Marriage with Intention

Aman and Tom Costigan: Lawyers turned Entrepreneurs, FIRE/FI
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The Marriage with Intention podcast is a must-listen for driven couples who are ready to start dreaming again, build financial independence and wealth and create a purposeful, deeply connected relationship with their spouse. Aman and Tom are two decade-plus long lawyers turned Life Strategists for Couples using their superpowers of futuristic visioning, spirituality, outside of the box thinking and financial savvy to help you make impactful transformations in your marriage. Drawing from their love of intentional quarterly planning, each episode offers actionable strategies to help you design the life and marriage you truly desire. With episodes ranging from how to create aligned values and priorities as a family, our time management secrets as a family and how you can realize your dreams, Aman and Tom have you covered. 

  1. #30 Dad Solo Parents + Mom Retreats to Tulum for 6 Days: How We Support Individual Growth in Our Marriage

    12/07/2025

    #30 Dad Solo Parents + Mom Retreats to Tulum for 6 Days: How We Support Individual Growth in Our Marriage

    When you’re raising toddlers, running a business and trying to stay connected as a couple, taking 6 days away to a retreat in the jungle might feel impossible or even selfish -- especially as a mom. But what if stepping away for your own growth actually made your partnership and parenting stronger? In this episode, we share exactly how we planned for, pivoted and made possible Aman’s recent 6-day trip to a women’s retreat in Tulum, Mexico and what it really took to make it happen. From the prep (wall calendar, Costco run and a homemade advent countdown for our son) to the mindset shifts (on both sides), this is a behind-the-scenes look at how we support each other’s personal growth while parenting two young kids. The lesson: there's no perfect time.  You’ll hear: What we did 2 weeks in advance to reduce stress (and set each other up to thrive) The advent calendar hack that helped our 3-year-old stay connected while Mom was gone The quiet mindset shift Tom used to stay calm and present during solo parenting How we handled the inevitable curveballs (hello, stomach flu and missed workouts) Why your own nourishment and identity outside of parenting matters so much more than people think We’re not perfect at this, and the trip back home didn’t go as planned, but we’re learning to build a marriage where both partners grow, dream and thrive. Even (and especially) when it’s messy. If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting space … or struggled to get your partner on board for time away, this episode will shift something for you.   JOIN THE BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOP HAPPENING ON SATURDAY, JANUARY 10, 2026: https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard    Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn Our Facebook Page ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

    37 min
  2. #29: How to Revisit Your Expenses Without the Stress (and Save Hundreds Doing It)

    11/09/2025

    #29: How to Revisit Your Expenses Without the Stress (and Save Hundreds Doing It)

    We’ve gone from “If it’s yellow, let it mellow. If it’s brown, flush it down.” to making our money work for us. But, the relationship with our money is an ongoing one that’s so easy to put aside or avoid when life gets busy.  We’ve been meaning to review our monthly expenses, optimize our subscriptions and who’s paying what… but life keeps moving, and it just hasn’t happened. Until now.  In this episode, we walk you through the exact process we’re using right now to get more mindful and intentional with our money as a couple. After attending the Rich Girl Era Money Summit In Vancouver, Aman shares what reignited her obsession with personal finance, what she realized was missing (spoiler: a one-pager listing our accounts, logins, and bill breakdowns), and the small changes we’re making that are already saving us hundreds. We talk about: The $120 subscription shift we made this week (and how we’re tracking renewals now) Why “just calling to negotiate” isn’t always simple and how we made it easier for ourselves   How to stop defaulting to overspending and start aligning with your actual values The mantra Aman picked at the Summit that’s already changed her money habits We’ve gone from turning off the heat to save a few dollars… to paying for a Porsche in cash. But this episode isn’t about extremes. It’s about intention. Teamwork. And looking at the numbers. It's the small shifts that build a life of freedom together. Whether you're just starting to get a handle on your finances or you've been tracking every penny for years, this episode will give you real-life strategies (and a nudge of motivation) to get back in the driver’s seat with your partner. 🚨 BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOP: https://www.amancostigan.com/visionboard  Workshop dates: Nov 22, Dec 3 and January 10 2026   Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn   ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

    39 min
  3. #28 Redecide Your Top 3 Priorities. Finish 2025 Strong

    10/26/2025

    #28 Redecide Your Top 3 Priorities. Finish 2025 Strong

    You don’t need more time. You need some silence.  This is your chance to stop sprinting through the year and ask yourself: What actually matters most to you right now? In this episode, Aman guides you through a powerful, reflective exercise that will help you decide your top 3 priorities for the rest of the year and finish 2025 feeling clear, calm and on purpose. This isn’t about hustling harder or adding more to your plate. It’s about letting go of what’s not working, anchoring back into what matters most and creating space for the life you actually want. You’ll experience: Simple reflection prompts that help you see how far you’ve come (and where to focus next) The exact questions Aman asks clients to clarify their top 3 priorities A real‑time pause to think, something few people ever do Why “presence over productivity” might be the most radical goal you set this year And one easy habit to keep your priorities front‑and‑center every day 🎧 Hit PLAY to pause the noise, get grounded and finish the year intentionally. Want to watch it on video, see the slides and follow along in real-time? Watch the Be the Catalyst: Women’s Summit REPLAY ON YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/QvoYCv0wSks      Grab Your Ticket to Aman's upcoming Vision Board Workshops: BECOMING YOUR FUTURE SELF: VISION BOARD WORKSHOPS (in-person and virtual)    CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn   ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

    30 min
  4. #27 Vision Boards for Couples: How We Dream Together (and What Came True)

    10/12/2025

    #27 Vision Boards for Couples: How We Dream Together (and What Came True)

    It’s SO easy to overlook creating a life vision - one for yourself and one with your partner. In this episode, we sit down with our past vision boards and unpack what’s come true, what surprised us and what it’s taught us about dreaming solo and as a couple. From the Porsche that magically appeared (after Aman forgot she even put it on her board), to starting a family, to yoga on a paddle board in the middle of the ocean … it turns out our future selves are always trying to guide us. We just have to slow down long enough to think and listen. This episode is a roadmap for you. You’ll learn how to approach vision boards in a way that feels grounded, not fluffy. Why Tom (a self-proclaimed skeptic) came around to making one. And how this simple, creative practice can help you and your partner uncover shared dreams, name unspoken desires and create intentional alignment – one image at a time. Plus, you’ll hear about Aman’s upcoming Becoming Your Future Self: Vision Board Workshops and how she’s connecting women in these rooms from all over the world. If you’re craving more clarity, creativity, and connection in your life and with your partner, this episode will help you get there. Becoming Your Future Self: Vision Board Workshops (Virtual and In-Person) - GRAB YOUR TICKET NOW! 2025 and 2026 dates!    Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US: How we work with couples   CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn   ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

    28 min
  5. #26: Do We Regret Leaving Our Law Careers? Listener Q&A.

    09/28/2025

    #26: Do We Regret Leaving Our Law Careers? Listener Q&A.

    What happens after you built the careers. And then you walked away from all of it - with a 2 year old and baby on the way --- one month apart from each other?!  In this deeply reflective episode, we answer another listener question: “Do you ever think about if you made the right decision leaving your law careers?” Because even when you’ve done the math, made the spreadsheets, built the runway and created a life people admire (and are also confused about) … That doesn’t mean the internal questions go away. We share: What helped us actually make the leap (hint: it wasn’t just financial prep) The emotional cost of walking away from something we worked so hard to build How we’ve handled the waves of doubt and what we remind ourselves of when they creep in A rare moment at swimming lessons that reminded us why this decision matters so much Why the “worst case” isn’t what you think AND how the “best case” is better than we imagined This is the kind of episode that will feel like an exhale for anyone who’s questioning the path they’re on, whether you’ve made a big leap already or you’re standing on the edge wondering what if.   Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously! HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn Our Facebook Page ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

    39 min
  6. #25: How Do You Stay So Motivated, Cheerful and Stress-Free? Listener Q&A.

    09/14/2025

    #25: How Do You Stay So Motivated, Cheerful and Stress-Free? Listener Q&A.

    A listener asked us this question and today we’re answering it. We're spilling our most honest thoughts.  The truth is: We’re not always cheerful. We’re not stress-free. We’ve just built a life that gives us more margin to handle the hard stuff. And we’ve trained ourselves in ways we’re sharing in this episode. In this “Ask Us Anything” episode, we get into: Why motivation isn’t what drives us and what does instead The invisible mental load behind “staying positive” What we do daily to protect our energy, our marriage and our mind We’re bringing the lived experience of two driven people who’ve chosen the road less traveled — and stuck to it, even when it gets rocky. Learn about Aman’s “debt advent calendar” (yes, really) — and how that playful mindset helped her pay off nearly $100K of debt in 3.5 years. You’ll walk away with a fresh perspective, a few laughs and a new strategy or two you can implement in your own life. Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously. HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn Our Facebook Page ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

    33 min
  7. #24: Your Next 10 Years. Let’s Dream It Out Loud Together.

    08/31/2025

    #24: Your Next 10 Years. Let’s Dream It Out Loud Together.

    If you're the planner, the doer and the one who holds it all together for everyone else … this one’s for you. Because somewhere between kid drop-offs, what's for dinner and your big dreams, you’ve stopped dreaming for yourself. Or you’ve resigned to thinking the best days are behind you. In this episode, Aman reflects (and invites you to do the same) on: What do you want the next 10 years of your life to look like? And how do you actually create it? You’ll hear the honest, behind-the-scenes conversation she and Tom had during his 40th birthday celebration (outdoor sauna, dreamy charcuterie and a little unexpected chat). She shares how their past decades have shaped them — from 100K in law school debt and luxury handbags to financial freedom and time freedom. Whether you’re dreaming of more freedom in your week, a personal chef or a Porsche track experience (yes, one of Tom’s next decade dreams makes an appearance too), this episode is your invitation to zoom out, get honest, and start crafting a future that you’ve intentionally visioned and planned for. Plus: the exact strategy Aman uses when she can’t see 5 or 10 years ahead and why she’s bringing it back this November due to popular demand (spoiler: Virtual Vision Board Workshops are coming soon!) MARK YOUR CALENDAR: Vision Board Workshops by Zoom happening:  Saturday, Nov 22 and Wednesday, Dec 3. 📣   Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously.  HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn Our Facebook Page ** RATE, REVIEW & FOLLOW ** Help us connect with more driven couples by giving us a 5-star rating! It takes less than 90 seconds, and it really helps spread the word about Marriage with Intention.  Or simply text a friend about the podcast to let them know what you love about it!  Be sure to FOLLOW to our show so you don’t miss an episode!

    30 min
  8. #23: 7 Road Trip Strategies for Traveling with a Toddler and Infant

    08/17/2025

    #23: 7 Road Trip Strategies for Traveling with a Toddler and Infant

    Road-tripping with kids doesn’t have to be chaotic - if you plan with intention. In this episode, we’re sharing exactly how we prepared for and took a 16+ hour family road trip to the mountains with a toddler and infant.  We’re sharing the 7 strategies we implemented that made it easier, more enjoyable and aligned with how we want to travel as a family. This is the behind-the-scenes of what it really takes to stay aligned as a couple and family while traveling. We cover: How we used ChatGPT to plan stops that matched our values (think: nature, playgrounds and a small town ice cream stop) What we packed (and how we packed) to reduce stress for both us and the kids Why we involved our 3-year-old in the whole process and how that changed the experience How we handled the return trip when things didn’t go as planned What we’ll do differently next time, so the lessons learned You’ll hear both the practical strategies and the small mindset shifts that helped us stay connected and flexible throughout the trip - even when our son gave himself felt-marker face tattoos!! Whether you're planning your first road trip with littles or you want to make your next one more easeful and intentional, this episode is filled with real-life takeaways you can try on your next adventure. We believe in traveling and adventuring WITH our kids and not waiting until "later". This is exactly how we do it and minimize arguing and fights!    FB Group Mentioned in episode: Traveling with Babies and Toddlers  Have a question you’d like us to answer? Email it to amancostigan@gmail.com and we’ll answer it anonymously.  HOW TO WORK WITH US OUR WEBSITE: How we work with couples CONNECT WITH US AT Aman Costigan on Instagram and on LinkedIn Tom Costigan on LinkedIn Our

    36 min
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The Marriage with Intention podcast is a must-listen for driven couples who are ready to start dreaming again, build financial independence and wealth and create a purposeful, deeply connected relationship with their spouse. Aman and Tom are two decade-plus long lawyers turned Life Strategists for Couples using their superpowers of futuristic visioning, spirituality, outside of the box thinking and financial savvy to help you make impactful transformations in your marriage. Drawing from their love of intentional quarterly planning, each episode offers actionable strategies to help you design the life and marriage you truly desire. With episodes ranging from how to create aligned values and priorities as a family, our time management secrets as a family and how you can realize your dreams, Aman and Tom have you covered. 

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  • Creator
    Aman and Tom Costigan: Lawyers turned Entrepreneurs, FIRE/FI
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    31
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    Clean
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    © 2026 Marriage with Intention
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