Be Subject to One Another Ephesians 5:21-6:9 by William Klock Yesterday our parish breakfast group discussed C. S. Lewis’ The Voyage of the Dawn Treader. In the story, Edmund and Lucy make their third visit to the magical land of Narnia, but they also take their cousin, Eustace, with them. And Eustace, he has no framework, no point of reference, no way to understand Narnia. Because Eustace came from a “progressive” family. He addressed his parents by their first names. He read books about factories and granaries, about modern industry and agriculture. The one bit of beauty in his home was a painting of a Narnian ship. His parents couldn’t bear it, but it had been a gift and they couldn’t get rid of it, so they hung it in a disused bedroom. Eustace couldn’t wrap his head around the idea of being in a land of kings and princesses, magic and dragons, and talking animals. All he can do in the first few chapters is scream for the British Consul, compare King Caspian’s beautiful dragon ship to modern steamships, and retreat from everyone. And, I think, if we had to understand God on our own, we’d be a lot like Eustace. We wouldn’t have the vocabulary, let alone the vision, to even think about God. When we saw the beauties of his creation, we could do nothing more than reduce it all to physics equations and chemical formulas. And so, Brothers and Sisters, God has spoken. He’s given us his word. (Imagine how much better off Eustace would have been had he read the Bible, the greatest of the “right books” he’d neglected.) God speaks, not only so that we can know him, but so that we can have the vocabulary and the mental—even the emotional—framework to begin to understand him. But, most importantly, his word has become incarnate: one of us. And in Jesus we meet and come to know God at our level: A God who knows our life, who is full of patience and love, mercy and grace, a God who is angry at the sin that has disrupted and broken his creation, a God who will justly judge wrong, but who is also humble and loving enough to die to redeem and to set right. In Jesus we meet concretely the God whom the Old Testament describes as King, as Father, as Husband. And then we realise that these relationships—things like king and father and husband—are relationships we understand, because God has established them as the foundational units of human life and society and particularly so the family: husband and wife, children and parents. And it’s in these relationships, even imperfect and damaged by our sins, it’s in them that we learn our first vocabulary for understanding and knowing—and trusting—God. It’s no wonder that the devil lies to us about sex, marriage, and family. The devil lies and tells us that sex is about personal gratification, not about mutual self-giving. And we believe the lie and sex becomes selfish. He lies and tells us that men and women are interchangeable, and so we create birth control and try to make women like men by robbing them of the defining feature of feminine biology: the ability to give birth to children. We start seeing God’s blessing of children as a negative “consequence” of sex. And we create HR departments staffed by women who try to quash all the things that make men men out of their male employees. And when we believe the lie of interchangeability, men have unnatural relations with men and women with women, undermining and rejecting the very purpose for which God created sex and rejecting his blessing upon us to be fruitful and to multiply. And if we keep believing the lie, as our culture has, we get ever more absurd, thinking that with surgery and with chemicals and by changing our pronouns, we can turn men into women and women into men. We reject the good story God has written for us, the one in which he’s given us the vocabulary of husband and wife, of children and parents, and we write our own lie-based story in which, when confronted with God, we can only think of him as a celestial killjoy out to rob us of our fun, our autonomy, and the carefully crafted identities we’ve created for ourselves. We start to see God’s blessing of fruitfulness as a curse. We start to see the traditional family as an enemy. We’re like Eustace, surrounded by goodness and beauty, but only able to see it as threatening and other. And, like the pagans of old, we reinvent God and remake him in our image and using our new vocabulary. Instead of Father, Son, and Spirit we start speaking of him as her and addressing Creator, Redeemer, and Sustainer or even Parent (or Mother), Child, and Spirit. Not too far off the mark it seems, but no longer able to be properly known through the relationships, now rejected, that God established precisely so that we can know him and make him known. And so, Paul writes to the Ephesians in Chapter 4: Put away lies. Instead, speak the truth to each other. Don’t be fooled by the dark and foolish ways of the world. God has washed you clean in the blood of Jesus and he has given his Spirit to live in you. He’s made you his temple: stewards and priests of his presence, his glory, and his wisdom. A temple that one day, through the power of the gospel and the Spirit, will fill the earth with God’s presence and glory. Don’t swallow the lies. It’s your job, our job, the church’s job to confront the world’s lies with the truth of God’s creation. So put off the old, corrupt, lie-based way of being human and put on the new humanity exemplified by Jesus, risen from the dead and firstborn of God’s new creation. And Paul started by urging us to put away anger and instead to put on patience, kindness, and love. It would be hard for even the most pagan of pagans to argue with that. And then, based on exactly the same principle of living out the truth of God’s creation, Paul urged us to put away sexual immorality and greed. And now, without a breath—because in the Greek there’s no sentence break, let alone a paragraph break, between Ephesians 5:20 and 5:21, where we ended last week, Paul writes, “Be subject to one another out of reverence for the Messiah.” That’s 5:21. [Page 1162 in the pew Bibles.] What does new creation look like? Brothers and Sisters, it looks like Christians being subject to one another. What does God’s wisdom—his wise way of ruling creation look like? It looks like his people being subject to one another. He’s already told us back in 4:2 to “bear with one another in love, being humble, meek, and patient and making every effort to guard the unity the Spirit has given us. Put away all anger and yelling, sexual immorality and all impurity and greed. In other words, stop using others as your punching bags, as your means of sexual gratification, and as your means of getting rich. Instead, be imitators of God and love each other the way the Messiah loved you and gave himself for you. Jesus’ self-giving for our sake on the cross was a sweet-smelling sacrifice to God and if we’re going to be his priests and his temple, giving of ourselves to each other will be our sweet-smelling offering to God. And this follows right along with what Paul has said already about our differentiated unity: Jew and gentile, man and woman, slave and free…Canadian and American, white and black, Liberal and Conservative, Coke and Pepsi, Ford and Chevy, and on and on. Different people with different backgrounds, different identities, Paul even stressed different giftings given by God, but all made one through our union with Jesus. Our unity, maintained by this self-giving of ourselves is the means by which we confront the lies and foolishness and darkness of the world with the truth and wisdom and light of God’s new creation. And at this point Paul could write a whole book covering all the situations and relationships in our lives and how this rule of being subject one to another might apply, but he’s writing a letter from prison and so he focuses on three areas that were key to the Ephesians. I want to spend most of our time on the first, because it’s the most important for us. But before we look at what he says specifically to wives and to husbands, I want to jump to his summary of the whole thing in the end, midway through verse 28. As is so often the case with Paul, it’s at the end that he sums everything up and gives us the theology behind it. So look at verse 28 and following: “Someone who loves his wife loves himself. After all, nobody ever hates his own flesh. He feeds it and takes care of it, just as the Messiah does with the church, because we are parts of his body. [Now Paul quotes from Genesis 2:24.] ‘That’s why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two become one flesh.’ The mystery [the hidden meaning] in this is very deep; but I am reading it as referring to the Messiah and the church. Anyway, each one of you must love your wife as you love yourself; and the wife must see that she respects her husband.” So Paul understands marriage in light of the Messiah’s relationship with his body, the church. He takes us back to Genesis 2 and God’s command that the man will leave his father and mother and become one flesh with his wife. Yes, Paul admits, there are some hard things here, some hidden meanings, but the important and obvious thing is that this is ultimately about the Messiah and the church. There are two important take-aways from this. First, Paul saw Genesis 2 as a prophecy of God’s son, leaving his home to find his appointed bride. And once Paul makes this connection, we can see this story weaving its way through the whole Old Testament as the Lord pursues and woos his intended bride in the wilderness, showing his covenant love; as the marriage is ruined through