Married to Addiction Julie Sanford

'My husband keeps choosing alcohol over me.'

That is what I thought for a long time and it drastically affected my marriage, my approach to my husband's addiction, and my psyche.

This is a common thought for wives of alcoholics, but today I want to share with you why I now 100% believe that choice as it relates to alcoholism is a myth.

In this episode I'll talk about how I arrived at this decision through research, being involved with my husband's treatment program, and the catastrophic events in our personal lives that let me know beyond a shadow of a doubt that all 'choice' had been completely removed.

So if you are someone who is struggling with the fact that your husband keeps 'choosing' alcohol over you then I strongly encourage you to give this episode a listen.

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The article from drugrehab.com that I referenced in this episode can be found right here.

Please be sure to visit the Married to Addiction website.

Have you requested my free on-demand workshop yet? If not, you need to. It's called '5 Steps to Breakthrough for the Wife of an Alcoholic' and if you're struggling and overwhelmed by your husband's addiction right now, then this can be a absolute game-changer for you. It can be found right here.


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I didn't want to hear it!!!

The notion that *I* needed 'help' or recovery was downright ridiculous to me when my husband was deep in addiction.

But then things got harder and harder for me. I started having trouble at work, physical issues, and full-blown mental breakdowns.

I finally realized that I was sick too.

In this episode we will talk about three signs that you need recovery too, and also why it's SO critical that you get it.

This is an important episode. Please listen. 

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Please be sure to visit the Married to Addiction website.

The free on-demand workshop '5 Steps to Breakthrough for the Wife of an Alcoholic' that we talked about in this episode can be found right here.

You can find the video about being in a spirit of bondage and torment on my YouTube channel. 

My 30-day online program can be found right here.


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We all know that we should try to 'love as Jesus loved', but I don't think there is any circumstance that makes that more difficult than being married to an alcoholic.

Between the defensiveness and empty promises and personality changes, our addicted husband came sometimes make feeling love or compassion a true challenge.

But how do we do that in spite of all that? And why should we even bother when he is not reciprocating?

In this episode we will talk about compassion as it relates to our alcoholic. The why AND the how.

I hope you'll give this one a listen.

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Thank you so much for listening.

Please be sure to visit the Married to Addiction website.

Also....the step we talk about today is actually one of five different steps that I share in my free on-demand workshop '5 Steps to Breakthrough for the Wife of an Alcoholic'. I strongly encourage you to pick it up if you haven't already. You can get it right here.


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We hear we should do things like 'accept what we cannot change', 'detach with love' and 'create healthy boundaries'. But when you're stuck in the middle of the storm of addiction with someone it can feel almost impossible to do those things sometimes.

That's because there is a super critical step that needs to come BEFORE we try to do those things, but no one ever talks about it.

In this episode I will share that pre-step with you, and explain how it can make all the difference in the world when you're the wife of an alcoholic. 

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Thank you so much for listening.

Please be sure to visit the Married to Addiction website.

Also....the step we talk about today is actually one of five different steps that I share in my free on-demand workshop '5 Steps to Breakthrough for the Wife of an Alcoholic'. I strongly encourage you to pick it up if you haven't already. You can get it right here.


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One of the statements that I think is SO true for most wives of alcoholics is 'You don't know what you don't know.'.

I did everything wrong for the first couple of years that my husband was struggling with addiction.

But I absolutely did not know that at the time! 

I thought I was 'helping', and I tried a million different things and a million different tactics.

After learning the hard way that my 'helping' was most certainly not helping I turned a corner and it changed everything. 

In this episode we will talk about what I consider to be five of the most important things we need to change our minds about if we are walking through addiction with our husband.  

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Thank you so much for listening.

Please be sure to visit the Married to Addiction website.

Also....to thank you for listening I would love to send you my free ebook for the wife of an alcoholic called '10 Powerful Prayers to Pray Over Your Husband and Your Marriage'. You can get it right here.


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I asked myself a lot of questions at the beginning of my journey as the wife of an alcoholic.

Did my husband really have a problem with alcohol or was I just being over-sensitive?

Were the things that I was noticing fairly common, or not so much?

Had I just become more aware of how much he was drinking, or had it actually increased?

Just how much was 'a lot' of alcohol per day? Did other people's husbands drink as much as mine?

In this episode we will talk about how you can identify a drinking problem, and what to do about it if you do.

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Thank you so much for listening.

Please be sure to visit the Married to Addiction website.

Also....to thank you for listening I would love to send you my free ebook for the wife of an alcoholic called '10 Powerful Prayers to Pray Over Your Husband and Your Marriage'. You can get it right here.


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This episode is sponsored by
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