Marriage Basecamp

Robert Conn
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Every great adventure starts at Basecamp. This podcast is your guide to a Christ-centered marriage, offering honest and transparent conversations on love, communication, intimacy, conflict, and faith. With openness at the core, we explore the essentials that help couples not just survive, but thrive, on the journey of a lifetime.

Episodes

  1. JAN 2

    Episode 6 - Sexual Intimacy. Warning: Side Effects May Include Better Sex

    Episode Summary: In this candid and insightful episode, Robert and Shelly dive deep into the topic of intimacy in marriage, exploring not just sexual intimacy but also emotional and spiritual connection. Using humor, personal stories, and biblical references, they break down common myths, address cultural and church-based misconceptions, and offer practical advice for couples seeking deeper connection. Key Topics Discussed: The biblical perspective on sexual intimacy (Song of Solomon)Why frequency isn’t the most important measure of a healthy sex lifeThe difference between emotional, spiritual, and physical intimacy, and how they fuel each otherThe impact of “purity culture” and fear-based sex educationUnderstanding different types of sexual desire: spontaneous vs. responsiveHow mismatched desire is normal and not a sign of brokennessThe importance of emotional check-ins and non-sexual affectionHow communication and curiosity can improve intimacyThe role of spiritual intimacy in strengthening the marriage bondPractical Takeaways & Summit Challenge: Practice regular emotional check-ins: Name and share one emotion you’ve been feeling with your spouse to foster connection.Show affection without an agenda: Engage in non-sexual touch to build trust and closeness.Discuss your desire patterns: Talk openly about whether you experience spontaneous or responsive desire, and learn how to support each other’s needs.Resources Mentioned: The book Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (on types of sexual desire)Free resources at marriagebasecamp.com/resources Final Thoughts: Intimacy in marriage is about more than just sex; it’s about connection, communication, and growing together in every area of life. Take small, intentional steps toward each other every day. Share this episode with someone who could use encouragement in their marriage! Ask a question Submit your own question: podcast@marriagebasecamp.com

    48 min

  2. 12/19/2025

    Episode 5 - Conflict without Casualties: Fighting to Understand, Not Just to Win!

    Summary: In this episode, Robert and Shelly dive into the difference between healthy conflict and destructive combat in marriage. They discuss why avoiding conflict isn’t the goal, how to steward disagreements for growth, and practical ways to approach tough conversations with humility. Key Topics: The myth that “no conflict” means a healthy marriageWhy conflict is inevitable (and necessary) for growthThe dangers of conflict avoidance and emotional landminesHow your family background shapes your conflict styleThe difference between conflict (problem-solving) and combat (blame and attack)Using humility as a “base layer” in every disagreementPractical examples: “Combat or Conflict?” gameThe importance of language—“I/we” vs. “you/never/always”The Summit Challenge: Three questions to discuss with your spouseNotable Quotes: “Healthy couples don’t eliminate conflict. They steward it.”“A lack of conflict doesn’t always mean harmony. It could mean significant avoidance.”“You can win a fight and lose your spouse’s heart at the same time.”“The goal of conflict is intimacy. The goal of combat is victory.”Summit Challenge: Sit down together and answer: What is one small conflict we tend to avoid?What is one way I slip into combat instead of healthy conflict?What is one thing I can do to approach conflict with humility this week?Resources Mentioned: “How to Fight Fair” guide at marriagebasecamp.com/resourcesEmail your questions: podcast@marriagebasecamp.comClosing Thought: Conflict is an opportunity for growth and deeper connection. Stay humble, stay curious, and stay on the same trail... together. Ask a question Submit your own question: podcast@marriagebasecamp.com

    34 min

  3. 12/05/2025

    Episode 4 - The 3 Communication Styles That Are Killing Your Connection

    Episode Summary: In this episode, Robert and Shelly dive deep into the importance of communication in marriage, using the metaphor of a backpack to illustrate how our inner world affects our words and relationships. They discuss how fear and emotional baggage can weigh down conversations and relationships, and how self-awareness is the trailhead to healthy communication. Key Topics Covered: Why couples don’t fall out of love, but out of communicationThe “backpack” metaphor: how what we carry inside affects our marriageThe impact of fear and emotional baggage on communicationThe importance of self-awareness as the starting point for relational awareness Three Fear-Based Communication Styles: Passive Communicator (The People Pleaser): Core belief: “Your opinion matters, mine doesn’t.”Tends to avoid conflict, suppress needs, and build silent resentment.Aggressive Communicator (The Bully): Core belief: “My opinion matters, yours does not.”Dominates conversations, uses volume and control, often paired with a passive partner.Passive-Aggressive Communicator (The Trapper or Trap Setter): Core belief: “You matter to me until you hurt me.”Appears agreeable on the surface but uses subtle retaliation, sarcasm, and mixed messages.The Good & Healthy Communication Style (The Trail Mate) Core belief: “Your opinion matters, and so does mine.”Practices assertiveness, honesty, and respect.Sets boundaries that protect both partners and the relationship.Summit Challenge (Listener Takeaway): Sit down with your spouse and discuss: “Here is a weight I’m carrying right now that you might not be aware of.”“Which communication pattern do I slip into most often? What would it look like for me to move from being a trail hazard to a trail mate?”“Here’s one thing I need from you that I don’t think I’ve been clear about.”Listener Q&A: Send your questions to podcast@marriagebasecamp.com for a chance to have them answered on the show! Final Thoughts: Marriage is an adventure—explore it together. Share this episode with another couple who might benefit! Ask a question Submit your own question: podcast@marriagebasecamp.com

    43 min

  4. 11/21/2025

    Episode 3 - Work Spouses, Hall Passes, & Micro-Cheating

    Marriage Base Camp Podcast – Episode 3: Work Spouses, Hall Passes, & Micro-Cheating Hosts: Robert & Shelly Episode Summary: In this episode, Robert and Shelly revisit a special Q&A session inspired by their “Open Marriage” sermon series. They answer real listener questions about marriage, honesty, boundaries, and faith, offering practical advice and biblical perspectives. Key Topics & Questions: What does “open marriage” mean from a biblical perspective? (Hint: It’s about openness and honesty, not multiple partners.)Is it just fun or harmful to have a “work spouse” or a close friend of the opposite sex?What is “micro-cheating” and how can it affect your relationship?The concept of “veto power” in marriage—how to set healthy boundaries with your spouse.Is it okay if I am a believer and my partner is not? Navigating faith differences in marriage.How do you deal with feeling emotionally depleted or when your “love tank” is empty?What to do when a spouse leaves after many years—understanding emotional disconnect and the “crazy cycle.”How to heal a relationship after hurting your spouse, and the importance of remorse and rebuilding trust.Highlights: Honest, relatable stories from Robert and Shelly’s own marriage.Practical tips for communication, emotional intimacy, and setting boundaries.Encouragement for couples facing tough seasons or faith differences.Biblical wisdom on trust, forgiveness, and growing together.Calls to Action: Share this episode with someone who might benefit.Send your own marriage questions to podcast@marriagebasecamp.com for a chance to be featured in future episodes.Join the Marriage Base Camp community for more resources and support.Next Up: Upcoming episodes will cover communication skills and “the best sex ever”—don’t miss out!Remember: Marriage is an adventure. Climb together! Ask a question Submit your own question: podcast@marriagebasecamp.com

    40 min

  5. 11/07/2025

    Episode 2 - HOT Marriages (Honesty, Openness, Transparency)

    Marriage Base Camp Podcast – Episode 2: HOT Marriages (Honesty, Openness, Transparency) Hosts: Robert & Shelly Episode Summary: In this episode, Robert and Shelly dive into what it means to have a "HOT" marriage—one built on Honesty, Openness, and Transparency. They share personal stories, practical advice, and actionable steps for couples who want to strengthen their relationship and build deeper trust. Key Topics: The meaning of a "HOT" marriage: Honesty, Openness, TransparencyWhy honesty is more than just not lying—it's about living in truth, even when it's hardOpenness as inviting your spouse into your inner world, not just sharing logisticsTransparency as living with nothing to hide, creating peace and trustThe dangers of secrecy and the importance of accountability in marriagePersonal "trail stories" from Robert and Shelly about overcoming challenges with honesty and vulnerabilityThe role of grace, empathy, and forgiveness in building a resilient marriageNotable Quotes: "When you withhold honesty, you rob your spouse of the opportunity to love the real you." – Dr. Les Parrott"The courage to show up and to be seen even when you can't control the outcome." – Brené Brown"God can't transform the fake version you pretend to be, but He can transform the one you honestly bring into the light."Summit Challenge: Set aside 10–20 minutes with your spouse (no phones, no distractions) and discuss these three questions: What truth have I been avoiding saying out loud? (Honesty)What is something in my heart I haven't invited you into? (Openness)Is there anything I've kept private that needs to come into the light? (Transparency)Remember: These don't have to be major confessions—small things matter too. Practice active listening and respond with empathy. Listener Questions: Have a question for Robert & Shelly? Email podcast@marriagebasecamp.com. Questions can be anonymous! Connect: Share this episode with your spouse or a friend who might benefit.Keep climbing, keep connecting, and remember: marriage is an adventure—you don’t have to climb alone.Ask a question Submit your own question: podcast@marriagebasecamp.com

    33 min

  6. 10/24/2025

    Episode 1 - Why Every Marriage Needs a Basecamp

    Welcome to the first episode of Marriage Basecamp with Robert and Shelly! In this debut, they introduce the concept of “basecamp” for marriage, a place to reset, refuel, and prepare for the journey ahead, just like climbers do before a big ascent. Key Topics: The importance of having a “basecamp” in marriage: a safe space to regroup, check your gear, and get ready for new challenges.How every marriage, no matter how strong, faces tough terrain, no couple escapes the hard stuff.The difference between simply staying married and truly thriving together.Using mountain metaphors to explore the ups, downs, and switchbacks of married life.The value of community: learning from others who have traveled the path before you.Robert and Shelly’s story: 28 years of marriage, 34 years together, and their journey from youth ministry to helping couples.The power of honesty, openness, and transparency in building a lasting relationship.Featured Story: Robert shares a personal hiking experience in Colorado’s Maroon Bells, reflecting on the brevity of life and the legacy of marriage. The story draws parallels between mountain climbing and the challenges couples face together. Summit Challenge: Each episode will end with a “summit challenge.” This week: Sit down with your spouse and dream together, what do you want your marriage to look like in five years? Write down your vision, discuss practical steps, and remember: don’t compare your journey to anyone else’s. Looking Ahead: Next episode, Robert and Shelly will dive into what it means to have a “HOT” marriage, one built on Honesty, Openness, and Transparency. Share the Climb: If you found this episode helpful, share it with another couple. Remember, marriage is a climb, but you don’t have to do it alone. Join us at the basecamp for encouragement, stories, and tools to help your marriage thrive. — Thanks for listening to Marriage Basecamp! Ask a question Submit your own question: podcast@marriagebasecamp.com

    31 min

  7. 10/16/2025

    Episode 0 - Marriage Basecamp Coming Soon

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    3 min
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Every great adventure starts at Basecamp. This podcast is your guide to a Christ-centered marriage, offering honest and transparent conversations on love, communication, intimacy, conflict, and faith. With openness at the core, we explore the essentials that help couples not just survive, but thrive, on the journey of a lifetime.

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  • Creator
    Robert Conn
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    7
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Marriage Basecamp LLC
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    Marriage Basecamp