Literally No Subtext with Dear Kristin

Kristin Barlow
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Personality type talk, trends between types, tips on self-development and, in true ESFP fashion, random other unpredictable stuff.

  1. 5d ago

    Attempting to understand an INTP (feat. Eric Wen)

    Welcome back to the pod! Today we’re chatting with Eric Wen, who is an insightful INTP in the MBTI-YouTuber space. He also happens to be a good friend! As you’ll hear, Eric has a sophisticated knowledge of the 8 cognitive functions, as well as a nuanced approach to typing others. Check out Eric's work here: YT Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@ThinkMoreDeeply Website: https://learn.ericwen.com/foundations?utm_source=yt&utm_medium=vid&utm_campaign=kristin_podcast_2024 This episode was recorded 1.5 years ago, but I never posted it because I went into labour and have since been recovering from birth and early motherhood. It was an enjoyable listen-back for me, and I hope it will be likewise for you.   T I M E S T A M P S :  1:39 Tell us about your second channel, your website and why we should all visit you. 7:52 What is a common misconception about INTPs in the online MBTI space, and how would you like to correct that? 9:20 What does it mean to have inferior Fe, how does it play out in your life and what struggles do you have with it? 14:29 What personality types do you find most intriguing/to be the best fit for you? 17:23 How would you describe the INTP’s superpowers? 19:11 What are my (an ESFP’s) superpowers? 22:45 Do you believe that the shadow functions play any particular role? Should we even focus on them at all? 29:36 Debunk a bad take that you have frequently heard about MBTI? 31:06 I feel like I’ve never met an INTP, but I think I just have trouble recognising INTPs. Any tips? 32:28 Do you have siblings and what are their personality types? 34:34 How do you deal with feelings? 36:37 If I asked you, “how are you feeling right now?”, would you be able to answer? And how many emotions would you be able to identify? 40:16 How do we effectively translate cognitive functions into behaviours in order to type a person accurately? 41:41 I don’t know if I am an INTP or an INFP. What’s the difference between the two? 45:14 Can ENTJs and INTPs work well together? 46:46 As an ESFP, how can I connect emotionally with my INTP brother? 50:05 As an INTP, how do you stick to an idea and stay persistent and passionate about it? 51:44 What are some challenges that you face/think you have faced as an INTP? 53:44 What are some visible differences that you have noticed between the INTP and the INTJ? 55:48 How do you feel about Se? 58:13 How would you let your crush know that you’re interested in them? 1:02:02 How do you even know that you like someone romantically? How obvious is it? How long does it take for you to realise that you like them? 1:03:57 How do you know when you’re in love? How do you identify that as an INTP? (+ general discussion about love) 1:06:27 Did you initially mistype yourself? If so, which type and why? 1:08:31 Are any INTP stereotypes overblown? 1:11:37 Do you think that having an ESFJ father is a contributor to your social awareness? 1:12:50 Outside of MBTI, what personality system has been your favourite?   My links: Leave a comment on this video:  Main YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/dearkristin Instagram: @dear.kristin Theme music by Restless Mosaic.

    1h 20m

  2. 08/13/2024

    The burden of being an INFJ (feat. Joyce Meng)

    Joyce's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCarmrOHgveKHsaV6QejAZVw Book a Typing Session with Joyce: https://www.joycemengcoaching.com/ ⌛ T I M E S T A M P S : 5:40 What motivates you to keep producing MBTI content? 11:42 What are the xNFJ values? 14:38 How would you describe yourself? 15:18 Why do INFJs seem to “hold back” their true selves in conversation? 16:24 What can INFJs learn from Fi users? 17:02 This is the best word to describe an INFJ. 19:19 How do you define yourself? Does that shape your identity? We discuss INFJ insight and foresight, which then leads into a conversation about how trauma shapes us. 30:23 How does an INFJ experience their Ni as opposed to an INTJ? 33:44 A distinction between Fi and Fe 34:59 Can you give us an example of using your Introverted Intuition (Ni) on a day-to-day basis? 38:58 Realising that people aren’t as deep as you think they are. 40:06 Were you ever confused as to whether you were an INFP or INFJ? If so, how did you realise you were an INFJ? 43:39 Is it insolence if I tell people what their MBTI type is even if they get bothered by it? 45:40 Do you think we can consciously develop our 5th to 8th functions? 52:46 Do very easy tasks stress you out? 53:17 What’s something you dislike admitting to be wrong about? 53:34 Which types do you tend to best get along with? 55:17 What don’t you understand about ESFPs? 58:40 What are some INFJ stereotypes that you relate to and are there some that you’ve never personally experienced? 1:01:34 Do you like being the unpaid therapist? 1:03:18 How do you deal with being overstimulated by sensory experiences? 1:05:01 Can an INFJ become like an ESTP? 1:07:50 Why do INFJs have a martyr complex? 1:08:28 What types are you the most attracted to romantically and why? 1:12:14 Why do INFJs have poor Se in terms of body/action, but good Se in terms of style? 1:14:48 Ni doms don’t seem to experience anxiety issues. Is there a reason? 1:16:14 What’s the easiest tell between an INFJ and an ISFJ? 1:19:12 Be honest, do you have a superiority complex? 1:20:54 What is something about MBTI that you think a lot of people gloss over? 1:23:39 Could you tell us a little bit about the book you’re writing? 1:25:33 What is one thing you’ve learned about yourself in writing this book? 1:26:34 What is your pitch for Enneagram? Is it worth looking into for people who haven’t? 1:30:15 If you could choose one thing to tell the MBTI community about INFJs, what would it be?

    1h 36m

  3. 04/06/2024

    Dear Kristin 5: MBTI and trauma - Is there a link? Unpacking trauma and MBTI tests, type and treatment, and much more

    Welcome back to the pod! Today, we dive into a heavier topic as I unpack the topics of trauma and MBTI, featuring questions from Cindy, Jackie and Tully. We explore the links between trauma and MBTI test results, type and treatment, trauma symptoms and healing, as well as some personal stories from myself. Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional.  Ask me a question for the pod: https://hellodearkristin.com/contact Leave a comment on this video: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpq6dbOAv1f6W2EPpb4OY5A Main YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/dearkristin Instagram: @dear.kristin Theme music by Restless Mosaic.

    42 min

  4. 03/04/2024

    Wedding planning as an ESFP: What I learned about myself

    Hey everyone, welcome back to the pod! Today I talk about some of the various things I learned about myself as an ESFP during the wedding planning process. Enjoy! If you'd like to leave a comment on this episode, please check out the same episode on the LNS YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@literallynosubtextwithdear2971 Looking for a crash course on the 8 cognitive functions related to MBTI? Check out the following videos: My video: https://youtu.be/uzNWdRgGdJg Frank James' video on the functions: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fUOkMm43hGM LiJo's: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ViwFzX5uDWg Aimee Y's: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9xf13VRNPp8 Theme music by Restless Mosaic.

    52 min

  5. 10/07/2023

    Unpacking the ENTJ personality (feat. Allison Ramsey)

    Join me today as I unpack the ENTJ personality with a special guest! Allison Ramsey is the best-selling author of the Redefine book (www.empirelifeacademy.com/book) and the Founder of Empire Life, Coaching and Mentoring Company. At Empire Life, Female Founders are Guided in Scaling Their Empires. Allison is also a Mom and Dog Mom to Mars, her doberman. She also hosts the Empire Life Podcast, which broadcasts interviews with mega-successful empire builders from all around the world. With private clients, Empire Life guides clients in business strategy, structure, community building, authentic sales in scaling the technical infrastructure for membership sites, systems, raising prices, confidence, automation, sales funnels and scales momentum with Facebook and Google Ads (textbook ENTJ, amiright?). The Empire Life Blog has tons of exposure and engagement every day as well. Allison is also an international speaker on women in entrepreneurship, business, leadership, and business partnerships. She enjoys spending time with her loved ones, and working out in her free time. Female coaches and female-led businesses who have implemented Empire Life's business strategies have seen an increase in client leads, monthly income (often a 20X increase from when they started with Empire Life’s support), and client retention after having Empire Life Mentorship. Website: www.empirelifeacademy.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/allisonrmy www.instagram.com/empirelifeacademy Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/allisonramseyco/ X: https://twitter.com/Allison__Ramsey Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiJSVhz5kEuLMkbZDMIpBsw Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/2dyMUbwo1PG5lHMC3qNUGO?si=3fe6ff477d4641ba My links: YouTube: www.youtube.con/dearkristin https://www.youtube.com/@literallynosubtextwithdear2971 Instagram: @dear.kristin Website: www.hellodearkristin.com   Music by Restless Mosaic.

    1h 4m

  6. 09/06/2023

    Dear Kristin 4: Unpacking my time in Korea, thoughts on INFJs, why extraverts get tired of people

    In today's "Dear Kristin" episode, I share some vulnerable thoughts and experiences from my time in Korea, amongst other type-relate questions. Thank you to Chris S, Haleemah, Nicola, Casey, Emaryllis and Ellie for submitting the questions for this one. Grab a cuppa and let's dive in! TIME STAMPS: 1:44 Question from Chris Stockton: What’s your advice for using MBTI as a tool whilst creating characters in creative writing?  5:21 From Haleemah: Do you find yourself constantly typing people in your personal life? 7:32 From Haleemah: What has your experience been like with INFJs?  13:52 From Nicola: What was your experience in Korea like and why did you leave? 30:40 From Casey: What are some questions that you can ask people to get a sense of how they are perceiving and judging information? 34:17 From Emaryllis: I’m pretty sure I’m an ENTP, but why do I get tired from human interaction all the time? 38:25 From Ellie: What is the right thing to say to an Fi dom when they are talking to me about their feelings? (From a Ti dom) PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/dearkristin SUBMIT A QUESTION: https://hellodearkristin.com/contact My YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/dearkristin My instagram: @dear.kristin   Music by Restless Mosaic.

    47 min

  7. 08/07/2023

    I’m engaged! Discussing my relationship with my ENTJ fiancé ❤️

    Yes, I am engaged and so so happy about it! Today, in an absolute first for the pod, I discuss my romantic relationship with my ENTJ fiancé! Join with a cuppa as I answer your questions about ESFP / ENTJ compatibility, my thoughts on love and relationships, how we resolve conflict, how our functions play out and much more! Note: I received Andrew's permission to discuss our relationship openly. 😊 Links: Subscribe to the Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/dearkristin Become a YouTube member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5XC9aaEks0YAR2z55C62Og/join Leave a comment on this episode via the pod's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@literallynosubtextwithdear2971 Instagram: @dear.kristin Main YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@dearkristin ⌛ T I M E S T A M P S : 1:24 How did you two meet? An ENTJ and ESFP meeting must have been fun 3:49 Is your fiance Catholic? 4:15 Does your fiance also partake in the Te tone? Also what are your thoughts on MBTI? 5:45 Do you think if you were still in your prime you would have been more picky? 6:02 Was the ESFP/ENTJ interaction in the speed dating video based off something that happened in real life? 7:02 Where will you go to get married? 7:08 Have you chosen a date for the wedding? 7:22 What role plays faith in your relationship? 8:10 How involved are you in his plan to overtake Greece? 8:22 What other types have you dated before choosing your ultimate winner? 8:52 How and when did the both of you become official/start dating? Also, is it weird that I don't believe in type compatibility, that it all depends on the persons' true selves and how they grow and develop with each other?  9:37 How close is he to the ENTJ you've created on this channel? Was he an inspiration for this character in the last videos? Also, Feeler and Thinker pair - some tips, that help you understand each other better? Also, what helps him to deal with your spontaneity, and what helps you deal with his planning? Also, does he like MBTI? Will he help you in creating content? Will we see him in your videos? 16:45 How has it been introducing your fiancé into your family? 18:02 I can see you two connecting on the Fi-Te axis, but how do you navigate the S-N difference? Has it come up much? 21:58 Will you leave/take a break from Youtube after getting married?  22:33 Will baby shark be playing at the reception? 22:44 What are your enneagram types? 23:02 How did he propose? Did you discuss it beforehand and how? 24:44 Who fell in love first? How did you fall in love with each other? 27:09 Will he appear in any of your skits? 27:25 How did you type him as an ENTJ? 28:59 In what ways are you defying the stereotypes? 30: 54 Do social celebrations such as engagement and marriage mean anything to an ENTJ? 32:21 What does he like about ESFPs? 33:07 Did you introduce him to MBTI, or had he already heard of it? 33:28 Thoughts on free will and moral responsibility? 33:56 Do you think communication is easier because you have the same cognitive functions? 37:02 In what ways does your fiance balance you out? 40:01 Do you stalkers leave you alone now that they know you’re engaged? 40:21 Best and hardest thing about having an ENTJ as a fiance? 45:56 What does the ideal date look like to both of you? 46:57 Do you feel like style preferences re wedding venue/dresses etc have anything to do with personality type? 47:27 What are the scariest parts about engagement? 48:50 What did your siblings say when you announced your engagement? 50:22 Other than therapy, how does one reduce their toxicity? It’s so hard! 52:49 What, if anything, are you to on complete polar opposite sides within a specific issue? 54:17 How similar and in what ways is he similar to your ENTJ dad? 55:15 Has knowing MBTI so well helped your ability to communicate well? Or has it hindered? 47:25 How has knowing MBTI helped you grow in your faith? 57:45 How often do y’all actively use cognitive function language as a tool for resolving conflicts? 57:54 How does your fiance feed/compliment your energy? 58:45 Does MBTI play a role in your compatibility, or is it mostly other factors? 59:31 What’s the most surprising thing that you’ve learned about yourself being in this relationship? 1:01:52 Did you ever try to look for/date someone of a type compatible with yours? 1:02:11 What have you learned about relationships through dating him? 1:02:50 What were some of your preconceptions about ENTJs that have been proven wrong? 1:03:27 How do you handle conflicts? 1:05:11 Any advice for successful long-term relationships? 1:07:03 How did you know that he was the one? Music by Restless Mosaic.

    1h 13m

  8. 06/22/2023

    10 things I wish I knew in my twenties

    On today's episode, I'm reminiscing un-scripted on 10 of the lessons that I learned in my 20s. 💜 Watch on YouTube (main channel): https://youtu.be/OsS_VbbJ8kc Listen on YouTube (podcast channel): https://youtu.be/IACi3eRTTLI Jordan Peterson reference: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Cg2OEoMlZd-/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= Instagram: @dear.kristin Music by Restless Mosaic.

    40 min
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