Real Men Feel with Andy Grant

Andy Grant | Authenticity & Masculinity Coach

Real Men Feel helps men grow beyond outdated rules of masculinity to live with authenticity, purpose, and joy. Since 2016, host Andy Grant has explored how vulnerability, courage, and real conversation fuel personal growth, self-improvement, and emotional well-being. 🥇 Silver Signal Award Winner – Most Inspirational Podcast & Best Self-Help Show. 🎧 Join our free community for men at https://realmenfeel.org/group 💬 Want to be a guest? Connect with Andy on PodMatch, https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/realmenfeel 🔗 Show notes & resources: https://realmenfeel.org

  1. The Invisible Scorecard—What Men Measure and Who They Become

    1天前

    The Invisible Scorecard—What Men Measure and Who They Become

    Episode 400: The Invisible Scorecard Host Andy Grant marks Real Men Feel’s 400th episode and 10-year anniversary with returning guest Vanessa Cardenas, a relationship reset expert, to examine how men constantly measure themselves through an “invisible scorecard” of success, money, status, age, and relationship milestones. They discuss how comparison “pulls a man out of his life and puts him onto someone else’s timeline,” eroding confidence and intimacy, especially when men fill gaps with imagined stories about past partners. Cardenas emphasizes authenticity, dropping the mask, reducing destructive scorekeeping, and using milestones in healthy ways, noting that clarity builds confidence, which in turn supports intimacy. She shares coaching approaches that focus on the here-and-now, appreciation and recognition in relationships, and practical communication shifts. They also explore how significant transformation can happen in 400 minutes, hours, days, or months, and close by urging men to stop measuring by others’ standards and focus on who they are becoming. 00:00 Episode 400 Milestone01:24 Vanessa Returns03:35 Why We Measure04:50 Men Internal Scorecard08:27 Comparison Social Media12:17 Mythic Man Programming14:06 Find Your People17:19 Comparison Kills Intimacy20:20 Clarity Builds Confidence22:22 Say It Differently25:03 Relationship Reset Work26:32 Coaching Not Therapy27:49 Starting Sessions With Praise29:30 Drop Comparisons And Scorecards31:06 Milestones Versus Keeping Score32:14 Transform In 40036:29 Men Need Appreciation39:03 Compliments And Being Noticed42:41 Invest In The Work43:39 Authenticity And Connection46:24 Metallica Quote And Joy47:51 Final Takeaways And Thanks Connect with VanessaUnderstanding Ear — https://understandingear.com LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/vanessa-cardenas-relationship-reset/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/vanessa_understandingear/YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@Vanessa-Cardenas ResourcesPrior appearances of Vanessa Cardenas — https://www.realmenfeel.org/guests/vanessa-cardenas/ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://⁠⁠realmenfeel.org⁠YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel⁠⁠ #RealMenFeel ep 400

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  2. Betrayal Trauma Isn't Something You Just Get Over

    4月10日

    Betrayal Trauma Isn't Something You Just Get Over

    Betrayal, Shame & Rebuilding Trust: The Therapy Brothers on Real Recovery On Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with licensed clinicians Brannon Patrick and Tyler Patrick (the Therapy Brothers) about betrayal, shame, trust, and recovery after relationship rupture. They share what drew them into trauma, addiction, infidelity, and betrayal work, why men often seek help only after disclosure or rock bottom, and how fear of rejection and “unlovability” drives hiding, overperforming, and defensiveness. They describe betrayal trauma as complex trauma with PTSD-like symptoms and explain that healing requires safety, validation, and time rather than pressure to “just get over it.” They unpack “Mr. Nice Guy” patterns as fear-based manipulation, distinguish apology from accountability rooted in personal integrity, and emphasize rebuilding trust through authenticity, empathy, and consistent action. They outline shame resilience—awareness, self-compassion, and courageous disclosure—and discuss surrendering performance-based spirituality. 00:00 Shame and Hiding00:32 Show Intro and Guests01:29 Why They Became Therapists05:33 Men and Rock Bottom09:29 Betrayal Trauma Explained11:53 Why Just Get Over It Fails13:27 Mr Nice Guy Pattern18:07 Authenticity and Self Trust21:03 Roots of Betrayal and Addiction22:12 Apology Versus Accountability23:32 Integrity Apologies24:18 Building Safety Trust25:29 Shame Hiding Cycle28:38 Shame Resilience Tools30:03 Surrender Not Performance33:05 Tyler Rock Bottom Story36:40 Reclaim Your Heart39:19 Connect With Brothers40:16 What Men Need Know42:36 Final Takeaways Connect with Brannon and TylerReclaim Your Heart — https://reclaimyourheart.orgTherapy Brothers — https://therapybrothers.org/Instagram — https://instagram.com/therapy.brothersYouTube — https://youtube.com/@therapy.brothers Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://⁠⁠realmenfeel.org⁠YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel⁠⁠ #RealMenFeel ep 399

    44 分钟
  3. Aligning Success with Soul: From Rock Bottom to Purpose

    4月3日

    Aligning Success with Soul: From Rock Bottom to Purpose

    Success, Intuition, and Purpose: Paul Davis on Unlocking Your Genius Host Andy Grant interviews business growth consultant and intuitive advisor Paul Davis about aligning business success with purpose, meaning, and self-care. Davis explains that financial turnarounds don’t last if the owner’s mindset, beliefs, and unresolved childhood trauma aren’t addressed, citing ACE scores and how fear, shame, and guilt can escalate depression and suicidal ideation. He shares his own lifelong suicidal thoughts, why he hid them to avoid appearing weak or risky in senior roles, and how his brother Eugene’s death prompted him to speak openly and develop a methodology for purpose. Davis outlines “genius” as an innate spirit and describes four purpose elements: a life quest/mission, divine inspiration, three “genius drivers” for fulfillment, and a “genius role” archetype. He emphasizes giving “from the saucer, not from the cup,” building intuition, and living with an “open hand” rather than a constant focus on productivity. 00:00 Why Leaders Stay Silent00:27 Meet Paul Davis01:29 Business Meets Mindset03:22 Sunrise Wake Up Call05:15 Dark Questions Early06:29 Research And New Method08:35 Service And Mission09:57 Why Success Feels Empty10:38 Trauma Triggers Self Care15:04 Why He Hid It18:17 Loss Changed Everything20:19 Defining Genius21:02 Divine Inspiration Explained21:32 Why Finding Your Why Fails22:10 Genius Drivers And Fulfillment22:49 Genius Roles And Alignment24:27 Success Without Purpose26:23 Intuition And Seventh Son29:19 What Leaders Need Most31:24 Find Your Lifelong Quest35:00 Meaningful Life And Legacy37:04 Open Hand Living Advice38:59 Final Wrap And Resources Connect with PaulPaul Davis — https://davisbusinessconsultants.com/LinkedIn — linkedin.com/in/pauldavisdublinYouTube — https://www.youtube.com/davisconsultants ResourcesGenius Unlocked: Discover Your Life Purpose & Innate Genius by Paul Davis — https://amzn.to/4tq8JNcAll of Paul’s books — https://amzn.to/4tq8JNc Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | https://realmenfeel.org/group⁠Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com⁠ for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | https://www.realmenfeel.org/YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel⁠⁠ #RealMenFeel ep 398

    40 分钟
  4. Men's Silent Struggles: Overcoming Loneliness and Rejection

    3月27日

    Men's Silent Struggles: Overcoming Loneliness and Rejection

    Rebuilding After Betrayal, Divorce, and the Dead Bedroom: Ralph Brewer on Men, Shame, and Support Host Andy Grant interviews men’s coach Ralph Brewer about rebuilding after infidelity, divorce, and relationship collapse. Ralph shares his own experience of being divorced within 60 days after his spouse’s infidelity and becoming a single father of three, including how he blamed himself for years and later learned he couldn’t control another person’s choices. He explains how therapy and connecting with other men led him to create the “Dad Starting Over” platform, write five books—starting with the breakout “The Dead Bedroom Fix”—and build HelpForMen.com and the paid Brotherhood community with frequent Zoom meetings, forums, conferences, and coaching. They discuss common patterns among anxious, codependent “Mr. Nice Guy” men paired with avoidant partners, how “man up” emotional suppression causes flatness and mental health issues, the risks of bitterness and rapid rebound dating, and why peer support and asking for help are essential. 00:00 Shame and Masculinity00:19 Show Intro and Guest01:28 Ralph's Divorce Story02:34 Owning Too Much Blame03:58 Therapy and Brotherhood05:10 From Blog to Brand07:32 Identity After Breakup10:29 Man Up Culture Costs12:15 Anxious Avoidant Trap15:48 Rewiring Shame and Self-Worth18:07 Dead Bedroom Explained19:58 First Step Honest Inventory21:11 Why Men Choose Wrong21:51 Pragmatic Partner Vetting22:55 Divorce Patterns Repeat23:56 Avoiding Bitter Blame25:36 Rebound Relationship Trap26:53 Neurodivergence And Dating29:27 Rock Bottom And Coping32:04 Brotherhood And Community36:52 How To Find Ralph38:31 Ask For Help40:01 Final Takeaways Connect with RalphRalph Brewer — https://helpformen.com/Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/dadstartingoverInstagram — https://instagram.com/dadstartingover ResourcesThe Dead Bedroom Fix by Ralph Brewer — https://amzn.to/4tgMJ7nAll of Ralph’s books — https://amzn.to/4s85KYM Join other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 397

    41 分钟
  5. Redefining Success: The Hollow Man Syndrome

    3月20日

    Redefining Success: The Hollow Man Syndrome

    The Hollow Man Syndrome: Redefining Success, Vulnerability, and the New Alpha Host Andy Grant interviews Kenyada Meadows, a Bank of America senior vice president and master certified executive coach, about “hollow man syndrome”—men who appear successful but feel empty and unfulfilled. Meadows explains the metaphor of a strong tree with decaying roots and describes how hollowing out can manifest as strained relationships, self-medicating, short tempers, or acting out. He contrasts traditional “alpha” achievement-driven masculinity with “emotional integrity,” emphasizing vulnerability, community, and emotional literacy as skills for connection and asking for help. Meadows outlines his “New Alpha” framework of three domains—relationships at work, at home, and with oneself—critiques the myth of perfect work-life balance with the idea of “wobbling well,” and discusses re-parenting the inner child, grace, and intentional reflection. He shares taking four months of paid parental leave in a competitive Wall Street environment, finding no downside, and encourages men to broaden “providing” beyond money to presence and communication. 00:00 The Hollow Tree Metaphor 00:31 Meet Kenyada Meadows 01:32 Defining Hollow Man Syndrome 04:19 Personal Turning Points 05:37 Mentorship and The New Alpha 08:23 Costs of Traditional Alpha 09:56 Emotional Integrity Skills 14:38 Why High Achievers Feel Empty 16:31 Wobbling Work Life Balance 18:40 Reparenting the Inner Child 21:07 Taking Paternity Leave 24:02 Providing Beyond Money 28:04 Three Domains Framework 29:49 Rethinking Alpha Culture 32:46 Connect and Final Takeaway 36:15 Closing and Community Invite Connect with Kenyada Kenyada Meadows — https://www.executiveparentcompany.com/ LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenyadameadowscpaciacfe/Resources The New Alpha: Be Three Times the Leader Through Balance, Not Dominance by Kenyada Meadows — https://amzn.to/4bA4BCV Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join me and connect with other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 396

    37 分钟
  6. Men's Health and Healing: Exploring Modern Masculinity

    3月13日

    Men's Health and Healing: Exploring Modern Masculinity

    Men’s Health, Loneliness, and Real Masculinity Host Andy Grant opens by saying men need truth and connection, not shame or fake strength. After a guest postpones due to health news, Andy shares he has a colonoscopy scheduled and urges men to prioritize physical health: get annual checkups, know family history, ask doctors questions, and follow colorectal cancer screening guidance, noting rising deaths under 50 and citing Chadwick Boseman and James Van Der Beek. He then discusses an international survey reporting that about a third of Gen Z men believe wives should obey husbands and husbands should have final say, interpreting this as a search for identity, direction, belonging, respect, purpose, and brotherhood. Andy argues that men are hurting without language, loneliness increases vulnerability to harmful online narratives, and real masculinity is responsibility, integrity, presence, and emotional honesty, inviting listeners to join his community at https://realmenfeel.org/group. 00:00 What Men Really Need00:18 Welcome and Plans Change00:44 Colonoscopy Wake Up Call01:22 Screening Facts and Risks02:31 Gen Z Survey Shock03:18 What Men Are Hungry For04:32 Pain Turns Into Anger05:15 Loneliness and Online Voices06:05 Masculinity Without Domination07:17 Why Real Men Feel Exists07:38 Two Reminders and Next Steps Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join us in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 395

    9 分钟
  7. The Success Trap: When Winning Feels Empty

    3月6日

    The Success Trap: When Winning Feels Empty

    Escaping the Success Trap: When Achievement Still Feels Empty Host Andy Grant discusses “the success trap,” where men achieve promotions, money, status, and accomplishments yet feel empty, disconnected, and numb. Citing a Forbes article, he explains the paradox that believing we’re successful can limit growth by creating fear of risking standing in others’ eyes, even when success lacks meaning. Drawing from his corporate experience and nearly 400 Real Men Feel episodes, he describes signs and outcomes such as identity tied to performance, discomfort with rest, emotional inaccessibility, burnout, midlife crisis, relationship struggles, addiction, and self-destructive behavior. Grant shares quotes from Johnny Cash, Maya Angelou, Albert Schweitzer, and Winston Churchill, then offers three solutions: redefine success to include meaning and connection, reconnect with feelings through reflection and journaling, and build brotherhood to counter isolation, inviting listeners to the Authentic AF community. 00:00 The Success Trap 00:36 Welcome and Setup 01:34 Why Success Feels Empty 03:03 My Corporate Wakeup 03:44 Signs You Are Stuck 04:42 Achievement Armor Costs 06:03 Patterns From 400 Talks 07:01 Redefining Real Success 08:01 Three Ways Out 09:53 Join Authentic AF Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast: Join us in the Authentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/group Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info! Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.org YouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 394

    10 分钟
  8. Midlife Awakening: Finding Fulfillment After 50

    2月27日

    Midlife Awakening: Finding Fulfillment After 50

    Midlife Identity, Men Speaking Up, and Finding Fulfillment After 50 Andy Grant interviews UK-based Philip Briscoe, host of the Mid-life Men Podcast, about his midlife turning point at 50 after leaving a tech job where he felt undervalued and realizing he didn’t know who he was beyond work. Philip describes how stress and lack of fulfillment contributed to depression, anxiety, poor sleep, and lifestyle-related health issues including type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, obesity, and fatty liver, many of which improved after he stepped away. He explains creating his podcast to fill a lack of resources for men, finding purpose by sharing men’s recovery narratives, and later turning interviews into his book Men Speak Up, focused on communication and getting help. They discuss misconceptions about the “midlife crisis,” hormonal and mental-health realities, ageism, normalizing taboo topics like suicidal thoughts, and the importance of supportive friendships and groups. 00:00 Burnout and Identity Loss00:57 Meet Philip Briscoe02:08 Turning 50 Wake Up Call03:32 Health Alarms and Change04:09 Finding Purpose Through Podcasting06:46 Work Family and Delayed Joy09:44 Why Mid-life Men Exists12:24 Lessons Men Speak Up15:15 Depression Signs and Support18:45 From Podcast to Book20:51 Midlife Crisis Myths25:59 Purpose as a Continuum27:25 Connect and Final Takeaway30:13 Closing and Community Invite Connect with PhilipPhilip Briscoe — https://www.mid-lifemen.com/Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/midlifemenpodcast/Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/midlifemen/LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/philipbriscoe/ ResourcesMen Speak Up: Journeys Through Mental Health by Philip Briscoe — https://amzn.to/4kT4QgJ Connect with Andy and the Real Men Feel Podcast:Join me and connect with other like-minded men in theAuthentic AF Community | http://realmenfeel.org/groupInstagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrantAndy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!Real Men Feel | http://realmenfeel.orgYouTube | https://youtube.com/realmenfeel #RealMenFeel ep 393

    31 分钟
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Real Men Feel helps men grow beyond outdated rules of masculinity to live with authenticity, purpose, and joy. Since 2016, host Andy Grant has explored how vulnerability, courage, and real conversation fuel personal growth, self-improvement, and emotional well-being. 🥇 Silver Signal Award Winner – Most Inspirational Podcast & Best Self-Help Show. 🎧 Join our free community for men at https://realmenfeel.org/group 💬 Want to be a guest? Connect with Andy on PodMatch, https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/realmenfeel 🔗 Show notes & resources: https://realmenfeel.org

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