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Men Seeking Calm is about helping men get to calm from a place of stress, anxiety and pain. Some of the practical tools include emotional regulation, anger management and relationship skills. What can we do when the Big Emotions come in our intimate relationships? We explore what it means ”to be a man” in the world of today - it can get confusing. Supporting men in their ”how to do life” quests. And when you learn this stuff ... pass it on the next guy.

  1. 10/04/2025

    32. Small Relationship Repairs.

    Relational repair is what you do after a slip—a sharp comment, a cold shoulder, a broken promise, verbal abuse or worse. It’s the fast, clean act of turning back toward us: notice the rupture, steady yourself, own your part, name the impact, offer a small fix today, check what else is needed, and follow through. Short. Honest. Consistent. That’s repair.

    6 min

  2. 09/28/2025

    31. Bickering.

    Bickering: Why “Small Stuff” Wrecks Psychological Safety. Episode Description: Bickering looks harmless—quick quips, corrections, sarcasm, point-scoring. We tell ourselves “we’re just talking,” “everyone does it,” “no big deal.” But these “small shots” quietly train both nervous systems to expect micro-threats. Heart rate creeps up, breathing shortens, shoulders tighten, and the brain shifts from connection to defense. What starts as mischief and play can flip the moment a soft spot gets touched—fun turns into jabs, and both partners chase minor wins while the bond loses. Over time, hyper-vigilance rises, warmth and repair get harder, resentment accrues, desire drops, and trust goes brittle. Bickering masquerades as engagement; it’s connection-negative and corrodes psychological safety. Call to Action: Treat bickering like a big problem—because it is. Protect the bond first. Tags/Keywords: bickering, psychological safety, couples communication, men’s work, relationship repair, nervous system, micro-threats, conflict de-escalation, intimacy, connection.

    5 min

  3. 09/20/2025

    30. Heaven's Reward Fallacy.

    🎙️ MEN SEEKING CALM Podcast Episode Title: The Heaven’s Reward Fallacy – Why Being “Good” Doesn’t Guarantee a Happy Ending Host: Greg Martin | WalkTheMountain.com 🔎 Episode Summary: In this episode, Greg shines a spotlight on one of the more frustrating (and exhausting) faulty thinking traps: The Heaven’s Reward Fallacy. This is the quiet belief that if you’re a good man, put in the emotional effort, stay patient, and sacrifice your own needs — then eventually, your partner, life, or the universe will reward you. With what? Peace. Love. Gratitude. Less conflict. More sex. Whatever your version of “the payoff” is. But that’s the trap. Because when the reward doesn’t show up, resentment does. 💭 What You'll Learn: What theHeaven’s Reward Fallacy actually is (and how it hides in noble intentions) Common thoughts that reveal you’re stuck in this mental loop Why silently hoping for love and appreciation often backfires How this fallacy leads to quiet martyrdom, emotional burnout, and relationship disconnect Why effort, without clarity or communication, turns into an invisible contract no one agreed to 🔥 Examples From the Episode: “After all I’ve done for her, she should treat me better.” “I’ve held it together — why am I still the bad guy?” “I’ve sacrificed so much, and nothing’s changed.” “I guess being a decent man gets you nowhere these days.” 🎧 Why This Matters: This episode is for every man who’s ever thought, “If I do everything right, I’ll finally get what I deserve.” Greg unpacks why that belief creates more pain than progress — and helps listeners start to see relationships not as reward systems, but as real, living dynamics built on clarity, connection, and self-worth. 👉 Subscribe to the free newsletter at WalkTheMountain.com 🎧 Tune in, breathe deep, and let go of the invisible scorecard.

    5 min

  4. 09/13/2025

    29. The Control Fallacy.

    🎙️ MEN SEEKING CALM 🧠 Episode: The Control Fallacy — When You're Either the Puppet or the Puppet Master 👤 Hosted by Greg Martin | http://walkthemountain.com/ EPISODE SUMMARY Welcome back to the MEN SEEKING CALM podcast. In today’s episode, Greg explores the Control Fallacy — a sneaky trap that convinces men they either have total control over everything in their relationship, or absolutely none at all. Sound familiar? Whether you're walking on eggshells trying to keep your partner happy, or blaming her for every emotional ripple in your life, you might be caught in this mental tug-of-war. Greg unpacks how this faulty thinking leads to emotional burnout, resentment, passive aggression, or even collapse — and most importantly, how to step out of it with curiosity, shared power, and better emotional boundaries. IN THIS EPISODE: ✅ What is the Control Fallacy? ✅ Why some men feel overly responsible for their partner’s moods ✅ How blame, guilt, and control feed the fallacy ✅ The emotional cost of being “too in control” or “not in control at all” ✅ A humorous and practical antidote to regain your center ✅ 5 specific mindset shifts to escape the trap QUOTES TO REMEMBER: 🧩 “You’re not powerless. You’re not all-powerful. You’re just human — gloriously imperfect.” 🧩 “You can influence — but you don’t control the weather in someone else’s head.” 🧩 “Drop the cape, hero. Sometimes the best thing you can do is just listen and let it be.” LINKS & RESOURCES: 🔗 Subscribe to the Free Newsletter 🧭 Explore more tools for calm, connection, and clarity at Walk-The-Mountain.com 📣 Share this episode with a man who carries too much and needs to set it down. Subscribe, Rate, and Review If this episode helped you, let the world know. Hit subscribe, leave a review, or share it with your mates. Your story helps other men find their calm too.

    6 min

  5. 09/06/2025

    28. Emotional Reasoning,

    🎙️ MEN SEEKING CALM Podcast Episode Title: Emotional Reasoning: When Feelings Pretend to Be Facts Host: Greg Martin – WalkTheMountain.com 🧠 Episode Summary In this episode, Greg explores the thinking trap of Emotional Reasoning — the tendency to believe something is true just because you feel it strongly. From feeling like a failure to assuming your relationship is falling apart, emotional reasoning can distort reality and sabotage connection. Greg breaks it down with real examples, practical tools, and one powerful reminder: “Feelings are signals, not facts.” 💡 What You’ll Learn What emotional reasoning is and why it’s so common (especially in men under relationship stress) How emotional reasoning hijacks logic and clarity Real-life examples of emotional reasoning in conflict Why feelings can’t always be trusted as evidence A simple self-check script to interrupt emotional spirals How to reconnect with your partner instead of withdrawing or attacking 🔁 Key Quotes “The feeling becomes the proof — but it’s not proof at all.” “Just because you feel like crap doesn’t mean everything is crap.” “Say it with me: ‘I feel ___, but that doesn’t mean it’s true.’” 🛠️ Tools & Takeaways Pause and ask: “What’s the evidence for this feeling?” Say out loud: “I’m feeling [emotion], but that doesn’t mean it’s true.” Ask your partner what they’re actually thinking — don’t assume. Recognize the emotional lens, but don’t let it be the judge and jury. 📥 Subscribe & Stay Connected Get free advice, tools, and insights for men learning to regulate emotion, strengthen relationships, and walk the path of growth. 📬 Sign up for the free newsletter at WalkTheMountain.com

    6 min

  6. 08/30/2025

    27. The Fallacy of Fairness.

    🎙️ MEN SEEKING CALM Episode Title: The Fallacy of Fairness — When Keeping Score Kills Connection Host: Greg Martin Website: WalkTheMountain.com 🧠 Episode Summary In this episode, Greg dives deep into one of the most draining cognitive traps for men in relationships: The Fallacy of Fairness. This thinking habit convinces us that life — and love — should always feel "fair," and when it doesn’t, someone must be doing something wrong. From dish-duty arguments to emotional scorekeeping, Greg explores how the fairness trap breeds resentment, victimhood, and emotional distance — especially when men use it as a mental courtroom to justify frustration or blame. If you’ve ever thought, “I did the right thing, so why is she still upset?” — this one’s for you. 🔥 Key Talking Points What the Fallacy of Fairness looks like in real life How it shows up in arguments, expectations, and “emotional math” Why chasing fairness often leads to disconnection How childhood experiences can shape our sensitivity to perceived injustice The real difference between fairness and relational generosity 🛠️ Fixes & Tools Drop the scoreboard — focus on connection, not competition Practice generosity without expecting return Reframe “What’s fair?” to “What’s helpful right now?” Speak from need, not blame Get curious before you get critical Shift from “me vs. you” to “us as a team” 💬 Greg’s Takeaway Let go of keeping score and start building bridges. The real win in relationships isn’t fairness — it’s mutual care, honest repair, and showing up as teammates, not opponents. 📬 Subscribe to the Free Newsletter Go to WalkTheMountain.com for tools, reflections, and upcoming podcast drops.

    6 min

  7. 08/23/2025

    26. Blaming Her.

    Episode Recap – MEN SEEKING CALM - Blaming Her - with Greg Martin In This Episode: Greg Martin dives deep into one of the most common mental traps that keep men stuck — Blaming Her and offers practical insights for getting unstuck. Today’s episode is about spotting the story in your head before it hijacks your relationship. Key Takeaways: Why blame erodes intimacy and self-worth How these patterns show up in everyday moments with your partner Why awareness is the first step to emotional freedom Greg’s tools to start shifting from reactive to reflective Want More? Get tools, scripts, stories, and straight-up support — delivered to your inbox. 👉 Subscribe to the FREE newsletter at WalkTheMountain.com Let’s Keep Walking — Together. You’re not broken. You’re becoming. Thanks for tuning in to Men Seeking Calm.

    6 min

  8. 08/16/2025

    25. Personalisation - Me Blame.

    In today’s episode, we dive deep into a sneaky and exhausting thinking trap: Personalization (Me-Blame) — the mental habit of believing everything going wrong is somehow your fault. Greg explores how this faulty thinking drains men of energy, inflates guilt, and wrecks intimacy. 🔍 Key Takeaways Personalization = blaming yourself for things you didn’t cause. Often rooted in early emotional conditioning and trauma. Reinforces guilt, martyrdom, and unearned responsibility. Creates distance in relationships by reacting to imagined blame. Prevents emotional connection and trust in your partner’s autonomy. 🛠️ Practical Fixes Reality-check your thoughts: “Is this really about me?” Ask gently instead of assuming: “You okay?” Separate feelings from facts. Say out loud: “That’s not mine to carry.” Trust your partner’s emotions belong to her. Shift from guilt to curiosity: “What’s going on for her?” 💬 Greg Says: “You’re not a walking apology. You’re a human in progress — and not everything is about you.” 📩 Stay Connected Subscribe to the FREE newsletter at WalktheMountain.com for more tools, scripts, and sanity-saving support.

    6 min
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Men Seeking Calm is about helping men get to calm from a place of stress, anxiety and pain. Some of the practical tools include emotional regulation, anger management and relationship skills. What can we do when the Big Emotions come in our intimate relationships? We explore what it means ”to be a man” in the world of today - it can get confusing. Supporting men in their ”how to do life” quests. And when you learn this stuff ... pass it on the next guy.

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