Love, Evolved: Conscious Relationships with Leigh-Anne LoPinto

Leigh-Anne LoPinto

My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and my mission is to help co-create the new paradigm of relationships. This includes healing the relationship between men + women, and using relationships as a vehicle to evolve psychologically and spiritually. I help people break lifelong relationship patterns, heal insecure attachment and codependency, and build love on a healthy, stable foundation. Through a blend of psychology, breathwork, transformational coaching, energy work, and intuitive guidance, I support individuals in creating relationships that become a path of growth and awakening. For over 15 years, I have worked with people all over the world who are ready to stop repeating old cycles and step into relationships beyond their wildest dreams. Website: https://www.love-evolved.us/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@love.evolved Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-conscious-relationships/id1589898399 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ leighannelopinto.substack.com

  1. What I Wish More Couples Knew...

    6d ago

    What I Wish More Couples Knew...

    The one thing I wish more couples understood is that arguments don’t come out of nowhere, and it’s rarely one person’s “fault.” A relationship by definition is two people coming together and creating the dynamic. We bring our baggage, our triggers, our unhealed wounds in relationships, and all of the stuff running in the background that shapes how we show up with other people. The number one thing that I have seen that diffuses most conflicts right off the bat is when both people in the relationship understand this idea of co-creation, which is what I call it, and when each person is able to take personal responsibility for their side of the street. This takes self awareness and also humbleness, to know that there is always something that you’re contributing to the dynamic that can be looked at and improved upon, especially when it comes to conflict. I am not talking about abusive relationships here, that is a much deeper topic and I work 1:1 with people who have those patterns so that they can heal. In my work, I talk a lot about the new paradigm of relationships - and this simply means bringing a greater level of awareness to how we show up in relationships so that we are not repeating the same mistakes that our parents made, or even that we’ve made in our past! Most people these days are becoming aware of things like relationship patterns, how our upbringing shapes the partners we attract, and why these things are so important! Huge keys for inner work become available when we start to get curious about our side of the street. So the first thing that can take you far if you’re in a relationship with someone is to take some time to reflect on the things that you butt heads about. Are there patterns on what you fight about? What triggers you the most in this relationship? And also, zoom out beyond that specific relationship and ask yourself what types of partners and people you tend to attract. What are the patterns that keep coming up in your relationships? These are the doorways into starting to work with relationships in a much more evolutionary way, where you can actually start to use relationships as a vehicle to heal, and to grow. Again, it can save you a lot of time and confusion to work with a professional who does this exact work. This is the work that I do with people 1:1 and it’s very powerful. This is the work that will change the whole game. And when both people know this and become aware of how it’s usually less about pointing the finger at how bad the other person is, and more about taking ownership of what’s coming up for you so that you can grow from it, the relationship changes from blaming and shaming the other person to truly working together as partners to make things better. -- About me: My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I teach about the new paradigm of relationships. This includes healing the relationship between men + women, and using relationships as a vehicle to evolve. I help people break lifelong relationship patterns, heal insecure attachment and codependency, and build love on a healthy, stable foundation. Through a blend of psychology, breathwork, transformational coaching, energy work, and intuitive guidance, I support individuals in creating relationships that become a path of growth and awakening. For over 15 years, I have worked with people all over the world who are ready to stop repeating old cycles and step into relationships beyond their wildest dreams. Free Gifts: https://love-evolved.mykajabi.com/gifts Book an Intro Call: https://www.love-evolved.us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

    23 min
  2. Jun 13

    Teaching About Victim Mentality Triggers Most People

    Victim mentality is something we should all have compassion for, as it’s the way most of us are programmed from the start. Victim mentality is “poor me” thinking, feeling like life is against you. It’s a passive, disempowered state where one lacks agency and personal responsibility. Often, when we are stuck in victim mentality, life doesn’t feel good at all. We are stuck in a state of disappointment, depression, frustration, and often misery. We can feel disconnected from our power and even life force energy. I was in victim mentality for years and have a ton of compassion for those who are in it. I was forced to break free in 2016 with my most intense dark night of the soul. In this episode, I speak about how to break out of victim mentality in a way such that we don’t lose our self-compassion (or compassion for others). Personal responsibility is something we learn to step into adulthood, and this teaching should not be applied to children. I would love to hear your thoughts on this one, as this teaching can trigger a lot of people! I wouldn’t go there if I didn’t truly believe that it is one of the most important lessons I’ve learned in my almost 50 years here. Please comment below and let me know what you think. — Join us for Alchemy of the Heart - starts June 22 !https://love-evolved.mykajabi.com/alchemy-of-the-heart-live My Story, Part 1: Healing from Abuse My Story, Part 2: Recovering from Divorce -- About me: My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and my mission is to help co-create the new paradigm of relationships. This includes healing the relationship between men + women, and using relationships as a vehicle to evolve. I help people break lifelong relationship patterns, heal insecure attachment and codependency, and build love on a healthy, stable foundation. Through a blend of psychology, breathwork, transformational coaching, energy work, and intuitive guidance, I support individuals in creating relationships that become a path of growth and awakening. For over 15 years, I have worked with people all over the world who are ready to stop repeating old cycles and step into relationships beyond their wildest dreams. Free Gifts: https://love-evolved.mykajabi.com/gifts Book an Intro Call: https://www.love-evolved.us Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

    29 min
  3. Introduction to Emotional Alchemy

    Jun 9

    Introduction to Emotional Alchemy

    If you tend to avoid the tougher emotions of life - fear, shame, anger, and sadness, you’ll want to listen to this one. On the flip side, if you don’t avoid these emotions, but instead get stuck in them, then this is also for you. In this episode, I share an introduction to emotional alchemy - how we learn to work with our tougher emotions in a much more productive way, neither avoiding them, nor getting stuck in them. There is a third way, and this is the way that our soul is desperately asking us to learn, because it is the path of soul evolution. We go super deep into this together in Alchemy of the Heart, our next group starting on June 22. Alchemy of the Heart is now open for enrollment. Please join us: https://love-evolved.mykajabi.com/alchemy-of-the-heart-live This is going to be a super powerful seven weeks together. — About Leigh-Anne: My mission is to help co-create the new paradigm of relationships, which includes healing the relationship between men + women, and using relationships as a vehicle to psychologically and spiritually evolve. I help people break lifelong relationship patterns, heal insecure attachment and codependency, and build love on a healthy, stable foundation. Through a blend of psychology, breathwork, transformational coaching, energy work, and intuitive guidance, I support individuals in creating relationships that become a path of growth and awakening. For over 15 years, I have worked with people all over the world who are ready to stop repeating old cycles and step into relationships beyond their wildest dreams. Book an Intro Call: https://www.love-evolved.us The Love, Evolved Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

    33 min
  4. This Path of Relationships is Spiritual

    May 29

    This Path of Relationships is Spiritual

    After focusing on ground level psychological foundations this year, I return to the deeply spiritual aspect of this path and the importance of an integrated approach. I discuss energy clearing, the path of divine union as the move towards spiritual wholeness (NOT a romantic relationship, as it’s commonly referred to) and much more. My work has not been traditional therapy for years. It is a blend of grounded psychology, shadow work, trauma healing, but also taking it to the spiritual heights of what is possible through relationships and our human experience. I weave long-form breathwork in specifically as a way to access altered states, talk about psychedelics and microdosing, and how we’re all being called into a balancing act between the linear and non-linear. There’s also some overall updates on what’s happening, our next group program, in person retreats, my collaboration with my partner Joel Schafer, and much more. Would love to hear any insights, reflections, or questions in the comments as always! There’s much unfolding very deeply on this path as I live this work through me and continue to teach and serve at my own edge of embodiment of this work, as an imperfect human with a simultaneous devotion to the new paradigm and the truth of what is possible. Video Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yE8XiTO9Yuo Resources mentioned: The Wayshowers https://www.love-evolved.us/the-wayshowers Healing the Relationship Between Men and Women https://www.love-evolved.us/healing-the-relationship-between-men-women The Energy Behind Trauma, Abuse, and Addiction About me: My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I’m a psychologist and breathwork teacher specializing in spiritual relationships. I help people who are done with repeating the same patterns over and over again, and want love and connection built on a healthy, stable foundation. My clients tend to struggle with insecure attachment, codependency, and a more passive style of communication. They tend to settle for subpar relationships, put others on pedestals, and have difficulty with boundaries. We work on healing all of this in order to step into incredible, healthy and happy relationships - all the way to the heights of spiritual partnership and true divine union. Book an Intro Call: https://www.love-evolved.us YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@love.evolved Instagram https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

    1h 16m
  5. The Power of Healthy Shame

    May 9

    The Power of Healthy Shame

    “One of the hallmarks of disturbed characters (narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths) is their pathological lack of shame.” - George Simon, Character Disturbance Most people lump shame into one thing and think that it's all bad, all of the time. This couldn't be further from the truth. In this episode, I share the critical difference between healthy shame and toxic shame. And how missing the boat with this has led to the rise of narcissism across the board. A Shameless Society is a Narcissistic Society: https://open.substack.com/pub/leighannelopinto/p/a-shameless-society-is-a-narcissistic Alchemy of the Heart: https://www.love-evolved.us/alchemy-of-the-heart-course.html — About me: My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I’m a psychologist and breathwork teacher focusing on relationships. I help people who are done with repeating the same patterns over and over again, and want love and connection built on a healthy, stable foundation. My clients tend to struggle with insecure attachment, codependency, and a more passive style of communication. They tend to settle for subpar relationships, put others on pedestals, and have difficulty with boundaries. We work on healing all of this in order to step into incredible, healthy and happy relationships - this work is truly life-changing. Book an Intro Call: https://www.love-evolved.us YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@love.evolved Instagram https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

    28 min
  6. Is this path right for you?

    May 4

    Is this path right for you?

    In today’s episode, I get really honest and cut to the chase, sharing who’s right for this path and who it might not be the best fit for. Here are some attributes that I look for in my clients, and in people who are best suited for this path: They resonate with the path of relationships that I outline, and are excited at the possibility of walking it. They typically feel very aligned with it, like it’s part of their destiny. At the same time, they don’t romanticize it, and know that it’s going to bring stuff up. (One of the biggest myths about conscious relationships is that somehow they’re all rainbows and butterflies.) We don’t spiritually bypass on this path, in fact it’s meant to be relational shadow work. My people are ready and willing to see their blind spots. This can be uncomfortable, but is true freedom. I often say that I’m not in service to people at the level of ego, but in service to people at a soul level. I have compassion for the ego, but will not prop it up. My people have a growth mindset, a fundamental understanding that life is here as a school for us, and we’re here to learn some things. This requires humility, knowing that, “Hey, i don’t know everything, but i’m willing to learn.” And, this realization does not trigger shame inside of them. They get it, knowing it’s the human experience. They know that seeing and accepting their weak areas is actually empowerment, because as they lean in, they can get stronger and more whole. Life becomes more balanced and better all around. This ties into personal responsibility. Are you willing to take responsibility for your subconscious, the thing that’s actually creating your reality? My people also know that healing is not linear. Sometimes we need to revisit things from multiple angles, especially our core wounds. (This relates to Jung’s concept of circumambulation.) They are open to a truly holistic view of healing: psychological, spiritual, energetic, somatic. My people are committed and aren’t going to run away when things get hard. They are able to communicate openly if something doesn’t feel good, and practice open communication. They’re willing to be empowered and take what I give them and run with it, putting it into practice, rather than giving all their power away, and expecting me to do the work for them. Lastly, my people truly see this work as an investment in themselves and everyone around them. It’s an investment in time, money, and energy, and yet ultimately it is an investment in your soul. I match all of these things, and it’s really interesting for me to read back this list, because most of it is just my standards in relationships. Lots of love to you all, and if you want to join The Visionaries, doors stay open until Monday, May 4, 2026 at 9:00 pm Pacific time. Link to enroll: https://www.love-evolved.us/the-visionaries — About me: My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I’m a psychologist and breathwork teacher focusing on relationships. I help people who are done with repeating the same patterns over and over again, and want love and connection built on a healthy, stable foundation. My clients tend to struggle with insecure attachment, codependency, and a more passive style of communication. They tend to settle for subpar relationships, put others on pedestals, and have difficulty with boundaries. We work on healing all of this in order to step into incredible, healthy and happy relationships - this work is truly life-changing. Website: https://www.love-evolved.us/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@love.evolved Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

    27 min
  7. Mar 9

    The MOST Important Relationship Work You Can Do is Foundational

    For the next few months, I'm going to be focusing on the most important foundational work that you can do to improve your relationships. This includes: - developing secure attachment - freeing ourselves from codependency - cultivating true self-love and self-worth - learning about boundaries - developing crystal clear communication skills In the path of relationships that I teach, I call this Level 1. It will completely change your life even if you have zero interest to move into the higher levels of relationships (Level 2 - Conscious Relationships, and Level 3 - Spiritual Partnership). The vast majority of people have not yet built the strong and solid foundation that Level 1 provides, and this is why there is immense confusion and failure when it comes to building strong, healthy relationships. There is no shame, since most people are not taught this - and I had to learn everything the hard way through major life lessons that were incredibly painful and humbling. This work is worth every single minute. The Foundation begins on Sunday, March 22. Join us: https://www.love-evolved.us/the-foundation-0856c6d2-8590-4157-b61d-875f6aad63e5 Other resources mentioned: My Story, Part 1: Healing from Abuse https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-with-leigh-anne-lopinto-conscious/id1589898399?i=1000650388992 My Story, Part 2: Recovering from Divorce https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-with-leigh-anne-lopinto-conscious/id1589898399?i=1000650999284 The Trap of Codependency and How to Heal https://www.love-evolved.us/store The War on Love, S_x + Relationships https://leighannelopinto.substack.com/p/the-war-on-love-sex-relationships The Work of a Lifetime: The New Paradigm of Relationships https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-conscious-relationships-with-leigh-anne/id1589898399?i=1000717107657 — About me: My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I’m a psychologist and breathwork teacher focusing on relationships. I help people who are done with repeating the same patterns over and over again, and want love and connection built on a healthy, stable foundation. My clients tend to struggle with insecure attachment, codependency, and a more passive style of communication. They tend to settle for subpar relationships, put others on pedestals, and have difficulty with boundaries. We work on healing all of this in order to step into incredible, healthy and happy relationships - this work is truly life-changing. Book a Free Intro Call: https://www.love-evolved.us/start-here.html The Visionaries Community: https://www.love-evolved.us/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

    31 min
5
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My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and my mission is to help co-create the new paradigm of relationships. This includes healing the relationship between men + women, and using relationships as a vehicle to evolve psychologically and spiritually. I help people break lifelong relationship patterns, heal insecure attachment and codependency, and build love on a healthy, stable foundation. Through a blend of psychology, breathwork, transformational coaching, energy work, and intuitive guidance, I support individuals in creating relationships that become a path of growth and awakening. For over 15 years, I have worked with people all over the world who are ready to stop repeating old cycles and step into relationships beyond their wildest dreams. Website: https://www.love-evolved.us/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@love.evolved Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-evolved-conscious-relationships/id1589898399 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love.evolv.ed/ leighannelopinto.substack.com

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