No Shoulds Given

No Shoulds Given

Two women, one mission - To help you ditch the shoulds and live life your way! Expect honest conversation, real life experience & practical tips for your own quiet rebellion to a should free life.

  1. Mar 6

    Snakes & Ladders

    We are back from our break & diving straight in! This weeks episode sees Lisa & Sarah explore the concept of expansion and growth, emphasising that progress is often non-linear with ups and downs. Sharing personal insights and practical advice on navigating life's snakes and ladders, focusing on self-trust, handling setbacks, and celebrating small wins. keywords growth, expansion, self-trust, personal development, overcoming setbacks, success, mental health, resilience, self-love, life lessons key topics The concept of quantum leaps and small decisions The reality of ups and downs in growth and expansion Strategies for handling setbacks and setbacks as growth opportunities takeaways Expansion is a non-linear process with ups and downs, not a straight line. Small, aligned decisions can lead to significant progress. Failure is a myth; setbacks are part of growth and learning. 00:00 Snakes and Ladders: The Journey of Expansion 02:54 Understanding Ladder Moments: Quantum Leaps in Growth 06:09 The Reality of Social Media: Behind the Shiny Facade 09:00 Navigating Life's Ups and Downs: Embracing the Journey 11:59 The Power of Self-Reflection: What Version of You is Emerging? 15:08 Redefining Success: Your Own Version of Achievement 18:12 Finding Joy in Everyday Life: Simple Steps to Happiness 20:59 The Illusion of Perfection: Embracing Life's Messiness 23:57 Breaking Free from Victim Mentality: Empowering Choices 26:54 Living Your Truth: Authenticity Over Comparison 31:58 Redefining Success and Happiness 34:45 The Impact of Lockdown on Life Perspectives 36:55 Navigating Life's Ups and Downs 39:17 Understanding Failure and Self-Trust 42:23 The Importance of Pausing and Reflecting 44:30 Taking Responsibility for Your Happiness 47:15 Shifting Perspectives on Responsibility 49:11 Creating Space for Yourself 52:48 Survival Mode vs. Thriving 56:40 Embracing Your Choices and Freedom resources

    44 min

  2. Feb 12

    What Are You Pretending Not to Know?

    The final episode of the series explores the shift from recognition to autonomy, emphasising the importance of self-led action and honesty. Sarah & Lisa dive into discomfort, identity protection, and the power of self-trust. The conversation highlights the significance of tolerating discomfort and making small, honest decisions that lead to autonomy. Takeaways Self-trust is essential for taking self-led action.Tolerating discomfort and making small, honest decisions lead to autonomy. Chapters 00:00 Shift from Recognition to Autonomy09:11 Identity Protection and Vulnerability18:11 The Power of the Pause and Self-Led Action34:02 Learning to Be Honest and Autonomous

    26 min

  3. Feb 5

    Mindset: The Misconception

    In this episode, Lisa & Sarah discuss the complexities of mindset, emphasising that while mindset is important, it is not a silver bullet for personal growth. They explore the misconceptions surrounding mindset, the importance of action, and the dangers of toxic gratitude. The conversation highlights the need for self-awareness, integrity, and the power of small, consistent steps towards change. The hosts encourage listeners to embrace their journey of self-discovery and to seek support when needed, reinforcing that prioritising mental health is not selfish but essential for personal growth. Takeaways Mindset is important but not a silver bullet. Changing thoughts is just the first step. Action is necessary for real change. Toxic gratitude can keep us stuck in unfulfilling situations. Self-betrayal often occurs when we overthink. It's essential to focus on integrity, not just outcomes. Small, consistent steps lead to significant change. Prioritising mental health is not selfish. Mindset should support, not pressure us. Self-discovery is a journey that requires patience. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Mindset: The Misconception 05:14 The Role of Thoughts and Actions 10:59 Intellect vs. Embodiment: The Challenge of Change 17:12 Self-Betrayal and the Pressure to Conform 22:23 Navigating Toxic Gratitude and Authenticity 39:38 Breaking Free from Toxic Positivity 42:00 The Order of Change: Safety Before Action 47:31 Unpacking Limiting Beliefs 50:23 Evidence Over Affirmations 52:03 Understanding Avoidance and Protection 56:57 Generational Expectations and Personal Happiness 01:00:10 The Truth Before the Reframe 01:03:39 Integrity Over Outcome 01:07:09 Mindset as Support, Not Pressure 01:13:40 Seeking Help and Moving Forward Keywords mindset, self-improvement, personal growth, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, self-betrayal, toxic positivity, integrity, action, self-discovery

    49 min

  4. Jan 29

    Why ‘Just Show Up’ Is Lying to You

    Keywords visibility, self-expression, motherhood, identity, personal growth, self-protection, confidence, childhood experiences, workplace dynamics, emotional health Takeaways Women avoid visibility due to learned responses, not lack of desire. Visibility is about being seen and heard for who you are. Surface-level advice fails to address deeper issues. Childhood experiences shape our relationship with visibility. Workplace dynamics often reward compliance over confidence. Motherhood can lead to a loss of personal identity. Reclaiming identity requires conscious effort and courage. Over-preparation can be a form of self-protection. Awakening to one's true self is a powerful journey. Finding safety in visibility is essential for personal growth. In this episode, Sarah & Lisa lift the lid on the real reasons why many women feel unsafe in being visible and how this relates to their childhood experiences, workplace dynamics, and motherhood. They discuss the impact of societal expectations on self-expression and the journey of reclaiming one's identity. The conversation emphasises the importance of understanding the deeper issues behind visibility and offers insights into finding safety in being seen and heard. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Visibility and Its Challenges 03:10 The Impact of Past Experiences on Visibility 06:10 Navigating Workplace Dynamics and Expectations 08:57 The Struggle for Authenticity in Relationships 11:50 Motherhood and the Loss of Identity 18:59 Reclaiming Self in Midlife 24:49 Awakening to Authenticity and Self-Expression 30:31 Understanding Self-Protection Mechanisms 32:58 The Pressure of Perfectionism 35:32 Embracing Authenticity in Performance 39:41 Navigating Life's Expectations 46:40 The Cost of Suppression 51:40 Finding Safety in Visibility

    43 min

  5. Jan 22

    Is It Just Me… or Am I Supposed to Feel Happier Than This?

    In this episode of 'No Shoulds Given,' Sarah & Lisa respond to some listener questions & explore the theme of self-empowerment and the challenges of choosing oneself over societal expectations. They discuss how to handle the fear of disappointing others and the transformative power of self-acceptance. We apologise for some sound issues in this one! Thank you for being here and supporting this podcast, we are both incredibly grateful for you all. Please help us grow by liking, sharing & hitting follow. Keywords self-empowerment, societal expectations, self-acceptance, fear of disappointment, personal growth Takeaways Choosing yourself can be empowering.Fear of disappointing others is common.Self-acceptance is transformative.Societal expectations can be limiting.Personal growth requires courage.Listening to your inner voice is key.Change doesn't mean losing yourself.Empowerment comes from within.It's okay to prioritize yourself.Growth involves embracing who you are. Title Options Empower Yourself: Choose YouOvercoming Fear of DisappointmentThe Power of Self-AcceptanceBreaking Free from Societal ExpectationsCourage to Grow: Embrace YourselfListening to Your Inner VoiceTransformative Power of Self-ChoicePrioritize Yourself for GrowthEmbrace Who You AreEmpowerment from Within Sound bites Choosing yourself can be empowering. Fear of disappointing others is common. Self-acceptance is transformative. Societal expectations can be limiting. Personal growth requires courage. Listening to your inner voice is key. Change doesn't mean losing yourself. Empowerment comes from within. It's okay to prioritize yourself. Growth involves embracing who you are. Chapters 00:00:00 Introduction00:00:25 First Question00:08:03 Second Question00:15:31 Third Question00:18:40 Fourth Question00:25:02 Fifth Question00:37:31 Conclusion

    39 min

  6. Jan 15

    If I trusted myself what would I choose?

    Keywords self-trust, intuition, ego, decision-making, empowerment, relationships, personal growth, self-awareness, mental health, life choices Summary In this conversation, Lisa & Sarah delve into the importance of self-trust and intuition in decision-making. They discuss how often individuals seek external validation instead of trusting their own instincts, leading to a loss of personal authority. The dialogue emphasizes the need to differentiate between intuition and ego, the lessons learned from past relationships, and the costs associated with ignoring one's inner voice. The speakers encourage listeners to embrace their intuition, navigate external opinions, and empower themselves to make decisions that align with their true selves. Takeaways The question isn't what to do, it's who is. Every time you ask what should I do, you hand over your power. Your intuition is often screaming at you, but you don't listen. Ignoring your intuition can have significant costs. You can control how you feel and make empowering choices. Ask yourself, what would I choose? You don't need better advice; you need to trust yourself. Self-trust is built through small promises to yourself. Opinions from others are not facts; follow what feels right for you. No more shoulds, just trust yourself. Sound bites "You can control how you feel." "What would I choose?" "Opinions aren't fact." Chapters 00:00 Empowering Decision-Making: Trusting Yourself 01:39 Understanding Intuition vs. Ego 04:35 The Cost of Ignoring Intuition 06:52 Navigating Relationships with Intuition 09:36 The Role of Intuition in Life Choices 11:02 Overcoming External Influences 13:05 The Subtlety of Intuition 15:42 The Impact of Fear and Judgment 18:14 Embracing Change and Taking Risks 20:05 Navigating Change and Growth 21:37 Belief in Oneself Amidst Doubt 24:28 Trusting Intuition Over Conditioning 27:39 The Power of Self-Trust 32:00 Acknowledging Nudges Towards Change 37:52 Returning to Personal Authority

    40 min

  7. Jan 8

    Who Am I when I'm not who I was?

    Keywords identity shift, personal growth, outgrowing, relationships, survival identities, self-discovery, emotional growth, vulnerability, self-acceptance, transformation Summary In this conversation Lisa & Sarah delve into the complexities of personal growth and identity shifts, exploring the uncomfortable process of outgrowing old versions of oneself. The speakers discuss the emotional challenges that accompany these changes, including grief, the impact on relationships, and the struggle to embrace new identities. They emphasize the importance of self-discovery, vulnerability, and the need to let go of survival identities that no longer serve us. The discussion encourages listeners to reflect on their own journeys and the identities they may be grieving as they evolve into their true selves. Takeaways You can't create a new life while clinging on to an old identity. Real growth is quiet, subtle, and internal. Outgrowing is uncomfortable and often feels lonely. Changing relationships can be a natural part of personal growth. Identities we carry are often survival strategies, not true beliefs. It's important to audit what you consume, as it shapes your identity. Being a people pleaser isn't inherently bad; it's about intention. Vulnerability is key to forming deeper connections. Grief often accompanies growth and identity shifts. Embracing change is essential for self-discovery. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Identity Shifts 02:12 The Uncomfortable Process of Outgrowing 07:35 The Impact of Changing Relationships 11:15 Releasing Old Survival Strategies 19:52 The Pressure of Achievement 24:53 The Role of the Fixer 29:56 Embracing the Unknown 30:08 Calming the Nervous System 31:51 The Peacekeeper's Dilemma 34:38 Honesty vs. Harmony 37:15 The Strong One's Burden 40:50 Building Vulnerable Connections 43:57 Outgrowing Old Identities 46:32 Embracing Change and Growth 50:42 Shedding Old Beliefs 54:29 Living a Life of Truth

    44 min

  8. Jan 1

    The New Year Pressure Cooker

    Keywords New Year, personal growth, goal setting, motivation, self-improvement, confidence, habits, balance, intentions, joy Summary In this episode of No Shoulds Given, Lisa & Sarah discuss the pressures and expectations that come with the New Year, exploring the concept of personal goals and motivations. They emphasize the importance of inner confidence, setting realistic goals, and creating sustainable habits. The conversation also touches on finding balance between work and personal life, setting intentions for the New Year, and embracing joy and personal growth. The girls encourage listeners to reflect on what drained them in the past year and what nourished them, ultimately promoting a mindset of self-acceptance and gradual evolution. Takeaways New Year's Day brings pressure to reinvent oneself. It's important to understand the motivations behind personal goals. Inner confidence is more important than weight loss for self-esteem. Setting realistic goals can prevent feelings of failure. Sustainable habits are key to long-term success. Life's diversions can lead to unexpected opportunities. Finding balance between work and personal life is essential. Intentions for the New Year should focus on personal joy and growth. Self-worth is inherent and doesn't depend on external achievements. Gradual evolution is more sustainable than drastic changes. Sound bites "The New Year pressure cooker." "Weight is only skin deep." "Let's start slowly." Chapters 00:00 Welcome Back and New Year Reflections 02:53 The New Year Pressure Cooker 07:34 Understanding Motivation and Goals 12:42 Challenging Societal Expectations 17:54 The Importance of Inner Confidence 22:58 Goal Setting as a Journey 28:00 Embracing the Process of Change 31:22 The Importance of Rest and Reflection 35:15 Setting Intentions for the New Year 39:09 Balancing Personal and Professional Goals 41:03 Creating a Life of Ease and Joy 47:11 Grounding Questions for the New Year 51:31 Embracing Slow Evolution and Self-Worth

    44 min
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Two women, one mission - To help you ditch the shoulds and live life your way! Expect honest conversation, real life experience & practical tips for your own quiet rebellion to a should free life.

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  • Creator
    No Shoulds Given
  • Years Active
    2025 - 2026
  • Episodes
    14
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    Explicit
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