Let the Rest Burn

Colleen Nelson
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Let the Rest Burn

🎙 Let the Rest Burn – with Colleen Nelson You’ve done the work—the therapy, the journaling, the self-improvement—but something still feels off. You’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and stuck in a loop of healing without ever feeling truly free. Let the Rest Burn is here to change that. Join me, Colleen Nelson—somatic healer, coach, and nervous system expert—as we go beyond mindset shifts and dive into the deep nervous system rewiring that leads to true transformation. Each episode explores the raw, unfiltered realities of healing, relationships, pleasure, and personal power, giving you the tools to feel more, live more, and expand your capacity for joy, wealth, and intimacy. 🔥 Catch new episodes every week—free for 7 days! 🔥 After that, all replays go behind the paywall for paid Substack subscribers. 💫 Want full access to every episode plus exclusive content? Subscribe now on Substack and unlock the entire archive of deep-dive conversations, bonus workshops, and live Q&As. theevolvedtherapist.substack.com

  1. MAR 14

    I Chased Money Like I Chased Unavailable Men

    I Chased Money Like I Chased Unavailable Men—And It Kept Me Stuck in Scarcity For years, I thought my money struggles were about not earning enough. If I could just land that one big paycheck, hit that next level, or find the right strategy, everything would fall into place. But what I didn’t realize was that I wasn’t just chasing money—I was chasing the high of money the same way I once chased the high of love from unavailable men. I didn’t want stability. I wanted the rush. I wanted the dopamine hit of a financial influx the same way I once craved a breadcrumb of attention from someone emotionally unavailable. When it came, I felt relief, euphoria, and validation. And when it disappeared—because I never truly held it—I felt panic, shame, and desperation to chase the next high. It was a cycle I knew all too well. The Patterns Were the Same I can see it clearly now. I was recreating the same survival loop with money that I had with love—one where my nervous system felt safer in the chase than in the having. 💸 I over-gave, over-worked, and self-sacrificed—believing I had to earn money’s love.💸 I chased big, flashy opportunities—thinking the next thing would finally “fix” my financial instability.💸 I spent impulsively on quick-fix solutions and charlatan coaches—just like I once over-invested in emotionally unavailable men who promised more than they could give.💸 I ignored the steady, boring financial strategies—just like I once overlooked the steady, “boring” men who could actually provide security.💸 I obsessed over the high of making money—but couldn’t hold onto it—just like I once mistook emotional intensity for love. I wasn’t building financial security. I was recreating emotional chaos. Charlatan Coaches & Quick Fixes: The Money Equivalent of Love Bombing Just like I had once fallen for men who promised depth but only delivered intensity, I found myself throwing money at coaches, programs, and “money-making opportunities” that preyed on that same urgency. I have spent thousands and thousands of dollars on coaching programs that led nowhere. I bought into promises of instant success, massive financial leaps, and ‘secret strategies’ that were supposed to change everything. Because I didn’t trust myself.Because I thought someone else had the answers.Because I was chasing the fantasy of ‘fixing’ my money problems overnight. Just like in relationships, I thought “boring” meant “wrong.” But in reality? The consistency I avoided was the exact thing that would have given me the financial security I craved. The Mechanics Behind It: Why We Get Stuck in the Chase Here’s what I now understand: If you grew up with inconsistency, your body registers intensity as safety. If love was unpredictable, you expect money to be the same.If love was something you had to chase, money becomes something you believe you have to fight for.If love only came in bursts, money feels like it should come in bursts too. And when you get a large sum of money, your nervous system panics. 🧠 The Survival Response:The body says, This isn’t safe. I don’t trust this will last. I need to get rid of this fast. And so you…💸 Spend impulsively.💳 Overpay debt just to feel relief.🛍 Invest in something that promises a ‘quick return’ instead of holding steady. Because having money sitting there—just being there—feels wrong. Until you heal this at the nervous system level, no amount of strategy, budgeting, or mindset work will fix it. The Transformation: Learning to Hold Instead of Chase So, how do we shift? 🚀 We stop chasing the high. We stop looking for the next thing that will fix everything.🚀 We learn to sit with the discomfort of stability. Holding money feels weird at first—your body has to adjust to it.🚀 We build a capacity to trust ourselves. We stop throwing money at people who claim to have the answers.🚀 We focus on small, steady growth over big, impulsive wins. Consistency is the key to real wealth. And the biggest shift? We teach our bodies that stability is safe. We learn to feel excitement in holding—not just in receiving.We create a money relationship that feels nourishing, stable, and deeply supportive.We stop repeating patterns from the past and step into something completely new. Next Step: Rewiring Your Nervous System for True Wealth Clearing the old patterns is just step one—now, we need to rewire your system for overflow. In next week’s workshop, Rewiring Your Money Mindset – Turning Financial Stress into a Wealth Magnet, I’ll be teaching:✨ How to identify and shift your core money programming✨ Somatic & subconscious techniques to rewire your ability to hold wealth✨ A nervous system expansion practice so abundance becomes a felt experience, not just an idea 💡 Unlike Week 1, which cleared old patterns, this workshop is about making abundance your new normal. 🔥 This is exclusive for paid subscribers inside The Evolved Therapist. The workshop will be delivered straight to your inbox on March 19th. 🔥 💬 Does this resonate? Drop a 💸 in the comments and let’s talk about it. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    8 min

  2. MAR 7

    Why Money Disappears the Second You Get It

    For years, I thought my money stress was a numbers problem. If I could just earn more, things would finally feel stable. If I just budgeted better, I wouldn’t feel like I was drowning in financial anxiety. But no matter how much money I made, it never seemed to stay. One month I’d be flush with cash, feeling on top of the world. The next? Scrambling, wondering how I ended up back in the same financial stress cycle again. The Evolved Therapist is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. I’d get a big payment, feel the rush of relief… and then almost immediately, the money would be gone. Bills, impulse spending, over-giving, justifying little splurges—before I knew it, I was right back in panic mode waiting for the next influx of cash. Sound familiar? 😮‍💨 I used to think this was just me being bad with money. But then I learned the real reason this was happening: my nervous system was wired for financial survival. The Hidden Pattern Keeping You Stuck in Feast-or-Famine Mode If money comes in and disappears just as fast, it’s not because you’re irresponsible. It’s because your nervous system only feels safe in survival mode. This means your body is comfortable in one of two extremes: 1️⃣ Money flowing in fast & easy—so you spend it just as fast. (Because holding onto it feels uncomfortable, or like it will disappear anyway.) 2️⃣ Money completely gone—so you panic & hustle to get more. (Because struggle feels familiar, and your system is wired to function under pressure.) Your brain isn’t wired for wealth—it’s wired for survival. So if “enough” has never actually felt like enough, that’s not a money problem—it’s a nervous system problem. How Your Nervous System Rejects Stability This plays out in ways you might not even realize: 💸 You spend money as soon as you get it—because having it feels unsafe. 😬 You avoid checking your bank account—because it triggers stress, even if you have money. 📉 You tell yourself “I’ll save when I make more”—but somehow, that moment never comes. 🛑 You sabotage financial stability—because struggle, hustle, or chaos feel normal to your system. For years, I cycled through these patterns, never realizing my body was actively rejecting financial ease. Until I started working with my nervous system, I was stuck repeating the same stress cycle—no matter how much money I made. Ready to Break the Cycle? If you’ve ever felt like financial stability is just out of reach—this is exactly why I’m releasing next week’s workshop: Breaking the Feast-or-Famine Cycle: How to Stop Living Paycheck to Paycheck (Energetically & Practically). 💡 In this workshop, I’ll show you: ✅ Why your nervous system creates income instability (and how to stop it) ✅ The difference between hustle vs. aligned wealth flow ✅ A somatic practice to help you feel safe with consistent money 🔥 This exclusive workshop will be sent to all paid subscribers of The Evolved Therapist on Wednesday, March 11th. 🔥 The Evolved Therapist is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    3 min

  3. MAR 4

    Tomorrow, We Reset Your Relationship With Money

    For years, I struggled with money. No matter how much I earned, it always seemed to disappear just as fast. I’d get a big payment and feel relief—only to find myself stressed again weeks later, wondering where it all went. I thought I had a money management problem, but in reality, I had a nervous system problem. My body was wired for financial stress, and no amount of budgeting could fix that. If this resonates, you’re not alone. And that’s exactly why I created The Money Miracle Reset Workshop—so you can finally break free from this cycle and step into financial overflow with ease. 💡 Here’s What You’ll Learn Inside the Workshop: * One exercise will literally show you why you can’t hold money right now—and how to shift it instantly. * How to identify your nervous system’s response to money (Fight, Flight, Freeze, or Fawn). * A powerful breath & body practice to rewire financial stress at the root. * How to create safety in your body around wealth, so you stop leaking money before you even have it. * A deep energetic expansion meditation to increase your ability to receive and hold money effortlessly. 🚀 This is not just a mindset shift—it’s a full-body reset for financial overflow. The workshop drops tomorrow for paid subscribers inside The Evolved Therapist. If you’ve ever felt stuck in financial stress, now is the time to break the cycle. 🔗 Subscribe now & be the first to access the full workshop when it drops tomorrow! This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    3 min

  4. 07/17/2023

    Breaking the Pattern With the Cosmic Queen HD & Astrology Expert, Rachel Onojafe

    Trigger warning: These episodes may contain content that is triggering for some listeners; please review the description and or show notes in order to know if this episode is right for you at this time. Hello, and welcome back to Let the Rest Burn with The Evolved Therapist. I'm super excited about our guest today - Rachel Onojafe. She's not only an identity and business coach, but also a queen activator. Rachel has an incredible journey of self-discovery to share with us. She's all about combining astrology and human design to help people find their true selves. It's like a cosmic treasure map to unlock your potential! We're also going to dive deep into the healing power of human design. Rachel will blow your mind with how it can help you heal, grow, and fully accept yourself. So, get ready to be inspired, my friends. This conversation is going to light a fire within you.  For more links and resources, click here. Connect with Coco on Instagram: @theevolvedtherapist --- Take the first step towards transformation. A deep dive into why it’s so hard to say no and how to truly know your boundaries. Click here to learn more about the course Becoming a Boundary Badass:  https://www.evolvedtherapist.com/BBB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    32 min
  5. Unlocking Deeper Connections Through Listening with Joe Pardavila

    07/10/2023

    Unlocking Deeper Connections Through Listening with Joe Pardavila

    Trigger warning: These episodes may contain content that is triggering for some listeners; please review the description and or show notes in order to know if this episode is right for you at this time. Welcome back to Let the Rest Burn with The Evolved Therapist. In today's episode, we have a special guest joining us, Joe Pardavila, a prominent figure in the world of podcasting and radio. With a career spanning over ten thousand hours of audio content, Joe has an incredible story to share. We dive deep into his remarkable transition from radio stardom to podcasting and explore the challenges, triumphs, and surprises he encountered along the way. Join us as Joe shares the sacrifices he made to pursue his podcasting passion, recounting the personal and professional hurdles he overcame to achieve his current level of success. But that's not all; we also explore the transformative power of curiosity in the art of listening. This enlightening episode is not to be missed, so tune in now and immerse yourself in Joe's captivating story. Get ready to unlock the power of curiosity and become an exceptional listener. For more links and resources, click here. Connect with Coco on Instagram: @theevolvedtherapist --- Take the first step towards transformation. A deep dive into why it’s so hard to say no and how to truly know your boundaries. Click here to learn more about the course Becoming a Boundary Badass:  https://www.evolvedtherapist.com/BBB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    56 min
  6. Breaking Free from the Saboteur

    07/03/2023

    Breaking Free from the Saboteur

    Trigger warning: These episodes may contain content that is triggering for some listeners; please review the description and or show notes in order to know if this episode is right for you at this time. Hey there! Welcome back to Let the Rest Burn with The Evolved Therapist. We're diving into a new shadow archetype this July - THE SABOTEUR. This sneaky little character likes to mess with our schedules and relationships, all in the name of protecting us from potential pain. It stems from childhood experiences and has a knack for ruining moments of joy and openness. The saboteur is all about avoiding pain in the here and now, but unfortunately, it often leads to self-sabotage. I'll be sharing some personal stories and stressing the importance of looking within and making room to confront this tricky archetype. We can genuinely navigate life by surrendering control and embracing our inner power. So let's embrace spaciousness and let the rest burn together! For more links and resources, click here. Connect with Coco on Instagram: @theevolvedtherapist --- Take the first step towards transformation. A deep dive into why it’s so hard to say no and how to truly know your boundaries. Click here to learn more about the course Becoming a Boundary Badass:  https://www.evolvedtherapist.com/BBB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    15 min
  7. Are You a Perfectionist? And How to Allow the Beautiful Mess of Life?

    06/26/2023

    Are You a Perfectionist? And How to Allow the Beautiful Mess of Life?

    Trigger warning: These episodes may contain content that is triggering for some listeners; please review the description and or show notes in order to know if this episode is right for you at this time. Welcome back to Let the Rest Burn with The Evolved Therapist! In this episode, we delve into the captivating world of shadow archetypes, focusing on the ironic nature of the shadow archetype: THE PERFECTIONIST. Throughout this episode, we will navigate the fine line between pursuing excellence and the detrimental impact of perfectionism, its origins in fear, and past traumas. I invite you to release control and discover the beauty in life's imperfections. Join me on this profound journey of self-discovery and the pursuit of authenticity. For more links and resources, click here. Connect with Coco on Instagram: @theevolvedtherapist --- Take the first step towards transformation. A deep dive into why it’s so hard to say no and how to truly know your boundaries. Click here to learn more about the course Becoming a Boundary Badass:  https://www.evolvedtherapist.com/BBB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    15 min
  8. Nurturing Self-Love, Spirituality, and Personal Growth with Hope Pedraza

    06/12/2023

    Nurturing Self-Love, Spirituality, and Personal Growth with Hope Pedraza

    Trigger warning: These episodes may contain content that is triggering for some listeners; please review the description and or show notes in order to know if this episode is right for you at this time. Hello, and welcome back to Let the Rest Burn with The Evolved Therapist. Today, we have a very special guest with us, Hope Pedraza, a holistic nutritionist and functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner. Hope's journey is one of transformation and self-discovery as she breaks free from the constraints of her religious upbringing and allows herself to become who she was truly designed to be. Join us for this enlightening conversation as we explore the transformative power of self-love, spirituality, and the pursuit of a more profound connection with ourselves and the world around us. For more links and resources, click here. Connect with Coco on Instagram: @theevolvedtherapist --- Take the first step towards transformation. A deep dive into why it’s so hard to say no and how to truly know your boundaries. Click here to learn more about the course Becoming a Boundary Badass:  https://www.evolvedtherapist.com/BBB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theevolvedtherapist.substack.com/subscribe

    41 min
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🎙 Let the Rest Burn – with Colleen Nelson You’ve done the work—the therapy, the journaling, the self-improvement—but something still feels off. You’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and stuck in a loop of healing without ever feeling truly free. Let the Rest Burn is here to change that. Join me, Colleen Nelson—somatic healer, coach, and nervous system expert—as we go beyond mindset shifts and dive into the deep nervous system rewiring that leads to true transformation. Each episode explores the raw, unfiltered realities of healing, relationships, pleasure, and personal power, giving you the tools to feel more, live more, and expand your capacity for joy, wealth, and intimacy. 🔥 Catch new episodes every week—free for 7 days! 🔥 After that, all replays go behind the paywall for paid Substack subscribers. 💫 Want full access to every episode plus exclusive content? Subscribe now on Substack and unlock the entire archive of deep-dive conversations, bonus workshops, and live Q&As. theevolvedtherapist.substack.com

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  • Creator
    Colleen Nelson
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    60
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Colleen Nelson
  • Show Website
    Let the Rest Burn

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