Leading Yourself

Carolina de Arriba
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The Leading Yourself Podcast is your go-to space for personal growth, career and leadership development, habits, relationships, and more. Each episode delivers practical insights, tools, and strategies to help you unlock your potential and become the best version of yourself. Join me for real conversations, tough love, and actionable advice designed to help you take meaningful steps toward the life you want. No fluff, just the mindset shifts, habits, and strategies that lead to real results. If you’re ready to stop waiting and start growing, you’ve come to the right place. Welcome to The Leading Yourself Podcast!

  1. 2d ago

    358: The Three-Phase Framework for Difficult Conversations

    Most hard conversations do not go wrong because of what gets said. They go wrong because the person went in without knowing what they actually needed to say. Or they said the hard thing and immediately walked it back. Or the other person got defensive and they lost their footing. Or the conversation ended without a close, a commitment, or any shared sense of what comes next. This week on Leading Yourself, Carolina gives you the framework she uses with every coaching client before a hard conversation, and goes deep into what actually goes wrong at each stage. In this episode: The four failure points in hard conversations, and why the conversation itself is almost never the problemPhase 1: Prep. How to get clear on the one thing you need to say, what you actually want to happen, and how to name the fear before it shows up sidewaysPhase 2: Delivery. How to open without apologizing or presenting evidence, what to do in the silence after you say the hard thing, how to stay in the room when the other person gets defensive or emotional, and how to come back when the conversation goes sidewaysPhase 3: Follow-up. How to close a conversation so it actually produces something, why follow-through signals whether the conversation was real, and how to read the check-in to find out what actually landedWhat the framework is actually for, and the change it produces over time beyond any single conversationThis episode stands completely on its own. If you know someone sitting with a hard conversation right now, this is the one to share. This week's practice: run the conversation you have been avoiding through the prep phase. Write it out, all three parts. Then identify which phase you personally tend to skip. That is where your work is.

    28 min
  2. Morning Brew: Fall in Love with Boring

    4d ago

    Morning Brew: Fall in Love with Boring

    “The only way to become excellent is to be endlessly fascinated by doing the same thing over and over. You have to fall in love with boredom.”

    7 min

  3. Jun 8

    357: The Ask You Keep Not Making

    For years, I was the highest-performing person at my level. Recognized constantly. Delivering results her peers were copying. And significantly underpaid. I knew it. I felt it. And I said nothing. In this episode, I share the story I have never told publicly, and then opens up the bigger pattern it represents. Because staying silent about what you have earned is not just a salary problem. It shows up every time you believe you are ready for a promotion and say nothing. Every time a role opens and you talk yourself out of raising your hand. Every time you take on more and wait to be recognized instead of asking for it. This episode is for you if: ​You know you are underpaid but have not said anything​You have been waiting to be promoted instead of asking for it​You have watched an opportunity go to someone else and wondered why you were not considered​You have tried to have this conversation before and it did not go wellWe talk about why high performers stay silent, what that silence costs beyond the paycheck, and how to go into the ask, whatever the ask is, with a real case, clear language, and a plan for what comes next. This week's practice: Is there something you have earned: a salary adjustment, a promotion, a role, an opportunity, that you have not asked for? Write it down. Then ask yourself: what am I waiting for? Have question you would like me to answer, submit them here: https://forms.gle/cUeffahjV7DAYZBQ8

    35 min
  4. Morning Brew: Who Are You Becoming?

    Jun 6

    Morning Brew: Who Are You Becoming?

    "The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be"

    6 min

  5. Jun 1

    356: The Conversation That Changes Everything

    There is a conversation you have been avoiding. Maybe for weeks. Maybe longer. You tell yourself the timing is not right, things are fine, it is not a big deal. But it is sitting there. Taking up space. Quietly changing how you show up. This week on Leading Yourself, we kick off June's Difficult Conversations series with the most personal kind, the hard talks in relationships. The ones with the people who matter most. In this episode: Why the conversations we avoid with the people we love are often the hardest ones of allThe four real reasons we stay quiet, and why 'protecting the relationship' is often a cover storyWhat avoidance actually costs (beyond just the frustration)Three things that can help you actually have the conversation you have been putting offThe honest truth about outcomes, and why having it is almost always better than notThis is Week 1 of a four-week series, moving from personal relationships to career conversations, to a full framework, to a reflection on what you are still holding back. If you have been keeping the peace at the cost of your truth, this one is for you. This week's practice: finish this sentence: "There is something I have not said to __________ about __________." Write it down. You do not have to do anything with it yet. Just name it.

    18 min
  6. Morning Brew: Stay Long Enough to be Found

    May 30

    Morning Brew: Stay Long Enough to be Found

    “A lesson I wish I learned earlier:
you get opportunities by showing up long enough for the right people to find you.”

    6 min

  7. May 25

    355: Your Visibility Inventory

    Four weeks. Three dimensions. One through-line: you are worth being seen. Fully. Strategically. Without apology. This is the finale of the May Visibility series, and it is built differently than any other episode this month. Two parts. Part one is a coaching session. Carolina walks you through three categories: your worth, your visibility practice, and your strategy, and for every question, she tells you what your answer actually reveals and exactly what to do with it. This is not a reflection exercise. Grab something to write with. Part two is listener Q&A. Three real questions from the Leading Yourself community, answered honestly. In this episode: The visibility gap isn't where you think it is, and what you are actually looking for in the inventoryWorth: the question that reveals whether you are letting yourself see your own value clearlyVisibility Practice: activity vs. impact language and whether the right people have a current picture of what you are doingStrategy: the five people whose opinion shapes your trajectory, and how well they actually know youThe integration question: what would the version of you from four weeks ago notice about who you are today? Listener Q&A: The anchoring habit still feels incredibly awkward, how long until it stops?My manager told me I'm seen as an executor, not a strategic thinker. How do I change that?I keep meaning to have the career conversation with my manager and never do. What is actually stopping me? SERIES: May | Visibility: From Invisible to Unmistakable Week 1: Owning Your Worth Without Apologizing Week 2: Making Your Work Visible Without Feeling Like You're Bragging Week 3: Why Good Work Isn't Enough Week 4: Your Visibility Inventory

    29 min
  8. Morning Brew: Think Big, Move Small

    May 23

    Morning Brew: Think Big, Move Small

    “When making plans, think big.
When making progress, think small.”

    5 min
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The Leading Yourself Podcast is your go-to space for personal growth, career and leadership development, habits, relationships, and more. Each episode delivers practical insights, tools, and strategies to help you unlock your potential and become the best version of yourself. Join me for real conversations, tough love, and actionable advice designed to help you take meaningful steps toward the life you want. No fluff, just the mindset shifts, habits, and strategies that lead to real results. If you’re ready to stop waiting and start growing, you’ve come to the right place. Welcome to The Leading Yourself Podcast!

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  • Creator
    Carolina de Arriba
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2026
  • Episodes
    580
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Carolina de Arriba
  • Show Website
    Leading Yourself

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