Mistakes Were Made

Sarah & Alex
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Mistakes Were Made

Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it’s all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation. Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/. Logo design by roy franklin of the Whatever Factory - https://www.whateverfactory.org/.

  1. NOV 1

    Ep 43: Conflict and how to fight better - Season 4 Premiere!

    Welcome to season 4 of Mistakes Were Made! Today we're asking: How much conflict should you expect in a healthy relationship? In this episode Sarah, Jessica and Alex explore how to fight better (rather than avoiding fights altogether) by understanding our internal patterns and reaction styles. Logo design by Roy Franklin: http://whateverfactory.org. Mentioned in the episode: The Waterline Model Talk to us: mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast

    1h 26m

  2. AUG 30

    Ep 42: Season 3 FINALE - Poly Etiquette

    Which fork should you use on a first polyamorous date? Do you have to let your partner be the little spoon all the time? We pondered these and other burning questions in the Finale episode of Season Three. Srsly though, here's the etiquette and advice we gathered for this episode, if you don't want to listen to 80 mins of our charming banter: Let your partners consent into information about your interactions with other partners (esp sexy stuff) Be careful of collecting too many partners/spreading yourself too thin.  Try not to over-curate yourself. Be authentically who you are and let partners meet you there. Everyone is tender. Treat them as human, not just means to the experiences you want.  Take responsibility for ending relationships when they aren't working anymore. Be kind but direct. Be honest up front about your capacity. Talk about the parameters of the relationship early and often. Make sure your partners know how 'out' as poly you are (so you don't embarass them when you run into acquaintances in public together). Seek deeper connections, rather than more; the relationships that you're yearning for might be the ones that you're already in. TikTokers we mentioned who you should follow:  @newtononmonogamy @polyphiliablog   mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

    1h 21m

  3. AUG 9

    Ep 41: Romance and Polyamory

    Romance: what does it mean?? Sarah, Alex and Jess talk about their favorite romantic movies on the hottest day of the year. And finally answer the question: what IS romance? Or, do they just come up with 5,000 new questions? Listen to the end to find out! Mentioned in the episode: Say Anything (Cameron Crowe, 1989) The Graduate (Mike Nichols, 1967) Wayne’s World (Penelope Spheeris, 1992) John Mahoney Limerence on Wikipedia In Your Eyes mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

    1h 18m

  4. JUL 19

    Ep 40: Gen Poly with Mattise Wood

    Are the youngs living in queer poly utopia or what? Sarah and Alex recruit their 20 something barista, Mattise Wood, to find out. mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

    1h 18m

  5. JUN 28

    Ep 39: Polyamory Pitfalls - LIVE Episode!

    Special live episode featuring some of our favorite mistakes. Recorded May 9, 2024 in Seattle, WA. Check out the slides from the live episode: https://www.mentimeter.com/app/presentation/n/alkskyvkpq54ehb844w3r2oejcjo4d6a/present  Evergreen hearts on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/EvergreenHeartsOrg  Brand new logo by eroyn franklin! www.whateverfactory.org  mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/

    54 min

  6. JUN 15

    Ep 38: Relationship Anarchy with Maxx Hill

    We finally get to learn about relationship anarchy. Hope you're hungry for a smorgasbord!  Maxx Hill, curator of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord, joins to talk about the infinite possibilities of how you can "customize your commitments" when you let go of societal expectations. Open the link and follow along! Mentioned in the episode: Relationship Anarchy Manifesto Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord [https://tinyurl.com/rasmorgasbord] Maxx Hill, @maxxhillcreates, on Instagram More about Mistakes Were Made: logo design by by eroyn franklin * mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/

    1h 11m

  7. MAY 17

    Ep 37: Poly-tics

    Mentioned in the episode: The Atlantic - Polyamory, the Ruling Class’s Latest Fad  Time Magazine - Polyamory isn’t just for liberals: The Surprising Political Evolution of American Polyamory More: A Memoir of Open Marriage Stranger in a Strange Land Brand new logo by eroyn franklin! www.whateverfactory.org  mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/

    1h 13m

  8. APR 26

    Ep 36: Owning Your Desire - Encore Episode

    Encore episode! Let’s talk about sex (or die trying)! Sarah and Alex finally attempt to actually discuss sexual dynamics in non-monogamy without laughing or crying. mistakescast@gmail.com * https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ An actually useful explanation of how to play the three minute game (since ours went so sideways): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KCzpNBNbVM&t=80s Or download the pamphlet here: https://bettymartin.org/download-wheel/ Don’t miss: Evergreen Hearts - Polyamory Pitfalls - Thursday May 9th, 6:30pm Evergreen Hearts Polyamory Expo The Whatever Factory

    1h 20m
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Non monogamy for imperfect people. Hosted by a queer therapist and her husband of 15 years. Sarah & Alex share their experiences opening their marriage, and interview guests about the struggles & rewards of doing relationships your own way. Mistakes Were Made is part advice, part confession, part culture critique. But it’s all about learning from our missteps and stumbling toward liberation. Follow us on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/. Logo design by roy franklin of the Whatever Factory - https://www.whateverfactory.org/.

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  • Creator
    Sarah & Alex
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2024
  • Episodes
    45
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024
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