtfully, through a Christian lens, for women, with wisdom, grace, and prayerful discernment. Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    15 min

  6. Mar 4

    The Deconstruction of Faith Part 1

    “Deconstruction” has become one of the most talked-about words in conversations about faith today. But behind the headlines and hashtags are real people asking real questions. In this episode of Keepin’ It Real, we open an honest conversation about what faith deconstruction actually means, and why so many people are wrestling with it right now. It’s not just a topic in culture; it’s something many women are navigating in their own hearts, in conversations with their kids, and with their parents or grandparents. Together, we explore the questions many believers eventually face: What do I believe? And why do I believe it? Rather than running from the tension, we talk about how honest questions can become a doorway to deeper faith and how prayer becomes an anchor when life’s uncertainties start to shake the foundations. Our Keepin’ It Real question for this episode: Have you ever gone through a season where you questioned what you believe about God? Pull up a chair, lean into the conversation, and let’s keep it real. Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    17 min

  7. Feb 17

    Emotional Cutoff - When Boundaries Become Walls Part 2

    In Part 2 of our conversation on emotional cutoff, we’re stepping even further into the tension most people feel but rarely name. Have you been cut off by someone you love? Or have you been the one who quietly, or decisively, did the cutting? There is no judgment here.  Just honest conversation and room for every story. In this episode, we explore: The difference between healthy boundaries and emotional cutoffWhy cutoff feels protective in the momentThe quiet grief that often followsWhat this pattern is doing to families, friendships, and our cultureAnd how we move forward without shameWe’ll talk about the societal impact of “canceling” people in our personal lives, the rise of self-protection language, and how to discern when space is wise… and when it may be avoidance. Whether you’re carrying the ache of being cut off or wrestling with your own decision to create distance, this is a space to think, reflect, and breathe. Real life is complicated. We’re here to talk about it. This episode is intended for reflection and conversation, not diagnosis or one-size-fits-all advice. We recognize that some relationships require distance for safety and healing. Our heart is to explore this topic thoughtfully, through a Christian lens, for women, with wisdom, grace, and prayerful discernment. Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    26 min

  8. Feb 2

    When Boundaries Become Walls

    Cutting people off has quietly become one of the most common forms of "self-care" in our culture. In this Part 1 episode of Keepin’ It Real, we take an honest, compassionate look at boundary-setting and where it can slowly shift into emotional cutoff. As Christian women, we’re called to guard our hearts…but we’re also called to love well, pursue peace, and walk in truth. So how do we know the difference between a healthy boundary and a wall built from hurt, fear, or unresolved pain? In this conversation, we explore: What emotional cutoff actually looks like in real lifeWhy “cutting people off” can feel empowering—but often leaves deeper woundsHow boundaries sometimes become confused with bitterness or avoidanceA faith-centered way to think about protection, distance, forgiveness, and wisdomThis isn’t a conversation rooted in judgment. It’s rooted in discernment, grace, and healing. If you’ve ever been cut off…or if you’ve wondered whether distance was necessary, or just easier…this episode is for you. Our KIR Question: Have you ever experienced being cut off—or do you know someone who has? 🎧 This is Part 1 of a multi-part conversation. This episode is intended for reflection and conversation, not diagnosis or one-size-fits-all advice. We recognize that some relationships require distance for safety and healing. Our heart is to explore this topic thoughtfully, through a Christian lens, with wisdom, grace, and prayerful discernment. Bring Keepin’ It Real to Your Community If you’re looking for a speaker for your women’s group, event, or gathering, we would be honored to come alongside you. Whether it’s a small, intimate circle or a larger room filled with women at every stage of life, our heart is the same—to connect, to uplift, and to spark something lasting. These aren’t just talks… they’re moments that stay with you, conversations that continue long after the event ends, and gentle reminders that God is at work in every story represented in the room. If that resonates with you, we invite you to reach out. We’d be honored to learn more about your group and explore what it could look like to come alongside you. Connect with us and let's talk! kim@yourstoryspeaks.com or kim@kimberlyhaar.com

    20 min
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We're real life friends who discuss real life problems in a real life way. As you listen to this podcast we celebrate the good, support you through the bad and point you to a real life God who has the answers. We invite you to join us at our table, where together we'll laugh, sometimes we'll cry, but most importantly, our promise is to show up and do real life together! Kim Haar is a licensed professional counselor and licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of experience helping others find healing and wholeness in life. Kim Spence is all about story. Whether it's through ghostwriting, book coaching, podcasting or legacy stories, she is all about helping others bring their story to life. 

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  • Creator
    Kim Haar and Kim Spence Mullen
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    79
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Keepin' It Real!
  • Show Website
    Keepin' It Real!

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