This podcast is for entrepreneurs who want to discover the key thinking tools of high achievers. You are now part of a small group of people who are trying to learn the ins and outs of these tools called Mind Models without the fluff. This podcast will give you an inside look at the daily life of a Mind Model coach and what he's done for the past 30 years to transform his clients so they can get six and seven-figure results. Welcome to Mind Model Mastery Secrets. Now here is your host, Blair Dunkley. Blair Dunkley: Hey guys, thanks for coming here. This is our inaugural episode here at mindmodelmasterysecrets.com, and I'm thrilled to have you guys here, and I've got my co-host here, Trevor Tardif. Say hi Trevor. Trevor Tardif: Hey, guys, how's it going? Blair Dunkley: And we're going to be going through a bunch of different things, so we're gonna be covering off a few things here today. We're gonna cover off, what are we here for? What is the purpose of Mind Model Mastery Secrets, and what is this episodes? What are these episodes going to be all about? What are we going to do here during this time? And what are Mind Models, after all, anyway? So, anyway, Trevor, so what are we here for, in your opinion, Trevor? Trevor Tardif: Well, we're here to show you the Blair experience. Working with Blair is something completely different than what most people have experienced in the personal development world. We're not here to sell you anything. We're here to connect with you and show you all about Mind Models. So, with that said, what would you say Mind Models are, Blair? Blair Dunkley: Well, Mind Models are basically a collection of tested thought frameworks, skills, and behaviors that actually I've put into a lot of years of experience. A little bit of background about me. I worked at Life Skills Colleges for basically 35 years, and at the college, actively, at the college for 20 years, and where I did a lot of research and figured out what works in that area, what are those skills, attitudes, and behaviors that people have to have in their life. Trevor Tardif: What makes people really successful. Blair Dunkley: Exactly, because the whole area here is worked on, what is identifiable, repeatable, and duplicatable so people can have those three things, identifiable, repeatable, and duplicatable behaviors, successful behaviors work in their life in a way that makes meaningful change, and Mind Models are just that. Mind Models provide you a unique opportunity to take control of your life and direct your personal transformations. When you take a look at your life, does it go the way that you want to go all the time? Does it help you do your things? We're also going to be here to basically dismiss some of the beliefs that people have around mindset and how mindset's everything. Well, I'm sorry, I'm here to tell you mindset isn't everything. It's good, don't get me wrong. I'm not here to bash it, but I'm here to try and take it to the next step, and Trevor, you've had some experience with that. You wanna share some of your experiences with the folks out here? Trevor Tardif: Well, I've discovered that mindset by itself isn't enough. Before I met Blair, I was working as a real estate investor, so I partnered with a friend of mine, and we were working on buying and selling houses. Basically, buying them, fixing them up and flipping them, and I was having some success with that, but I was living in my buddy's basement suite and I had another roommate that I was living with that wasn't the most pleasant guy to be around, and all the while, I was-- Blair Dunkley: Was that the guy with the really stinky feet? Trevor Tardif: Yes, yes it was. He'd come home from work after working as a tow truck driver, and he'd take off his boots, and it would just fill up the entire suite, Blair Dunkley: Oh my gosh. Trevor Tardif: a stench that you do not wanna smell, so I was dealing with all that while I was trying to become a successful real estate investor, and I was actually working on a project where we were selling out some condos to investors, and one of the partners that we were working with, Tyler, he thought that we could all benefit from getting some training with Blair, and at the time, we had been struggling with our sales. We weren't really making the sales happen, and Tyler thought that we could really benefit from working with Blair, and Tyler was someone that I respected a lot. He had a lot of the stuff that I was striving to get myself. He was doing quite well financially, and he was still young, so that caught my attention, and I was definitely interested in seeing, okay, yeah. If Tyler says this is good, I definitely wanna check it out, but what really-- Blair Dunkley: Yeah, actually, just to fill you in a little bit, Tyler was in his, 25, 26 at the time, so yeah. Just thought I'd share. Trevor Tardif: Yeah, so he was definitely still young, and what really actually caught my attention that made me really curious is he wasn't just vouching for Blair, he also said that there's something cool that Blair does called profiling and that he was a language-based profiler, and that all I'd have to do is talk to Blair for 20-30 seconds, and then Blair would be able to profile me based on the words I'm using, how I'm talking, my language, and tell me all about myself in a short period of time without knowing anything about me. So I thought that sounded pretty cool, and I was willing to check this out, so next thing you know, we set up a brief phone call where I talked to Blair and said hello and that kinda thing, and I joked to Blair, oh, I heard you're a profiler. I'm looking forward to getting profiled, and he let me know in that moment that we were actually already done. He had already finished the profile, and we were good to go, and he was looking forward to sharing that with me when we met in person. So we set up a meeting, a meet and greet at his house, and I went over there with my other partner, and Blair proceeded to profile me, and it blew me away. He told me a whole bunch of stuff that he would not know about me unless he would know me for quite a while. They weren't necessarily things that I would've used to describe myself, but immediately upon hearing it, I knew that that was true. So some of it wasn't pleasant to hear. Some of it was. He told me what some of my strengths were as well as what some of my weaknesses were, but rather than getting insecure about it or being like, whoa, what's this, I actually got real curious because I wanted to know, how did he do this? How did he come up with that without really knowing me, and what was really interesting is that he was claiming that this was a skill set. He wasn't doing any kinda psychic crap or anything like that. Blair Dunkley: Hey, hey, I wasn't, was claiming, I state emphatically, this is not psychic. This is a skill set. Trevor Tardif: Exactly, so that actually made it a lot more credible and interesting to me. Anybody I'd ever met before that tried to tell me something about myself immediately was usually claiming to be a psychic or something like that, but Blair actually said, these are skill sets, and that made me really curious, 'cause I wanted to know what he was doing and how he was doing this, and that's when he told me that he was using Mind Models to do this. And so that they were repeatable, duplicatable things that anybody could use to change their life or eventually learn how to profile if they really wanted to. Blair Dunkley: True enough, true enough. Yeah, that's amazing. So what are some of the things that you got from there? I mean, we have over 100 of them. You've learned most of them. What are the top three, top one, I don't care. What sticks out in your mind that you really got benefit from? Trevor Tardif: Well, one of the very first Mind Models that Blair taught us when we first started taking our training with him was the concept of safety versus comfort. And this is probably one of the most basic Mind Models that Blair teaches, but the distinction that people get after they really get it can make a really big difference. And, essentially, he likes to differentiate between safety and comfort. A lot of people the two confused or they think that when they're not comfortable that they're not safe, and that can cause them to pull back from situations of working with other people, and-- Blair Dunkley: Hey, Trevor, I've got a quick story here of one of my clients and friends that actually gave me his version of it. Do you mind if I share that? Trevor Tardif: Sure, go ahead. Blair Dunkley: Okay, so Dave was a guy that came up to Vancouver from, I was doing a presentation in Austin, Texas. I didn't do safety versus comfort that much down there. I touched on it a bit, but I did a lot more, and anyway, I dove into safety verses comfort, and the essence of safety versus comfort is, safety is more or less a physical thing. You can say it's emotional, but really the emotional thing is you're comfortable or uncomfortable, and that is the level of comfort that you're experiencing in that moment, and everybody needs to be a little bit uncomfortable in order to learn, and maybe sometimes quite a bit uncomfortable in order to learn, but they still have to be safe because if they're not safe, they'll run. Fight or flight will kick in, but if they're uncomfortable, they can sometimes not like it but be curious about what it is. More or less, what you just saw Trevor expressing there is where he literally was to some degree uncomfortable but wanted to hang around, so he felt safe, but he was uncomfortable. Trevor Tardif: I definitely did wanna hang around. Blair Dunkley: Sorry? Trevor Tardif: I definitely wanted to hang around. Blair Dunkley: Yeah, absolutely, that's w
