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Are you a growth-oriented, mindful and busy #girlmom who wants to raise strong daughters? Me too! This is a show for us -- moms who want to show up with intention, impact and grace, for ourselves and our daughters.


Each episode tackles timely (and sometimes tough) topics, to inform and inspire moms of girls: boundaries, self-care, creating safe spaces, self confidence, intuition, negative patterns, body positivity. I also tackle issues confronting tween/teen girls today, like drops in self-esteem, friendship challenges, peer pressure, consent/dating, body image, gender stereotypes, stress, and more.


Tune in weekly for short episodes (under 25 minutes) filled with inspiration, insights and actionable tips from experts, moms who’ve been there, and host Carmelita Tiu (a mom of two girls herself).


Visit www.knowberaisethem.com and follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram for more info.


And here’s to strong women -- may we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them.

Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Carmelita Tiu

    • Kids & Family
    • 5.0 • 27 Ratings

Are you a growth-oriented, mindful and busy #girlmom who wants to raise strong daughters? Me too! This is a show for us -- moms who want to show up with intention, impact and grace, for ourselves and our daughters.


Each episode tackles timely (and sometimes tough) topics, to inform and inspire moms of girls: boundaries, self-care, creating safe spaces, self confidence, intuition, negative patterns, body positivity. I also tackle issues confronting tween/teen girls today, like drops in self-esteem, friendship challenges, peer pressure, consent/dating, body image, gender stereotypes, stress, and more.


Tune in weekly for short episodes (under 25 minutes) filled with inspiration, insights and actionable tips from experts, moms who’ve been there, and host Carmelita Tiu (a mom of two girls herself).


Visit www.knowberaisethem.com and follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram for more info.


And here’s to strong women -- may we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them.

    How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies (Encore) // by Carmelita (Cat) Tiu

    How to Interrupt: Manners, Assertiveness, and No Apologies (Encore) // by Carmelita (Cat) Tiu

    (Encore of Episode 05)
    “I’m Speaking.” We all remember that magical, kick-ass Kamala Harris moment, right?
    We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend?
    Listen to hear:
    The different social norms for boys and girls
    Disparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settings
    The 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya Chemaly
    Sample phrases illustrating how to interrupt
    What to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interrupting


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    • 12 min
    Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder

    Empower Girls With These 10 Phrases (Encore) // by Wendy Snyder

    Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?
    While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.”
    The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters.
    I love you no matter what.
    You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out.
    You are strong, and you’ve got this! I’m here to support you.
    How do you feel?
    Gosh, I love my ______ (body part)! What is your favorite part of your body?
    Oh yeah? Tell me more.
    How can you be a light in this situation?
    You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD!
    How will you be the change you want to see?
    I am not ok with _____, or I’d like you to ______.

    To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit:
    Website: http://www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/ (www.freshstartfamilyonline.com)
    Instagram: @freshstartwendy
    Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/fresh-start-family-show/id1451431159 (The Fresh Start Family Show)
    Got a strong-willed child? Check out the free guide, "https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/strongwilledkids/ (How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity)" and "https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/10-phrases-to-use-when-your-child-isnt-listening/ (10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening)."
    You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting http://www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass (www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass) .

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    • 19 min
    Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris

    Sex, Gender, Expression, Orientation & Showing Up for Your Child's Journey // with Elaine Farris

    Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares:
    What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation
    How these terms relate to one another
    Why acceptance is not the goal
    The importance of using pronouns
    How to support your child while being careful not to push them

    Guest Bio:
    Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework.
    Email: elainefarristherapist@gmail.com
    In this episode – references and additional resources:
    The Trevor Project
    Previous Episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:
    https://knowberaise.captivate.fm/episode/emotional-suppression-ezza-mustaffa-getting-kids-to-open-up (Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa) (Ep. 35)

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    • 26 min
    Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

    Vulnerable Connection, Coping, and 3 Q's to Ask Your Kids Daily // with Cai Graham

    In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.
    Some highlights:
    The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids
    Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens and teens
    3 questions to ask your tweens and teens every day
    Healthy ways to cope

    Guest Bio:
    Cai Graham is a Parenting and Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20’s - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches.
    Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.
    To learn more about Cai Graham:
    Visit www.caigraham.com
    Follow her on Instagram @caigraham
    Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent and Teen Toolbox
    Her Amazon bestselling book: https://amzn.to/3zEyeS9 (The Teen Toolbox)

    Check out Cai’s videos:
    Breathing Techniques: http://www.caigraham.com/breathing (www.caigraham.com/breathing)
    3 Questions to Ask Your Teen: http://www.caigraham.com/threequestions (www.caigraham.com/threequestions)
    Tapping (EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique): http://www.caigraham.com/tapping (www.caigraham.com/tapping)



    In this episode – references and additional resources:
    Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them related to this topic that you may find helpful:
    https://knowberaise.captivate.fm/episode/cai-graham-understanding-self-harm (Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Respond // with Cai Graham) (Ep. 40)
    https://knowberaise.captivate.fm/episode/emotional-suppression-ezza-mustaffa-getting-kids-to-open-up (Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa) (Ep. 35)
    https://knowberaise.captivate.fm/episode/julia-hogan-cognitive-distortions (Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts and Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan) (Ep. 20)

    Brad Yates
    https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiHZMZejDS4RIxDdBwoie9A (YouTube channel) for Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), aka tapping
    Brad Yates’ https://amzn.to/3ODAFZk (book for kids, “The Wizard’s Wish”)





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    • 19 min
    Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

    Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Respond // with Cai Graham

    Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm? What leads to self-harm becoming an option?
    (Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like. For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children. I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of themselves, and if you need additional resources, see the links to NAMI and the Crisis Textline below.)
    In Ep. 40, Cai Graham unpacks all of this with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu in a frank discussion about the origins of self-harm and how we can respond.
    Some highlights:
    What self-harm is and isn’t
    The roots of tween and teen self-harm
    The 3 reasons kids say they self-harm
    The first thing to do when you discover your child is self harming
    What NOT to do when you find out about self-harm

    Guest Bio:
    Cai Graham is a Parenting and Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolbox™️. Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolbox™️ Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.
    To learn more about Cai Graham:
    Visit http://www.caigraham.com (www.caigraham.com)
    Follow her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/caigraham/ (@caigraham)
    Find her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent and Teen Toolbox
    Check out her Amazon bestselling book: https://amzn.to/3zEyeS9 (The Teen Toolbox)

    In this episode – references and additional resources:
    https://nami.org/Home (Nami.org) - National Alliance for Mental Illness
    Learn more: https://www.nami.org/About-Mental-Illness/Common-with-Mental-Illness/Self-harm
    https://www.crisistextline.org (Crisis Textline): Text CONNECT to 741741
    Learn more: https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/self-harm/#types-of-self-harm-2 (https://www.crisistextline.org/topics/self-harm/#types-of-self-harm-2)

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    • 24 min
    Sex Talk(s): How to Have Them and Overcome the Awkward // with Sarah Sproule

    Sex Talk(s): How to Have Them and Overcome the Awkward // with Sarah Sproule

    Ok, who of us hasn’t cringed a little bit, thinking about "having the talk" with your kids? Why does this awkwardness exist, and can we make it less awkward for our kids, so there’s a healthier dialogue about sex and bodies and relationships?

    In Episode 39, Sarah Sproule unpacks all of this with host Carmelita Tiu, sharing what parents can do to create an open atmosphere, build healthy attitudes towards sex and their bodies, and empower their daughters with tools to craft healthy relationships.
    Some highlights:
    Where the awkwardness around sex-related topics comes from
    When and how to start talking about sex
    Why it’s not just what you say, it’s how you say it
    A script for have an open conversation with older kids about sex, when you haven’t had one before
    The importance of living the way healthy feels

    Guest Bio:
    When Sarah was 11 she was afraid she was only growing one breast and didn’t know who to turn to for help.
    Now as mother of three teens, with two decades experience as a therapist and a masters in sexuality studies, Sarah uses her skills as an occupational therapist and sex educator to ensure every parent and caring adult knows how to nurture deeper connection with their growing kid(s).
    Because no child should ever feel alone and unable to reach out for help with their body, their boundaries or their knowledge about sexuality.
    … and yes Sarah eventually grew two breasts roughly the same size.
    To learn more about Sarah Sproule:
    Visit http://www.sarahsproule.com (www.sarahsproule.com)
    Follow her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/iamsarahsproule/ (@iamsarahsproule)
    Find her here on https://www.facebook.com/parentingsupportwithsarahsproule (Facebook)
    Check out https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/sitting-in-a-car/id1498980106 (Sitting in a Car), her podcast about sexuality relationships and consent for parents of teens and little kids
    For a guide on how to talk to little kids about sex and making babies, visit http://www.sarahsproule.com/bio (www.sarahsproule.com/bio)

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    • 26 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
27 Ratings

27 Ratings

pjluk ,

Great information in under 30 minutes

There’s a lot of really helpful information and tips shared in every episode. I like that most of the episodes tend to be less than 30 minutes. I also like when Cat shared her takeaways. A really nice way to wrap up.

cookies365 ,

Thoughtful & helpful

I’m a mom of a toddler boy and still find the content relevant and actionable when engaging with all the kids in my life. I really appreciate the length as well the welcoming and thoughtful tone of the host.

charlsey_childers ,

For every girl mom

One of my favorite podcasts!! As a girl mom, it means so much to have a resource to turn to that talks about real things that our girls face. It even helps me with some of the things I face or have faced. Thank you, Cat, for following your heart and creating a platform where we can know more, be more, and do more for ourselves and our girls.

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