The Modern Leadership Coaching Podcast

Marc & Teresa Hildebrand
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Modern Leadership Coaching is where Marc and Teresa Hildebrand help driven people get out of their own way and reach their next level. Real conversations about what actually holds people back, how to get your own thinking working for you instead of against you, and how to show up as who you know you can be in your business, your family, and your life. No hype. Just honest talk that helps you see what you couldn't see on your own. New episodes weekly: https://www.modernleadership.us

  1. 1d ago

    Self-Leadership for Business & Income

    Send us Fan Mail You can have the perfect offer, the perfect niche, and a perfectly fine strategy and still stay stuck at the same income level. The real issue is rarely tactics. It’s the thought you carry into the moment where you have to ask, invite, pitch, and name a price. If selling secretly feels like taking, your brain will protect you by avoiding the very conversations that grow your business. We get honest about the money shame we hear from heart-centred coaches all the time: “I want to make more money, but…” But turns into awkward outreach, soft offers, and no follow-up, because the underlying belief says charging makes you a bad person. We break down why that belief is so common, how it shows up in your behaviour, and why giving everything away for free often leads to zero implementation while meaningful pricing creates skin in the game and real results. We also dig into the difference between conscious beliefs (“money is freedom”) and the unconscious story that actually drives your actions. Once you bring that hidden belief into the light, you can self-coach it instead of letting it run your business. Finally, we share a simple reframe for ethical sales: sell people on their goals and the transformation you can help create, then let them choose, without deciding for them by staying silent. If this hits home, subscribe, share it with a coach friend, and leave a review with the money belief you’re ready to challenge. Want to show up as the best version of you in the moments that matter most? Start by taking our 2-minute quiz at modernleadership.us/quiz! If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    10 min

  2. 3d ago

    Self-Leadership For Lasting Health

    Send us Fan Mail You can know exactly what to do for your health and still feel stuck when life gets loud. We open this bonus series by getting brutally honest about why goals like weight loss, more energy, healthier eating, and better longevity plans break down in the real world, not because you are lazy, but because the story in your head keeps pulling you back to the starting line. We talk about the hidden belief that derails more progress than any diet mistake: the idea that there’s a “right way” and a “wrong way” to get healthy. Once you attach your worth to doing it perfectly, you either force yourself into a plan you cannot sustain or you freeze and do nothing. We also get into the social media layer of it all, including the shame and status games around GLP-1 medications, and why someone else’s opinions should never get to decide your health outcomes. Then we zoom in on self-leadership and self-coaching in the moment, especially when you are busy, stressed, or surrounded by people who project their beliefs onto your body and choices. The question we leave you with is simple and sharp: what story have you been telling yourself that, if you removed it or reframed it, would finally let you follow through? If this hits home, subscribe so you don’t miss the rest of the series, share it with a friend who feels stuck, and leave a review so more people can find the show. If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    14 min

  3. 5d ago

    How to Change a Habit That Every Program and Book Has Missed

    Send us Fan Mail Your phone rings during family time and suddenly the room changes. The conversation stops, your attention splits, and you can feel the distance grow in real time. We start with a client story that lands like a punch to the chest: his kid goes quiet because they assume he will take the call. That single moment reveals what most “break the habit” plans miss, and why putting your phone away is not a technical problem you solve with an app, a timer, or sheer discipline. We dig into the belief-level drivers that keep the habit running even when the stakes feel painfully clear. One belief says that talking about the issue with your partner will create more disconnection, so you avoid the conversation and stay stuck. Another belief says that if you don’t respond immediately, you could lose a client and risk your ability to provide, which keeps your mind on alert even when you’re physically at home. Marc and Teresa walk through the coaching questions that flip those assumptions and open up a different path, including how to ask your spouse for help and how “call me forward” creates accountability without shame. Then we take on the fear behind boundaries at work. What if not answering at 8 or 9pm doesn’t cost you respect but earns it? What if it helps you filter for the right clients and model the kind of leadership and work life balance they want for themselves? We close with two prompts to sit with so you can spot the story fueling your old actions and test a new one that makes the better choice feel natural. If you want more conversations like this, subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a boundary reset, and leave a review so more leaders can find us. Want to show up as the best version of you in the moments that matter most? Start by taking our 2-minute quiz at modernleadership.us/quiz! If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    19 min

  4. Jun 15

    How to Show Up as Your Best Self When the Pressure Is On

    Send us Fan Mail There’s a calm, grounded version of you that you trust and then there’s the version that shows up when pressure hits and you don’t even feel like you chose it. We’re Marc and Teresa, and we’re digging into why that happens, how your brain grabs familiar stories under stress, and how to close the gap between who you are in comfort and who you want to be when it counts. We talk about how identity labels trap us (“I’m just an angry person”), why reactions are often a perspective problem rather than a discipline problem, and how one split-second thought can hijack your tone, your leadership presence, and your relationships. Mark shares an embarrassing but honest breaking point story that became a lifelong reminder: the issue isn’t knowing better, it’s that “knowing” stops working when emotion takes the wheel. From leadership coaching to parenting to marriage, we break down why you can be composed with a client yet reactive with family, how belief systems and expectations shape your default, and why chasing tactics and scripts won’t fix an internal mindset issue. We also introduce the idea of capacity: the skill of holding competing priorities and choosing your response on purpose. You’ll walk away with a simple question to use in real time: “How can I be most effective right now?” If this helps, subscribe to Modern Leadership Coaching, share it with someone who leads under pressure, and leave a review so more people can find it. What’s the last moment you reacted and what thought was there right before it happened? Want to show up as the best version of you in the moments that matter most? Start by taking our 2-minute quiz at modernleadership.us/quiz! If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    36 min

  5. Jun 8

    How to Break the Pattern You've Been Trying to Fix for Years

    Send us Fan Mail You can be the kind of person who runs toward the work and still feel trapped in the same loop. That tension is what we unpack here: why smart, driven leaders and coaches can read the books, hire the mentors, try the strategies, and still hit the same wall. When effort doesn’t produce change, it usually isn’t a willpower problem. It’s a “wrong level” problem. We dig into the difference between technical problems (what to do) and adaptive problems (how you think, what you believe, and who you are being while you do it). We talk about how subconscious beliefs quietly protect you by keeping you safe, how your brain collects evidence after a decision to prove you were right, and why that can lock in patterns even when you’re taking constant action. If you’ve ever found yourself spiralling into “maybe I’m not good enough” after trying everything, you’ll recognise exactly what we’re pointing to. We also share what changed for us when we realised we were trying to fix a messaging problem that wasn’t the real issue, and why conversations that get to the root can outperform automation when your best work is human. You’ll leave with a simple question that can reset your entire approach, plus a resource to help you diagnose what’s actually keeping you stuck. Subscribe, share this with a friend who’s hitting a wall, and leave a review with the biggest insight you’re taking into your week. Want to show up as the best version of you in the moments that matter most? Start by taking our 2-minute quiz at modernleadership.us/quiz! If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    30 min

  6. Jun 1

    How to Stop the Spiral Before It Takes Over

    Send us Fan Mail You can feel it starting: a comment lands wrong, your chest tightens, your mind races, and even while you’re watching it happen you still can’t stop the explosion. Marc unpacks why that experience isn’t a character flaw and isn’t a lack of self-awareness. It’s your brain doing what it was trained to do over years: follow the strongest, most familiar pathway to keep you safe, even when it costs you connection, confidence, and leadership presence.  We walk through what the “spiral” actually feels like on the inside, why “here we go again” becomes a self-fulfilling loop, and why trying to fix the behavior is often fixing the wrong problem. The real leverage point is earlier: the story your brain assigns to a neutral situation, the emotion that story creates in your body, and the reaction that follows. When the story is “they don’t respect me” or “I can’t do this,” your nervous system responds like it’s under threat, and your old pattern runs on autopilot.  You’ll also hear what separates people who eventually break the pattern from people who stay stuck, why affirmations rarely take hold when an old belief feels like truth, and how unconscious beliefs quietly drive your reactions without you noticing. We talk about the deeper work of reprogramming: pausing, reflecting, choosing a new perspective on purpose, and getting support from someone who can spot what you can’t see.  If you want help finding your root belief, take the quiz at modoleadership.us/quiz and reach out for the free 20-minute call. If this helped, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s stuck in a loop, and leave a review so more leaders can find the tools to respond instead of react. Want to show up as the best version of you in the moments that matter most? Start by taking our 2-minute quiz at modernleadership.us/quiz! If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    15 min

  7. May 28 ·  Bonus

    Bonus Episode - The Missing Piece — How to Coach Yourself Through the Moments That Keep Stopping You

    Send us Fan Mail You can be disciplined, self-aware, and deeply committed to growth and still feel like you are living the same week on repeat. That is exactly why we recorded this bonus conversation: to go inside our Growth Model and hand you a practical piece of the “how” you can use today, not just the theory. We break down why getting stuck is usually not a motivation problem or a knowledge problem. It is an unconscious perspective running in the background, often built from old pre-programming, that quietly drives your emotions, your energy, your actions and your results. We explain how the brain is designed to keep you safe and automate patterns, why it focuses on what is broken, wrong or missing, and how that creates an unconscious loop that keeps reinforcing itself. Then we teach the five-part Growth Model in plain language: reality, perspective, emotion, response and results. We walk through the four levels of self-coaching, from blaming the outside world, to taking ownership and shaming yourself, to interrupting the pattern in a micro moment, and finally to reprogramming so the new response becomes automatic. We also do a step-by-step example using a common trigger: the alarm goes off, you want to work out, and your mind says “I’m exhausted.” You will hear exactly how to shift the perspective so the emotion changes, the response changes, and the result starts moving. If you have ever tried accountability, new routines, or another program and still felt stuck, this will give you a clearer diagnosis and a cleaner next step. Subscribe to Modern Leadership Coaching, share this with a friend who is doing the work, and leave us a review. What micro moment are you going to coach yourself through this week? Want to show up as the best version of you in the moments that matter most? Start by taking our 2-minute quiz at modernleadership.us/quiz! If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    47 min

  8. May 25

    The Coaching Skill Nobody Knew to Teach Me

    Send us Fan Mail Someone comes to you stuck and you can feel the pressure to say the perfect thing. You reach for advice, a pep talk, or a quick solution, and somehow it still doesn’t help. We name what’s really happening: you’re not failing because you don’t care enough or because you “aren’t confident.” You’re missing a repeatable coaching skill for hard conversations, and most of us were never trained to build it. Marc unpacks what “winging it” looks like from the inside and why, under stress, we fall back to muscle memory. We talk about the common trap of becoming a consultant or cheerleader, how that can accidentally create limiting beliefs, and why strong leadership coaching relies on questions that reveal what’s driving behavior. We also draw a bright line between guiding and controlling: you can be asking questions and still steer the person toward your preferred answer with leading prompts that plant the wrong story. You’ll hear how this skill translates across roles, whether you’re a manager, a parent, or a coach, and why having a simple process (like a growth model approach) changes your presence. When you know what you’re doing, people feel it, trust it, and take action. We close with a challenge scenario you can think through before next week. If this helps, subscribe, share it with someone who leads people, and leave a quick review. What’s your default when someone gets emotional in the room? Want to show up as the best version of you in the moments that matter most? Start by taking our 2-minute quiz at modernleadership.us/quiz! If you're ready to stop relying on motivation and start building the mindset, habits, and self-leadership skills that create lasting change, check out the Self-Leadership Lab from Modern Leadership Coaching. The Lab is designed to help you develop the internal capacity to follow through on the goals that matter most—whether that's your health, your relationships, your business, or your life. Learn more at modernleadership.us/lab.

    19 min
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Modern Leadership Coaching is where Marc and Teresa Hildebrand help driven people get out of their own way and reach their next level. Real conversations about what actually holds people back, how to get your own thinking working for you instead of against you, and how to show up as who you know you can be in your business, your family, and your life. No hype. Just honest talk that helps you see what you couldn't see on your own. New episodes weekly: https://www.modernleadership.us

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