Live Brighter With Tara

Tara Wolfe Schaan
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Have you experienced an emotionally or religiously destructive relationship? This community encourages you to Living Brighter 1% at a time. I'm Tara, Christian Life Coach and two times psych ward attendee from a destructive relationship.

  1. 5d ago

    131. Learning to Trust Yourself Again: Faith, Healing & Finding Your Voice (With Sarah J. Thiessen and Heather Hughes)

    In this personal episode, the tables are turned as Sarah J. Thiessen and Heather Hughes interview me about the experiences that shaped who I am today. I share parts of my journey through a destructive marriage, emotional and spiritual abuse, psychiatric hospitalization, losing trust in myself, and the beliefs about faith and kindness that kept me trying harder instead of recognizing what was happening. We talk about what eventually changed, how I began rebuilding my life, and why learning to listen to my emotions, establish boundaries, love myself, and trust God differently became such an important part of my healing. I also share how that journey led me to life coaching, hypnotherapy, Hope Harbor Transitional Living, and eventually Splankna. Sarah, Heather, and I explore what it means to move from overly kind to empowered kindness—loving others without abandoning yourself in the process.   Splankna Podcast Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@UCtsxg9yQ6Jr2wb1f4G1LBew    THINKING TIME: https://www.livebrighter.info/thinking-time   Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection   Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/   Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L   PODCAST CHAPTERS: 00:00 Tara's Journey to Coaching and Splankna 05:05 Understanding Emotional and Spiritual Abuse 07:29 The Impact of Misdiagnosis and Mental Health 18:57 The Role of Faith in Healing and Recovery 29:26 Discovering Splunkna and Its Transformative Power 32:45 Significant Shifts and Trusting Oneself 36:24 The Gentle Approach to Healing 40:33 Empowered Kindness and Overly Kind Dynamics 49:34 Literature on Kindness and Boundaries 56:13 Listening to the Holy Spirit and Practicing Trust Follow us on our Socials!  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/ Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!   self abandonment, how to trust yourself again, losing yourself in a relationship, emotional abuse, spiritual abuse, religious abuse, Christian relationships, unhealthy Christian marriage, people pleasing, Christian people pleasing, overly kind, empowered kindness, when being too kind hurts you, finding your voice, learning to trust yourself, emotional healing, faith and healing, Christian healing journey, healing with God, relationship with God, boundaries for Christians, Christian boundaries, healthy self love, self love and Christianity, emotional abuse recovery, healing from emotional abuse, rebuilding your life, breaking unhealthy patterns, generational patterns, listening to your emotions, mind body connection, Splankna, Splankna therapy, Sarah J Thiessen, Heather Hughes, Holy Spirit healing, listening to the Holy Spirit, personal growth, Christian personal growth,  #SelfAbandonment #EmotionalHealing #PeoplePleasing #EmpoweredKindness #FaithAndHealing #EmotionalAbuse #ChristianHealing #SelfTrust #PersonalGrowth #LiveBrighterWithTara

  2. Aug 31

    130. The Art of Healthy Friendship: How to Build Deeper, More Meaningful Relationships

    Healthy friendships don't just make life more enjoyable—they matter for our emotional and physical well-being. In this episode of Live Brighter with Tara, Tara explores what makes adult friendship healthy, why meaningful relationships can become harder to build as we get older, and how we can intentionally create deeper connection. She shares lessons about healing from friendship hurt, trusting gradually, mutuality, honesty, conflict and repair, and learning not to abandon yourself simply to belong. You'll also hear practical ways to cultivate friendships where you can both know and be known, while making room for different kinds of relationships throughout different seasons of life. Friendship takes work—but meaningful connection is worth cultivating. THINKING TIME: https://www.livebrighter.info/thinking-time Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/ Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L PODCAST CHAPTERS: 00:00 Why Friendships Matter More Than You Think 03:28 Healing From Friendship Hurt, Loss & Betrayal 07:16 Codependency & One-Sided Friendships 09:52 What Makes a Friendship Truly Healthy? 12:50 Friendship Red Flags & How to Build Trust 17:18 How Healthy Conflict Creates Deeper Connection 19:25 How to Build Stronger, More Meaningful Friendships   Follow us on our Socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/   Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!    Tags: #Friendship #AdultFriendships #HealthyRelationships #MeaningfulConnections #FriendshipAdvice #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #ChristianLiving #LiveBrighterWithTara   adult friendships, healthy friendships, how to make friends as an adult, why friendships get harder as you get older, how to build deeper friendships, meaningful friendships, healthy friendship signs, friendship advice, female friendships, friendship and mental health, friendship and longevity, importance of friendship, how to find your people, how to make close friends, how to deepen friendships, building trust in friendship, friendship betrayal, healing from friendship betrayal, friendship breakup, losing a friend, how to trust friends again, one sided friendship, mutual friendship, toxic friendship signs, friendship red flags, healthy relationship skills, conflict in friendship, how to repair a friendship, loneliness, feeling lonely, adult loneliness, connection and belonging, people pleasing in friendships, self abandonment, how to stop people pleasing, Christian friendship, faith and relationships, personal growth, self awareness, Live Brighter with Tara, Tara Wolfe Schaan

  3. Aug 17

    129. The Hidden Cost of Busyness: When Productivity Becomes a Coping Mechanism

    Busyness is often praised—but what happens when productivity becomes a way of avoiding ourselves?   In this episode of Live Brighter with Tara, join me as I explore busyness as an often-overlooked coping mechanism and the emotional, physical, and relational costs of constantly operating at full capacity.   I also shared personal lessons about grief, self-reflection, and learning that being highly productive isn't necessarily the same as being healthy. We will also explore why quiet can feel uncomfortable, what our emotions may be trying to tell us, and how creating more margin can help us live with greater intention.   You'll learn practical ways to incorporate micro-pauses, restorative rest, and regular thinking time into your life so you can reconnect with yourself, your relationships, and God.   This isn't about doing less. It's about becoming more intentional about how—and why—you live.   THINKING TIME: https://www.livebrighter.info/thinking-time Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/ Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L   PODCAST CHAPTERS: 00:35 The Hidden Cost of Busyness 02:34 Understanding Emotional Load and Grief 05:46 Why We Use Busyness to Cope and Avoid Emotions 08:32 The Physical and Emotional Cost of Chronic Busyness 11:28 Why Listening to Your Emotions Matters 12:47 Creating More Margin and Capacity in Your Life 14:07 Practical Pauses and Thinking Time  Follow us on our Socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/   Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!    #Busyness #EmotionalHealth #PersonalGrowth #IntentionalLiving #Burnout #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealing #MentalWellness #ChristianWomen #LiveBrighterWithTara

  4. Aug 3

    128. How Your Past Is Keeping You Stuck (And How to Create a New Future) | Healing Masterclass Part 2

    Healing Masterclass Part 2 is here! If you joined me for Healing Masterclass Part 1, welcome back. In this next chapter, we're taking the healing journey even deeper.   Many of us aren't stuck because we lack motivation—we're stuck because unresolved experiences continue shaping how we think, react, relate, and dream. In this Healing Masterclass, we're bringing together three foundational conversations that explore how healing begins by understanding the past, recognizing unhealthy patterns, and intentionally creating a different future.   In this masterclass you'll learn: ✨ Why emotional triggers often point to deeper wounds ✨ How unresolved experiences shape adult relationships ✨ Why we unknowingly repeat unhealthy emotional patterns ✨ How to identify the beliefs keeping you stuck ✨ The importance of healing your past instead of simply coping with it ✨ How to begin dreaming again and intentionally create a healthier future   Healing isn't about pretending the past didn't happen. It's about understanding it, learning from it, and choosing not to let it define the rest of your story.   Whether you're continuing from Healing Masterclass Part 1 or this is your first episode, I hope this conversation encourages you to understand yourself with compassion and move toward lasting freedom.   Live Brighter—one step at a time.   Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/ Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L   PODCAST CHAPTERS: Part 1 00:00 All about Triggers and Trauma 01:20 Trauma as part of the Human Experience: Big T and Little T Traumas. 04:10 Triggers and how energy and emotion gets locked up in our bodies 05:20 Triggers as an opportunity for growth 06:18 What do we do with our Trauma and Triggers?   Part 2 0:26 Why We Form Patterns: How your brain shaped your survival strategies 12:10 Spotting the Signs: Becoming aware of your unconscious patterns 13:37 Childhood on Repeat: How early coping shows up in adult life 16:14 Mind-Body Check-In: Noticing what your body is telling you 17:37 Emotional Awareness: Feeling deeply and choosing your next step 19:56 Guided Exercise: Nurturing your inner child and rewriting the story   Part 3 24:05 Transforming Past Experiences into Hope 26:47 The Importance of Dreaming and Visualization 28:17 Ways to grow our Dreams 29:49 Taking Ownership and Action towards our Dreams   Follow us on our Socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/    Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!   Keywords: healing masterclass heal your past healing childhood trauma emotional healing, trauma healing, emotional triggers, relationship patterns, breaking unhealthy patterns, repeating emotional patterns childhood wounds, rewrite your story, personal growth, healing journey, how to heal emotionally, how to stop repeating patterns, healing from trauma, understanding triggers, self awareness, self worth, limiting beliefs, healing relationships, dream again, hope after trauma, Christian healing, faith and healing, Live Brighter   Tags: #EmotionalHealing #HealingJourney #PersonalGrowth #ChildhoodTrauma #TraumaHealing #SelfGrowth #MentalHealth #ChristianPodcast #FaithAndHealing #SelfAwareness #LiveBrighterWithTara

  5. Jul 20

    127. Understanding Why We Repeat Unhealthy Patterns

    Why do so many of us continue repeating the same unhealthy patterns—even when we genuinely want to change? In this special Live Brighter with Tara masterclass, Tara brings together three conversations that reveal a powerful healing journey: 🌱 How childhood experiences shape our beliefs and identity 🌱 Why we often cope instead of truly heal 🌱 What it takes to grow beyond old patterns and step into lasting freedom If you've ever wondered why change feels so difficult, this episode offers practical insight, hope, and encouragement that healing is possible. In this masterclass you'll discover: ✨ How childhood influences adulthood ✨ Why coping isn't the same as healing ✨ Breaking unhealthy emotional patterns ✨ The importance of processing emotions ✨ Growing into the person you were created to become ✨ Practical steps toward emotional and spiritual growth   Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or continuing to grow, this conversation will encourage you to take your next step. 🎙️ Live Brighter—one step at a time. Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/ Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L   PODCAST CHAPTERS: 00:17 Core needs as a Child and Stories we make as a Child 01:53 How the stories we experience and tell ourselves play out 04:08 Our lifeguards and Lawyers in our Brains 06:49 How Ideas and Beliefs affects our Relationships and Goals 07:48 Power of an Adult: We have the ability to change and how 11:11 Why do we avoid our feelings and how coping helps us avoid our problems 15: 59 Facing our Feelings: The Importance of stillness 17:26 Practical steps to process emotions 19:20 Valuing ourselves: the path to healing and support 22:35 Understanding our Soil: Childhood influences 24:56 Embracing our Unique Seeds 29:15 Nurturing our Growth: Water and Love  31:38 Basking in Sunshine: Spiritual Connection 33: 08 The importance of Time in Growth   Follow us on our Socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/   Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!   Keywords: feeling stuck in life, emotionally exhausted, can't move forward healing after trauma, finding yourself again, healing your inner child, emotional burnout, low self worth, fear of change, breaking generational patterns, finding purpose, identity struggles, people pleasing recovery, learning to love yourself, healing shame

  6. Jul 6

    126. Finding Freedom Through Healing, Growth, and Faith

    What does it really mean to live free? In this episode of Live Brighter with Tara, Tara explores how our relationship with ourselves, our past, and our relationship with God all shape our ability to live authentically and experience true freedom. Using the analogy of a light bulb, Tara shares how healing begins when we learn to care for ourselves, process our past, challenge limiting beliefs, and reconnect with the source of lasting hope and purpose. In this episode: ✨ Why freedom begins with your relationship with yourself ✨ How an unprocessed past continues to shape your life ✨ Breaking limiting beliefs that keep you stuck ✨ The importance of taking ownership of your story ✨ Finding lasting freedom through your relationship with God If you've ever felt like something has been holding you back, this conversation offers hope, perspective, and practical steps toward living more freely. 🎙️ Listen now and start living brighter—one step at a time.   Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/ Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L   PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS: 00:00 The Story of Patience Lovell Wright and Espionage 02:44 Understanding Freedom and Self-Image 04:37 Processing the Past for Growth 10:52 Taking Ownership of Our Stories 15:54 The Power of Forgiveness and Relationship with God   Follow us on our Socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/   Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!     #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalHealing #HealingJourney #Freedom #ChristianPodcast #FaithAndHealing #LiveBrighterWithTara

  7. Jun 22

    125. Overcoming Self-Abandonment and Learning to Love Yourself

    In this episode of Live Brighter with Tara, Tara explores the journey of healing from self-abandonment and learning how to reconnect with yourself. Through her personal story, she discusses how people-pleasing, suppressing emotions, avoiding conflict, and ignoring boundaries can impact our mental, emotional, and physical well-being. This conversation explores finding your voice, honoring your emotions, creating healthier boundaries, and learning to love others without losing yourself.   Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection   Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/   Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L   PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS: 00:46 How Being "Too Kind" Can Lead to Self-Abandonment 04:23 Understanding Your Emotions and Reconnecting With Yourself 11:23 Finding Your Voice and Learning to Speak Up 15:35 Setting Healthy Boundaries and Breaking Self-Abandonment Patterns 21:20 Taking Back Your Responsibility and Personal Growth 24:07 How Culture and Society Encourage Self-Abandonment 29:09 Learning Self-Love Without Losing Your Kindness 30:57 Healing and Returning Back to Yourself   Follow us on our Socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/   Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!   #SelfAbandonment #PeoplePleasing #EmotionalHealing #Boundaries #HealingJourney #LiveBrighterWithTara

  8. Jun 8

    124. Understanding Shame, Healing, and Finding Freedom

    In this episode of Live Brighter with Tara, Tara explores the impact shame can have on our emotional health, relationships, and ability to connect with ourselves and others. Through personal experiences and reflection, Tara discusses why shame often causes us to hide, the difference between guilt and shame, and how healing begins when we bring our struggles into a safe and compassionate space. This conversation explores acceptance, forgiveness, self-compassion, faith, and the journey toward greater emotional freedom. Get Your FREE Unravel Notebook Chapter for This Week: https://www.livebrighter.info/lead-collection Book your FREE consultation HERE: https://www.livebrighter.info/ Get the Unravel Notebook HERE: https://www.amazon.com/Unravel-Notebook-Tara-Wolfe-Schaan/dp/B0CTPDWJ8L   PODCAST CHAPTERS: 01:52 Understanding the Impact of Shame 03:01 The Nature of Shame and Its Consequences 05:39 The Path to Healing: Acceptance 07:26 The Path to Healing: Sharing 10:40 The Path to Healing: Embracing God's and our forgiveness 11:49 The Path to Healing: Compassion 12:48 Finding Freedom from Shame Follow us on our Socials! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/livebrighterwithtara/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Live-Brighter-with-Tara/61552844352218/   Grow 1% each day, I believe in you! Thank you for Listening!   #ShameHealing #EmotionalHealing #MentalHealth #FaithAndHealing #SelfCompassion #HealingJourney #LiveBrighterWithTara

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Have you experienced an emotionally or religiously destructive relationship? This community encourages you to Living Brighter 1% at a time. I'm Tara, Christian Life Coach and two times psych ward attendee from a destructive relationship.

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  • Creator
    Tara Wolfe Schaan
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    146
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2023
  • Show Website
    Live Brighter With Tara