In Mind Over Masculinity, hosted by Sayan, therapist and holistic practitioner Magic Barclay explores how resilience is often built through survival, and why shame can quietly follow people long after the threat is gone. This episode reframes “strength” as curiosity, self-awareness, and change—rather than silence or emotional shutdown. This conversation is for anyone who feels stuck in coping patterns, emotional distance, or control habits and wants a practical starting point. You’ll hear how the body, food, environment, and mindset intersect—and how to begin moving from “existing” to actually living without getting overwhelmed. About the Guest: Magic Barclay is a trauma-focused practitioner and a lead practitioner at Holistic Natural Health Australia. She also hosts her own podcast and works with a whole-body approach to mind and health. Episode Chapter: 00:03:48 — Why survival feels like silence, and how shame follows into adulthood 00:06:07 — “Surviving vs living”: the room analogy that changes perspective 00:07:51 — What resilience actually means (and what we miss about it) 00:09:22 — Masculinity, expression, and the cost of long-term emotional shutdown 00:13:00 — Food, chemicals, hormones, and how modern life shifts mood and identity 00:15:35 — Control behaviors: what happens when pain stays unaddressed 00:21:21 — Setbacks, shame, and the grounding question: “Did I ask for this?” Key Takeaways: Replace “toughness” with curiosity: ask what’s different today, not what’s wrong with you. If you feel stuck, start with intentional inputs: food, drinks, chemicals, and routines. Don’t treat anxiety and low mood as personal failure—check gut health, sunlight, and lifestyle patterns first. Expect setbacks: the body often uses discomfort as a signal to initiate healing, not as proof you’re broken. When shame shows up, remind yourself: you’re not the same person you were when it began. Use one grounding reset: “Did I ask for this? No. What am I doing about it now?” 6. How to Connect With the Guest Website: https://www.wholisticnaturalhealth.com.au/ (holistic with a “w”) Podcast, free quizzes, shop, and Root Cause Analysis (free global call + findings report) available on the site. To book, go to Contact and use subject line RCA. Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM - Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only. The views expressed are the personal opinions of the guest and do not reflect the views of the host or Healthy Mind By Avik™️. We do not intend to harm, defame, or discredit any person, organization, brand, product, country, or profession mentioned. All third-party media used remain the property of their respective owners and are used under fair use for informational purposes. By watching, you acknowledge and accept this disclaimer. Healthy Mind By Avik™️ is a global platform redefining mental health as a necessity, not a luxury. Born during the pandemic, it’s become a sanctuary for healing, growth, and mindful living. Hosted by Avik Chakraborty, storyteller, survivor, and wellness advocate. With over 6000+ episodes and 200K+ global listeners, we unite voices, break stigma, and build a world where every story matters. 👉 Subscribe and be part of this healing journey. Contact: 💼 Brand: Healthy Mind By Avik™ 📧 Email: https://www.podhub.club/ 📍 Based in: India & USA 🎧 Listen to all podcast shows: https://www.podbean.com/podcast-network/healthymindbyavik 🤝 Be a guest: https://www.healthymindbyavik.com/beaguest 📩 Newsletter: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/ #podmatch #healthymindbyavik #podhub.club #mindovermasculinity #mensmentalhealth #emotionalhealth #healingjourney #traumahealing #resiliencebuilding #shamerecovery #nervoussystem #mindbodyconnection #holistichealth #mentalwellness #selfawareness #healthyhabits #personalgrowth #emotionalresilience