Living Musically

Kyle Mazur

Welcome to the Living Musically podcast, I’m Kyle. I’d like to start this first episode by talking a little bit about what this podcast is about. We live in a crazy world. There are so many negative factors that affect our lives. Fear, consumerism, politics, our job, the list goes on. I’ve realized when either performing or practicing, those factors just don’t exist in my mind. That’s not to say they’re gone completely, but music is able to free me for just a little while. I’ve realized that music is a way to quiet my mind from that inner voice that tells me how much of a failure I am, that I’m going to go completely in debt and live in a box under some bridge like some ugly old bridge troll. As you can see my inner voice is not the nicest. I’ve learned to take the concepts and feelings that come over me as I’m performing and practicing and utilize them in everyday life to truly live musically. Over the next weeks and months I’ll be releasing episodes with some of my thoughts and hopefully show you how to live more musically and escape the craziness of the world. In the end I hope to help you live a more meaningful and maybe even a simpler life. I don’t want you to think that you need to be a musician to put these ideas into place. These ideas will simply calm your mind so that you can more accurately process your thoughts in a more meaningful and helpful way. Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss any of the upcoming episodes. I look forward to taking this journey with you. I’ll see you soon. Peace

Episodes

  1. 05/19/2020

    Episode 9 Community

    Welcome back to the Living Musically Podcast.  We’ve talked about how ego plays a negative role in life and in music.  I think it’s important to talk about the opposite.  Thinking of the group as a whole. We are in an interesting time.  As Covid-19 continues to spread throughout our world, we have been told by numerous experts to cover our faces when out in public.  The reason for the covering is not to prevent you from getting the virus yourself, but to prevent you from spreading it to others.  Yet while out there are so many people not wearing masks. I am originally from NY and still have friends living there, so I have followed New York’s fight with the virus rather carefully.  In a recent press conference the Governor, Andrew Cuomo said the following: “It’s disrespectful to the nurses, the doctors, the people who have been frontline workers.  You wear the mask not for yourself, you wear the mask for me.  It’s a sign of respect to other people… you know how you show love? By wearing a mask… Just be responsible and show respect.  I don’t think that’s too much for us to ask of one another.  That’s a basic common decency in this situation.” When the CDC first recommended face coverings several weeks ago, President Trump said he wouldn’t wear one.  Several weeks later the vice president visited the Mayo Clinic and refused to wear one because he’s “tested regularly”. During this pandemic, we must all work together and get on the same page to win.  Sadly, people are unwilling to do what’s right for everyone because it makes their lives more difficult.  By going against the experts' advice, we are only prolonging the virus and putting more people at risk. When I was in High School I fell in love with choral music.  We had an amazing choir.  We did foreign and domestic tours.  While I was in the choir we toured through Sweden.  I always look back on that experience because it taught me so much.  I remember my first year.  It amazed me that there were 80 people of different color, race, social group, cheerleaders, football players, musicians, not musicians, math whizzes, history buffs literally everything.  For 42 minutes, 5 days a week and 2.5 hours every monday night we were all there working to accomplish the same goal. To make music. My second year in that group, my father passed away.  People that I had never talked to in that group reached out to me, called me, came to the visitation and funeral.  Making music together connected us in a way that most people don’t connect in our world.  Every person in that room throughout my years were like family.   Whether you sing or not, everyone should sing in a choir.  To be a successful choir, you need to be able to listen to the person next to you and blend with them.  If one person sticks out in a choir, it’s not a choir.  You need to be able to listen to the person next to you, listen to the volume that they’re singing, the vowel that they’re singing and the pitch they’re singing and match them.  Not to mention there’s a person on the other side of you, and in front of you, and behind you.   The backbone to Living Musically is it’s never about you.  You are essential to the process, but you are also completely replaceable.  Over the years I have gotten rid of my smart watch and replaced it with a “dumb watch” one that has no batteries but operates with a series of gears and springs.  Everything in that watch needs to work together to keep the right time.  If one piece is out of sync, it won’t keep good time.  Living in our community is the same.  When we have a gear or a spring that isn’t working to achieve the same goal, that goal becomes far more...

    5 min
  2. 05/12/2020

    Episode 8 Ego

    Welcome back to the Living Musically Podcast.  Today’s topic is one that I have fought all of my life.  It seems no matter where I go and find myself in a bad situation someone’s ego is always at the heart of the matter. Ego is an unhealthy belief in our own importance.   What causes egotism?  Ironically, a lack of self esteem can cause egotism.  As a defense mechanism the ego steps up and makes up for the lack of self esteem.  Issues arise when it goes too far. I think there needs to be a healthy balance of ego and humbleness.  Not enough ego and you have low self esteem.  Too much ego and you’ll be surrounded by problems and negativity. It’s almost like driving a stick shift car.  You need to know how to lift off the clutch and push the gas.  Too much gas and you rev the engine, but if you let off the clutch too fast you stall.  Too much Ego is like revving the engine, and it can send you spiraling out of control, spouting lies and trying to cover your mistakes.  Unfortunately, we see this way too often in our world.  However if you don’t have enough ego, you will stall and never get anywhere because your low self esteem will consume you and paralyze you from making any progress. Starting this podcast has been a great example of trying to find balance.  In general, I have pretty low self esteem.  On top of that, I’m also worried about losing control over my ego and becoming what I hate, an egomaniac.  So, I focus on preventing my ego from trying to balance out my low self esteem.  Because of this, my low self esteem likes to point out things like I’m not really a recording engineer and have no business recording, who am I to think that I have a message to share, you get the picture.  So I have had to let a little bit of ego in to balance that out to share my story and hopefully help all of you listening. As a music teacher, I have to find the balance with my students as well.  A lot of the techniques I teach require me to convince my students that they can do it first.  It’s feeding their ego but in a productive, responsible manner.   If I introduce a concept by saying “This is nearly impossible” the chance of success is nearly 0.  It’s like the Henry Ford quote “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t -- you’re right”  Going in knowing you can do something is most of the battle. I had a voice student who wanted to develop a natural vibrato while singing and then learn how to control it.  It’s very typical for singers.  The problem was she was so self conscious of how she sounded that she couldn’t focus on the technique I was trying to teach her.  Her inner voice kept saying “There’s no vibrato there you’re never going to get this.  It took time, but I eventually found a way to distract her inner voice that was driving down her self esteem and encourage her ego enough to relax her and all of a sudden she mastered the technique. CEO Harold Geneen said “The egotist does not stumble about, knocking things off his desk.  He does not stammer or drool.  No, instead he becomes more and more arrogant, and some people not knowing what is underneath such an attitude mistake this arrogance for a sense of power and self confidence.” This quote I think sums up our president Donald Trump.  It doesn’t matter your political stance, it is very clear that Donald Trump is driven by his own ego.  Over the years, his ego has given him a sense of self power and self confidence.  In fact he wouldn’t be in this position without ego.  His ego has not only fueled his presidential bid but has fueled his followers.  He has used his egotism to feed the ego of his supporters to gain support.  That has brought him to his current position as...

    8 min
  3. 05/05/2020

    Healing Meditation

    Welcome back to the Living Musically Podcast.  Today’s episode we are going to be using meditation to heal our bodies.   The beginning part of this meditation is one that I typically use at the beginning of my meditations and that’s a self check.  We’ll take a close look at each part of our bodies and try to feel and listen to what they’re telling us. Sometimes we can feel pain or tension sometimes we won’t feel anything.  All we are doing is taking note of what we feel at each part.  As I concentrate on each section I can sometimes feel a tingling sensation as I focus.  Other people might feel different things. There is no right or wrong feeling. As you focus on your body, notice if it’s warm or cold.  You might notice that there is pain. Also notice if there is tension. If there is tension try to relax the tension. What you might find is that your tension in one area might be related to another area of your body. Let’s begin our meditation: Get into a comfortable position.  You can sit, stand or lie down. You can close your eyes or not. Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Let your breath return to normal Bring your attention to your left foot Focus on your toes to start now, move to your whole foot.   Now move up to your shin and calf. Move up to your thigh  Now take a full inventory of your left leg as a whole Now move to your right foot and start at your toes.  Now move up to your foot, your shin and calf, your thigh Now move to your glutes start with your left glute.  And now your right Now i’m going to ask you to engage the muscles in your lower body and relax.  Each time you relax. I want you to imagine your legs sinking down deeper in to the chair or bed each time you...

    15 min
  4. 04/28/2020

    Nature and Meditation

    Welcome back to another Living Musically Podcast.  We are going to continue looking at meditation. This is similar to the meditation we did last week where we looked at noting.  This meditation is going to focus on sound. I like doing this meditation outside during a walk or just sitting in my backyard. You can however do this meditation anywhere.  The goal is to focus only on sound. Your brain will likely jump in and try to flash images and force you to do other things. But try and focus on just sound. Maybe a bird chirping, or a car passing by.  Maybe it’s raining. Maybe it’s perfectly still and silent. Silence has its own sound. Let’s begin Take a deep breath Exhale Take a deep breath Exhale Take a deep breath Exhale Take a deep breath Exhale Take a deep breath Exhale Keep focused on the sounds surrounding you Thank you for listening to today’s podcast.  If you haven’t subscribed yet please do so. Make sure you share this with a friend that might benefit.  I’ll talk to you next week. Peace Twitter: https://twitter.com/LivingMusically Website: http://livingmusicallypodcast.com/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/living-musically/id1503086056 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2Ft9iRsYddDs6hzJmlwVXL Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5jYXB0aXZhdGUuZm0vbGl2aW5nLW11c2ljYWxseS1wb2RjYXN0Lw All Podcast Subscription Links: https://living-musically-podcast.captivate.fm/listen

    11 min
  5. 04/21/2020

    Noting and Meditation

    Welcome back to the Living Musically Podcast.  We are going to continue talking about meditation today.  Meditation is really an essential part to Living Musically.  Your inner voice can be such a distraction and cause many issues.  Once we have the ability to control it everything else becomes much easier. Today’s meditation is going to introduce a concept called noting.  You have probably found that as you meditate, your mind brings up random thoughts.  We are going to embrace those thoughts as they come in. We are also going to try and categorize them as they come in.  If we go back to prior meditations, we have used focus points like the breath and touch points. Today we are going to use the thoughts themselves as focus points. The goal with today’s meditation is to imagine these like files coming across your desk.  Your job is not to file them, but to decide which file they go in. You won’t be putting them in that file, you’re just marking them.  The goal is to mark it and have it leave your mind as quickly as you can. So maybe a thought comes in about the dinner you’re going to make.  I would call this “planning”, you can call it whatever you want. Once you note what kind of thought is, put it aside for the next thought. The next thought you might wonder what goes through a squirrel’s mind when it chews a nut and suddenly stops.  That I would just categorize as “thinking”. Once you note it, let it leave your mind and wait for the next thought to arise. The most important part about this exercise is to not linger on the thought. Note it, and move on. This is different from our other meditations where we tried to prevent thoughts from happening and focusing on something else.  We are now letting the brain have thoughts but not letting it linger on those thoughts. Let’s begin For this meditation you may sit,stand or lie down whatever makes you comfortable.  You can close your eyes or leave them open. Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Take a deep breath in Exhale Let your breath return to normal Now let thoughts enter your mind.  As the enter give them a label and let them move on.  It is not your job to file them in the correct place, you just give them a name and wait for the next thought. Try not to linger on a thought.  Label it as quickly as you...

    9 min
  6. 04/14/2020

    Episode 4 Meditation for Anxiety

    Welcome back to the Living Musically Podcast.  My name is Kyle. Last week, I introduced you to meditation by doing 2 short meditations.  Today we’re going to do a longer meditation. This one is one I use when my anxiety is getting the better of me. Before we get to the meditation I would just like to review some of the things we talked about in the last episode.  You need something to focus on.  Last week I gave you two options one was the breath and the other was a contact point.  I suggested focusing on achieving the lightest pressure between your index finger and thumb.This is more important than your focus choice.  You need to recognize when your brain abandons your focus point.  The goal in meditation is not to stay focused, but recognize when you have lost focus.  In the beginning you might not recognize it for several minutes, but the more you practice, the faster you will realize it.  Some days will be better than others. The important thing is to not get discouraged if you lose focus. You need to lose focus to get better.  Ultimately, once you realize that you have lost focus you can gather your focus back. Practicing that will make it easier for you to carry it over into your everyday life. Today’s meditation I would like to focus on gaining control over anxiety.  Typically when someone has an anxiety attack 2 main things happen. 1. Your mind races and 2. Your breathing increases.  So today’s meditation will focus on those two things In most meditations I encourage you to get comfortable, lay down, stand, sit, let you close your eyes or not.  I’m going to be a little bit more strict with this one. My hope is that if you are troubled with anxiety starting a meditation the same way will trigger a calming response quicker. While this meditation is meant for anxiety, you can use this meditation anytime now matter how you’re feeling.  In fact I’d encourage you to practice it. That way when you need it, it will be more familiar to you and more effective. Let’s begin: As I mentioned earlier I’m going to be a little more strict with this meditation in hopes that the beginning will help trigger a calming effect. Start by sitting in a chair.  Next close your eyes Take a deep breath in And exhale Take a deep breath in And exhale Take a deep breath in And exhale Take a deep breath in And exhale span style="background-color: transparent; color: rgb(0,

    11 min
  7. 04/07/2020

    Introduction to Meditation

    Welcome back to another Living Musically Podcast.  My name is Kyle. I hope you are all safe and healthy as Covid 19 continues to spread throughout our world.  Please continue to isolate yourself as much as possible in an effort to eradicate this disease quickly.   In this difficult time I thought it would be helpful to not just distract with content but talk about a way to help deal with the anxiety in a constructive manner.  One way is through meditation. Meditation has played an important role in helping me work through the negative voice in my brain.   I think there’s a misconception when a lot of people hear the word meditation.  They roll their eyes and think of some hippie type in the middle of the desert living on grubs, never taking a bath and chanting strange phrases while doing awkward yoga poses all in an effort to completely clear their mind and achieve some higher plain of thought. That’s a little too far out there to me first before I tell you my technique, let me discuss why I practice meditation.  Before I continue, I say “practice” meditation. I am by no means an expert or a master. I fail at it all the time, in fact the essence of my practice is to fail.  This is where Music comes into play. In order to get better, you have to fail. You can’t get better at anything if you already do it perfectly. That is the nature of practice.  The same is true for meditation. So for me the goal is not to achieve a clear mind, the goal is to recognize when my brain or the voice inside of my head tries to prevent me from having a clear mind, or stop me from focusing on what I want to be focusing on.  It’s an exercise to help you gain better control of your mind. What does meditation have to do with music?  For me, the negative voice in my head was so loud during performing it was distracting.  “You can’t sing in tune! Your vocal technique is terrible. You call THAT improvising?!”  By practicing meditating I learned techniques to redirect my focus away from that voice and into more productive thoughts to improve my performance.  You can do the same in your every day life. Before you begin you need to choose something to focus on.  Personally I like to focus on breathing to start. But, the more you meditate the more you realize that anything can be used in meditation.  Aside from breathing here are some other things you can use: Focusing on how lightly you can touch your thumb to your index finger, noticing the sound in the room, concentrating on your contact point to the ground, maybe your feet or your legs for example.  Sometimes I’ll even use the absence of focus as a meditation. The next thing you need to do is to get into a comfortable space.  You can sit, kneel, stand, lay down, it doesn’t matter. You want to be alert but comfortable.  The trick is to be comfortable enough to completely relax but alert enough to not fall asleep. In the beginning you focus on short times 2-3 minutes is enough to get started.  As you get more comfortable with the techniques, you can increase your time as you see fit.  I’d recommend in the beginning set a timer for 2-3...

    12 min
  8. 03/15/2020

    Introduction to Living Musically

    Welcome to the Living Musically podcast, I’m Kyle. I’d like to start this first episode by talking a little bit about what this podcast is about. We live in a crazy world. There are so many negative factors that affect our lives. Fear, consumerism, politics, our job, the list goes on. I’ve realized when either performing or practicing, those factors just don’t exist in my mind. That’s not to say they’re gone completely, but music is able to free me for just a little while. I’ve realized that music is a way to quiet my mind from that inner voice that tells me how much of a failure I am, that I’m going to go completely in debt and live in a box under some bridge like some ugly old bridge troll. As you can see my inner voice is not the nicest. I’ve learned to take the concepts and feelings that come over me as I’m performing and practicing and utilize them in everyday life to truly live musically. Over the next weeks and months I’ll be releasing episodes with some of my thoughts and hopefully show you how to live more musically and escape the craziness of the world. In the end I hope to help you live a more meaningful and maybe even a simpler life.   I don’t want you to think that you need to be a musician to put these ideas into place. These ideas will simply calm your mind so that you can more accurately process your thoughts in a more meaningful and helpful way. Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss any of the upcoming episodes. I look forward to taking this journey with you. I’ll see you soon. Peace

    2 min

About

Welcome to the Living Musically podcast, I’m Kyle. I’d like to start this first episode by talking a little bit about what this podcast is about. We live in a crazy world. There are so many negative factors that affect our lives. Fear, consumerism, politics, our job, the list goes on. I’ve realized when either performing or practicing, those factors just don’t exist in my mind. That’s not to say they’re gone completely, but music is able to free me for just a little while. I’ve realized that music is a way to quiet my mind from that inner voice that tells me how much of a failure I am, that I’m going to go completely in debt and live in a box under some bridge like some ugly old bridge troll. As you can see my inner voice is not the nicest. I’ve learned to take the concepts and feelings that come over me as I’m performing and practicing and utilize them in everyday life to truly live musically. Over the next weeks and months I’ll be releasing episodes with some of my thoughts and hopefully show you how to live more musically and escape the craziness of the world. In the end I hope to help you live a more meaningful and maybe even a simpler life. I don’t want you to think that you need to be a musician to put these ideas into place. These ideas will simply calm your mind so that you can more accurately process your thoughts in a more meaningful and helpful way. Please make sure you subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss any of the upcoming episodes. I look forward to taking this journey with you. I’ll see you soon. Peace