College students are naturally grieving humans. Away from home, friends and family, learning how to cope with these losses can be difficult. But for students who have experienced a death, divorce, break up, or other significant loss (perhaps due to COVID-19), new coping tools and supports are more important than ever. We will talk about how to best support these young adults while also taking care of our own mental health. We will talk about tough things, but the podcast aims to be inspiring, uplifting and even funny sometimes! Join us!
TMM Episode 13: Maria Boyes Talks about her Breast Cancer Diagnosis
Maria Boyes, a communications professionals and school psychologist, was diagnosed with Stage 3 Breast Cancer when her sons were in their late teens and her daughter was just 8 years old. She shares what it was like for her, as well as them, when she told them the diagnosis and went through treatment. She also reflects on the possible ways the diagnosis affected her children then and now.
Maria can be reached at email@example.com if you want to talk to her about her experience, or have questions about your own.
For additional support to talk to your children about a diagnosis of any kind, reach out to firstname.lastname@example.org.
TMM Episode 12: Janet Sarkos talks about Suicide and How to Help Someone you may be Concerned About
Janet Sarkos is the Executive Director of Caring Contact, a volunteer-staffed community of listeners that provides telephone support to people who are in need, either due to stress or suicidal thoughts. Janet and I talk about how we all can be the support to people in our lives, even if we aren't therapists , when we are worried about someone's mental health. How do you start a conversation with someone if you are concerned? What if you feel like you aren't able to be the support they need? Who can you reach out to for support for yourself and for the person you are worried about? Listen to this week's episode for these answers and more.
To contact Janet directly, reach out to her at Caring Contact at www.caringcontact.org or call 908-301-1899.
The listening line for non-emergencies is 908-232-2880. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call 800-273-8255.
For international question, please contact www.councilforhelplines.org
For additional resources, reach out to the National Alliance on Mental Health at www.nami.org
TMM Episode 11: Dante Peace: Ask Them if They are OK
The popularity of TMM Episode 8 revealed how much people want to hear about Robert Peace. So this week, we interviewed his uncle, Dante, about Robert's life and the lessons Dante learned from his death. Robert Peace was an accomplished student and athlete. He was well liked and had many friends. The fact that his father was in jail for a double murder didn't seem to affect him. Or did it? No one asked. And then he left for college with a full scholarship to Yale. With such an amazing opportunity, no one thought to ask him what it was like to go from an inner city to Yale University, in a very different environment than he was used to. After his death, Dante learned more about Robert's life and and reflects in the interview on some missed opportunities to check in with his nephew and offer support when it was needed. He wants to spread a message that we need to check in with people after trauma and loss, even if they look like they are doing well.
TMM Episode 10: Sam Levine and Ethan Cohen- Quarantining at College
Sam Levine and Ethan Cohen are students at Syracuse University in New York. They are both in quarantine due to being exposed to someone who tested positive for COVID-19. We talk about making the decision to attend school in person and how quarantine is being handled on their campus. They talk about what it's like to be alone in a hotel room for two weeks without any in-person human interaction and how their school is supporting them through this, both academically and emotionally.
TMM Episode 9: David Leven on End of Life Discussions with Young People
Have you ever considered having "the talk"? No, not that talk! The talk about who you would want to make decisions for you if you were unable to do so. Or what you would want done to you if you were in an accident or had an injury and were no longer able to communicate? Although we hope to live very long lives and not need these conversations for a long time, the reality is that accidents are the leading cause of death for people up to 24 years old. Accidents may not always be deadly but can leave a person unable to communicate. In these circumstances, it is so important to have trusted people that know your values and wishes and can speak for you. In this episode, Mr. Leven shares stories of people who did not communicate their wishes in advance, and the terrible struggles their families went through. We hope it provokes some thinking and conversations in your life!
If you would like more information or to speak to someone from End of Life Choices NY, reach out to David Leven at Davidcleven@aol.com or 917-907-6156.
TMM Episode 8: NY Times Best Selling Author Jeff Hobbs on grief that accompanies the end of high school
High school graduation is often thought of as a celebration. As it should be, of course- it is quite an accomplishment for many students to finish high school. But when we focus solely on the celebratory aspects of this milestone, we often don't leave space to discuss the grief that comes with leaving a familiar place with consistency of schedules, expectations, and friends. Going to college brings many adventures but also brings space between relationships and changes in routine, finances and expectations that can trigger intense feelings of grief. Show Them You're Good, Mr. Hobbs' latest book, highlights the struggles of several high school boys as they navigate through the college application process, along with high school and family struggles.
Jeff Hobbs grew up in Kennett Square, PA. He is the author of The Tourists, a national bestseller, and The Short and Tragic Life of Robert Peace, a New York Times bestseller, notable book of the year, and winner of the LA Times Book Prize. Show Them You're Good is his second work of nonfiction. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and two children. His books can be found on Amazon, or by supporting your local book store.
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