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moved by the ghost of samuel l. clemens––sometimes creative, rarely fictional, unfashionably hopeful, hopefully practical, and unwaveringly invested in the common muppet. muppetgender.substack.com

  1. stupid, crazy, ugly: the trifecta of white nationalist gaslighting

    FEB 19

    stupid, crazy, ugly: the trifecta of white nationalist gaslighting

    In this video essay, I talk about the different tactics white nationalists use to silence women, femmes, trans folks, and gender-expansive people. My hope is that unpacking the phrases meant to silence you might offer you a to turn down the gaslight. White supremacy culture requires everyone to be a copy of a copy of a copy. Unbossed women, femmes, trans folks, and gender expansive people become a threat to white supremacy culture— because our existence makes visible the fault-lines of their power structure. They’re only powerful in a system where people feel trapped. You and I point the way out of that system. Once you see the fault-lines and name them, you cannot unsee them, and that makes white nationalism weaker. It’s why they’re coming for us now. So I need you to confront the ways these weak white nationalist men (and their enablers) try to silence you by ridiculing your appearance, belittling your intelligence, and pathologizing your refusal to submit. I need you to remember this: when they call you ugly, when they call you stupid, when they call you crazy, they do this because they’re afraid of mutuality, accountability, and, ultimately, of the unknown in themselves. Do not let cowards silence you. When they insult you, get louder. Keep speaking. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit muppetgender.substack.com

    38 min
  2. boycott men until morale improves

    FEB 16

    boycott men until morale improves

    This would be such a good time for married women to legally drop their husbands’ last names. Rename yourself entirely and update your birth certificate with a name that is all your own. Women don’t have to stick with what they’re handed just because it’s expected of them. The same goes to all other gender minorities. Naming oneself is powerful. It can also be an impactful protest in times like these. Don’t become smaller. Go on offense. You know what else would be fitting for times such as these? Create a real loneliness epidemic: no accepting dates with men, no sex with men, no entertaining marriage plans with men (except for divorce). women do not need men to fulfill them. this fascist moment has been brought to you by men who need women, queers, trans folx, and femmes to feel small so they can feel better. they threaten gender minorities because they themselves are threatened by the presence of people who don’t need their approval. it terrifies them. you can see this in how ICE threatens women and children with the worst abuse. masculinity isn’t just fragile. it’s broken. when your gender experience requires subservience from minority genders to feel comfortable: your gender is weak as f**k. throw it in the trash and try again. withhold all of your spending. stop going to any place of worship where a man is at the helm. withhold your social and material support from men. reclaim your time. reclaim your interests. don’t laugh at their jokes. don’t try to enjoy their hobbies. walk away from them while they’re talking. maybe if men felt this massive rebuke they’d take the goddamn hint. it’s not just fascist men either. it’s white men in particular, of all political leanings— they will defer to themselves in a room full of women and trans people with real expertise. they’ll just talk, with no data, and assume they’re not only right but worth listening to. because so many don’t care to be curious about others, they are boring as f^ck to talk to. they’ll invent an entire ass “male loneliness epidemic,” while emotionally neglecting their mates and refusing to heal their own s**t. they expect the gender fabulous to keep them in bubble wrap their entire gd lives. don’t pop a single baby bubble— or the man-baby just might kill you. recently a white man shot his twenty-three-year-old daughter after she questioned him supporting a child rapist as president. his need to annihilate his own daughter was an admission of his own guilt. even ostensibly open-minded men are often allergic to ceding the stage. they hog mics. they treat women and gender expand trans people like mascots. they give advice no one asked for. they give “feedback” to their gender minority peers whose accomplishments dwarf their own. because they lack humility, they cannot clock the irony. their perspectives are limited. they curate their lives within the tiny militarized borders of their comfort. they rarely look outward, appear to fear looking inward, and still somehow assume they’re the smartest people in the room. shame just slides right off them, solidarity rarely occurs to them, and, even when the world is burning around them, they always find a way to center themselves. it is pathetic. this has to stop. women and other gender minorities have been socialized to coddle grown-ass men for far too long, and it shows. the bar is on the gd floor with men. even now, as armed masked thugs invade the streets it is unarmed women on the front lines while men hide behind their computer screens. it’s time to raise the bar so high it shatters the glass block ceilings every-damn-where. also, while i’m here: i want AOC as president. no more men. they’re too emotionally stunted to govern properly. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit muppetgender.substack.com

    25 min
  3. FEB 13

    HIV Meds in Peril + Letters from Kids in Camps

    This live discusses two different stories: RFK + White Christian Nationalists Are Brewing an HIV Epidemic in Florida The state of Florida is trying to strip people’s HIV meds overnight, which won’t just lead to thousands of deaths but will create a national public health crisis. Here are some calls to action: * Raise hell over this with their representatives in the House and Senate. Call 202- 224-3121. Demand RFK be impeached and that they intervene to stop Florida’s unhinged attempt to wage a genocide against our HIV positive neighbors. Remind them that this wouldn’t just mean thousands of deaths in Florida but across the nation. * If you are in Florida, be sure to speak out now. There should public comment period, but Florida is trying to break the rules and take away your right to stop this. Call your governor’s office about this unhinged attempt at genocide. * Share this story everywhere, across every social media platform. And if you know someone in Florida, reach out to them directly and ask them to speak up in their state. Kids Are Writing Letters from Concentration Camps, Begging for You to Speak Out ProPublica released letters from children inside Dilley Concentration Camp, and while legislators have been reading out some of these letters on the floor of Congress, my guess is that many of you haven’t heard from these kids. I read their letters aloud, because it’s essential to bear witness and to speak out. * Call your representatives in the House and Senate, every goddamn day: 202- 224-3121. That’s the minimum we all ought to be doing. Demand Steven Miller, Kristi Noem, Russ Vought, and all the other white nationalist henchmen be removed from their positions. Demand the Flores Agreement be respected, and insist on an end to indefinite detentions. Demand money be clawed back from ICE and CPB. * See if a detention center is being planned in your area, and show up to your city/township council and demand no warehouses are used for concentration camps. You can’t just pretend this isn’t happening, folks. * It’s time to move beyond whistles and cameras and start actively hiding/ obscuring our targeted neighbors. This isn’t immigration enforcement; this a genocide unfolding before our very eyes. * Start building parallel systems of support in your postal code— today. Here’s how: This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit muppetgender.substack.com

    1h 23m
  4. loving the scapegoat in the time of fascism

    FEB 5

    loving the scapegoat in the time of fascism

    I was editing an essay of mine, called “Teaching Trans at the End of Democracy,” and I added a new footnote to the piece. Which then inspired me to record a Substack Live expanding on this point: This was, of course, in the before-times. Before a child-raping mobster was propelled into office by techno-fascists and had the entire infrastructure of the government weaponized against trans people, Black people, Hispanic people, Latino people, Muslim people, people who are immigrants, autistic people, disabled people, asylum seekers, childhood-sexual assault survivors, working-class people, undocumented immigrants, First Nations, and, yes, even white cisgender women themselves. I wonder how many of them really believed Trump when he claimed his intent was to “protect women and children” from trans people. No doubt that “promise” rings hollow now, given his now documented history of predation against women and children. Do you want to know who invades women’s spaces and mutilates children? It’s Donald Trump and the Epstein class. I wonder if there will ever be any kind of acknowledgement from cisgender people, when this is all said and done, that the Epstein class and white Christian nationalists used trans people as a Trojan horse to get at children’s and cisgender women’s rights. Much of this attack could have been preventable had upper-middle-class white cisgender women (the JK Rowling class) not been so amenable to transphobic scapegoating in the first place. Trans people just want to live their lives. But many in our country, up to and including Bari Weiss at the New York Times, spent an enormous amount of ink turning trans people into villains of convenience over night. This was no accident. The Epstein class needed a boogeyman, and some of y’all fell for it, and now people like very well might die because of it. Some of us already have. It’s just that our deaths, our disappearances, and the violence that comes to us— it still doesn’t seem to matter to the rest of the country. Our lives, as ever, are always-already disposable. We become the pariah onto which people project their own discomfort with their gender journey— how life has taught them to be uncomfortable in their bodies, their looks, their desires, their sense of embodied freedom. Trans people may be a vulnerable group, but fascists and white Christian nationalists hate us not because we are some “danger” but because our lives point to a range of gender experience that allow all people breathing room to be themselves. They hate us because we know how to be free, in spite of all it costs us— and that kind of integrity scares the s**t out of people who have only benefitted from regimes of control and conformity. I genuinely hope people can spend some time sitting with these words. Trans people were never the problem. We were the scapegoat to offload the actual danger to women and children posed by the Epstein class. Fascism might be new for some people, but many of us have been wading through its waters for quite some time now. I share all of this because I so badly need people to understand that the way out of this is to embrace fascism’s scapegoats—to save our lives through your actual solidarity—and, in so doing, you will end up saving your own lives. It’s not just Republicans who could stop this. Everyday people have a chance to interrupt fascism wherever they encounter it in their lives, but that requires seeing fascism less as one political party and more of a broad sense of a group of power-hoarders who think they’re better than everyone else, and use scapegoats to rip apart the social fabric and collapse a democratic spirit. Fascism doesn’t win because it’s so powerful. It wins because people don’t fight it. And it’s all around you. Embrace your scapegoated neighbors. The way out is through us. If you’d like to check out the essay that inspired this post, and this Substack Live, read more here: This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit muppetgender.substack.com

    25 min
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moved by the ghost of samuel l. clemens––sometimes creative, rarely fictional, unfashionably hopeful, hopefully practical, and unwaveringly invested in the common muppet. muppetgender.substack.com

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