More than a Single Mom Drea Fecht

Sometimes break ups shake you to the core. They deplete your energy, make you question yourself and feel debilitating. Heartbreak is grief. These past few weeks have been a wake up call… A reminder I put my worth in someone else’s hands. I forgot who I was until I saw something today. I wanted to share it in case others are feeling lost. Even when working so hard to love themselves. With only 2 days left in 2021 I think this might be the wake up call we all need. ❤️ Please find me on Instagram @dreafecht and send me a DM. I want to know who you are and what you’re feeling about yourself.

Hey everyone! I was super excited when Case agreed to come on the podcast. I've been following him for a while. He has a super cool podcast called, New mindset who dis, which contains great bites of wisdom on mindfulness, dating and relationships. Case has also authored a series of workbooks designed to take people through the process of self-introspection and that's why I wanted to bring him on the podcast. I have his journal, Single is your Superpower, and I was really amazed at how helpful it was. Often we go through the motions of life and don’t take the time to really know ourselves. What we really dig into is how becoming mindful and more self aware is the biggest step in living a life without regrets.

More on Case:

Case Kenny is the Chicago-based writer, podcaster and recording artist behind The New Mindset Journal.

Case (@case.kenny) refers to himself as a "dudebroguy" because as he says he isn't "any more enlightened than the average person" but what he does have is a "hunger and drive to become the best person" he can.

It was that drive and passion for growth that inspired him to start the New Mindset, Who Dis podcast in the summer of 2018.

Almost two years later, 8 million downloads and honors as an Apple Podcast top 30 podcast, Top 100 Mental Health, iHeart Radio Top 10, Deezer Editor's Choice and many more accolades, Case has made a name for himself as a prominent podcaster and mindfulness thought leader.

Want the cliff notes of what we covered?


Why Case started his podcast
Where he gets his brilliant ideas for instagram
Why being single is not a negative thing
Why you shouldn’t buy into other’s perspectives
Why “the wrong way to think about things is to believe there is a right way.”
Why we shouldn’t villianzie people just because they fulfill our agenda
The importance of asking why until you can’t “why” yourself anymore
How we confuse honesty with the truth.

Wanna follow Case?

Instagram: @casekenny

Website: https://newmindsetwhodis.com/

Wanna follow Drea?

Instagram: @dreafecht

Website: https://dreafecht.com/

And by “it” I mean “it” in other words: This is definitely a sensitive topic so don’t let the littles listen in.

My amazing, brilliant, beautiful, friend and guest, Janna Denton-Howes is a Desire Coach for married women who want to want sex but just don’t. As someone who personally struggled with low libido for years, she understands the frustration of feeling like sex is just another chore on a very long to-do list. Now Janna empowers women to design experiences that feel nourishing, relaxing, and intimate through her program, Wanting it More, which has helped over 1000 women reconnect with their husbands again.

Janna and I uncover (no pun intended) more than just sex. What you’ll find in this episode is that loving ourselves and respecting ourselves completely is the key to happiness and yes, even pleasure.

Where to find and follow Janna:

Instagram: @jannadentonhowes

Website: https://jannadentonhowes.com/

Where to find drea:

Instagram: @dreafecht

Website/join email list: https://dreafecht.com/podcast

Divorce is hard. Leaving toxic relationships is hard. Rebuilding your life is hard. So how do you do it? Truth is when you take the time to really know and love who you are. You’ll find the strength to accomplish anything and live an amazing life.

That’s why I brought Ashley Lane Adams on the podcast today.

Ashley Lane is a coach who helps single moms drop the struggle and fall in love with themselves… which I know from experience is easier said than done.

After traversing two back-to-back emotionally unhealthy relationships and finding herself divorced with two small children at age 40, Ashley Lane Adams took a deep dive into personal and spiritual development. Compiling all the tools that she learned on her journey through counseling, coaching, masterminds, emotional intelligence training, and learning coaching skills, Ashley empowers divorced women and single moms to let go of guilt, shame, and regret and step into their power, passion, and a life that they love!

In today’s episode we discuss:


Ashley Lane’s personal story
How she left a toxic relationship
How becoming more self-aware leads to happiness and healing
What she did to heal.
What she did to help find herself
How she handles co-parenting with grace
Why learning to forgive yourself is vital
Taking responsibility for your life and happiness
Her approach to dating

Mentioned in this show:

Follow Ashley Lane on:


Instagram
Website
Podcast
6 weeks reclaim your identity challenge

Ohhh momma this one is for everyone. And it’s a pretty big deal because this is the first male I have interviewed on this podcast.

So why bring a dude in our lady space? Perspective.

Joe Romano has been a close friend of mine for several years. He’s a good dude. And like any of us… not perfect. When I met him he was in a dark place post-divorce and I was on the verge of leaving my husband. And since we’ve seen each other go through a lot and supported each other - I wanted him to share his story.

P.S. This interview wasn’t pre-planned at all. Joe and I decided to have this conversation very last minute.

We discuss so much but here’s a breakdown:


Joe’s divorce story.
His darkest times.
His attachment style and why learning it has helped him to heal.
Why he stayed in a toxic relationship for so long.
Kiddos come first.
Parenting as a single parent.
Introducing kids to your new partner.
How he’s found a great partner and the challenges they’ve overcome.
His favorite relationship books.
How you should go with your gut when it comes to relationships.
Why we stay in stuck in the same relationship patterns.
How it feels to be with a partner with a secure attachment style.

Wanna hear more from Joe? He’s got an inspiring Instagram feed with positive messages, recipes, and health advice:  https://www.instagram.com/romano

Books talked about:

Attached

5 Love languages

Getting the love you want

Oh Momma! Today I interviewed Maya Diamond, licensed therapist and expert on Attachment theory.

Maya is an expert Dating and Relationship Coach who is known for helping women and men finally find their beloved after years of trying, so that they can have happy, satisfying, and fulfilling relationships.

Maya believes that having a great relationship positively impacts all areas of your life, and that by following her simple process for calling in the partner you really want, you can have more success and abundance in your career, finances, social life, spiritual development, or anything else that is important to you.

Maya is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) and holds a Master’s Degree in Somatic Psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies.

If you feel you’ve been in a cycle of bad relationships and not getting your needs met… This is for you.

Learning about your attachment style can be the catalyst for your personal healing and finding love in a healthy relationship.

In this episode we’ll cover:


Maya’s story and background
What is attachment theory?
The difference between attachment styles
Can you heal your attachment style?
Anxious and avoidant relationships
How the different attachment styles relate with each other
Independence between interdependence
How we are wired for secure, loving relationships

Links to this episode:


Apply to work with Maya
Rewire Your Attachment Style Podcast

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