Men's Alliance David Mills

Johanna Stamps, a licensed grief counselor, talks about
how we have to acknowledge grief and mourn in order to continue to move towards God’s vision for our life.  Many items can be lost such as a job, pets, friendships, and marriages.  As men, we need to take time and space to let our brain catch up to the event that has happened. Johanna shares her 7 steps included below and talks about the power of writing a closure letter on the grief you are going through.

How to connect with Johanna:johannastamps.com804 944 5158Johanna.Stamps@gmail.com



Men’s Alliance | How Great Men Grieve



“If you loved it, and lost it, then grieve it”

Grief is like an epic hike through a desolate land.

7 Steps of the Journey:

1. TRAILHEAD: AT THE BEGINNING OF THE JOURNEY
a. Set the intention to heal, to integrate
b. Look for a sign you are grieving: Cognitive, Affective, Physical, Spiritual
c. You ONLY work where grief is coming up, that’s the beginning
d. Feel the pain (No pain, No gain)... It brings healing

2. LOOK AT THE MAP (Pssst... it’s a magical map)
a. The magical map only appears as you walk forward in your grief
b. It’s completely unique to you (circumstance, personality, etc.)
c. Dispel misconceptions (don’t look for stages)

3. BEGIN WALKING
a. Small doses as it comes up
b. One thing at a time
c. We cannot grieve all at one time. We wouldn’t be able to take it!
d. Be creative... example: recognizing important dates (or your body will tell you)

4. GATHER WITH OTHERS - DON’T GRIEVE IN ISOLATION
a. Grieving is internal - Mourning is your external or public experience of grief
b. ESSENTIAL - speak about the experience of the loss, memories, etc.
c. Moves from the head to the heart (READ THIS AGAIN!!!)
d. Look for the 1⁄3 who are good with grief (most likely someone who has dealt with
their own grief)

5. STOP FOR REST
a. Sustenance for your epic journey
b. Maybe learn to rest for the first time

6. EXERCISE JOY AND PAIN MUSCLE
a. Like any normal ruck or hike there is joy with the pain
b. Practice this often when you are grieving

7. GET TO THE LOOKOUT
a. Reflect on how far you have come (when you look at the loss with less pain)
b. See parts of yourself that are becoming whole again - integrating the loss
c. This is OFTEN understanding who you are (e.g. identity)

Sponsor:
Tom 'Doc' Love CFP®, CRPC®, CRPS® tlove@themainstreetgroup.com
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This past week new updates were made to Title IX which will affect all public schools. Listen to what changes are taking place and how the changes matter to us as husbands and fathers. As leaders of our household we need to be aware of what is going on and advocate for our families.

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America was founded by Christian men with Christian values and we need men like that today just as much as we did then. Don’t miss this incredible conversation with Alex McFarland about God, America, and Chuck Norris jokes.

Learn more about Alex:
https://alexmcfarland.com/
100 Bible Questions and Answers for families - Book
21 Toughest Questions your children will get about Christianity - Book
The assault on America - Book

Other Books Mentioned:
Christian Ethics - Norman Geisler

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Men’s Alliance is the fuel additive to your church’s gas tank. MA gets men off the sidelines and deployed in their church by training men in leadership & discipleship!

Request a custom built MA weekend at your church:
https://www.mensalliancetribe.com/experiences

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Your body is a temple, so glorify God in your body. This week Nick ‘Coach’ Hawkins helps share knowledge about
nutrition, sleep, metabolism, and testosterone. Coach also shares about the struggles of his fitness journey and becoming a personal coach.
Book Mentioned:

Salt Sugar Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us - Michael Moss
Connect with Coach:Hawkins Health and FitnessNick 'Coach' Hawkins804-638-1386




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When things get hard what do you reach for? What we reach for when things get hard and uncomfortable, may become the next challenge that we need to overcome. The right medicine is setting your eyes and focus on God in all situations.


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