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Paris Byrum | Between Grief + Glory
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There is a place most of us were never taught to stay in. Between the grief and the glory. This podcast is for the Christian who is still believing, still showing up, still carrying more than anyone around them knows. Host Paris Byrum — spiritual mentor, trauma-informed soul guide, and founder of Between Grief & Glory — creates space to slow down, tell the truth, and walk with God through the places that don't resolve quickly. Healing is not meant to be rushed. And you were never meant to walk this alone. www.betweengriefandglory.com

  1. 5h ago

    23. The Retreat Felt Like Punishment

    Seen in the Wilderness Registration: Free to Join, Click here EPISODE DESCRIPTION There is a version of tired that sleep does not fix. In this episode we sit with why rest can feel like punishment before it ever feels like rest, and why leaving what is familiar, even when it is harmful, is so much harder than it looks from the outside. We meet four women in a rented Italian castle who never went looking for healing, a hymn writer who wrote about safety from inside two losses that never resolved, and a night on an empty apartment floor where breathing became possible again. This is an episode about shelter that does not require the wound to close first. SCRIPTURE “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will abide in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say to the LORD, ‘My refuge and my fortress, my God, in whom I trust.’” (Psalm 91:1-2, NASB95) “He will cover you with His pinions, and under His wings you may seek refuge; His faithfulness is a shield and bulwark.” (Psalm 91:4, NASB95) IN THIS EPISODE •  Why slowing down can feel dangerous, and what usually surfaces when it does •  The difference between a nervous system reading unfamiliar as dangerous and a place actually being unsafe •  When a therapist, spiritual director, or retreat becomes a bridge rather than a fix •  Lotty, Rose, Mrs. Fisher, and Lady Caroline, and what each woman's exhaustion was telling her •  Fanny Crosby, her father, her daughter, and the hymn born out of an emptied pair of arms •  A retreat that felt like punishment, three failed moves, and the night the breath came back REFERENCES Suffering Saint Fanny Crosby (1820 to 1915). Blinded at six weeks old. Fatherless before her first birthday. Lost her only child in infancy. Wrote thousands of hymns, including Blessed Assurance and Safe in the Arms of Jesus. Literary Companion The Enchanted April by Elizabeth von Arnim, published 1922. Four Englishwomen rent a medieval castle on the Italian coast for the month of April. FOR YOUR REFLECTION What do you need around you to feel safe enough to let something heal? If your exhaustion could speak plainly, what do you think it would say it is actually about? GO DEEPER What Are You Really Feeling? A free guided workbook for naming what is underneath. betweengriefandglory.com/What-Are-You-Really-Feeling Storyline: Seen, Known & Restored. A nine week group experience for women. betweengriefandglory.com/storyline Spiritual direction with Paris. betweengriefandglory.com/offers/WARKxCMy/checkout NEXT WEEK Episode 18: The Curse Spoken Over You. Psalm 42, Julian of Norwich, and the words spoken over your life before you had language to refuse them.

    23. The Retreat Felt Like Punishment

  2. Aug 3

    22. They Quoted Psalm 42 at Me to Make Me Stop Crying

    Register for Seen in the Wilderness Aug 27-28 Someone once stopped me at the door of my church to ask why I still had tears in my eyes after fifteen years, and quoted Psalm 42 at me to make them stop. This episode is about the face you have learned to hide, why hiding was intelligent rather than faithless, and what Psalm 103 says about a God who is never flustered by a sorrow that lasts longer than other people's patience. IN THIS EPISODE ​  Why a psalm about unresolved weeping gets used to stop people from weeping​  The difference between hiding that grows from within and hiding you were taught​  What Till We Have Faces actually says about being seen​  The part of Corrie ten Boom's story almost nobody tells​  Psalm 103 and a God who is slow to anger and knows our frame​  Why the church can hold a crisis but struggles to hold long suffering​  How to tell a safe person from an unsafe one, and why this takes wisdom​  Why forgiveness and reconciliation are not the same thingREFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE ​  Psalm 42 and Psalm 103, NASB95​  Till We Have Faces by C.S. Lewis​  We Wear the Mask by Paul Laurence Dunbar, 1895​  The life and later writing of Corrie ten Boom​  Episode 13, Count It All Joy Doesn't Mean What You Think It Means​  Episode 12, The Vow You Made to Survive What is the complaint you have not been able to bring to God, and who in your life has actually earned the right to hear it?

    22. They Quoted Psalm 42 at Me to Make Me Stop Crying

  3. Jul 27

    21. Your bones already told God what your mouth wouldn't

    Your body has been keeping a record your words have not found yet. This week we sit with Psalm 6, where David's prayer begins not in his thoughts but in his bones, and we follow the way grief moves through the body in very different people. Jane Eyre, whose body spoke the moment she was harmed while her words took years to catch up. Ivan Ilyich, whose body forced into the open everything his polished life was built to avoid. And the diary of missionary David Brainerd, whose failing body and spiritual darkness lived in the very same sentence. Along the way we ask the harder question: what actually meets a body that has finally told the truth. The answer Scripture and story keep landing on is not fixing. It is witness. We close with the hymn writer Anne Steele, who brought a body well acquainted with grief to the throne of grace and was received there, exactly as she was. SCRIPTURE REFERENCES (NASB95) “Be gracious to me, O LORD, for I am pining away; heal me, O LORD, for my bones are dismayed.” (Psalm 6:2, NASB95) “And my soul is greatly dismayed; but You, O LORD, how long?” (Psalm 6:3, NASB95) “I am weary with my sighing; every night I make my bed swim, I dissolve my couch with my tears.” (Psalm 6:6, NASB95) “The LORD has heard my supplication, the LORD receives my prayer.” (Psalm 6:9, NASB95) BOOKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED The Diary and Journal of David Brainerd Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë The Death of Ivan Ilyich by Leo Tolstoy Hymn: “Father, whate'er of earthly bliss” by Anne Steele GO DEEPER If this episode named something you have been carrying without words, the free workbook What Are You Really Feeling? is a place to begin putting language to it. Free workbook: betweengriefandglory.com/What-Are-You-Really-Feeling CONNECT Website: betweengriefandglory.com

    21. Your bones already told God what your mouth wouldn't

  4. Jul 20

    20. My Times Are in Your Hands

    Episode Summary David wrote Psalm 31 from inside a crisis that had not resolved, and he anchors his trust not to a change in his circumstances but to the character of God Himself. This episode follows that thread through Amy Carmichael, who spent the last twenty years of her life largely confined to her bed and wrote letters of comfort to the suffering from that room, and through Shasta's night journey in The Horse and His Boy, where he discovers that the presence he feared in the dark had been protecting him the entire way. Scripture Referenced (NASB95 ) “Into Your hand I commit my spirit; You have ransomed me, O LORD, God of truth.” — Psalm 31:5 “You have not given me over into the hand of the enemy; You have set my feet in a large place.” — Psalm 31:8 “But as for me, I trust in You, O LORD, I say, ‘You are my God.’ My times are in Your hand.” — Psalm 31:14–15 “As for me, I said in my alarm, ‘I am cut off from before Your eyes’; nevertheless You heard the voice of my supplications when I cried to You.” — Psalm 31:22 “All the paths of the LORD are lovingkindness and truth.” — Psalm 25:10 “In the world you have tribulation, but take courage; I have overcome the world.” — John 16:33 Mentioned in This Episode •  Amy Carmichael, Candles in the Dark (letter collection) •  Saint John of the Cross and the dark night of the soul — referenced from Episodes 4–8 of this series •  The Horse and His Boy by C.S. Lewis •  The free ebook What Are You Really Feeling? — a guide for naming the anger, shame, and anxiety underneath the struggle to trust God's timing, as a first step toward Him rather than away from Him Links •  What Are You Really Feeling? (free ebook): betweengriefandglory.com/What-Are-You-Really-Feeling •  Spiritual direction & soul companionship: betweengriefandglory.com Coming Next What your body has been holding that your words haven't found yet.

    20. My Times Are in Your Hands

  5. Jul 13

    19. How Long, O Lord, The Saints Who Stayed in It.

    Invitation to Refuge: https://www.betweengriefandglory.com/Refuge David asked God how long four times in Psalm 13, and never got an answer inside the psalm itself. This week, Paris sits inside that unresolved space alongside George Herbert, Charles Spurgeon, Joseph, Asaph, Job's friends, and C.S. Lewis, asking what it means to keep trusting God when the promise has not changed but the waiting has no visible end. SCRIPTURE REFERENCES (NASB95) Psalm 13:1-6 | Psalm 73:2-3, 16-17 | Genesis 37:5-11 | Genesis 41:46 | 1 Samuel 22:1-2 | 1 Samuel 24 | Job 2:11-13; 4-11 BOOKS REFERENCED A Grief Observed — C.S. Lewis | The Problem of Pain — C.S. Lewis | Lectures to My Students — Charles Spurgeon | The Temple — George Herbert RESOURCE LINKS Refuge —https://www.betweengriefandglory.com/Refuge | Between Grief & Glory — betweengriefandglory.com SOCIAL instagram.com/betweengriefandglory EPISODE NAVIGATION Previous: Episode 12 — "The Vow You Made to Survive" Next: Episode 14 — "My Times Are in Your Hands"

    19. How Long, O Lord, The Saints Who Stayed in It.

  6. Jul 6

    18. The Vow You Made to Survive

    What happens when a child has to hide the way she was made? In this episode of A Summer of Sorrows, we look at a creature from the world of Fantastic Beasts called the Obscurus — a picture of what forms when glory is forced underground. We sit with John of the Cross, imprisoned by his own order and writing some of the most profound spiritual literature in history from inside a cell. And we open Psalm 139, which tells us that before we had language to describe ourselves, God already knew what He put there. This episode is for the woman whose reactions confuse her. For the woman who keeps finding herself in the same patterns and does not understand why. For the woman who has been running a survival strategy for so long she has forgotten it is not who she actually is. The vow you made to survive can be named. And named things lose their power. Resources Mentioned: What Are You Really Feeling? — Free ebook: https://www.betweengriefandglory.com/What-Are-You-Really-Feeling-Opt-in Scripture Referenced: Psalm 139:1-5, 13-14, 23-24 2 Corinthians 12:9 2 Peter 1:5-7 Galatians 5:19-21 Books Referenced: The Screwtape Letters — C.S. Lewis The Dark Night of the Soul — John of the Cross Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them (2016 film) Connect with Between Grief & Glory: Website: betweengriefandglory.com Instagram: @betweengriefandglory Next Episode: Episode 5 — The Journal Nobody Was Supposed to See — July 14, 2026

    18. The Vow You Made to Survive

  7. Jun 30

    17. When God Assigns Your Companions

    Lament Playlist 1, Nightfall Cries: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/4VRsHb4VKpJHnrI6STkwF1?si=2c1e6cdf9c4c478f Lament Playlist 2: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1zRvtsw5R3IpbuYo046M4Y?si=151f339f0a6a4ef9 Anne Steele, "Father, Whate'er of Earthly Bliss" (public domain) Psalm 77 Hinds' Feet on High Places, Hannah Hurnard

    17. When God Assigns Your Companions

  8. Jun 23

    16. A Witness in the Wilderness

    She was a servant. Pregnant. Fleeing into a wilderness she had not chosen, toward nowhere in particular. And she sat beside a spring alone, with no reason to believe that anyone in the universe knew she was there. And then she was asked a question. Not for the information. For her sake. Where have you come from? What are you carrying? This week we are sitting with Hagar, with a young woman named Perpetua who wrote her own account from a Roman prison cell in 203 AD, and with Psalm 22, the darkest psalm in the Psalter, the one Jesus borrowed from the cross. Three women, three wilderness moments, one thread: what happens in a person when she is truly seen. Not attended to. Witnessed. There is a difference. And the difference matters more than I can say. Scripture References Genesis 16:7-14 — Hagar at the spring, El Roi Psalm 22:1 — My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me Psalm 22:24 — He has not hidden His face ] Historical Companions Vibia Perpetua (c. 181-203 AD) — Early Christian martyr. Arrested in Carthage at age twenty-two while nursing her infant son. Author of the Passion of Perpetua and Felicity, one of the earliest surviving texts written by a Christian woman. She wrote her account from her prison cell in the days before her execution in the arena. Books Referenced The Passion of Saints Perpetua and Felicity — Primary source account, authored in part by Perpetua herself. Available through various public domain editions. Resources Free ebook: What Are You Really Feeling? A guided reflection for women who are carrying more than they can name. betweengriefandglory.com/What-Are-You-Really-Feeling-Opt-in The Story Behind the Pattern — $37 ebook. A structured process for tracing the thread from your past to your present patterns, brought before God. betweengriefandglory.com/offers/oCowbkW2/checkout Connect with Paris Website: betweengriefandglory.com Instagram: @betweengriefandglory Podcast: Lament & Light on Spotify and Apple Podcasts Next Episode Episode 11 (Series Episode 3) — The companions you did not get to choose. The ones God sent into your wilderness without asking you first. What they might be forming in you. Airs June 30, 2026. Previous Episode Episode 9 (Series Episode 1) — A Summer of Sorrows begins. The unwitnessed grief. What goes unnamed settles and shapes. Airs June 16, 2026.

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There is a place most of us were never taught to stay in. Between the grief and the glory. This podcast is for the Christian who is still believing, still showing up, still carrying more than anyone around them knows. Host Paris Byrum — spiritual mentor, trauma-informed soul guide, and founder of Between Grief & Glory — creates space to slow down, tell the truth, and walk with God through the places that don't resolve quickly. Healing is not meant to be rushed. And you were never meant to walk this alone. www.betweengriefandglory.com

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    Paris Byrum | Between Grief + Glory
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    23
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