Lost in Txtlation

Tristan Pope

Welcome to 'Lost in Txtlation', a podcast delving beyond 'I love you', with a focus on why Love is Not Enough. Hosted by someone who believes love is an action, the show explores online dating trends and delves into the host's "stream of conscious" like thoughts on love, compromise, and self-discovery. Each episode sparks conversations, deepening our understanding of love's intricate puzzle. 'Lost in Txtlation' invites you to explore diverse facets of dating, love, and relationships. The podcast where love is more than just a word—it's an ongoing exploration of the heart and mind.

  1. 03/27/2024

    She is Better Than The Girl of My Dreams... She is Real!

    What would I describe love as? Or perhaps better put what would I describe the feeling I yearn for from another in my life? I suppose my ears could tell you through the voice of a beautiful song. The way the tone resonates through my heart and body. The tremble the sound carries to my ear drums that shake my body and cause my hairs to stand on end. The sound filling your whole body, unable to make out the words, but just register the feeling it causes you. When we meet a person, even if it is the FIRST time, or we see a picture of them, or hear their voice on the phone, or understand one of their opinions, I believe, even though I can only speak for myself, we picture them in every situation that defines a family, a life together, coming home to them, how they will be with possible children, waking up next to them, having to sleep next to them every night and not having your OWN bed. I believe this almost primordial instinct is natural and we should not be afraid because of stigmas against it to think about it or even discuss it, but not to lay it out step by step, or think that we are pushing too far into the future with these thoughts, but just consider it part of that first impression, and just take it day by day. It will become more obvious as time goes on, and time is really the only thing that can really shine this brightly. So think it but understand we all have more than just a few thoughts in our head at once, and while these may sound huge, they are just a beginning of a transformation of the mind to looking at the other person as a possible part of your life. I believe instincts are very important to be followed and usually followed right away. I suppose not being afraid and thinking of a relationship as something you jump head into to see if it works because god knows how long we have to just BE, so why not find out if you are someone I want to even kiss in the first place, instead of putting the kiss before hand in order to know you. Then either take the small emotional hit if it doesn’t work out and be friends or not, or perhaps something more will appear. I cannot say my past relationships have not been a deciding factor in how I react to the next one. But to treat the next person as just that, a different person, someone who isn’t another but them, and to respect what it is THEY are. To know there are similarities with everyone, but everyone is UNIQUE. This is true with everything that “affects” us in life, so like the song that fills your head with sweet sounds giving you that puppy love feeling, unable to hear the words of the actual song, let it help you, let it guide you through that beginning blindness and find the picture you are looking for. And perhaps you will walk into the gallery seeing something that truly is something you would pay a ridiculous amount of money just to have it hanging in your house, or kindly thank the receptionist and walk out of the gallery, not afraid to explore the hidden meaning in all the other art being offered around you. ⁠https://www.lostintxtlation.com/she-is-better-than-the-girl-of-my-dreams-she-is-2/⁠

    8 min
  2. 03/26/2024

    A Snowy Spring Night - Two Minds Connecting in Judgment-Free Listening

    The evening started alone. Sitting at the table wanting to look busier than I was but being comfortable doing nothing all while being uncomfortable thinking I was perceived doing nothing by those around me. Holding my phone up to cast the cold, glow on my face, to let the world know I was not waiting alone, then being annoyed enough by the glow to put it down and just sit in silence, something I don’t often get a chance to do. Sure I will sit and not speak, but at a table, outside of work, outside of my comfort zone, surrounded by the voices of others. It felt like a droning silence and it was nice. I don’t know if it was the lack of being rushed at the restaurant. The food. The lighting. The company. Or the stories I was telling but I had a sense of complete calm that night. In a flurry of both snow, which flurried outside the window and complete thoughts. I talked as myself, calmly, put together, zen. My passion for what I do came out. My voice calmed. I was in my head speaking my heart no fears in the world. Just enjoying the company of the person across from me. We sat, we continued talking and sharing. The snow continued falling. The food eventually coming, the bill no longer on the forefront, but a worthwhile expense toward the experience we just shared. And the last call, as we ended the night as it began... But before that, before even walking out those restaurant doors, into the blustery snowy spring night... I liked the mutual understanding of our choices versus the judgements. I liked the outcome to not matter. I liked the good food. And I liked sitting with this person, menus down, for a good half hour before ordering. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/a-snowy-spring-night/

    10 min
  3. 03/21/2024

    From Facetime to Face-to-Face: Redefining Intimacy in Modern Dating

    Disclaimer: If you are someone who believes it is not healthy to talk about past relationships for what you learned and grew from, you might wanna start with my podcast: “Embracing the Past, Verbalizing the Present” first. Otherwise, carry on.   The last relationship I had that was truly connected mind body and sex, was during the pandemic. I have to say I really enjoyed the time we took to get to know one another. We would spend hours on facetime and the phone talking or just in each other's presence. It was like I was in her home and her in mine. I understand this was an extenuating circumstance, but it showed me something else… By the time we met, the sex and physical touch was beyond amazing; it was purposeful. Converting a lot of my old writing into podcasts I’ve read things like “the obligatory sexts prior to meeting” and I realized I completely forgot about that way of interaction. I don’t even consider them. I think of them as the equivalent of sending a nonconsensual dick pic. Maybe it’s because I’ve gotten older or maybe I truly am trying to replicate that feeling of comfort when I met my ex after months of FaceTimes and sharing due to a lockdown. Either way I feel a little lost. I feel a little unsure, both how to do it, if I want to do it, and wondering if without those “sexual quips” the other person will think I am not interested in them beyond friends. I feel a little lost on where to engage more in a sexually playful manner in order to spark a spark versus getting to know the mind of the other person to make the spark electric. There is no mental connection to help guide these natural feelings if we don’t take the time to form it. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/from-facetime-to-face-to-face-redefining-intimacy-in-modern-dating/

    14 min
  4. 03/19/2024

    Love will find you... but stop hiding!

    My mother always told me to “wait, be patient, love would come to you”. If and when I hear this today, I can’t help but think this is the furthest idea from the truth. Either it is my innate need to rebel against my mother’s advice or it is my sense of self being defined enough to know that the “Love will find you” is not the love I want. I do not strive for the staple white picket fence, mortgage, two kids, and flat screen TV 2 inches bigger than my neighbors. My white picket fence is not a place or a thing, it is a feeling, a way of being. My “hallmark family” is defined by how we live our lives and treat the world around us, not building up a literal and metaphysical wall to create a new world, isolated from the paved street filled with other’s also hiding in their own homes, feet from one another. My ideal love is able to live in the world in front of me, to be present for the ups and downs, and to feel everyday as intensely as the last. I have written many things about two people’s timeline’s and how that can affect your ability to love and that once you do love that love alone, is not enough. I think for the rare few, maybe love will find them, but for the rest of us, it take's work, not crunch your next deadline at your job work, but remembering their birthday work and making moments in time, by giving up some of your time, work. https://www.lostintxtlation.com/love-will-find-you-but-stop-hiding/

    5 min

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Welcome to 'Lost in Txtlation', a podcast delving beyond 'I love you', with a focus on why Love is Not Enough. Hosted by someone who believes love is an action, the show explores online dating trends and delves into the host's "stream of conscious" like thoughts on love, compromise, and self-discovery. Each episode sparks conversations, deepening our understanding of love's intricate puzzle. 'Lost in Txtlation' invites you to explore diverse facets of dating, love, and relationships. The podcast where love is more than just a word—it's an ongoing exploration of the heart and mind.