Midlife by (Human) Design: Purpose, Perimenopause, Menopause, Wellness, Mindset & Woo that Works

Lori Lisai
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Midlife by (Human) Design is the podcast for women in midlife who feel called to redesign the second half of life--consciously, spiritually, and on their own terms. If you're asking: Who am I now? Why doesn't the life I built fit anymore? Why does everything feel off, even though nothing's technically wrong? What choice would I make if I actually trusted myself? you're in the right place. This show is for women navigating midlife as the initiation it is. Through Human Design, spirituality, perimenopause and menopause wisdom, and grounded real-life practices, we explore what it means to become the woman you're here to be in the second half of life. I'm your host, Lori Lisai, a Human Design guide and coach for midlife women. I help women stop outsourcing their authority, understand their energy, and make aligned decisions as they shed the shoulds and be who they came here to be. Each week, we dive into: ✨ Human Design teachings that help you trust yourself and your decisions 🌙 Perimenopause + menopause through a mind–body–energy lens 🔥 Identity shifts, purpose pivots, and the unraveling that precedes reinvention 🌿 Energy management and self-care that actually restores you 💫 Spiritual insights, archetypes, and real stories of women consciously authoring the second half of life If you've been wondering where your spark went and how to get it back, you're in the right place. This is a space for women who are dreaming bigger (or want to) and who know that midlife is the opportunity to finally be your authentic self. It's where meaning deepens, intuition sharpens, and a truer life becomes possible. Each episode is part teaching, part reflection, part permission slip—with practical tools, honest conversations, and the occasional well-placed F-bomb. Midlife is the perfect time of life. You're becoming someone new. Let's make sure she feels like home. 🎧 Next Steps: 📬 Get Wild Woman Wisdom in Your Inbox My newsletter for Human Design transits, astrology, & offerings I don't share anywhere else. 👉 lorilisai.com/#newsletter 📥 Get your Human Design chart and the free HD Mini Guide (and grab the Perimenopause Survival Guide while you're at it) 👉 https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 📱 Follow Me on Instagram + Threads Where midlife meets real talk, Human Design, sweetness and sass 👉 @lorilisai 💬 Got a Question for the Pod? DM me on IG or drop a message—your story might inspire a future episode. *Disclaimer: Information provided in this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The information is not intended or implied to supplement or replace professional medical treatment, advice, and/or diagnosis. I share the strategies that have worked for me and you are advised to do your own research and speak to your medical provider for care.

  1. 20H AGO

    Ep 116: You Know What You Need to Do. So Why Aren't You Doing It? (Conditioning vs. Deep Knowing)

    You know something deeply. You feel it in your body, in your bones. You know what needs to change. But you're still not taking action. You run the same scenarios over and over in your head, ignoring that deep knowing because the change feels too big, too scary, too selfish. You're worried about disappointing people, making the wrong decision, or blowing up the life you've spent decades building. Sound familiar? Here's what's happening: conditioning is keeping you stuck. The external expectations, inherited roles, and survival adaptations that got you here are no longer serving you—but your nervous system doesn't know that yet. In this contemplative solo episode, Lori explores why midlife women know what they need to do but still can't take action. She breaks down the difference between conditioning (the good girl, the caretaker, the achiever) and your capital-T Truth (the deep knowing, the life that wants to be lived through you). She normalizes the desire for change at this phase, explains how to use your Human Design authority to build trust in yourself again, and offers practical experiments (one-degree pivots) to help you move from knowing to doing. Key Takeaways: Why you know what you need to do but still can't take action  The difference between conditioning and your capital-T Truth Why midlife is when conditioning becomes keenly visible  What conditioning actually is Why midlife feels different How to identify what conditioning is holding you back from your deep knowing Building trust in yourself  Reframing midlife 🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Book a Midlife by Human Design session: https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport   Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai

    23 min

  2. MAY 18

    Ep 115: How to Feel Beautiful Again Without Chasing Youth: Magnetism, Beauty, & Aging by Design

    When's the last time you felt beautiful? As aging shifts how we look and how society responds to us, you might be struggling with grief, comparison, invisibility, and the fear that you're somehow becoming "less than." In this episode, Lori explores how Human Design can help you reconnect with your authentic magnetism and redefine beauty on your own terms. Through the lens of the G Center—the center of identity, love, and magnetism—this episode invites you to move beyond cultural conditioning and reconnect with the deeper beauty that emerges when you become more fully yourself. Key Takeaways: What lies beneath midlife body struggles How beauty standards condition women to seek approval and perform  The connection between authenticity and magnetism in Human Design Defined vs. undefined G Centers and how they shape identity and self-image Why midlife women often become more magnetic as they age 5 things to help you reclaim beauty A powerful mindset shift to help you stop comparing yourself to your younger self 🔗 Schedule a Human Design session:https://LoriLisai.as.me/mbhdsession 🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Book a Midlife by Human Design session: https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai NEW: Ask & Answer segment! DM Lori on Instagram or Threads with your question!

    26 min

  3. MAY 11

    Ep 114: Maybe You Just Don't Like the Sex You're Having: Solar Plexus Gates and Midlife Low Libido

    _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> Your libido has tanked. You're blaming hormones, perimenopause, exhaustion (and yes, those are all factors). But what if there's something deeper? What if, as sexuality educator Linda River Valente said in Episode 109, you just don't like the sex you're having? The solution isn't more hormone therapy or "trying harder." It's understanding YOUR specific design for desire and the solar plexus gates hold the key. In this episode, Lori breaks down the emotional side of sexuality through the lens of Human Design's solar plexus center. She explores the three circuits (collective, individual, tribal) and their corresponding channels and gates, revealing what each needs to feel desire. Key Takeaways: Why low libido isn't just about hormones  The three circuits of desire: collective, individual, and tribal Collective:boredom = libido death Individual: romance, communication, emotional buildup Tribal: touch, agreements Episode 109 with Linda River Valente: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-109-from-low-libido-to-erotic-liberation-what-midlife/id1754592104?i=1000759817813 Episode 107 Cheat Codes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-107-midlife-desire-cheat-codes-for-your-sex-drive/id1754592104?i=1000756858630 NEW: Ask & Answer segment! DM Lori on Instagram or Threads with your question! Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai 🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Book a Midlife by Human Design session: https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart _*]:min-w-0 gap-3">

    28 min

  4. MAY 4

    Ep 113: Why You Can't Turn Off Your Brain Right Now: Mental Anxiety, Human Design and Air Transits

    _*]:min-w-0 gap-3"> You're lying in bed, thoughts spiraling. The same loops, over and over: Should I leave? Should I stay? Is this all there is? What am I even doing with my life? You can't shut it off, and it's worse during perimenopause. Here's what's happening: we're in a massive air transit (Pluto in Aquarius, Uranus in Gemini through 2033), and your Head center is doing what it does, asking questions, seeking answers, creating pressure. But here's the truth: your thoughts are NOT your authority. Your mind isn't designed to make decisions. It's designed to inspire you. In this episode, Lori breaks down why midlife women are experiencing intense mental loops right now, how the current astrological transits amplify mental pressure, and what the Head center in Human Design reveals about your thinking patterns. She explains the difference between defined and undefined Head centers (70% of people are undefined), why you're conditioning yourself in bed with your partner, and practical grounding techniques to get back into your body when your mind won't stop.   Key Takeaways: • Why Pluto in Aquarius and Uranus in Gemini create mental intensity (air energy explained) • The Head center: inspiration vs. mental pressure (and why 70% of people are undefined) • How undefined Head centers create mental loops and conditioning with partners • Why sleeping in separate rooms can help you escape mental spiraling • Your thoughts are NOT your authority  • Grounding practices: breath work, body scans, nature, slowing down • Check your astrology chart for where Aquarius and Gemini are activating themes   Episode 2 on Authorities:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-2-finding-your-spark-in-midlife-how-understanding/id1754592104?i=1000662270628   Connect with Lori: • Instagram @lorilisai • Threads: @lorilisai   🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Book a Midlife by Human Design session: https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport _*]:min-w-0 gap-3">

    23 min

  5. APR 27

    Ep 112: Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes: Your Daily Practice for Midlife Transformation

    https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithloriYou've woken up. You feel buzzing, alive, restless. You want MORE—but you don't know exactly what that is, and you don't necessarily want to blow up your entire life overnight. So now what? How do you get from Point A (the old version of you that no longer fits) to Point B (the wild woman you're becoming) without causing chaos? This episode is your roadmap. In this solo episode, Lori breaks down the signs of a midlife awakening—the thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations that signal change is coming. Then she offers a practical daily framework to help you navigate the transition. It's about one-degree pivots that compound over time. Key Takeaways: Signs you're experiencing a midlife awakening  Why naming your awakening is important The "blow it all up" vs. "one degree pivot" paths  How to use your Human Design Strategy & Authority to guide you from A to B Morning practice Midday practice Evening practice Why "nothing changes if nothing changes" (and how to actually change) Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai 🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 NEW! Book a Midlife by Human Design session: https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Support the pod with a donation: https://tinyurl.com/MbDpodsupport

    27 min

  6. APR 20

    Ep 111: Buh-bye Good Girl : It's Time to Claim Your Ugly, Your Rage, & Your Desire in Midlife

    How do you hold both truths at once without losing yourself? This episode is about reclaiming your sovereignty in a world that wants you small, quiet, and compliant. It's about understanding that your anger is information, your desire is power, and you don't owe anyone your "good girl" performance anymore. In this solo episode, Lori explores the Human Design transits happening right now, dives into sacred rage (trigger warning), sexual sovereignty, and why starting with yourself might be the most revolutionary act you can take right now.  Key Takeaways: Why holding rage AND desire simultaneously is key How the "good girl" conditioning steals your power  Sexual sovereignty: starting with yourself first Practical tools for self pleasure  How your individual power ripples into the collective Resources Mentioned: Rage Becomes Her by Soraya Chemaly Episode 107: Cheat Codes for Sexual Pleasure  Episode 109: Linda River Valente on Erotic Liberation Episode 28: A Midlife Woman's Guide to Rage Quinn App (audio erotica) Archive of Our Own (AO3) - fan fiction Rose toy, Vesper by Crave (beginner sex toys) Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai 🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Book a Human Design session: https://LoriLisai.as.me/intuitiveHD

    34 min

  7. APR 13

    Ep 110: Why Nothing Is Fixing Your Gut Health (And What You're Missing) with Kelly Harrington

    Solving your gut health issues isn't another one-size-fits-all diet or miracle pill. It's understanding how YOUR unique design affects your digestion, identifying what's actually triggering your symptoms, and learning to eat intuitively for YOUR body. If you've been struggling with bloating, constipation, and food sensitivities for years, but every doctor just throws another prescription at you or tells you it's "normal for your age," or you're exhausted from people-pleasing, carrying invisible labor, and pushing through errands that drain you your gut is likely paying the price. In this episode, I reconnect with Kelly Harrington, a registered dietitian who integrates Human Design into her practice to help midlife women heal their gut issues.  Key Takeaways: Why your gut is wrecked  The HPA axis explained: how stress, cortisol & your nervous system impact digestion Specific Human Design gates linked to emotional eating and sugar cravings How conditioning in your mind can drive disordered eating patterns The difference between physical hunger and eating in transference Why Gen X women's invisible labor destroys gut health The one change you can make this week to improve your gut health Kelly is a registered dietitian and functional nutrition practitioner who takes a science-based, root-cause approach to health. With over 26 years of clinical experience, she helps clients with blood sugar dysfunction, weight challenges, gut health issues, hormonal imbalances, nutrient deficiencies, cardiovascular disease, emotional and disordered eating patterns, and chronic inflammation. Going beyong traditional nutrition approaches, Kelly integrates Human Design as a practical tool to better understand each client's unique patterns, decision-making, and conditioning, allowing for more personalized and sustainable results. Her work bridges the gap between physiology and behavior, addressing not just what people eat, but why they eat the way they do. By integrating Human Design into her practice, Kelly helps clients understand how stress, conditioning, emotional patterns, and misalignment influence health choices, creating a more personalized, sustainable path to healing and long-term wellness. Ep 6: Kelly Harrington on Balancing Nutrition and Stress with Human Design Connect with Kelly: https://www.kellyharringtonrd.com/ Instagram: dietitian.humandesign Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai   🔗 Get HD through the midlife lens in your inbox: https://www.lorilisai.com/#newsletter  🔗 Get your HD Chart: https://www.lorilisai.com/hd-chart 🔗 Book a Human Design reading: https://LoriLisai.as.me/intuitiveHD

    57 min

  8. APR 6

    Ep 109: From Low Libido to Erotic Liberation: What Midlife Women Need to Know About Desire with Linda River Valente

    You've been partnered for decades, raised kids, built a career—and somewhere along the way, passion took a backseat. Maybe you watched Heated Rivalry and realized you've been accepting a version of intimacy that doesn't fully meet your needs. You want more, but you have no idea how to ask for it without blowing everything up. The solution starts with yourself, and my guest today helps us dive into what that looks like. In this episode, I sit down with Linda River Valente, a holistic sexuality educator, pleasure activist, and local Vermont legend who has spent 30 years working with midlife women and couples on erotic liberation and embodiment. We dive into what it means to reconnect with your sacred sexuality, how to navigate conversations about desire with long-term partners, and why midlife might actually be the best time for sex of your life. LRV has 30 years of living the intelligences of astrology, tarot, menstrual cycle education, herbal folkways, ritual, ceremony, and dance. She is a Holistic Sexuality Educator, Pleasure Activist, Burlesque performer, producer, and teacher living in Montpelier VT Key Takeaways: Is "low libido" really a thing, or are other factors at play? How to start conversations about desire without making it a lecture  Why sensual intimacy is the gateway back to sexual connection—and what that actually means The three pools of intimacy every relationship needs  How shame has been running the show—and gentle ways to begin dismantling it Why Gen X women are having the best sex right now (yes, really) Connect with Linda: www.lindarivervalente.net Connect with Lori: Instagram @lorilisai Threads: @lorilisai References: Why Gen X Women are Having the Best Sex (NY Times article) Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski Auntie Midori's Pervertables on You Tube Ready to understand how your Human Design supports your erotic awakening? Book a reading and discover what midlife has in store for you: https://LoriLisai.as.me/intuitiveHD

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Midlife by (Human) Design is the podcast for women in midlife who feel called to redesign the second half of life--consciously, spiritually, and on their own terms. If you're asking: Who am I now? Why doesn't the life I built fit anymore? Why does everything feel off, even though nothing's technically wrong? What choice would I make if I actually trusted myself? you're in the right place. This show is for women navigating midlife as the initiation it is. Through Human Design, spirituality, perimenopause and menopause wisdom, and grounded real-life practices, we explore what it means to become the woman you're here to be in the second half of life. I'm your host, Lori Lisai, a Human Design guide and coach for midlife women. I help women stop outsourcing their authority, understand their energy, and make aligned decisions as they shed the shoulds and be who they came here to be. Each week, we dive into: ✨ Human Design teachings that help you trust yourself and your decisions 🌙 Perimenopause + menopause through a mind–body–energy lens 🔥 Identity shifts, purpose pivots, and the unraveling that precedes reinvention 🌿 Energy management and self-care that actually restores you 💫 Spiritual insights, archetypes, and real stories of women consciously authoring the second half of life If you've been wondering where your spark went and how to get it back, you're in the right place. This is a space for women who are dreaming bigger (or want to) and who know that midlife is the opportunity to finally be your authentic self. It's where meaning deepens, intuition sharpens, and a truer life becomes possible. Each episode is part teaching, part reflection, part permission slip—with practical tools, honest conversations, and the occasional well-placed F-bomb. Midlife is the perfect time of life. You're becoming someone new. Let's make sure she feels like home. 🎧 Next Steps: 📬 Get Wild Woman Wisdom in Your Inbox My newsletter for Human Design transits, astrology, & offerings I don't share anywhere else. 👉 lorilisai.com/#newsletter 📥 Get your Human Design chart and the free HD Mini Guide (and grab the Perimenopause Survival Guide while you're at it) 👉 https://www.lorilisai.com/workwithlori 📱 Follow Me on Instagram + Threads Where midlife meets real talk, Human Design, sweetness and sass 👉 @lorilisai 💬 Got a Question for the Pod? DM me on IG or drop a message—your story might inspire a future episode. *Disclaimer: Information provided in this podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The information is not intended or implied to supplement or replace professional medical treatment, advice, and/or diagnosis. I share the strategies that have worked for me and you are advised to do your own research and speak to your medical provider for care.

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