Send us Fan Mail A woman posted on an LDS forum that her garments were so uncomfortable, she'd stopped wearing them — and then asked permission. Is this okay? Am I sinning? That question is the entry point into this episode: a close look at how Mormonism trains women to defer their own authority to outside approval, how that shows up far beyond garments or sexuality, and what it actually takes to reclaim full ownership of your own body, voice, and life. Kristin unpacks infantilization as a system — not a single rule, but an infrastructure that teaches women to check in before acting on their own desire, comfort, ambition, or anger. She shares her own experience starting pole dancing and painting as embodiment practices, walks through the difference between compliance and ownership when your choices look the same from the outside, and offers a concrete way to tell the difference between old conditioned fear and real danger. What's Covered The forum story: a woman asking strangers for permission to trust her own body, and what that reveals about paternalistic controlInfantilization as an infrastructure, not a single moment — how it shows up in sexuality, ambition, anger, physical strength, intellectual authority, voice in conflict, solitude, rest, and rage at injusticeWhy sexuality in Mormonism is routed through male permission, and what it means for a woman to own her sexuality as hers firstKristin's experience starting pole dancing as an embodiment practice with no audience and no justification requiredReclaiming womanhood as a four-part practice: noticing where you give away authority, separating compliance from ownership, expecting discomfort without mistaking it for danger, and dropping the need to justify your own desireA real test for telling old conditioned fear apart from an actual danger signalHow Kristin and her husband had to rebuild their marriage from choice instead of obligation after leaving the churchPainting and dance as embodiment practices — why physical, repeated, unsupervised creative expression rebuilds self-trust in a way thinking alone can't.If you recognize that habit of checking outside yourself before you trust your own answer — that's exactly the work I do with women one-on-one. I offer a free Reclamation Call: one conversation, just you and me, where we look at where you're still deferring your authority and what it would actually take to reclaim it. No pitch, no pressure — just a real look at where you are and what's next. You can book yours at the link in the show notes. You don't need the forum. You don't need permission. You just need one honest conversation to start.
