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Have you ever had a hard time 'letting go'?Replaying the same embarrassing moments over and over in your head? Then join us, Shadoe Ball and Victoria Muir-Burcea for an uplifting, therapy-adjacent podcast. This is a show where we reveal the messy bits about ourselves, without judgement. It’s a show where we can reflect, learn, grow and maybe even laugh about our actions, attitudes and behaviours. 

Let's Relieve Regret Podcast Shadoe and Victoria

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Have you ever had a hard time 'letting go'?Replaying the same embarrassing moments over and over in your head? Then join us, Shadoe Ball and Victoria Muir-Burcea for an uplifting, therapy-adjacent podcast. This is a show where we reveal the messy bits about ourselves, without judgement. It’s a show where we can reflect, learn, grow and maybe even laugh about our actions, attitudes and behaviours. 

    Asking for help is not easy

    Asking for help is not easy

    We start with our check-in, which includes the different levels of friendliness in Toronto neighbourhoods.

    Cause for Applause this week: finding the joy in the snow.

    Skip to 10:01 to get straight to the regrets.

    Victoria opens up about mistaking self-confidence for self-worth. Luckily, her physiotherapist helped tweak her path to a more balanced way of living. 

    Shadoe opens up about being too afraid to ask for help for the things she "should" know how to do. 

    As always, we end with our three breaths of letting go. 
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    • 1 hr 1 min
    Mini Episode: How to be a Guest on Let's Relieve Regret

    Mini Episode: How to be a Guest on Let's Relieve Regret

    Have you been wondering how to be a guest on Lets Relieve Regret?  Find out how in this episode!

    Step 1: fill out the Guest Application Form 

    Step 2: pre-interview with Victoria or Shadoe to review any questions and set up a time to record.

    Step 3: Receive the Regret Worksheet to help guide you in writing your regret and relief statements. 

    (You are free to write and paraphrase in your own style. You may want to practice saying it out loud a few times as well.)

    Step 4: Record Episode

    That's it! 



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    • 9 min
    Groundhog Day

    Groundhog Day

    This episode starts with a quick discussion of the sarcastic reel Shadoe posted on her IG.

    This episode was recorded on Groundhog Day; a day that Shadoe has hated in the past! This year, she wants to lean into the fun and joy that this day brings for people.

    During our check-ins, we discuss this in more detail.

    Victoria also explains how to use Instagram to stay in the present moment. Check out her Facebook Group "Worry Free & Joyful Living" for a replay of IG 101! 

    To skip the check-ins, tune in at 26:31.

    Shadoe goes first today - and, her regret is a desire for chaos. 
    Looking back, she realizes that she mistakes predictability for boredom; and, when the boredom kicks in; she finds all kinds of ways to bring chaos back in.  

    This is not followed by feedback; as, for today, she just wanted to be heard. 

    Then, for Victoria's share, she opens up about watching "too much" TV, especially at night. She talks about revenge watching and how this impacts sleep. 

    Funnily enough, she does not want feedback today either.  

    So, we wrap up our episode, as always, with our three breaths of letting go! 
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    • 43 min
    the cycle of unrealistic expectations

    the cycle of unrealistic expectations

    During this episode, Victoria opens up about the impacts of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and Shadoe explores lingering regret about her art project; "The Word Fat". 


    As always, we start with our check-in.  This week that includes: 
     mega-sleep punshuman connectionThen, Victoria shares a cause for applause about the latest episode, a letter from Nurse Alex. (8:03)


    To skip the check ins, jump in at 11:46 


    Victoria opens up about the cycle of punishment that comes with unrealistic expectations. In particular, trying to make summer happen during the winter. 
    As a person living with SAD, it is extremely difficult for Victoria to wake up early, and, she has spent a lot of time punishing herself for that instead of leaning into it. 

    For example, she has learned that a nature walk each day is a prescription, but it does not have to be the first thing of the day - as long as it happens at some point each day. 


    Shadoe explores lingering regrets about starting an art project with the word 'fat' without having more understanding of fat liberation first. 

    As she states in the episode, "it felt good to channel the creative energy into something that could help me with self-esteem" and “I’ve moved past feeling insulted by someone who would call me fat. And 13-Year-Old Me would have never thought that was possible.” 

    However, this project uncovered that there is a lot more layers to fat liberation that she was not ready to address properly. This project has been on hiatus for more than 2 years and she is putting a lot of pressure on herself to create the 'perfect piece' of content to wrap it up.  



    As always, we complete the episode with our three breaths. 



    ~o~O~o~ May You Be Well ~o~O~o~~o~O~o~ 
    ~o~O~o~ May You Be Kind to Yourself ~o~O~o~ 
    ~o~O~o~ May You Be Safe and at Ease ~o~O~o~ 
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    • 1 hr 8 min
    you are not a drop in the ocean; you are the ocean in a drop

    you are not a drop in the ocean; you are the ocean in a drop

    In this episode, we welcome Alex Burcea.

    Alex is Victoria's sister-in-law and a compassionate, wonderful person that shared with us a regret about putting herself last.

    As always, we start the episode with our check-ins and cause for applause. This week, that includes catching up with an old friend (Shadoe), presenting at a panel event (Victoria) and Doing Something NEW on her birthday (Alex).

    To skip this part, tune in at 10:15.

    For the regrets, Shadoe shares that she regrets forgetting how much she enjoys alone time. In addition, she feels guilty about complaining about how much she needs this, and, somewhat ironically, cannot solve her need for alone time on her own. 

    During the feedback session, we discuss toxic gratitude, as well as intrusive thoughts such as "be careful what you wish for". 

    Then, Alex opens up about her regret, which is about not prioritizing her own health and wellness. 

    During the feedback session, we discuss the warning signs to look out for. If you are having trouble falling asleep, or losing interest in the things you love; that is when you need to reach out for help. 

    We discuss this with a lot of detail; and, although we don't have the answers, we were all able to agree that We are so willing to help others, but, many times, afraid to ask for that same help. 

    We then finish the episode with three new breaths!  


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    Here is more about Alex, in her own words: 

    "I am a Critical Care  and Coronary Care certified Registered Nurse, specializing in Cardiology. Until recently I have worked with Critically Ill patients primarily in Cardiac Intensive Care. My work included being part of the Resuscitation Team (often referred to as Code Blue team), and primary care and responsibility for people experiencing a Critical Illness. I have worked in multiple other areas of medicine, but Cardiology has always had my Heart (pun intended). 
    I am a mother to two boys and a wife to an amazing man. I am currently working on my physical and mental recovery."
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    We were thrilled to have Alex on the show and hope that she comes back again! 

    If you want to be a guest on Let's Relieve Regret, reach out to us on Instagram @relieve.regret or by email at relieve.regret@gmail.com 

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    • 1 hr 25 min
    friendships should not feel like a power struggle

    friendships should not feel like a power struggle

     Welcome to Season 4!

    On this episode, we welcome Nadia Shahbaz. Nadia Shahbaz is a writer and former news producer of Afghan and Italian heritage. Her work has been published in a variety of magazines and illuminated on buildings in New York City. She is currently working on a novel on her Sicilian family’s fascist past. She also runs a community writing studio and newsletter on how creativity changes us called The Dormer Window.

    As always, we start this episode with our check-ins and cause for applause segment. For this episode, that includes haircuts, blowouts, paper crafts and December birthdays. 

    To jump straight to the regrets, tune in at 13:20.

    Victoria opens up about how difficult it is to define a boundary versus a grudge.
    Sometimes, it is very clear. In some relationships, one person is giving, giving, giving with nothing in return. Other times, it is not as clear. How do you make sure you stand up for yourself without hurting someone else? 

    During the feedback portion, we talk about how Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) can feed low self-worth. We also explore Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), the concept of a Power Circle and giving ourselves the love we give others.

    Then, our guest Nadia opens up about criticism she received about being 'too sensitive'.
    At the time, she believed it; perceiving her sensitivity as a burden instead of the incredible gift it really is. Learning how to fine-tune your sensitivity can make you a better artist, writer and person. It can bring you closer to your loved ones.

    However, sensitivity is rarely welcome in the corporate bubble. Shadoe then shares an experience about being asked to work on her 'tofu', absorbing all the bad energy in the room to try and make things light and fun! This leads to a conversation about the book 'The Highly Sensitive Person' by Elaine Anon, inputs and outputs, and how it might be time to redefine what success looks like!

    Tune in at 55:41 to hear a great tip from Victoria about how to support a member of your team that you might think is too sensitive, without using the words you're too sensitive.

    We close out our episode by briefly discussing masculine and feminine energies.  We will need to have Nadia back on the show to discuss that in more detail!!

    As always, we finish the episode with our three breaths.

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    Want to know more about Nadia? Follow her here:
    https://www.nadiashahbaz.com/
    https://www.instagram.com/nadiashahbaz_writer
    https://nadiashahbaz.substack.com/  

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    • 1 hr 16 min

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