Mind over Chatter

Hosted by Dr. Deborah Heiser and Dr. Bruce Y. Lee

Make every day decisions with more science. Each week Dr. Deborah Heiser and Dr. Bruce Y. Lee will choose a decision you may be facing and show how science matters over the chatter. deborahheiserphd.substack.com

Episodes

  1. Why is it so hard to navigate medical diagnoses ?

    Apr 20

    Why is it so hard to navigate medical diagnoses ?

    (00:00:01): All right, we’re live. (00:00:03): So welcome. (00:00:05): Hey, Bruce, it’s good to see you. (00:00:07): Good to see you, Debbie. (00:00:09): So you and I have been talking and I have so many questions for you because you’re a physician. (00:00:17): You’re a physician scientist. (00:00:19): You are the go-to for so many people about questions about medicine and questions (00:00:26): about what to do when people Google all the questions that they have about all (00:00:31): kinds of medical issues that they’re experiencing. (00:00:34): So I hope that you don’t mind if I ask you a few questions today. (00:00:39): Sure, because everything on the internet is completely accurate and correct. (00:00:44): Yes, (00:00:44): you know, (00:00:45): that’s my first question for you is, (00:00:47): why is it so hard to navigate medical diagnoses? (00:00:50): Because, (00:00:50): like you said, (00:00:51): we have AI, (00:00:52): we have Google, (00:00:53): and we have so much information at our fingertips. (00:00:56): So why is it so hard? (00:00:59): Well, the problem is you have to look at where the information is coming from. (00:01:03): I mean, the internet is like one big... (00:01:06): Uh, it’s like a, uh, gigantic public restroom. (00:01:10): You know, (00:01:10): you really can basically, (00:01:12): uh, (00:01:12): I say like, (00:01:13): if you see something on the internet or anywhere in internet, (00:01:16): it could be the equivalent of following what you see written on a bathroom store (00:01:21): stall in a public restroom. (00:01:22): You don’t know who wrote it. (00:01:24): You don’t know where it’s coming from. (00:01:25): It may not be. (00:01:26): verified uh there’s lots of people talking about lots of different things uh you (00:01:31): know nowadays i i watched the other day there was a video about someone talking (00:01:36): about um uh like geopolitics and that person was like a fitness person so you know (00:01:45): you you (00:01:46): Just don’t know. (00:01:47): Everyone has their fingers out there. (00:01:49): So you’ve got to be careful. (00:01:51): And then when you’re dealing with your health, there may not be do-overs, right? (00:01:56): So once you do something with your health, you may not be able to... Again, it’s not like... (00:02:03): getting uh information on i don’t know your sports team or getting information on a (00:02:12): tv show or movie you know okay if it’s wrong it’s wrong uh or fashion okay uh it (00:02:17): could be disastrous if it’s fashion but you can recover you can recover from i’m (00:02:22): living proof that you can recover from fashion disasters (00:02:26): So, (00:02:27): but, (00:02:28): but yeah, (00:02:28): health, (00:02:29): health mistakes can be very costly and costly also in terms of suffering and even (00:02:34): in your life. (00:02:36): Absolutely. (00:02:37): So, so we have all of these things at our fingertips. (00:02:41): It feels like we should be using these all the time because we use them for so many things. (00:02:46): So, (00:02:50): So it’s still hard for us, though. (00:02:51): So what is one thing that you look for when you’re navigating a new diagnosis? (00:02:57): Say you’re diagnosed with something. (00:02:59): What do you do? (00:03:00): Because I know I go to Google, or nowadays I go to AI, and I type in everything I know about it. (00:03:06): So what do you do, and what do you say we should do? (00:03:08): Well, (00:03:08): it’s interesting because we have to remember, (00:03:10): you know, (00:03:11): information is not necessarily—more information is not necessarily— (00:03:15): good right so more information is just more information and if it’s misleading (00:03:21): information it actually makes things worse uh so there is still you know a (00:03:27): significant role for people with expertise in an area that can help you digest the (00:03:32): information that’s out there um (00:03:35): One thing you have to be careful about if you do get some type of medical diagnosis. (00:03:40): Well, first of all, like where are you getting the medical diagnosis? (00:03:43): Right. (00:03:44): So there’s a difference between you are convinced that you have a problem. (00:03:51): I’ve seen this many times. (00:03:52): Right. (00:03:53): People will be like, oh, my goodness, I have such and such symptom. (00:03:58): Therefore, I must have. (00:04:01): Leprosy or something like that. (00:04:05): Well, okay, you’re self-diagnosing yourself, so you’ve got to be careful about that. (00:04:10): There can be many subtleties in diagnosis. (00:04:12): If you do have a symptom, (00:04:14): it’s better to get it checked out by a professional, (00:04:17): someone who can actually determine how best to diagnose it, (00:04:23): what kind of tests to take and those things like that, (00:04:26): or tests to get. (00:04:27): Let’s say I go. (00:04:28): Say I... (00:04:30): I Google something, right? (00:04:31): And I find out that I say, oh my gosh, all my symptoms, whatever. (00:04:35): And I go to the doctor and I decide I’m going to get an actual real diagnosis. (00:04:41): Now I get a diagnosis. (00:04:43): What do I do next? (00:04:45): Because it’s overwhelming. (00:04:47): When you get a diagnosis, then the next thing I want to do is run out and look it all up again. (00:04:53): What do you do next? (00:04:55): Well, (00:04:55): so, (00:04:56): uh, (00:04:56): so one of the first things that you want to make sure is when, (00:04:59): if you do get some type of medical diagnosis, (00:05:03): um, (00:05:03): that the person who’s giving you the diagnosis, (00:05:05): like a doctor, (00:05:07): uh, (00:05:07): for instance, (00:05:08): um, (00:05:09): Doesn’t just give you the diagnosis and say, (00:05:13): oh, (00:05:13): you’ve got, (00:05:13): you know, (00:05:15): gigantic, (00:05:17): superior, (00:05:17): such and such, (00:05:19): such and such. (00:05:20): And then just say, have a good day. (00:05:22): Walks out the door and you’re done, right? (00:05:24): I mean, that can be, first of all, you’re like, okay, what does that mean? (00:05:29): Is that bad? (00:05:30): Is that good? (00:05:30): Or et cetera. (00:05:31): So you need to get the lowdown on what this actually means. (00:05:36): So how do you do that? (00:05:39): Let me ask this. (00:05:41): I know when I go in, I’m stunned if I get something. (00:05:46): I’m going to be stunned. (00:05:47): What do I do? (00:05:49): And who carries a pad and paper around with them? (00:05:51): And I don’t write notes in my phone. (00:05:54): So what do I do when I first get a diagnosis from a doctor and I’m in there and I’m stunned? (00:06:00): What do I do? (00:06:01): What do I say? (00:06:02): Yeah, so... (00:06:05): Of course, (00:06:05): the most experienced doctors and the best doctors will understand that you won’t be (00:06:10): able to digest all the information, (00:06:12): especially if it’s a significant diagnosis, (00:06:14): unexpected or significant diagnosis. (00:06:16): So you’ll see they’ll say things like, (00:06:18): okay, (00:06:19): I understand this might be a little surprising or stunning, (00:06:23): etc., (00:06:24): and they’ll tell you the information, (00:06:25): but they say, (00:06:26): I understand that if you have additional information, (00:06:28): you can always contact me, (00:06:30): or these are the resources. (00:06:31): They’ll give you the next possible steps. (00:06:34): Now, of course, the problem is not all health professionals, not all doctors are created equal. (00:06:40): It’s just like anything. (00:06:41): There is any profession, any role, there’s a range of people. (00:06:50): There are (00:06:51): Yeah. (00:06:52): Fabulous, very gifted athletes. (00:06:55): And then there are average athletes and then there are people who are not so great. (00:06:58): Same thing with musicians. (00:07:00): Same thing with teachers. (00:07:01): Same thing with every profession. (00:07:03): So, yes, that’s one thing. (00:07:05): You want to look for a doctor who will understand where you’re at and help you (00:07:13): understand your diagnosis. (00:07:15): Okay. (00:07:16): That being said, if in that situation... (00:07:20): the doctor doesn’t do that, (00:07:22): then you should tell the doctor, (00:07:24): you should say, (00:07:24): look, (00:07:26): all right, (00:07:26): I am just be honest. (00:07:27): I am a little surprised. (00:07:29): I’m not sure what this means. (00:07:30): I’m a little stunned, et cetera. (00:07:33): I do have some questions now or, or I’m not sure what to ask. (00:07:38): You, you be honest and also say, if more questions come up, what do I do? (00:07:43): Who do I contact? (00:07:45): Put the (00:07:46): the health professional on the spot. (00:07:48): They shouldn’t be able to kind of just leave and leave you with no, (00:07:51): no, (00:07:52): no resources with no recourse. (00:07:54): Yeah. (00:07:56): So, (00:07:56): and then if you, (00:07:58): and I’ve seen this before too, (00:07:59): like if you leave the actual office, (00:08:02): the actual room, (00:08:03): because that can be, (00:08:04): you know, (00:08:05): sometimes those rooms are confining and you’re like finally out in like a little (00:08:08): more fresh air in the waiting room, (00:08:10): you can ask the office, (00:08:12): say, (00:08:12): hey, (00:08:12): I have more questions. (00:08:13): Or if I have more questions, whom do I talk to? (00:08:17): How do I get in touch with the doctor or health professional? (00:08:20): If there’s no way of getting in touch with them, then you may have the wrong doctor. (00:08:24): You may have the wrong health professional. (00:08:26): You may have the wrong clinic setup because that’s (00:08:29): Not, (00:08:29): you know, (00:08:31): anyone who is experienced and understands this si

    48 min
  2. Live with Deborah Heiser and Bruce Y Lee

    Mar 1

    Live with Deborah Heiser and Bruce Y Lee

    Deborah Heiser and Bruce Y. Lee discuss emerging Gen Z appearance trends such as “looks maxing,” “mogging,” and extreme practices like “bone smashing,” using them as a springboard to explore how self-comparison and appearance pressures evolve across the lifespan, especially in midlife. They contrast the intense, comparison-driven identity work of youth with the growing focus on meaning, impact, and legacy in midlife, re-framing the idea of a “midlife crisis” as a “midlife pivot.” Bruce also shares why he blends science with humor and popular culture in his writing, while Deborah highlights how midlifers can shift from obsessing over looks to identifying strengths, purpose, and more internally grounded measures of worth.​ Key points about TikTok / Gen Z appearance trends “Looks maxing” is described as an internet-driven, primarily male trend focused on maximizing physical attractiveness, ranging from “soft maxing” (skincare, exercise) to “hard maxing” (cosmetic procedures, jaw reshaping, mewing, and extreme DIY methods).​ Bruce recounts TikTok trends he has covered, including dangerous ones like “eat dirt” and “bone smashing,” where people literally hit their facial bones with a hammer to change bone structure, which he strongly warns against due to risk of severe injury, bleeding, infection, and permanent damage.​ “Mogging” is Gen Z slang for outshining or dominating others in physical appearance, fitness, or style, originating from “AMOG” (alpha male of the group) on 4chan.​ Mogging is framed as a competitive subculture within looks-maxing communities, where people aim to be “the best looks maxer” and make others seem less noticeable by comparison.​ They note the heavy appearance pressure on young men and discuss whether these pressures are new or simply more visible due to social media, pointing to long-standing male grooming, gym culture, and the growth of male-targeted beauty products.​ Psychological and life-stage insights Deborah explains that in adolescence and early adulthood, comparison is developmentally normal and useful because identity formation involves looking at what others do and deciding “Is that me?”​ Over time, as people discover “their people,” areas of competence, and what gives them meaning and purpose, comparison and appearance preoccupation gradually wane rather than disappearing overnight.​ She emphasizes that midlife is often mischaracterized as “midlife crisis” when it is more accurately a “midlife pivot,” a period when people finally place their own boxes in front of themselves instead of checking boxes for others (parents, social expectations).​ Examples of midlife pivots include starting a new career, going back to school at 60, launching a podcast, blog, or social media presence, and seeking legacy and impact rather than external validation.​ They distinguish between momentary “snapshots” like feeling inadequate in looks-maxing culture and deeper transitions such as marriage, buying a home, retirement, or other life events that add layers to identity and shift perspective.​ Midlife shift from appearance to meaning By midlife, most people lower the self-imposed standards tied to physical comparison, even if they still care about looking presentable or use tools like GLP-1 medications; the focus moves from “How do I look?” to “What have I done?”​ Deborah frames the transition as shifting attention from one’s face in the mirror to one’s footprint in the world: impact, contribution, and legacy become more central.​ For those distressed about not “making the cut” in mogging or looks maxing, she recommends a process of identifying personal strengths, “superpowers,” and activities that bring genuine enjoyment and meaning instead of tying worth solely to appearance.​ Bruce’s approach to science and humor Bruce describes a career of integrating science with entertainment and culture, including consulting with Hollywood writers and directors to make scripts more scientifically realistic.​ He challenges the notion that science and art must be separate, arguing that science is simply a way of describing patterns in the world, and that combining science with humor, storytelling, and everyday culture makes it more accessible.​ His Substack “Minded by Science” and his Forbes work aim to explain health and science topics, including odd or risky trends, in a humorous, engaging way rather than as dry “medicine” people reluctantly consume. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit deborahheiserphd.substack.com/subscribe

    34 min
  3. Do You Know How Great You Are?

    11/15/2025

    Do You Know How Great You Are?

    I learned something years ago from someone who used to work at Bell Labs. And he said that every year, at the end of the year, he was requested to make an I am great sheet. And on this I am great sheet, he had to list all of the great things that he did that entire year. It was essentially a summary of all the work that he had done and all of his accomplishments. Anything that was great, maybe he won an award, maybe he innovated something, whatever that was, it would go on the I am great sheet and would get turned in. And this exercise was something that always made him feel great at the end of the project because throughout the year, he would forget about all of the great things that he had done, just like we all do. We all do things We managed to have a small win here or there, maybe even a big win, but we keep going on. And by the end of the year, we may not remember all the great things that we’ve done. So I urge you to create your I am great sheet. We are in November and you have one month left. to create your I am great sheet. What is it that you’ve done this whole year? Go back to January, look at February, We are in November and you have one month left. to create your I am great sheet. What is it that you’ve done this whole year? Go back to January, look at February, review your books that you keep your notes in, review your calendar and go back and you’ll be so surprised at just how great you are and what a great year you have. I hope this is helpful. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit deborahheiserphd.substack.com/subscribe

    2 min

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Make every day decisions with more science. Each week Dr. Deborah Heiser and Dr. Bruce Y. Lee will choose a decision you may be facing and show how science matters over the chatter. deborahheiserphd.substack.com